u/QueerTrashRat

Because holyyyyy I am starting to lose my patience. I am now on my FOURTH ticket, and the issue still isn’t resolved. I just get the same automated response back each time after multiple days of waiting, and even if I respond to THAT, I still get the exact same automated response back. I’m starting to think the “support team” is actually just a bunch of bots and there are zero people, because that is genuinely the only logical explanation for it. Is there any way to get issues fixed? Because clearly “just open a ticket” isn’t the answer. Like, is there any other way to reach the supposed support team? I can’t with this any more dude, I’m so close to just giving up and deleting the app outright.

Edit: I’d also like to add on that, when this all first started nearly a week and a half ago and I posted about it then, a mod immediately commented “Go open a ticket.” and deleted the post. C’mon now. Are we not even allowed to ask questions anymore? I OPENED a ticket. I’ve opened FOUR tickets. Tickets aren’t helping.

I don’t know if this is the right tag or not, I’ll change it if needed, but ok I’m trying to find a specific piece of fanart to show to my friend.

It’s a drawing of c!Dream and c!Sam after Dream gets broken out and Sam is put in the prison instead, and Dream is bringing him a cake that says something along the lines of “You’re a terrible person” on it? Does anyone know what I’m talking about?

I don’t know who drew it or where to find it, but I SWEAR I’m not losing my mind! If anyone can tell me the artist, tell me where to find it, or even link it for me, I will be forever in your debt. 🙏🙂‍↕️

I want to lead with the fact that have little to no bottom dysphoria. I don’t plan to get bottom surgery at any point, I have no issue with having a pussy, yada yada boypussy pride and all that. THAT SAID, something about my struggle to find sex toys that work for me just makes me really fucking bummed sometimes, especially when I’m just trying to enjoy myself. I have no issues with penetrative toys because penetration has never felt inherently feminine to me, but it’s not enough to get me there on its own. Pre-T I was an avid rabbit fan. They were my go to and my absolute favourite. Pretty much every vibe I’ve owned has been a rabbit. But after starting T, my bottom growth made rabbits pretty difficult to use. The top just didn’t work with my new tdick and I constantly had to stop and fiddle with the toy to get it back in place, which really killed it for me every time. Rose toys and other traditional suckers were ruled out immediately, I just don’t fit, and I’m kinda bummed about that too since I never got to try those pre-T and my fem-presenting afab friends who own them rave about them. Going on T initially made me excited to try ftm strokers because I’d been researching them, but unfortunately I just never got very big. Don’t get me wrong, I definitely HAVE bottom growth, about an inch, but it’s not very wide or thick, so I have to stick to the smallest of strokers which are all very firm (something I don’t particularly enjoy tbh), and because I’ve been on T for over 2 years now I know I’m probably not getting bigger. I’ve seen some people suggest grinders, but I’ve never been a grinder kind of person, namely because I have grade 4 labial hypertrophy and all that extra lip just gets in the way. And it’s not like I can go find a partner to help me out or anything, I’m aroace, and my specific flavour of ace (aegosexual) leaves me with a hell of libido but zero desire for other people’s involvement. It’s just frustrating… jerking off should not be this difficult! All this extra bullshit around it is making it less and less enjoyable as time goes on, and it makes me question sometimes if I should just get bottom surgery for the sake of convenience, which is objectively absurd. Why can’t there be a larger market for toys with trans guys in mind? 🫩

So I’ve noticed something odd that happens when I’m stoned, and it’s been getting more and more noticeable as time goes on. When I’m stoned, doesn’t matter via what method or how much, I start making repetitive, involuntary noises and movements. Now, I know what the movements part makes it sound like, but it’s 100% not weed shakes. I’ve had those before and it feels completely different, not to mention that this occurs no matter the dosage. I occasionally twitch or make similar noises when sober, but weed takes it from occasional to very intense. It’s (usually) not painful, though I can’t exactly stop it either and trying to force it to stop does lead to a bit of pain. The movements are usually my head or wrist jerking to one side, my leg (usually my left one for some reason) kicking or jerking, or my face scrunching, and the noises are like little chirps and squeaks? Idk how to really describe the noises beyond that lol, my friends are the ones who describe it that way because they love taking the piss over it. It’s not something I’m really concerned about, or something that’s making me consider quitting, I just got curious on if anyone else experienced this or not because I have no clue why it happens!

