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Just had an interview with a company that aligns very well with my experience.

The software they want me to manage is honestly so niche that saying what it is might practically doxx me. I currently manage a very similar piece of software for a competitor in the same industry, so I already have pretty relevant experience with it.

Guess what they said? "Well, we really want someone who has experience related to the role"

Do you know how frustrating that is? I can GUARANTEE I am the ONLY person within a 100 mile radius that has experience in software in that industry, yet they act like I am applying for a job that I have no related experience with?

Seems like employers are just wanting some unicorn person and mind you, this isn't even a remote role, so I'm not competing with the entire country.

I'm D2/D1 and I literally have to mentally prepare myself before playing ranked.

I know that sounds cringe, but I've found in high diamond I literally can not make a single mistake or it will be heavily punished. Especially if I get master/GM players in my lobby.

It can be exhausting. I can only do a few games and thats it.

Some of you just play like this normally though right?? Just absolutely cracked with little to no effort?

I've finally gotten to diamond this season and i'm currently D2.

Words cannot express how much more fun high elo is compared to plat/emerald/even gold games.

While sure, there are trolls and people are toxic, honestly, it seems like most people play fully muted.

The gameplay is the fun part. Most of the time when I die, I just literally get outplayed. I went for that single minion I shouldn't have.

The coordination players have together is so fun to watch and play too. Seems like people know what they are doing.

People actually watch the map in this elo. They actually go for plays.

Its legit like a different game entirely. Also, teamfights are FAST and fun AF!

I fucking love cheesecake. It is by far the best sweet on the planet.

It is unethical just how calorie dense it is. I've lost 32 pounds this year, and you know what? I've had cheesecake ONCE.

I CAN'T EAT CHEESECAKE. you know why?? its 1000 CALORIES A SLICE.

I can eat oreos. A handful of oreos is 3-400 calories. I can have a brownie. 5-600 calories.

But a slice of cheesecake from the cheesecake factory is 1500 calories. That is INSANE.

I'm in D3 right now and I'm a veigar and orianna (mainly veigar) OTP with a 57% win rate.

I'm sick of playing veigar but i am so dang good at him compared to my other champs.

I've been playing normals and I was losing to GOLD/LOW PLAT players when I tried to play yone, same with ryze.

Anyone have any tips? No offense to gold players at all. Its just crazy how much champ mastery matters it seems. I can tell their macro sucks but I also suck!

As a man myself, the Lindsay Clancy case has really highlighted how much women defend other women - sometimes to a fault (especially with this case).

I've noticed that men do NOT do that. In fact, it seems like we are always trying to one up each other.

We don't even have each other backs like women do. Why not? Can this be changed?

I'm D2 right now but before I got to D5 it was funny - whenever I saw a fed ADC, I legit could not care less.

Most of them were awful at positioning. Kiting isn't even a thing before plat.

Now in high elo? Holy crap. A fed Jinx is SCARY. An ashe can kite you for DAYS.

They still get mispositioned for sure and get one shot, but very rarely now. But a fed ADC is a pain all game.

I'm not going to lie, I HATED the idea of role quests when they first came out.

But now, I do think they do play a role.

It does suck that JG and Mid got such pointless quests, and that Top and bot got the best ones, but it does make sense in hindsight.

I definitely thought JG just had too much impact on the game.

The extra item slot is super fun at bot, I like the enhanced boots (I do think the empowered recall was too OP, glad they removed that). Top having a big XP lead made it feel a little more impactful.

What are your thoughts? It is frustrating to see the rise of APC due to the quest, I will say that. And roaming bot.

We currently make 150k combined, which is a good income, but thats with both of us working, and its practically split down the middle (75k and 75k).

We are both 27, no children yet.

We also live in a very expensive state - so affording a home here with just one of us working is just not possible.

We've lived in our current state (colorado) our entire lives. I understand my wife is having doubts.

But when I was applying for jobs out of state about a year ago, she told me she was very open to it, especially to states where housing is a lot more affordable.

My new job will pay 130k a year. A massive jump. I also don't want to be mean to my wife, but she is a teacher and she can get a job in most states relatively easily - its transferable. My job is not like that. Its much more specialized.

The job also has more benefits, has opportunity for advancement (to make even more money), etc.

My wife has also said in the past she wants to stay at home while the kids are really young. Makes sense but if we stayed put we would not afford a home and she could stay at home, it would be impossible. We would be living paycheck to paycheck at best.

This job is an opportunity that does not come by every day. My wife is having more and more doubts each day.

She is really scared of moving away now, and is scared of making new friends, leaving her extended family, etc.

I mean I get it, but this new job we could afford a home on one income, she could stay at home, etc. What she wants. She seems to want it all, stay where we are at, stay at home, we own a place, etc.

Our current support system where we live isn't really that good either. My parents live 5 hours away, all of our siblings don't live here anymore. The only parent is my wifes mom, and she works a ton, so i'm not sure we have a super great support system for kids either way to be honest.

