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Recovering from my rhinoplasty right now.
Before surgery, I had a few people tell me that after getting my nose done, I’d probably want lip filler or even a chin implant because changing my nose could make other “flaws” stand out more.

Personally, I think rhinoplasty is going to be the last cosmetic surgery I ever go under for because I’ve realized I’m way too impatient for the recovery process. At most, I’d consider filler in the future.

Did anyone else feel like their nose job made other features or imperfections more noticeable? Did you end up wanting (or getting) additional procedures to balance your face afterward, or did you eventually get used to your new nose and feel like everything settled into place?

Today, I noticed small red dots all over my face. They’re flat and don’t hurt or itch. They’re definitely not acne.

What might be causing this? Anyone dealt with something similar?

It’s been super hot and humid here in Da Nang, but I haven’t been outside or sweating much today, so I’m not sure it’s heat rash. I also haven’t changed my skincare routine recently. Could it be the water, humidity, or something else?
They’re tiny, red, and scattered across my face. No pain, itching, or other symptoms.

Before starting spironolactone, I kept getting persistent breakouts on my cheeks. I had already been on tretinoin for 6 months and didn’t have severe acne—just annoying small hormonal breakouts. My doctor recommended trying spironolactone.

I didn’t experience many of the common side effects like dizziness or excessive urination, but my periods became awful. My flow became much heavier and lasted 8 days instead of my usual 5. As a woman, it was incredibly frustrating to be bleeding for so long every month. Most of my periods while on spironolactone were like this, and it felt like my hormones were completely out of whack… which was to be expected.

This week, I woke up with pressure in my lower abdomen and pelvis along with a constant urge to pee. At first, I assumed it was related to my period or the spironolactone. Later that day, I was on a flight and the discomfort became terrible. It felt like I had to pee the entire time, and being unable to go made it even worse.

I then started wondering if it was a UTI. I’ve had one before and barely had any symptoms, but this time I seem to have every symptom in the book. I haven’t had the chance to visit a clinic yet, so I can’t say for certain, but I’m pretty sure that’s what it is.

I looked on Reddit to see whether anyone else had experienced something similar while taking spironolactone, and it seems like I’m not alone. I understand that UTIs aren’t directly caused by spironolactone, but it’s surprising how many people in this sub have reported similar experiences. Whether it’s related or not, I’ve decided to stop taking it because I’m honestly afraid of dealing with this again.

I’m not sure how common this sentiment is, but a lot of my friends who are Houston natives have expressed similar feelings. That said, I’m definitely not speaking for everyone.

As someone in my 20s who has lived here my entire life, I find it really hard to enjoy life in Houston sometimes. I know a lot of people move here because it’s a relatively affordable major city with great food, a strong job market, and a lot of cultural diversity. I’ve met people who are interested in moving here, and I can’t help but tell them, “Please reconsider.” At the same time, I’ve also met people who absolutely love living here once they move. I’m not sure if it’s because they’re coming from smaller cities and enjoy city life more, or if it’s the lifestyle and culture that attract them.

Everyone knows it can take forever to get anywhere. The public transportation is bad, everything feels so far apart, and there isn’t much nature. I also feel like there isn’t much to do in the city. My friends and I don’t drink or party, and outside of eating, it feels like there aren’t many options. Whenever people suggest things to do, it’s always the same handful of activities. I feel like people in their 20s shouldn’t have to struggle this much to find things to do, but that’s how a lot of us feel.

Don’t get me wrong—I’m very proud to be from Houston. I just don’t find myself in love with the city. It doesn’t excite me the way it seems to excite other people. Maybe I just need to move somewhere else, but I also want to find a way to appreciate it more instead of feeling this way.

Does anyone else feel like this? For those of you who genuinely enjoy living in Houston, what makes the city exciting for you?

During my latest visit to Hanoi, I kept encountering people trying to take advantage of me or just being extremely hostile.

