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Adult from Confucianist or Indian subcontinent cultures often love with their third-world elders in a multi generation household for life. For example a 50 year old patient from Vietnam, China, Japan, Pakistan or Nepal could love with their parents, who are in their 80s. This is fully normal.

Often patients from these cultures are beaten and shouted at by their elders not only during childhood, but also as adults. What do White or Western therapists do if the patient is i structured by their elders to lie and not tell the truth about the shouting and beatings they get if the therapist insists on abiding by mandatory reporting?

In most third-world countries, if therapy does exist there, therapists have to abide by no mandatory reporting laws, given that elders shouting at and beating adult patients is legal there. Often even police officers, judges, madhouse staff and other authority figures take part in beatings as well as more heinous crimes like r and m.

37M, diagnosed with autism, OCD and anxiety

In 2006 I was on the long road working towards my two life goals, becoming a chess grandmasters and getting into medical school in the EU. However, that year my life fell apart like a glass shattering on the floor. My physical and mental health collapsed, other issues like money, family, academic collapse, etc. Everything went wrong.

Throughout my 20s I was a vegetable, dropped BMI to 15, could barely eat, wasted away wasted my whole 20s.

Only in 2025 did stuff get somewhat better. However, 2006-2025 is a long time. I felt as if I were frozen in time in a coma. For 19 years, I did not keep up with technology. Only recently did I get a smartphone. I used a 2000 Nokia mobile phone before, but usually my land-line. I used dialup Internet for most of my life, now there is this fibre optic stuff. Youtube now is merged with Google, and they no longer have for example graphic war footage. Facebook looks completely different now compared to 2006. I never heard of 'apps' back in 2006. Maps look different. Buildings look different. The shops i used to go to have closed business. Tech is everywhere. It is eerie to me.

The problem is that I am now restarting the road towards those two goals. I feel like I am still 17 and the year is still 2006. I feel like my body is technically 37, yet my brain says I am still 17, next year I turn 18. I lost almost 20 years of my whole life. I just cannot cope with having lost over half my life, it felt like like were just beginning for me.

I am applying to EU medical schools...at the age of 37. I am basically a grandpa due to my life basically not existing 2006-2025. Chess grandmasters are now aged 17 or 18, which is fewer years than my 'coma'. I am going to have to play against these kids soon. This is so eerie. Far worse than a nightmare.

But then another bombshell: a few years ago, I was formally diagnosed with autism.

Having to get through this 'coma' and now I have to scramble to find some therapy for my condition is becoming overwhelming.

Is there a formal name for such a syndrome? What is usually the treatment for someone who is also autistic? I wake up everyday sad thinking I somehow missed my 20s, supposedly the best years of my life, finding out I am 37, and next year is 2027 somehow, but my brain tells me I am 17, and next year is 2007, when I will turn 18.

37M, diagnosed with autism, OCD and anxiety

In 2006 I was on the long road working towards my two life goals, becoming a chess grandmasters and getting into medical school in the EU. However, that year my life fell apart like a glass shattering on the floor. My physical and mental health collapsed, other issues like money, family, academic collapse, etc. Everything went wrong.

Throughout my 20s I was a vegetable, dropped BMI to 15, could barely eat, wasted away wasted my whole 20s.

Only in 2025 did stuff get somewhat better. However, 2006-2025 is a long time. I felt as if I were frozen in time in a coma. For 19 years, I did not keep up with technology. Only recently did I get a smartphone. I used a 2000 Nokia mobile phone before, but usually my land-line. I used dialup Internet for most of my life, now there is this fibre optic stuff. Youtube now is merged with Google, and they no longer have for example graphic war footage. Facebook looks completely different now compared to 2006. I never heard of 'apps' back in 2006. Maps look different. Buildings look different. The shops i used to go to have closed business. Tech is everywhere. It is eerie to me.

The problem is that I am now restarting the road towards those two goals. I feel like I am still 17 and the year is still 2006. I feel like my body is technically 37, yet my brain says I am still 17, next year I turn 18. I lost almost 20 years of my whole life. I just cannot cope with having lost over half my life, it felt like like were just beginning for me.

I am applying to EU medical schools...at the age of 37. I am basically a grandpa due to my life basically not existing 2006-2025. Chess grandmasters are now aged 17 or 18, which is fewer years than my 'coma'. I am going to have to play against these kids soon. This is so eerie.

But then another bombshell: a few years ago, I was formally diagnosed with autism.

Having to get through this 'coma' and now I have to scramble to find some therapy for my condition is becoming overwhelming.

Is there a formal name for such a syndrome? What is usually the treatment for someone who is also autistic? I am basically a 17 year old living in a 37 year old body.

I am an American revising some biology, chemistry and stuff all in Dutch for med school entrance exams for the Netherlands. Throughout this revision I came across some interesting words that can be used for Anglish medicine words.

