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Been married 3 years. I feel like we should still be in the phase where we’re still super intimate and having sex regularly, but we’re not. We’ve gone 6 months without having sex once.

I lost attraction over time; getting married was a big and sudden change for me and I don’t think I handled it well. It started to affect our relationship — our connection, our intimacy. I found myself becoming distant. and now I even question how attracted I am. When we were first dating we were constantly having sex and very intimate. I knew I was dating someone outside of “my type,” but I loved him and found him attractive anyway. But looking back, I don’t know how that happened. Now I find myself questioning my attraction, noticing things I don’t like (he’s got a slim physique and even weight lifting doesn’t work because his metabolism is so fast), his face is narrow with not much of a jaw. Just not manly or masculine. I just feel sad and guilty and hopeless that I’m in a sexless marriage and may never be attracted to my husband again. And I feel like an awful person because I know this is affecting him, too, and he feels it .

TLDR: how do I get the attraction back in my marriage?

I’m married 3 years now, so we’re somewhat newlyweds. I’m still having anxiety, questioning the marriage, did I make the right choice etc etc after THREE YEARS. I had all these thoughts and feelings during the engagement and tried to work through them, but now I feel like I got married too soon or before I was 100% sure of my decision. And even when things are fine in our relationship my mind keeps circling back to these questions. I feel like I have ROCD, but also a part of me can’t shake the feeling that maybe I didn’t make the right choice for myself. And I’m tired. Of talking it out, of therapy, of dealing with these big emotions. I just feel ready to quit sometimes , and my husband senses it too. Its impacted our intimacy greatly because I’ve pushed him away with all this shit going on in my head.

tldr: Im tired. and I feel guilty and sad. like he shoudlve chosen someone who was more sure. who loves him as much as he loves her. I feel like my love won’t ever be enough. It doesn’t feel equal. these thoughts make me feel guilty and sad and lonelier than ever.

I’m married 3 years now, so we’re somewhat newlyweds. I’m still having anxiety, questioning the marriage, did I make the right choice etc etc after THREE YEARS. I had all these thoughts and feelings during the engagement and tried to work through them, but now I feel like I got married too soon or before I was 100% sure of my decision. And even when things are fine in our relationship my mind keeps circling back to these questions. I feel like I have ROCD, but also a part of me can’t shake the feeling that maybe I didn’t make the right choice for myself. And I’m tired. Of talking it out, of therapy, of dealing with these big emotions. I just feel ready to quit sometimes , and my husband senses it too. Its impacted our intimacy greatly because I’ve pushed him away with all this shit going on in my head.

tldr: Im tired. and I feel guilty and sad. like he shoudlve chosen someone who was more sure. who loves him as much as he loves her. I feel like my love won’t ever be enough. It doesn’t feel equal. these thoughts make me feel guilty and sad and lonelier than ever.

I’m married 3 years now, so we’re somewhat newlyweds. I’m still having anxiety, questioning the marriage, did I make the right choice etc etc after THREE YEARS. I had all these thoughts and feelings during the engagement and tried to work through them, but now I feel like I got married too soon or before I was 100% sure of my decision. And even when things are fine in our relationship my mind keeps circling back to these questions. I feel like I have ROCD, but also a part of me can’t shake the feeling that maybe I didn’t make the right choice for myself. And I’m tired. Of talking it out, of therapy, of dealing with these big emotions. I just feel ready to quit sometimes , and my husband senses it too. Its impacted our intimacy greatly because I’ve pushed him away with all this shit going on in my head.

tldr: Im tired. and I feel guilty and sad. like he shoudlve chosen someone who was more sure. who loves him as much as he loves her. I feel like my love won’t ever be enough. It doesn’t feel equal. these thoughts make me feel guilty and sad and lonelier than ever.

I’m married 3 years now, so we’re somewhat newlyweds. I’m still having anxiety, questioning the marriage, did I make the right choice etc etc after THREE YEARS. I had all these thoughts and feelings during the engagement and tried to work through them, but now I feel like I got married too soon or before I was 100% sure of my decision. And even when things are fine in our relationship my mind keeps circling back to these questions. I feel like I have ROCD, but also a part of me can’t shake the feeling that maybe I didn’t make the right choice for myself. And I’m tired. Of talking it out, of therapy, of dealing with these big emotions. I just feel ready to quit sometimes , and my husband senses it too. Its impacted our intimacy greatly because I’ve pushed him away with all this shit going on in my head.

tldr: Im tired. and I feel guilty and sad. like he shoudlve chosen someone who was more sure. who loves him as much as he loves her. I feel like my love won’t ever be enough. It doesn’t feel equal. these thoughts make me feel guilty and sad and lonelier than ever.

