u/Smol_Fairy

So a few days ago, an old guy-friend sent me a message. At first it was just friend stuff. But then I kinda got the vibe that he was flirting with me (which apparently wasn't the case). So I told him I found out I was a lesbian. The first thing he said was 'I could've told you that ages ago' 😆 Sometimes I'm not sure if I really am gay, mostly because I'm not out that long. So comments/reactions like this really validate things for me hahah

Has anyone ever bought something at 'The Early Music Shop'? I had never heard of them before. On Trustpilot they seem great. I'm interested to buy some Susato whistles from them, since I've always loved my Susato high C. And I would like some whistles in keys I don't own yet. Thanks! :)

A while back I posted here for motivation to call the dentist because I didn't go for 3 years already and I was scared. I didn't call anymore then because it turned out to be a national holiday that day (which I forgot about lol) so they were closed. But I finally called today and made an appointment!! 😄 Turns out I didn't go for almost 5 years tho oops 🫣😭😂😂 I'm really frickin scared but I really have to do this 😭😂 Pray for me hahah. Thanks so much for all the motivation guys!

Is 28 considered a late bloomer? :p I feel like it is. I've lived my whole life dating men. And only now I'm finding out I did it all for validation. It would definitely explain why s3x was always an issue with all of them. (I'm not going to explain CompHet, I'm sure you're all familiar hahah). I've always known I liked women. And in general I found women to be way more visually appealing than men. I just never connected the dots with being gay lol. I was actually convinced in high school that I was a lesbian. Not sure why I went back to being bi(curious)to be honest. Probably because of validation again.

I'm very nervous about approaching women😂🫣 In fact I've never approached anyone. I've always just let the men come to me because I didn't want to come across as needy or something. I know it's probably better to not overthink things so much tho.

Also, now that I know this, I'm really just letting all the suppressed stuff come through. I've been watching a lot of thirst trap videos and I can't stop Aah 😂😂I'm giggling so hard for all of them🙃 It feels strange but really freeing also 🥰

Hi! So I (F28) know I'm bi and I have, up untill this point in my life, only dated men before. But I've alwasy been kinda curious of dating women. I just never thought it would be something that was for me. I'm on the neurodivergent spectrum (audhd) so maybe in my subconcious, I always thought that, because I'm a woman, I must be with a man or else it's not real or something. But after years of dating men, I just feel like that's not really true for me. Maybe I should start opening up to women? Although I'm very nervous about it. Because how do you even start something with a woman and how would I know she's actually into me, vs us just being friends? In all my relationships I've always just kinda let things happen, and let the man come to me. Mainly because I'm too shy and unsure of myself I think. I never initiated anything myself. But at saying no I'm not good at either. So I might have done some things I wasn't actually fully on board with.

Looking back at my life, I definitely have some systemic sexual trauma. Luckily I've never gone through actual SA. But just growing up, and always feeling like I need to be beautiful for my (potential) partner, and always please my partner, made me have a really unhealthy relationship with sex in general. I just don't even know if I want to let a man into my life like that again. I would like to be with somebody I can just cuddle with, without further expectations.. Even if those expectations are not directly pressured upon me, they always felt like an unwritten rule that I had to follow. I'm even starting to think I'm on the asexual spectrum.

So, for now I'm totally happy just being single and not hooking up with anyone. (casually hooking up with somebody has never been my thing anyway). But I'm just curious what it would be like to date the same gender. Will it feel as liberating as I think it will? Is sex going to feel healthier?