u/SatisfactionCool9718

The guy and that woman had some kind of fallout, and eventually they stopped being connected on social media. I still follow her, though. It’s been seven or eight years, and lately I’ve been wondering if that was a really bad idea.

Because whenever I see her stories or posts, I don’t really see her as herself anymore, I see her through his eyes. I find myself wondering what he would have replied to a particular story, or what he might have thought about a picture. Sometimes I’ll look at her and think, She looks so beautiful here. Maybe this is what he saw in her. Maybe this is why he chose her over me.

And the constant comparison is exhausting. I know I should probably mute or block her so I stop seeing her, but somehow I keep going back and stalking her profile almost every day. I think a part of me is still trying to figure out what she had that I didn’t, what it was about her that he found in her and not in me.

I know this isn’t really about her anymore. It’s about me constantly looking at her through the lens of someone who chose her, and trying to find an answer to a question that may never have an answer.

1. There's this guy I am trying to get over from , from the last 8 years .

2. I have tried to keep him blocked . It didn't worked.

3. I have tried to get blocked by him, still needed to reaching out somehow so this didn't worked either.

4. Tried to keep him as a normal contact so that I don't get the urge to reach out , still didn't work.

Since the day I have known him,I don't think there has been a single day when I haven't thought about him, even tho technically we never dated each other but that doesn't mean my feelings were not real .

I don't even know why I'm still hung up on him, I mean he's probably just a other guy but somehow I just can't get over the fact that there was a time when we used to talk all day and night everyday until we didn't anymore, why ? because he actually found someone he couldn't stop talking to .

Now when I think of all the interactions I ever had with him. He never seemed interested in me . Usually if a guy likes you , he approaches you first but that didn't happen in my case , I was the one who approached him first after he joined us one day with my other friends to just hang out . I mean if he had really noticed me and liked me he would have at least tried to reach out to me somehow but that didn't happen at all . In fact he once mentioned how he found my fb user sme so funny that he didn't accepted the friend request at all at first .

Maybe it was all my fault , Maybe I was so desperate and lonely that I just couldn't see how he was never into me in the first place . He probably used to hangout with me only coz he didn't had anyone that time and maybe he also saw this as a good opportunity to get laid . I was just another weird detour he took before he found the one he wanted to actually be with .

I tried to stay away from him and stay in contact with him and nothing gives me peace anymore . I don't know if I can heal anymore . Maybe this wound is too deep to be fixed .

1. There's this guy I am trying to get over from , from the last 8 years .

2. I have tried to keep him blocked . It didn't worked.

3. I have tried to get blocked by him, still needed to reaching out somehow so this didn't worked either.

4. Tried to keep him as a normal contact so that I don't get the urge to reach out , still didn't work.

Since the day I have known him,I don't think there has been a single day when I haven't thought about him, even tho technically we never dated each other officially but that doesn't mean my feelings were not real .

I don't even know why I'm still hung up on him, I mean he's probably just a other guy but somehow I just can't get over the fact that there was a time when we used to talk all day and night everyday until we didn't anymore, why ? because he actually found someone he couldn't stop talking to .

Now when I think of all the interactions I ever had with him. He never seemed interested in me . Usually if a guy likes you , he approaches you first but that didn't happen in my case , I was the one who approached him first after he joined us one day with my other friends to just hang out . I mean if he had really noticed me and liked me he would have at least tried to reach out to me somehow but that didn't happen at all . In fact he once mentioned how he found my fb user sme so funny that he didn't accepted the friend request at all at first .

Maybe it was all my fault , Maybe I was so desperate and lonely that I just couldn't see how he was never into me in the first place . He probably used to hangout with me only coz he didn't had anyone that time and maybe he also saw this as a good opportunity to get laid . I was just another weird detour he took before he found the one he wanted to actually be with .

I tried to stay away from him and stay in contact with him and nothing gives me peace anymore . I don't know if I can heal anymore . Maybe this wound is too deep to be fixed .

I was talking to someone who never reciprocated my feelings towards him.

Suddenly I wanted to validate my thoughts so I immediately took a screenshot of our chat and posted in chatgpt and it started to analyze each and every thought and underlying meaning behind that and somehow I became so emotional and all my pent up feelings resurfaced and i ended up having a weird argument with him where obviously he barely acknowledged our history togather let alone sincerely apologise. And now I'm just angry

And now I realised that I could have saved all my time simply by controlling my thoughts. There was no need for detailed analysis of the chat anyways .

I just wanna say that we need to consider real therapy and AI cannot be one for you .

