Please help my marriage: How do you cleanse yourself of others' emotions?

My wife and I are both sensitives. She's a dream medium and empath. I'm an empath/intuitive with AuDHD.

We both have high pay/high stress jobs with no family support to help with our 2 kids. When either of us gets really stressed, we both feel it and it often progresses into a vicious cycle of avoidant/anxious attachment with neither of us feeling the other is meeting the other's needs.

fortunately this doesn't happen often. We're happily married. But the down cycles are just terrible. I'm convinenced we're feeding off of each other's stress and probably whatever bullshit is also floating around the neighborhood (lots of stressed out tech folks here on work visas).

What are some specific practices for cleansing external energy?

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u/Regular_Alps7213 — 3 days ago

45 y/o lost in hair. Ideas?

I started my company and work from home. Said "fuck it, I'll grow out my hair for fun" and see what happens.

I'm prone to tying it back to keep the hair out of my face.

I have really thick hair. Tho I shower daily, Iuse conditioner only most days to avoid the POUFF that shampoo brings; otherwise I'm forced to slather myself in product. Fine for going out--but not daily.

Honestly, I kinda like it long. It's a quiet rejection of corporate culture. But perhaps I'm fooling myself.

Now what?

u/Regular_Alps7213 — 5 days ago

Anyone else experience Hindu saints while in meditation or psilocybin?

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I'm from Boston, living in the Pacific Northwest, with an Anglo-Saxon ethnic background. This is to say, I have no grounding in Hinduism or yoga. However, for the last few years, I have had repeated visions/encounters with the yogis of the Kriya Yoga lineage--including Babaji, Sri Yukteswar and, most recently, Lahiri Mahasaya. And Shakti, too, as represented by a colorful flower spirit. These have happened during meditation and 'journeying' via plant medicine. (Mostly plant medicine, but not exclusively)

I've read Autobiography of a Yogi by Yogananada, in addition to a whole bunch of new age/woo-woo/philosophical books. Not to mention scores of YouTube videos on all things related to spirituality and multi-dimensional beings.

Given this steady and diverse diet of woo-woo, I'm perplexed by the frequency and significance of my encounters with the above sages. All things being equal, I'd expect more of an equal representation. But, nope, it's quite skewed.

Most recently, Wednesday night/Thursday morning, I took a very large dose of Melmac mushrooms. I experienced ego death and then experienced a form of self-realization and, with the assistance of yogic breathing, obtained insight into the higher astral plane. Yeah, that's a lot in one sentence. However, throughout the experience, Lahiri Mahasaya was there as a kind of guide.

Does this happen to anyone else?

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u/Regular_Alps7213 — 6 days ago
▲ 541 r/camping

High on Mt. Hood during Grasshopper fires

It was relatively warm and windless when I set up camp at 8.7k ft. Around 2 AM I was jostled awake by 40mph gusts and spent the following six hours contingency planning for tent failure and forest fire smoke. It was a wild night.

Apropos to nothing--it's not a bad idea to have a plan for peeing in the tent in case of unexpected weather.

Note: looks like the video doesn't work (showing the tent violently shaking from the 40 mph gusts)

u/Regular_Alps7213 — 15 days ago
▲ 13 r/alchemy

Is this literally working for any of you?

I understand alchemy as spiritual metaphor/process--by the time you understand it, you don't need it. Because you're already there.

Am I wrong?

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u/Regular_Alps7213 — 19 days ago
▲ 5 r/Guitar

What do my guitars say about me

After years of cycling thru gear and a cross-country move, these two won.

u/Regular_Alps7213 — 29 days ago

I may have used psilocybin to help 'metabolize' my wife's unprocessed emotion/karma (?). Her energy, my processing. While 'journeying', I had horrible jaw and lower back pain *(her exact symptoms), with snot leaking out of my face. Totally unexpected experience. Has anyone done this before?

I've used "plant medicine" therapeutically for the last three or so years to heal from cPTSD. Along with traditional talk therapy, I've actually worked through the trauma and saved my marriage.

Throughout the process, near as I can tell, I've inadvertently stumbled into shamanic practice using mushrooms. What started as a very typical psychedelic experiences has evolved into highly lucid conversations with spirit guides and others. However, until recently, I've always set my intentions on my issues/questions, and no one else's.

(I'm saying the above by way of background, to establish credibility that, i'm not a recreational user and this isn't my first rodeo. )

My wife is on her own journey to be more present in her body, as well as process some unaddressed trauma. She's a little blocked up here, and she frequently suffers from lower back pain and TMJ symptoms.

Last weekend, I started a 15g journey by asking "what can I do to help my wife". Nothing particular in mind, just a general "hey, how can i help?". And, holy shit, i spent the next three hours writhing in jaw and back pain. My face just leaking out whatever the mushrooms were purging, as I worked my jaw and hip to get some kind of release.

Sure enough, the next morning my wife woke up feeling great. No pain. I felt like I got hit by a bus.

Don't get me wrong, I'm super happy I was able to do this. Just surprised I was able to do it at all.