For example, I usually only take Grab, but it was raining really hard and there weren’t any available in the area, so I had to take a taxi. When I got in, the taxi driver said his meter was broken, but my hotel was less than five minutes away, so I assumed it couldn’t be more than 100k. When we got to the place, he said the ride was 400k and that it was expensive because it was raining. My friend, who is Viet Kieu, handed him the money before I could even question the cost, and he literally sped off after we got out of the car. I understand prices can surge due to weather and availability, but isn’t 400k insane for a five-minute ride?? I recognize I was being too trusting. I guess I was naive and didn’t think I would get scammed because I look Vietnamese and speak the language.

Then I went to get food, and I wasn’t sure if there was only one “right” way to eat bún chả, so I asked the waiter. She said it was self-explanatory and that I “must be new to Earth.” Overall, I kept experiencing isolated incidents where people were rude

I speak Vietnamese with a southern accent, so does that make me more susceptible to situations like this in the North? Will people hear the accent, assume I’m not local, and think they can scam a foreigner or someone unfamiliar with the area? Like, would he have even tried to up-charge us like crazy if we spoke with a northern accent and sounded local? Is this just a cultural norm? This isn’t my first trip to Hanoi either; almost every time I’ve been there, I’ve noticed a pattern of hostility—whether directed toward me or other people much more than in other parts of Vietnam.

Edit: Since people seem pressed that I asked how to eat bún chả properly, I’ll add this: I saw one lady rolling hers up, another pouring the broth into her bowl, while I usually just dipped mine. I was simply asking out of curiosity if there was actually a “proper” way to eat it.

My parents are from Da Nang, and I’ve been back countless times growing up.

I always knew it was a popular destination among Vietnamese people and somewhat known to foreign tourists, but in recent years its popularity has exploded to another level.

Some friends brought it up the other day, and I was honestly really shocked by how globally popular it’s become now. I didn’t even realize it had reached that point.

What caused such a huge rise in popularity?

Alright, so I’m sure everyone has seen the online discourse over the Wasian meetup in NYC all over their FYP.

As someone who is fully Asian, I’m surprised that this has sparked outrage even outside of the community—especially from people who don’t come from an Asian background.

Personally, I’m not Wasian or mixed Asian, so I can’t exactly speak for that experience. But I will say that I don’t see the problem with creating a space for people with shared experiences and identities. I do think it DEFINITELY should’ve been advertised as a half-Asian meetup (that’s prob where this all went wrong).

The main claim I keep seeing is that the event was somehow promoting white supremacy or a superiority complex. However, I don’t think it’s white supremacy for people to want to connect with others who share similar backgrounds, experiences, or even trauma. I know there are Wasians who often feel like they’re not fully accepted as “Asian enough” or “white enough,” so it makes sense that some would want a space where they feel understood by people with similar lived experiences.

There are mixed Asians who felt disappointed that this wasn’t a more inclusive mixed-Asian event, and I think those feelings are completely valid. Spaces for broader mixed-Asian experiences deserve to exist too. At the same time, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with people wanting to connect with others who share similar identities, upbringings, and lived experiences. Everyone in our community should be able to celebrate their heritage and find belonging in ways that feel meaningful to them.

I 100% agree that there is internalized racism within Asian communities—whether it’s toward other minority groups or even from East Asians toward Southeast Asians. But generalizing this specific meetup as automatically contributing to white supremacy feels….kinda odd? Like that mixed experience is theirs too, just as much as being Asian is.

That being said, I think the conversation around whether the event should have included all mixed Asians has also opened the door for people outside of the community to attack Asians altogether, including from other minority groups. Discussions and criticism need to be had, but some of the reactions I’ve seen have gone wayyyy beyond constructive conversation and turned into broad generalizations about Asians as a whole.