Edit to explain how it feels vs how weed shakes feel: In the past when I’ve gone overboard and gotten weed shakes, it just feels like shivering without actually being cold. But this is more like my limbs just NEEDING to move, or the noises just NEEDING to come out? When I’m sober, I can usually suppress the “need” for a bit or making it less noticeable, but when I’m stoned it’s like I can’t hold it back even if I try.

Ok, so I know this is a pretty small win in the grand scheme of things, and I’ve still got a ways to go, but yesterday was my last day at one of my jobs and I was explaining to my coworkers the MANY reasons me and my friend (it was her last day too) were quitting. One of the more minor reasons I gave was that most of the staff had recently found out that one of the managers was VERY maga, frequently reposting homophobic and transphobic bs, only to come and be besties with me and my friend who are openly and visibly lgbtqia+ every single shift like nothing was wrong. She was INCREDIBLY two-faced. Anyways, I was explaining my frustration with that, and at the end I said something along the lines of “-which is crazy since me and *friend* are both gay and trans!”. Most of the coworkers I was talking to immediately did a visible double take, with multiple of them going “You’re trans?!”, and that’s genuinely the first time THAT many people in one place have all immediately assumed I was cis. I still get misgendered about 25-35% of the time, and still occasionally have people scrambling to check the sign on the door when I use the men’s bathroom, so this was such an insanely affirming moment for me and I was all smiles for like an hour after. ✨🏳️‍⚧️

Are there any other than Maniac by Izaac Thee Unknown and (I guess) The Dearest of Friends by Alioof? I make dsmp characters playlist (Alastair_Rät on Spotify if anyone wants to check them out, I’ve got c!Tommy, c!Techno, c!Quackity, and c!Wilbur (fuck William Gold) published so far and have several others in the works), and my main project rn is my c!Schlatt playlist. I try to include as many fan songs as possible in my character playlists because I love highlighting other people’s incredible creations. If anyone has any non-fan songs they think should go in the c!Schlatt playlist other than the same few that are included in EVERY c!Schlatt playlist ever, feel free to drop those too!

Edit to add that I also use fan songs to pick a title for my character playlists, which is why I’m looking for more options 🥲

Probably a dumb question for a grown adult to be asking, and I’m honestly a little embarrassed, but oh well… 🫩

So I’ve never been to a gynecologist before. I’m 20, so I know I most likely should’ve by now, but I’m also a trans man so I’ve been avoiding it like the fucking plague. However, now I have an actual need to go and therefore can’t put it off any longer, but I’ve come to the realization that I have no clue how this works. I don’t have a relationship with my mother, and I don’t really have anyone else I could ask to walk me through this.

Like, is an obstetric gynecologist the same as a regular gynecologist, or is that just for pregnant people? Do I have to go to a women’s health center specifically to see one, or do they have them at regular doctor’s offices too (because I honestly can’t stand the thought of going to a women’s health center)? Is there anything specific I need to look for when choosing someone? And when it comes to making an appointment, what am I even supposed to select? I peeked at one appointment booking page on a women’s health center website just to get a vague idea and only got more confused by the options. There wasn’t even an option for a general checkup or anything, just lots of words I didn’t understand, pregnancy stuff, and also botox and chemical peels??? I didn’t even know these places offered things like that???

I’m just confused and overwhelmed man… I already struggle with things like this (doctors and medical stuff), and my brain honestly wants me to forget the whole thing and tough it out instead, but I’m trying to do the adult thing and break my terrible habit of ignoring health issues and just hoping they fix themselves. Any advice or guidance would be super appreciated.

Tldr; Friend’s boss is refusing to provide her the EIN, and I suspect it’s because the business doesn’t actually have one.

Hi guys, some of you might remember me from a series of previous posts that gained quite a bit of traction (I’m the guy who’s (now former) regional manager threatened a writeup for over using disability accommodations). Well, now I’m back with a story that I’m not the main participant in, but instead a bystander/secondary party. This is all posted with permission!

So I recently helped my friend get her first job; a server at a cafe. She’s pretty late to the employment party, but she’s had a run of really bad circumstances that made it impossible for her to work before now. Anyways, she’s currently trying to help her grandmother apply for Medicaid as her legal representative, with me helping and instructing her on the process as she’s generally really inexperienced with “adult stuff”. However, we’ve hit a roadblock.

If you’ve ever had to apply for Medicaid, you know that anyone on the application who is bringing in money needs to fill out a section about how much, from what employer, etc, and that includes providing the EIN of wherever you work. Easy enough, right? Well apparently not.