It didn't feel like it was invasion of her agency, but, rather, I was consuming the energy she was radiating. A mode of consumption that will help temporarily, but not address the root cause. Since that's really her job.

Has anyone experienced anything like this before? Is this, more or less, what's it's like to help heal someone?

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u/Regular_Alps7213 — 2 months ago

I used psilocybin to help 'metabolize' unprocessed emotion from my wife. Her energy, my processing. While 'journeying', I had horrible jaw and lower back pain *(her exact symptoms), with snot leaking out of my face. Totally unexpected experience. Has anyone done this before?

I've used "plant medicine" therapeutically for the last three or so years to heal from cPTSD. Along with traditional talk therapy, I've actually worked through the trauma and saved my marriage.

Throughout the process, near as I can tell, I've inadvertently stumbled into shamanic practice using mushrooms. What started as a very typical psychedelic experiences has evolved into highly lucid conversations with spirit guides and others. However, until recently, I've always set my intentions on my issues/questions, and no one else's.

My wife is on her own journey to be more present in her body, as well as process some unaddressed trauma. She's a little blocked up here, and she frequently suffers from lower back pain and TMJ symptoms.

Last weekend, I started a 15g journey by asking "what can I do to help my wife". And, holy shit, i spent the next three hours writhing in jaw and back pain. My face just leaking out whatever the mushrooms were purging, as I worked my jaw and hip to get some kind of release.

Sure enough, the next morning my wife woke up feeling great. No pain. I felt like I got hit by a bus.

Don't get me wrong, I'm super happy I was able to do this. Just surprised I was able to do it at all.

It didn't feel like it was invasion of her agency, but, rather, I was consuming the energy she was radiating. A mode of consumption that will help temporarily, but not address the root cause. Since that's really her job.

Has anyone experienced anything like this before?

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u/Regular_Alps7213 — 2 months ago

Anyone with fasting experience?

Does anyone have experience with fasting for spiritual purposes?

I'm getting the feeling that I need to go on a fast. No idea why--I've stopped questioning these intuitions. It's coming up a lot for me lately and I'm gonna give it a go.

In lay terms, as I understand it, fasting shifts the metabolic process from 'intake' to 'clean-up' -- like a bored waiter at an empty restaurant, the metabolic process occupies itself with side work that keeps the place tidy and organized. This has a restorative effect, helping rid the body of toxins and the rest of the accumulated detritus, up to and potentially including unprocessed trauma.

"Where did I go to medical school?" you may ask. Harvard, obviously.

I'm not suggesting fasting is a panacea, nor am I looking for one. I've done *a lot* of inner work with conventional therapy, energy healing, meditation and psychedelics--all with wonderful hard-earned results. Wondering if I've overlooked fasting as a facet of my spiritual journey.

My plan is aggressive and ill-advised. I'm considering hiking far into the mountains, isolated, and setting up camp for 4 or 5 days near a water supply, and just go 'all in' with fasting, meditation and plant medicine. And see what happens.

[Note: Please take for granted that I'm experienced outdoors and with 'plant medicine' *wink wink*. I know the risks well. Very comfortable and tested in the mountains.]

So, yeah, has anyone "leveled up" with fasting? How did you do it? How'd it go?

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u/Regular_Alps7213 — 3 months ago

NEED HELP: My daughter is getting regular visits from a gray-ish being.

Hi all - I'd love to get your opinions on this. My daughter and her friend are reporting an experience of some kind of spirit or higher-dimensional being encounter. It's happening at night, particularly when there are no devices (ipads, etc.) on, and only in her room.

The being is tall, thin/lanky humanoid, gray-ish in color--though partially translucent. There are no visible facial features, except the outline of rib cage.

Both girls report feeling a coldness in its presence. They also report a sense of ill-intent from the being, though it hasn't done anything threatening per se.

The friend also attempted to put her hand through it--and, when she did, the being disappeared, only to reappear after she retracted her hand.

My wife is particularly sensitive (she's a dream medium); and told it to stop going into her room, though it could hang out outside in the hallway. The next day, my daughter--without knowing what my wife did--was annoyed that she could sense the being waiting outside her room.

Neither my wife nor I are getting any sense of bad energy. However I am concerned both girls are getting a sense of coldness.

Any thoughts what this could be?

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u/Regular_Alps7213 — 3 months ago

First time seeing Yungblud live (Portland OR show). Anyone else *feel* like his concerts are more than just a rock show?

I've never experienced a more energetic and overwhelmingly positive show in my life. Writing this on Monday, the show was on Saturday, and I'm still processing. Like i'm still emotional about it.

At the expense of sounding a little crazy, it feels like something shifted in me. I'm reluctant to say 'spiritual' -- but maybe the shoe fits.

I wasn't even a huge fan (at first) -- my wife got the tickets on a lark. Didn't quite know what I was getting into.

His music is good--7/10--big hooks, awesome gravely rock voice. But the performance...holy shit. I don't even know, like 100000 / 10.

Oh, it's worth noting, i'm a 45 y/o man with a kids, a corporate job and, generally speaking, not inclined to geek out over rockstars. Far from it.

Anyone else experience this?

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u/Regular_Alps7213 — 3 months ago