I’m married 3 years now, so we’re somewhat newlyweds. I’m still having anxiety, questioning the marriage, did I make the right choice etc etc after THREE YEARS. I had all these thoughts and feelings during the engagement and tried to work through them, but now I feel like I got married too soon or before I was 100% sure of my decision. And even when things are fine in our relationship my mind keeps circling back to these questions. I feel like I have ROCD, but also a part of me can’t shake the feeling that maybe I didn’t make the right choice for myself. And I’m tired. Of talking it out, of therapy, of dealing with these big emotions. I just feel ready to quit sometimes , and my husband senses it too. Its impacted our intimacy greatly because I’ve pushed him away with all this shit going on in my head.

Im tired. and I feel guilty and sad. like he shoudlve chosen someone who was more sure. who loves him as much as he loves her. I feel like my love won’t ever be enough. It doesn’t feel equal. these thoughts make me feel guilty and sad and lonelier than ever.

I love the names Winona, Ava, Odessa, Jolene, Simona. Names that are cool and uncommon , but not weird or difficult to pronounce. Also, I’m Armenian so I want it to be a name that will work well in the community and won‘t sound so out of place (aka Cameron or Whitney). Names like Sophia and Anastasia, Olivia, are very common among Armenians so I don’t want those.

I know I’m being very specific lol. Sorry!

I want to create shortlist of pretty girl names, but the lists I see online are all the same and have all the same name recommendations so I feel like I’m gonna end up choosing a name that everyone else has. I want the name to be unique but not weird (please no suggestions like rain or apple, or any stupid names that celebrities would give their kids). I have a friend who named her daughter Simona and I think that’s unique and I don’t know anyone else Who has it, nor have I seen it on any lists.

any thoughts, ideas ?

Long story short: as someone with several years of ballet experience who can't perform or compete because of physical limitations, would rollerskating be a good way to do alongside ballet, just for fun? As a way to express myself, since all I do in ballet is train and take classes. I can't really perform since i haven't excelled to that point. I just want to dance in some shape or form, but not do something that requires a whole lot of training and commitment, since i already have that with dance.

Long story long: I've been taking ballet lessons for 20 years, on and off. I do it as a hobby since I could never progress professionally (I have pretty bad turnout). I love it so much so I can't quit it, but the reality is I won't be able to excel the way I want to, which means I may not perform onstage like I used to at 16. My poor turnout led to hip and knee issues, and I just couldn't improve my technique as much as I wanted to. I had to leave it for a few years to give my body a break. Now, i'm 30 and taking classes to ease my way back, but my body is older now and its even harder than it was when I was 16. So im constantly training and stretching and resting so I dont injure myself again, but not actually dancing. And whats the point of all this training if you never utilize it? I want to express myself and move my body.

I want to know if rollerskating is something I can do on the side to exercise my desire to dance. I don't want to learn a whole new style of dance like partner dancing and whatnot. I just want something low maintanence that lets me move my body and have fun. I enjoy rollerskating and the 70s feel of it. The music, the lights, the outfits. And I wonder if ballet will give me a bit of an advantage when I take lessons. Dancers, what do you think?

Long story short: as someone with several years of ballet experience who can't perform or compete because of physical limitations, would rollerskating be a good way to do alongside ballet, just for fun? As a way to express myself, since all I do in ballet is train and take classes. I can't really perform since i haven't excelled to that point. I just want to dance in some shape or form, but not do something that requires a whole lot of training and commitment, since i already have that with dance.

Long story long: I've been taking ballet lessons for 20 years, on and off. I do it as a hobby since I could never progress professionally (I have pretty bad turnout). I love it so much so I can't quit it, but the reality is I won't be able to excel the way I want to, which means I may not perform onstage like I used to at 16. My poor turnout led to hip and knee issues, and I just couldn't improve my technique as much as I wanted to. I had to leave it for a few years to give my body a break. Now, i'm 30 and taking classes to ease my way back, but my body is older now and its even harder than it was when I was 16. So im constantly training and stretching and resting so I dont injure myself again, but not actually dancing. And whats the point of all this training if you never utilize it? I want to express myself and move my body.

I want to know if rollerskating is something I can do on the side to exercise my desire to dance. I don't want to learn a whole new style of dance like partner dancing and whatnot. I just want something low maintanence that lets me move my body and have fun. I enjoy rollerskating and the 70s feel of it. The music, the lights, the outfits. And I wonder if ballet will give me a bit of an advantage when I take lessons. Dancers, what do you think?