I can't imagine saying no to this job. I would resent my wife for years, i'm not going to lie. The state we are moving too is begging for teachers, so she would find a job almost immediately, and might even get a pay increase, too.

Should we move?

EDIT: Its in illionois. I can live anywhre in the state, its a remote job. I just have to live in illionois.

Does anyone have any experience moving for a job? Is it worth it?

We currently make 150k combined, which is a good income, but thats with both of us working, and its practically split down the middle (75k and 75k).

We are both 27, no children yet.

We also live in a very expensive state - so affording a home here with just one of us working is just not possible.

We've lived in our current state (colorado) our entire lives. I understand my wife is having doubts.

But when I was applying for jobs out of state about a year ago, she told me she was very open to it, especially to states where housing is a lot more affordable.

My new job will pay 130k a year. A massive jump. I also don't want to be mean to my wife, but she is a teacher and she can get a job in most states relatively easily - its transferable. My job is not like that. Its much more specialized.

The job also has more benefits, has opportunity for advancement (to make even more money), etc.

My wife has also said in the past she wants to stay at home while the kids are really young. Makes sense but if we stayed put we would not afford a home and she could stay at home, it would be impossible. We would be living paycheck to paycheck at best.

This job is an opportunity that does not come by every day. My wife is having more and more doubts each day.

She is really scared of moving away now, and is scared of making new friends, leaving her extended family, etc.

I mean I get it, but this new job we could afford a home on one income, she could stay at home, etc. What she wants. She seems to want it all, stay where we are at, stay at home, we own a place, etc.

I can't imagine saying no to this job. I would resent my wife for years, i'm not going to lie. The state we are moving too is begging for teachers, so she would find a job almost immediately, and might even get a pay increase, too.

Should we move?

EDIT: Its in illionois. I can live anywhre in the state, its a remote job. I just have to live in illionois.

We currently make 150k combined, which is a good income, but thats with both of us working, and its practically split down the middle (75k and 75k).

We are both 27, no children yet.

We also live in a very expensive state - so affording a home here with just one of us working is just not possible.

We've lived in our current state (colorado) our entire lives. I understand my wife is having doubts.

But when I was applying for jobs out of state about a year ago, she told me she was very open to it, especially to states where housing is a lot more affordable.

My new job will pay 130k a year. A massive jump. I also don't want to be mean to my wife, but she is a teacher and she can get a job in most states relatively easily - its transferable. My job is not like that. Its much more specialized.

The job also has more benefits, has opportunity for advancement (to make even more money), etc.

My wife has also said in the past she wants to stay at home while the kids are really young. Makes sense but if we stayed put we would not afford a home and she could stay at home, it would be impossible. We would be living paycheck to paycheck at best.

This job is an opportunity that does not come by every day. My wife is having more and more doubts each day.

She is really scared of moving away now, and is scared of making new friends, leaving her extended family, etc.

I mean I get it, but this new job we could afford a home on one income, she could stay at home, etc. What she wants. She seems to want it all, stay where we are at, stay at home, we own a place, etc.

What do I do? I can't imagine saying no to this job. I would resent my wife for years, i'm not going to lie. The state we are moving too is begging for teachers, so she would find a job almost immediately, and might even get a pay increase, too.

Speaking as someone who got a STEM degree, its laughable how easy a lot of college degrees are and how it doesn't really make you more "smart".

It did make me more intelligent in some things - like the thing I specifically studied.

However, being college educated means absolutely nothing to me in regards to respect or how I view your intelligence 

The only thing it can do is make me respect your opinion more for your SPECIFIC field you majored in, but nothing else. So yes, it does make you more intelligent for something that specific.

But if you have a masters degree, I don't respect your general opinions (especially political) on something that doesn't have anything to do with your degree.

I have many family members who aren't educated in the slightest, and I respect their opinions just as much as someone with a PHD.

Now, will I respect your opinion on climate change if you are a literal climate scientist with a masters degree in environmental science? Yes.

But I will not be lectured about illegal immigration from someone who has a chemistry degree, sorry.

Yes, people like this do exist. Your college degree means jack, dude. I know tons of educated people who wear it like a cape, its weird.

I'm 27 now, and I don't play sports anymore, or do many competitive things.

But, I have played league of legends for over 7 years. I have hundreds of hours in this videogame.

Its really hard at our age to fill that competitive void. Recreational sports are kinda lame at this age, some people take it serious, some don't.

If you go bowling with your wife/gf they get pissed if you even want to be competitive about it.

Being competitive while playing pickleball with buddies is seen as cringe.

But queuing up for a ranked game? Especially in a high elo one? (Diamond+)? The competitiveness is just so dang fun man.

I know its just a game, but those 45 minute games that end in a long team fight? Pure cinema. The heartbreaking losses, etc.

Feeling the flow between the team. The baron call. Denying soul. Split pushing. Etc.