She hasn’t worked long enough to have a W-2 to reference, so I told her to check her paystubs and find it that way. She can’t find it. I come over to try and figure this out with her, including looking over her paystubs myself. No EIN. I pull up SEC to do a search. Nothing. Ok, still no problem, it’s a small business so she can just ask the owner directly. I help her compose the message and we send it. It takes 3 hours for us to get a response; “Come talk to me tomorrow.”. Annoying, but oh well.

The next day she tries to approach him when he comes in, only to get immediately shooed away. She tries again at the end of her shift, and according to what she told me, he seemed to not understand what she’s asking for, to the point where she has to ask me to explain it to her so she can repeat my explanation back to him word for word. His response? “Send me screenshots of the forms you’re filling out later so I can see what you need, and I’ll send it to you.”. Can you feel my frustration increasing on her behalf?

I come over again that evening (yesterday) and have her screenshot the employer info section of the form, as well as the official explanation of exactly what an EIN is and exactly what it would look like so that there can be zero confusion. We send it, and we wait. And we wait. And we wait. Eventually we waited so long with no response that the session timed out and our progress on the form was erased for what is now the second time. Wonderful. Amazing. There’s nothing else we can do till he answers, so I end up going home. At NEARLY MIDNIGHT, I receive a message from her. He responded. Did we finally get the EIN? No. “Got it. Stop by me tomorrow.”. She does not work today.

With all of this, on top of the fact that when she explained the situation to a couple managers yesterday on shift and they tried to find it for her, only to find that the EIN was listed for them as just the company name, I’m starting to suspect that this business never applied for an EIN. However, I could see on her paystubs that they’re still taking out taxes on her paycheck.

I told her to tell him that while he doesn’t legally HAVE to provide the EIN for non-tax documents, the EIN is not private information and he has no reason to withhold it, as well as that if he cannot provide it to her today, she will just call the IRS to get it. I also told her that if he still refuses, *I* will be calling the IRS as well to report the business and have them investigated. I want to give this place the benefit of the doubt because it’s, like I said before, a small, family-owned business, but I’ve seen first hand that they have a bunch of other shady or just generally scummy business practices, and my gut is telling me to not trust that shit.

I warned her that if I’m right, she might be fired over this for “threatening” him, but that if that happens I will get her another job at one of the places I work until she can find something else. This is so frustrating and I feel so bad for her, not to mention her grandmother who is disabled to the point of being bedridden and is the whole reason we’re doing this in the first place. Every swerve from this man is delaying her access to healthcare, and because of that, I will not hesitate to report them if he refuses again, just in case.

**Edit: Lmao can yall tell that some of the people who didn’t like my previous posts in this sub very much (because god forbid disabled people have lives outside of their jobs and choose not to kill themselves for unpaying jobs) have found this post? Someone went through downvoting allllll my comments! 😂**

As someone who works multiple jobs, specifically in guest service and food service, this pisses me ooooooff. Whether it’s coming from customers or upper management, it doesn’t matter, it makes me just as irritated.

Where did this mentality that normal human behavior is “unprofessional” even come from? If there is no work to do, there is NOTHING realistically wrong with coworkers talking to each other, and there is zero reason that we should all have to come up with fake tasks to “look busy” instead of just fulfilling normal social needs. Nothing makes a job more miserable than a lack of coworker socialization in my experience.

Now, if the talking leads to people actually neglecting work duties, that is a WHOLE different conversation. But if there is nothing to do, no customers needing assistance, and the conversation isn’t affecting the speed or quality of our work, then there’s nothing unprofessional about talking during downtime. I know that (especially in the US) there’s this whole culture around not acknowledging workers as actual human beings with thoughts and feelings and needs, but it’s ridiculous and it drives me mental.

And the people that complain about it; have you seriously never, during downtime at your own job/jobs, stopped to have a chat with coworkers? Deny it and I KNOW you’re fucking lying.

Just thought I’d share because I know other stoners will 100% get it lol. I recently ordered 7g and a new pen from my dispensary, and was devastated when the package went missing. It got scanned as delivered but never showed up. I waited a whole 2 and a half weeks after it was marked as delivered. After that, I reached out to the dispensary again, and because they’re awesome they agreed to reship my order free of charge after I explained what had happened. Well earlier today the first half of the reshipment arrived (the pen). I was chilling on my couch a little while ago, and suddenly there’s a knock on my door. It’s the neighbor, and she just got back from vacation and checked her mail, and what does she hand me? It’s the missing package lmao. So now I have my original 7g and pen, plus the free pen, and I’ve got the free 7g arriving on Saturday. I feel like I’ve been blessed by Dionysus himself