u/SkittlesSupreme

I met a girl in 2024 and we clicked instantly. Everything felt so perfect and as we got to know each other more and told each other very personal things we got closer and we started dating 3 months after we met. She struggled with her mental health a lot and all in all she couldn't handle the distance (US & UK) I loved her so much that the distance didn't bother me as much, and I reassured her constantly that we would meet. As long as I had her I was okay. Of course I wanted to have her and touch her but that anticipation is what made it better for me. We broke up 2 months after dating and we have had on and off communication. Fast forward to now and yesterday I told her that I can't keep pretending that I'm okay just being her friend now because I am still very deeply in love with her. She said that she can't love someone in that way through a screen so maybe things would've been different if I lived in the UK and it's so hard dealing with that possibility. It kills me to imagine her with anyone else but I don't even have a choice. I want her in my life, but the only 2 options I have is to continue being her friend and engaging with her on a level that I know I'm not happy with or not have her in my life at all. I feel bad because I miss her and I want her in my life but it just hurts so much to be constantly reminded that things will never be how they used to be and it's dragging my mental health down so much. She seems to be over me even though her actions sometimes have suggested otherwise but I haven't been okay and I just desperately want her back. She said she didn't want us to drift apart but that's what happened. I thought I could be her friend and I tried to because I thought having her in my life was better than nothing at all but it's heartbreaking pain.

I'm trading both these sets from flee the facility.

I'm 16m and one of my friends (15f) just removed me today from almost all of the social media platforms we had each other added on, minus like two. No warning or any reason. I was still able to message her somewhere else and I asked her what was going on and if I did something wrong. She said no and after I pushed a bit more she said that we barely talk, I told her that she could've just told me that she wanted to talk more. I'll give some context to our relationship. We met in 2024 and she lives in another country. We also dated before she broke up with me. We used to talk every day, as she was going through some mental health struggles and she still goes through them. I've tried my best to be there for her, but after we broke up everything has just gone downhill from there. We stopped talking twice (2025 & 2026) but ended up going back to messaging. It always seems to get better and then something else happens. After we broke up we talked less, I still wanted to talk to her every day but she said she didn't always have the energy to, I understood and stopped messaging her so often. I've told her before that whatever issues she has with me, that we should talk about it because that's the only way I feel anything is going to get better. She always agrees but that talk never happens. Fast forward to today, and this randomly happens. She said that she's sorry and that she's stressed and has a lot going on but I just feel like it's a cover for something else. I'm hurt by it and I just don't understand as I thought we were getting better. She's been busy with exams recently and I didn't want to bother her during this time. But I feel like I'm wrong for considering her space? She just keeps saying "idk". I was going through a rough time in 2024 and we got really close and it hurts a lot. I've supported her nonstop through everything and I just feel like none of it mattered and that she just forgot me and everything else. She just pushes me away and gets close again just to pull sway again. I just thought things were going well. I cut my left arm a few times like an hour ago. I didn't always self harm but she did or probably still does and since my mental health has gotten so low, I've started it too, she doesn't know that I do but I feel wrong for doing it because I know how damaging it was to her, but it makes me feel better I guess and forget everything. The last time I did it was February/March iirc but I feel absolutely terrible today.

I'm 16m and one of my friends (15f) just removed me today from almost all of the social media platforms we had each other added on, minus like two. No warning or any reason. I was still able to message her somewhere else and I asked her what was going on and if I did something wrong. She said no and after I pushed a bit more she said that we barely talk, I told her that she could've just told me that she wanted to talk more. I'll give some context to our relationship. We met in 2024 and she lives in another country. We also dated before she broke up with me. We used to talk every day, as she was going through some mental health struggles and she still goes through them. I've tried my best to be there for her, but after we broke up everything has just gone downhill from there. We stopped talking twice (2025 & 2026) but ended up going back to messaging. It always seems to get better and then something else happens. After we broke up we talked less, I still wanted to talk to her every day but she said she didn't always have the energy to, I understood and stopped messaging her so often. I've told her before that whatever issues she has with me, that we should talk about it because that's the only way I feel anything is going to get better. She always agrees but that talk never happens. Fast forward to today, and this randomly happens. She said that she's sorry and that she's stressed and has a lot going on but I just feel like it's a cover for something else. I'm hurt by it and I just don't understand as I thought we were getting better. She's been busy with exams recently and I didn't want to bother her during this time. But I feel like I'm wrong for considering her space? She just keeps saying "idk". I was going through a rough time in 2024 and we got really close and it hurts a lot. I've supported her nonstop through everything and I just feel like none of it mattered and that she just forgot me and everything else. She just pushes me away and gets close again just to pull sway again. I just thought things were going well.