Nothing really replicates that in adult life. THATS why league is so addicting to me.

Anyone else feel the same?

I'm D3 right now and playing against some D2/D1s and even some masters, and the thing I really notice is just how aggressive they play compared to gold/plat players.

A few other things:

1. No hesitation for baron if its the right call

2. Really good positioning. Angles i've never even thought of for smite steals, etc.

3. Wave management. really good at getting a freeze going or a slow push.

4. Understanding matchups. If you are weak level 1, players actually know that. They play safe. Etc etc.

What do you notice from diamond+ compared to low elo

I've went from 200 pounds to 168 pounds (I'm 5 11 1/2). All through counting calories.

My diet wasn't even that strict. Got my protein in each day, but since my maintenance was so high (I walk 10-12k steps a day, workout 5-6 times a week) I could be in a deficit and still eat mcdonalds sometimes.

I'm nearing the end of my cut. I'm 11-12% body fat now.

I look absolutely insane with a pump. I look so much better. Lean is really law.

My face in particular. A lean face is so much more attractive. I don't look huge in clothes now but my jawline looks good.

I feel better - I can go on long hikes easier, get up out of bed easier, etc.

But as i'm nearing the end, I really think this strict of a diet has given me an eating disorder.

I am utterly terrified of food now. My life revolves around calories.

Losing the weight took so much effort I am TERRIFIED of gaining it back.

I can not enjoy food anymore. Every single bite I take I worry about going above maintenance.

I weigh 99.9% of the food I eat. I never snack.

I am so scared of going to a restaurant. I went to the cheesecake factory with my wife. Had a good meal, but was terrified of the scale afterwards.

How do people do this? Any tips?

i've went from 198 pounds (5 11) to 168 pounds. I'm pretty lean right now. I've been lifting for 7 years.

The only thing I don't have is shredded abs. I genuinely believe I am only 2-5 pounds away. But holy crap. This diet has been AWFUL the last few pounds.

I unfortunately store ALL of my last fat in my stomach it feels like. I am exceptionally lean (my arms and legs are shredded) except for my lower belly. Apparently this is genetic. Some people store fat elsewhere I guess?

Anyways, these past few weeks have been awful. I am really strict with my diet. My deficit isn't even that large (3-400 calories a day). My body is really rejecting getting leaner.

I am:

Getting migraines

Feeling cold all of the time

I CAN NOT SLEEP

Feel hungry ALL OF THE TIME. Its now CONSTANT

I did an entire week where I ate ABOVE maintenance 2-300 calories a day just to give my body a break and when I went back down my body went INSANE.

Has anyone else experienced this? Is it even worth getting shredded abs at this point? I'm honestly leaner then 99% of the population, and have abs when I am fasted and flex in good lighting. But I don't have rock hard abs.

i've went from 198 pounds (5 11) to 168 pounds. I'm pretty lean right now. I've been lifting for 7 years.

The only thing I don't have is shredded abs. I genuinely believe I am only 2-5 pounds away. But holy crap. This diet has been AWFUL the last few pounds.

I unfortunately store ALL of my last fat in my stomach it feels like. I am exceptionally lean (my arms and legs are shredded) except for my lower belly. Apparently this is genetic. Some people store fat elsewhere I guess?

Anyways, these past few weeks have been awful. I am really strict with my diet. My deficit isn't even that large (3-400 calories a day). My body is really rejecting getting leaner.

I am:

Getting migraines

Feeling cold all of the time

I CAN NOT SLEEP

Feel hungry ALL OF THE TIME. Its now CONSTANT

I did an entire week where I ate ABOVE maintenance 2-300 calories a day just to give my body a break and when I went back down my body went INSANE.

Has anyone else experienced this? Is it even worth getting shredded abs at this point? I'm honestly leaner then 99% of the population, and have abs when I am fasted and flex in good lighting. But I don't have rock hard abs.

Hello, I am in the final steps of an interview process and I realized my resume has a discrepancy. Everything else on my resume is completely accurate. The start/end dates for the other two jobs on my resume are completely accurate. I didn't lie about my education credentials either.

However, I noticed that my start date for a job from 7 1/2 years ago (and last job on my resume) wasn't January, it was April/May (I looked at bank statements). The end date was accurate.

Honestly when making my resume I just guessed, this job was 7 1/2 years ago so i didn't remember my start date.

Will this cause me to get my offer rescinded? Should I be worried?

Hello, I am in the final steps of my process and I realized my resume has a discrepancy. Everything else on my resume is completely accurate. The start/end dates for the other two jobs on my resume are completely accurate. I didn't lie about my education credentials either.

However, I noticed that my start date for a job from 7 1/2 years ago (and last job on my resume) wasn't January, it was April/May (I looked at bank statements). The end date was accurate. Honestly when making my resume I just guessed, this job was 7 1/2 years ago so i didn't remember my start date.

Will this cause me to get my offer rescinded? Should I be worried?