Suddenly it turns into assumptions that all Asians idolize white people or constantly seek white approval. Omfg then come the endless “Oxford study” comments, or the idea that because I’m an Asian woman, anyone who likes me automatically has an Asian fetish. It’s honestly exhausting. Criticizing internalized racism within communities is one thing, but reducing all Asians to stereotypes and projecting motives onto people you don’t even know is fucking weird.

How are the SEA girlies doing their makeup base in this HUMID weather so that it lasts all day?

I live in a drier climate, so my usual base routine does not stand a chance against the humidity while traveling in SEA. My makeup is practically gone by the end of the day.

If anyone has tips and tricks or product recommendations… please help a girl out 😔

My ex (we were together for 3 years) and I broke up toward the end of 2024. There were a lot of issues, and I took responsibility for being immature and selfish at times. He treated me very well overall, and I carried a lot of guilt afterward.

Around mid-2025, we started seeing each other again. We never really addressed what happened in the past, which in hindsight became a huge unspoken problem between us. We weren’t officially back together, but we were acting like it in some ways—going on dates, texting constantly, and being physically intimate. Emotionally though, I felt myself shutting down. I couldn’t fully connect with him, partly because the “what are we?” question was never answered.

During this time, he told me he was living with a male coworker/roommate. I never met this person, but I didn’t question it much. We could only see each other a few times a week, and I assumed it was due to his living situation.

Toward the end of 2025, he told me he was going on a family trip. Around that same period, I was already starting to feel really unhappy and emotionally drained by what we were doing.

Later, I found out he had actually gone on that trip with another woman—someone he works with and someone he had been involved with before we originally dated. He had never mentioned her to me. At first, I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt, but things didn’t add up.

When I asked him directly if he was seeing anyone, he said no. He did admit he had once slept with someone months prior and said protection was used (I had asked because I was concerned about my health). I believed him at the time.

But more inconsistencies came out. He told me the people on the trip except her, and I had to push further before he finally admitted she was there. Even then, he downplayed it—saying she was “just a friend” who invited herself. But it didn’t make sense how someone “just a friend” could be that involved in his life. There are HUGE boundaries being crossed if she really self invited herself to travel with him to his family member’s funeral.

Eventually, he admitted they had sex on the trip. That was a breaking point for me, especially given the lack of transparency and the risk to my health. Later, I also found out he had lied about his living situation—the “male roommate” was actually this same woman…. after already being confronted like 83747x times. He had been living with her at this entire, and had been bringing me back to hookup.

Initially, when I confronted him, he said it was “just sex,” that he didn’t want to be with her, and tried to brush it off like it was nothing. He insisted she was in an open relationship and that they were “just having sex,” and that she already knew about me after I messaged her because she told him I had contacted her.

Fast forward, I told his entire family about this.

I wish I could be the bigger person but I hope this eats away at his guts for the rest of time.

My ex (we were together for 3 years) and I broke up toward the end of 2024. There were a lot of issues, and I took responsibility for being immature and selfish at times. He treated me very well overall, and I carried a lot of guilt afterward.

Around mid-2025, we started seeing each other again. We never really addressed what happened in the past, which in hindsight became a huge unspoken problem between us. We weren’t officially back together, but we were acting like it in some ways—going on dates, texting constantly, and being physically intimate. Emotionally though, I felt myself shutting down. I couldn’t fully connect with him, partly because the “what are we?” question was never answered.

During this time, he told me he was living with a male coworker/roommate. I never met this person, but I didn’t question it much. We could only see each other a few times a week, and I assumed it was due to his living situation.

Toward the end of 2025, he told me he was going on a family trip. Around that same period, I was already starting to feel really unhappy and emotionally drained by what we were doing.

Later, I found out he had actually gone on that trip with another woman—someone he works with and someone he had been involved with before we originally dated. He had never mentioned her to me. At first, I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt, but things didn’t add up.

When I asked him directly if he was seeing anyone, he said no. He did admit he had once slept with someone months prior and said protection was used (I had asked because I was concerned about my health). I believed him at the time.

