u/Professional_Emu3929

Ofcourse we all want a person with a kind heart, who's well spoken, helps others, lives with dignity and we all look for this quality in our potential partners.

But I find Kindness not only a quality of character, but also sexually attractive. Like I get turned on by it.

And it happens a lot to me. I saw someone helping a small girl perform who was very reluctant to do that but this gesture helped her a lot.

Even though this person who helped her wasn't that conventionally attractive but this act made me attracted towards this person.

To sum up, when I say sexually, I mean that they might not be conventionally attractive sexually but their kind personality is enough to make them attractive for me. Does this make sense?

Does anyone of you feel similar?

For context, I'm a recently qualified Chartered Accountant and also a closeted gay man.

So after I posted about my success and strategies on LinkedIn, a girl connected with me.

Initially she started conversation about studies, then asked for my number for guidance.

Now she has started regularly texting me, flirting with me, praising me a lot than I deserve, opening conversations that are already over, calling me at nights with an excuse to ask doubts.

I don't want to tell her that I'm gay but I also don't want her to waste her time on me.

Ofcourse I'm loving the attention but that won't be fair to her.

How do I politely reject her instances without telling about my sexuality?

How do I tell her that I'm there to help her and guide her study and clear CA Final but she shouldn't expect anything more from me?

Edit: I'm closeted and don't want to risk telling her because of a lot of close mutual connections. Only my friends and brother know about me being gay.

Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/GenZIndia/s/FU92G8hMdW

So a couple of days ago I posted here about coming out to my friends/homies and about their reaction, and that post is tagged above.

Pata hai aaj kya hua, Last night I went with them for dinner to dhaba (my treat for recently qualifying as a CA).

Inka reaction surprisingly bohot supportive and loving tha but aakhir hai toh sab ladke hi, aur hum me haramipana kut kut k bhara hota hai. Toh ab in logone mera mazak banana jo chaalu kiya hai kya hi batau 😭

Jab waiter order lene aaya toh ek dost bolta hai ' hum sabke liye garlic naan aur iske liye Gay-hu ki roti' 😭

Vo Sardarji k dhabe par n talwar decoration form me thi toh ek dost bolta hai, chahiye kya tujhe vo? Tera toh sword fighting favourite sport hoga n? 😭🤦🏻

I know it's very funny 🤣🤣 and they mean no harm but mere liye kitna embarassing ho gya 😭😅

Ab jab tak in logo ko naya topic nahi milega, ye log meri hi maarenge (not literally) 😅

I have not sexted anyone for a year now but I feel like doing it tonight. Any suggestion for apps or websites?

Because apps I know people just leave the room in the middle of it

Pata hai aaj kya hua - aaj shaam ko mai (26M) apne friends k saath gedi maarne (just drive around the city) gaya and we all boys were talking about the usual topic. Then aayi shaadi ki baat and I said something that even I wasn't prepared for. I said 'meri shaadi toh kabhi nahi ho sakti' kyuki....

I wanted to tell them this for very long but I didn't really know how would they react to it or how will they judge me, but that moment just felt right. I gathered some courage, took some deep breaths and told them that I'm gay. And their reaction was totally unexpected.

All of them came out so supporting and loving that I didn't expect at all. No one judged my masculinity. They were definitely shocked as according to them 'I look too straight or never gave gay vibes'. And what they said was even more unexpected - 'Toh isme teri kabhi shaadi nahi ho sakne wali kaunsi baat hai? Ladke se toh ho sakti hai n'. I was literally surprised because I never expected my bros to say this😅.

For a moment it felt very surreal.

What I replied was that I have been struggling with it for almost a decade and only last year I have started to accept myself as I am so not really thinking about a relationship currently as I have to tell my parents first.

One of them also cracked a 'Talwarbaazi' joke which I laughed so hard on🤣🤣

A very unexpected but lovely experience of coming out. - So I (26M) went with my friends to drive around the city (gedi) this evening and we all boys were talking about the usual topic. Then came a discussion around marriage and I said something that even I wasn't prepared for. I said 'meri shaadi toh kabhi nahi ho sakti kyuki'... (I can never get married because...)

I wanted to tell them this for very long but I didn't really know how would they react to it or how will they judge me, but that moment just felt right. I gathered some courage, took some deep breaths and told them that I'm gay. And their reaction was totally unexpected.

All of them came out so supporting and loving that I didn't expect at all. No one judged my masculinity. They were definitely shocked as according to them 'I look too straight or never gave gay vibes'. And what they said was even more unexpected - 'Toh isme teri kabhi shaadi nahi ho sakne wali kaunsi baat hai? Ladke se toh ho sakti hai n'. ('So how does this mean that you can never get married? You can always marry a man')

I was literally surprised because I never expected my bros to say this😅.

For a moment it felt very surreal.

What I replied was that I have been struggling with it for almost a decade and only last year I have started to accept myself as I am so not really thinking about a relationship currently as I have to tell my parents first.

One of them also cracked a 'Talwarbaazi' (sword fight) joke which I laughed so hard on🤣🤣

Pata hai aaj kya hua - aaj shaam ko mai (26M) apne friends k saath gedi maarne (just drive around the city) gaya and we all boys were talking about the usual topic. Then aayi shaadi ki baat and I said something that even I wasn't prepared for. I said 'meri shaadi toh kabhi nahi ho sakti' kyuki....

I wanted to tell them this for very long but I didn't really know how would they react to it or how will they judge me, but that moment just felt right. I gathered some courage, took some deep breaths and told them that I'm gay. And their reaction was totally unexpected.