I started my career as a software developer in 2022 from one of the WITCH companies . As I progressed further , the only feedback I have received is of late deliverables. I somehow am unable to assign my task in due date , earlier I thought maybe it's because I'm still in the learning phase but the issue has been consistent with me in all my projects till now .

I don't think I want to continue like this and think I should switch to a different role . I want to know what other roles i can take up which are equal in pay as per my current salary.

I started my career as a software developer in 2022 from one of the WITCH companies . As I progressed further , the only feedback I have received is of late deliverables. I somehow am unable to assign my task in due date , earlier I thought maybe it's because I'm still in the learning phase but the issue has been consistent with me in all my projects till now .

I don't think I want to continue like this and think I should switch to a different role . I want to know what other roles i can take up which are equal in pay as per my current salary.

So I have been using Pears body wash in my daily shower routine and a face wash from the brand Simple . I do like both the products but it's not easy to wash them off after showering . Today I applied glycolic acid for the first time on my body and it immediately turned soapy because of the body wash residue and I might have wasted a lot of product simply because I had no idea how it works .

Can anyone suggest some good body washes which does not leave residue on the skin. I love that dry feeling in the skin .

Was it a lack of physical attraction , incompatible personalities , different life goals, timing or something else ? Looking back , what made you realise they weren't the right person for you despite them liking you ?

His first impression and I already know that this guy is an a***ole yet there was this pull towards him that somehow I couldn't stop myself . I was curious, naive and also desperate, desperate to have a person in my life all by myself which led to this disaster .

I think he already had an idea that I liked him but he never liked me back , not even as a person but still made efforts to spend time with me , flirt with me the whole time , texted me throughout his day until I fell , I fell hard and he ? He disappeared. No explanation, nothing.

He was gone , the version of him that I liked or maybe loved was long gone , he became a completely different person . He started to maintain distance from me in public and in general too as if he is trying to hint to everyone that nothing is going on between us even tho we had already crossed a line with each other long ago.

Slowly I watched the same guy who had no reason to be in a relationship, falling madly in love in someone else , yearning for her so bad and complaining to me that how she doesn't see him and here I was asking the same from him ,why you don't see me ?

When I confronted him he had no answers ,just excuses . For them I saw him for who he truly is . Yet I still can't blame him completely for what happened between us for I was the one who approached him in the first place .

I still think about how I could have done things differently, how I should have just observed him for a while and get to know him at first and then decide whether he's worth pursuing or not . But I didn't think it through and went all in as soon as I saw him.

I hate myself now for the past has become a part of my everyday thoughts . He hasn't left my mind for the past 8 years and I think it's just who I am now and probably will never be able to move on . I let him and his actions decide my worth and it hurts always . He's full of arrogance.

He doesn't have any answer to any of my questions ever and always runs away when I ask him for answers. I am so full of anger because of him and all I give him is my anger and somehow he thinks it's a problem . How can someone be so selfish I really wonder .

So I and this guy have been in an arranged marriage set up for sometime now. We were introduced by my mother's friend . We both are working and live in separate cities for now.

So what happened is , a few weeks ago he mother called and we were talking casually for sometime then later she informed me that the guy is sick and I should call him and talk to him , It felt really authoritative since we are still in courtship period only but still I said that I will talk to him. I was busy for the last few days because of office work so wasn't really in touch with him and neither did he contact me so I didn't know about him being sick.

I called him and asked about his health and all for the next few days as I should have .

Now next week I fell sick with a fever and a cold . Got fine in the next 3 days . After that my mom and his were talking regarding some date and all for some ceremony and in between talks my mom told her how I was also sick but now I'm fine . His mother didn't even bother talking to me asking how my health is and not just that , she didn't even inform her son that I was sick so he could talk to me and ask me if I was okay . I told this to my mom and she like just another patriarchal woman told me that I was expecting too much and no one would pamper me there like my family does . But when that guy felt sick not only did I talk to him daily ,even my mom and dad talked to him daily and somehow that is normal for him .

Okay !!!!

Now cut to today my mom was talking to him about his schedule since we need to decide the engagement ceremony date , he clearly denied to make any time in next few months since he's busy and all ( somehow he always has time for his friend's wedding ). When my mom informed him how I was sick and all , i thought now at least he will text me so I was waiting but he didn't text me at all .

I don't think that guy is into me and obviously I don't have any expectations from his family as well .

That guy is so much into lavish wedding but hardy cares about the person he's going to marry .

Should I send him a final text to call off this wedding ?