But more inconsistencies came out. He told me the people on the trip except her, and I had to push further before he finally admitted she was there. Even then, he downplayed it—saying she was “just a friend” who invited herself. But it didn’t make sense how someone “just a friend” could be that involved in his life. There are HUGE boundaries being crossed if she really self invited herself to travel with him to his family member’s funeral.

Eventually, he admitted they had sex on the trip. That was a breaking point for me, especially given the lack of transparency and the risk to my health. Later, I also found out he had lied about his living situation—the “male roommate” was actually this same woman…. after already being confronted like 83747x times. He had been living with her at this entire, and had been bringing me back to hookup.

When I confronted him, he said it was “just sex,” that he didn’t want to be with her, and tried to brush it off like it was nothing. He insisted she was in an open relationship and that they were “just having sex,” and that she already knew about me after I messaged her because she told him I had contacted her. But honestly, too many things don’t add up, and I don’t feel like I’m getting the full truth.

Right now I just feel disgusted and hurt by the dishonesty, especially around my health and the level of deception. And the fact that I had to find out everything on my own instead of him being honest with me.

He was a relatively good partner to me and always tried his best to maintain our relationship, which is why it completely shocked me. I almost believed that it really was “just sex.” At one point, I even started thinking maybe he was right, and I almost stayed, but I cannot stop feeling resentment toward him.

I know many people believe that emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating, and I’ve often heard men say, “It was just sex.”

My ex partner and I were going through a rough patch in our relationship when I found out he had been cheating on me. When I confronted him, he said it was just sex and that he did not want to be with her, and he even tried to brush it off.

He was a relatively good partner to me so I almost believed that it was just sex. But regardless, cheating is wrong whether it is emotional or physical.

I do not understand why men say, “It was just sex.”

Speaking as a local 🤷‍♀️

Edit: Adding a description to this since I thought it was pretty self-explanatory.

Tailoring has always been a big thing in Hội An, especially with tourists. But tailoring in general is just part of Vietnam’s culture. Tailor shops are literally everywhere, and they’re usually affordable. Whereas, custom tailoring is a luxury in the West.

Recently though, I’ve been seeing so much hype around tailoring in Hội An. And yeah it’s cheaper than what most foreigners would pay back home, and it’s a fun experience. However, there are downsides to it being “cheap” and fast.

I’m pretty sure people know they’re getting upcharged by a lot, compared to what you’d pay at a local shop outside Old Town or honestly anywhere else in Vietnam. And the thing is, you can get the same fabrics, same designs and sometimes even better quality if you go outside those tourist-heavy spots.

Also a 24-hour turnaround is not normal. These shops are trying to push out a ton of orders daily in a tourist hotspot. Everything gets rushed, so the quality control isn’t great—loose threads, bad stitching, weird sizing. You’re basically paying more for something that’s rushed, and that’s why bad reviews aren’t uncommon…

From personal experience, I’ve had really nice linen button-downs made outside Old Town and in Da Nang for like 400k max ($18 USD) each. Inside Old Town, I was getting quoted around 1.2 million ($45 USD). A price that no Vietnamese person would pay…but I digress. I was pretty disappointed when I received my order, with bad stitching, hanging threads, and an odd fit.

And that was 2 years ago. I can’t even imagine prices and quality now with how popular it’s gotten.

I get the hype. But ‘accessible’ doesn’t always mean you’re getting a good deal, often it means you’re trading quality for convenience. Ofc, support small businesses, but be mindful of the experience and keep your expectations realistic.

If you want good recommendations, do ur own research or ask around—reputable places are usually found through word of mouth. especially outside of Old Town.

Unfortunately, a lot of these tailors know most of their customers are non-returning tourists. So there’s not much incentive to always deliver top-tier quality when people aren’t coming back anyway. Social media makes it seem like you can get something really high-quality, fully tailored, and affordable in no time. Realistically, if you actually care about craftsmanship, there will be trade-offs.

Save yourself the headache.