All of them came out so supporting and loving that I didn't expect at all. No one judged my masculinity. They were definitely shocked as according to them 'I look too straight or never gave gay vibes'. And what they said was even more unexpected - 'Toh isme teri kabhi shaadi nahi ho sakne wali kaunsi baat hai? Ladke se toh ho sakti hai n'. I was literally surprised because I never expected my bros to say this😅.

For a moment it felt very surreal.

What I replied was that I have been struggling with it for almost a decade and only last year I have started to accept myself as I am so not really thinking about a relationship currently as I have to tell my parents first.

One of them also cracked a 'Talwarbaazi' joke which I laughed so hard on🤣🤣

I will break the shackles of what they expect,

The world will see me, not what they want to project.

I will throw away the weight of "family honor" and "name,"

Because living for their so-called reputation is a losing game.

One day, I will finally choose myself,

And put unworthy "social status" back on the shelf.

I’ll have the right to love or not on my own,

And that’s the day the heavy rock will finally be gone.

I’ll get rid of that weight sitting on my heart,

To finally breathe before my time is up and I depart.

I’ll turn a deaf ear to the hatred and the "what will people say?"

And look away from the disgusted glares they throw my way.

I will only look at the people who actually care,

The ones who supported me when no one was there.

That’s the day I’ll walk out of that dark, cramped closet in a world well lit,

Into the brightness, leaving the suffocating safety behind it.

I’m leaving behind the years of not accepting who I am,

The nights of panic attacks and not giving a damn.

The times I didn't even want to live or try,

But I’m standing strong now, with my head held high.

I will be a conqueror, I’ll still be a man,

Stronger than ever, according to my own plan.

I’ll carry my masculinity with pride and grace,

while leaving the toxic-parts and those not meant for me in a different place.

I know this day is coming, I can feel it’s near,

So I’ll have patience and keep working through the fear.

I’ll keep working hard for my dreams and stand on my own so that I don't have to keep myself discreet,

Keeping my heart and mind at the Lord’s lotus feet.

(I wrote this poem a couple of months back and thought I would share it here. amAnd since I recently became a Chartered Accountant, I'll soon stand on my own and now this day is very near, please wish me luck guys)

Pata hai aaj kya hua ? I 26M met a guy 24M last night here on reddit and we started chatting. For the first time I met someone who ticked most of my boxes - similar career, same culture and beliefs and value system.

After talking with me for a while, he said that he doesn't feel the vibe and I was okay with it. I said then let's not talk otherwise it will waste both of our time, we can just reach out if any help is needed.

But then he saw my pic and he suddenly got interested again. So we kept talking the whole day and for some time in between I went to run some errands and he accused me of ghosting. I thought he must be joking and continued the conversation. Honestly it felt like after a longtime I actually met someone who thinks alike. Then again I got busy with work and told him that we'll talk later.

So he started complaining that you aren't showing interest in me, you don't want to make me feel important. I was like dude seriously? I have a life outside reddit. Also I did ask him personal questions before but he didn't answer very well. And he accused me of ghosting twice and now he's ignoring my messages when I actually asked like he wanted to.

Pheewwww.. Day 1 pe itna demanding kaun hota hai? Itna kitna attention chahiye logo ko? Just got irritated so came here to rant.

I recently qualified as a Chartered Accountant in the May 2026 exam. I was relieved to finally become a CA but what made me happy was the joy and pride in my parents eyes. I've never seen my Dad cry like ever, it was the first time I saw tears in his eyes.

Since the day of result, I've been receiving so many flowers, gifts and sweets like it feels surreal. My parents are really proud of me and are on cloud 9 currently, especially because of my mentions in a few newspapers.

But what's eating me from inside is the secret that I hold. I've endured it silently all my life going through regular panic attacks, suicidal thoughts and trying to change myself but all in vain. That I'm gay. I have already came out to my brother and my friends a couple of months back. When I couldn't hold it anymore and felt like killing myself but I still felt like there could be a ray of hope, I came out to my close people and to my surprise everyone has been super loving and supportive that I could finally accept myself. But my parents still have no idea.

I feel that since they are proud of me currently, I should come out to them asap so it would be easier for both of us. But it also feels like I'll cloud the day meant to be bright for them. Like I might snatch their moment of joy from them by telling them this.

So what should I do? Should I come out to my parents or wait for another year?

I recently qualified as a Chartered Accountant in the May 2026 exam. I was relieved to finally become a CA but what made me happy was the joy and pride in my parents eyes. I've never seen my Dad cry like ever, it was the first time I saw tears in his eyes.

Since the day of result, I've been receiving so many flowers, gifts and sweets like it feels surreal. My parents are really proud of me and are on cloud 9 currently, especially because of my mentions in a few newspapers.

But what's eating me from inside is the secret that I hold. I've endured it silently all my life going through regular panic attacks, suicidal thoughts and trying to change myself but all in vain. That I'm gay. I have already came out to my brother and my friends a couple of months back. When I couldn't hold it anymore and felt like killing myself but I still felt like there could be a ray of hope, I came out to my close people and to my surprise everyone has been super loving and supportive that I could finally accept myself. But my parents still have no idea.

I feel that since they are proud of me currently, I should come out to them asap so it would be easier for both of us. But it also feels like I'll cloud the day meant to be bright for them. Like I might snatch their moment of joy from them by telling them this.

So what should I do? Should I come out to my parents or wait for another year?