Dutch → Anglish (Modern English)

Alvleesklier → allfleshclyer (pancreas)

Zuur → sour (acid)

Stikstof → Stickstuff (Nitrogen)

Zuurstof → Sourstuff (Oxygen)

Waterstof → Waterstuff (Hydrogen)

Koolstof → Coalstuff (Carbon)

Koolzuur → Coalsour (Carbonic)

Vetzuur → Fatsour (fatty acid)

Koolwaterstoffen → Coalwaterstuff (Carbohydrates)

I think that these sound pretty good for Anglish. I might even use some of these whilst speaking modern English.

If you look round not o ly here but also other forums, as well as real life experience, you will notice that Western therapists, and, by extension, White therapists in general, have no clue when it comes to Confucianism.

You often see how patients with this upbringing have to almost argue with their therapists about why they cannot disobey their parents' orders, even though the patient is 40 or 50 years old. It is fully normal for a 60 year old to live with her or his parents in the same house. It just seems like Whites and even non-Whites from Western countries, like blacks, do not grasp the concept of filial piety, nor other stuff like the old saying 'hitting is hugging', 'shouting is speaking softly', 'Beating is true parents' love', etc.

Why do White and Western therapists struggle so hard to understand adult patients who have to obey Confucianism and must shun Western norms like moving out, disobeying their elders or being independent?

37M, diagnosed with autism, OCD and anxiety

In 2006 I was on the long road working towards my two life goals, becoming a chess grandmasters and getting into medical school in the EU. However, that year my life fell apart like a glass shattering on the floor. My physical and mental health collapsed, other issues like money, family, academic collapse, etc. Everything went wrong.

Throughout my 20s I was a vegetable, dropped BMI to 15, could barely eat, wasted away wasted my whole 20s.

Only in 2025 did stuff get somewhat better. However, 2006-2025 is a long time. I felt as if I were frozen in time in a coma. For 19 years, I did not keep up with technology. Only recently did I get a smartphone. I used a 2000 Nokia mobile phone before, but usually my land-line. I used dialup Internet for most of my life, now there is this fibre optic stuff. Youtube now is merged with Google, and they no longer have for example graphic war footage. Facebook looks completely different now compared to 2006. I never heard of 'apps' back in 2006. Maps look different. Buildings look different. The shops i used to go to have closed business. Tech is everywhere. It is eerie to me.

The problem is that I am now restarting the road towards those two goals. I feel like I am still 17 and the year is still 2006. I feel like my body is technically 37, yet my brain says I am still 17, next year I turn 18. I lost almost 20 years of my whole life. I just cannot cope with having lost over half my life, it felt like like were just beginning for me.

I am applying to EU medical schools...at the age of 37. I am basically a grandpa due to my life basically not existing 2006-2025. Chess grandmasters are now aged 17 or 18, which is fewer years than my 'coma'. I am going to have to play against these kids soon. This is so eerie.

But then another bombshell: a few years ago, I was formally diagnosed with autism.

Having to get through this 'coma' and now I have to scramble to find some therapy for my condition is becoming overwhelming.

Is there a formal name for such a syndrome? What is usually the treatment for someone who is also autistic?

A question only for non-White non-Western folk with third-world family:

For example, even if you are 35+, if your parents or grandparents insist on cooking dinner without washing their hands after using the toilet, you tell them, then they blow up with extreme anger like Hiroshima or Nagasaki in 1945, instead saying stuff like, 'You should look at yourself in the mirror what a filthy, disgusting pig you are!' or, 'Fůck you, I will knock you out right now, you dumb fůcking disgusting shıthead fool!'?

And what causes such anger to begin with? Especially when they are the ones who tell you what to do and to blindly obey their orders

37M, diagnosed with autism, OCD and anxiety

In 2006 I was on the long road working towards my two life goals, becoming a chess grandmasters and getting into medical school in the EU. However, that year my life fell apart like a glass shattering on the floor. My physical and mental health collapsed, other issues like money, family, academic collapse, etc. Everything went wrong.

Throughout my 20s I was a vegetable, dropped BMI to 15, could barely eat, wasted away wasted my whole 20s.

Only in 2025 did stuff get somewhat better. However, 2006-2025 is a long time. I felt as if I were frozen in time in a coma. For 19 years, I did not keep up with technology. Only recently did I get a smartphone. I used a 2000 Nokia mobile phone before, but usually my land-line. I used dialup Internet for most of my life, now there is this fibre optic stuff. Youtube now is merged with Google, and they no longer have for example graphic war footage. Facebook looks completely different now compared to 2006. I never heard of 'apps' back in 2006. Maps look different. Buildings look different. The shops i used to go to have closed business. Tech is everywhere. It is eerie to me.

The problem is that I am now restarting the road towards those two goals. I feel like I am still 17 and the year is still 2006. I feel like my body is technically 37, yet my brain says I am still 17, next year I turn 18. I lost almost 20 years of my whole life. I just cannot cope with having lost over half my life, it felt like like were just beginning for me.

I am applying to EU medical schools...at the age of 37. I am basically a grandpa due to my life basically not existing 2006-2025. Chess grandmasters are now aged 17 or 18, which is fewer years than my 'coma'. I am going to have to play against these kids soon. This is so eerie.

But then another bombshell: a few years ago, I was formally diagnosed with autism.

Having to get through this 'coma' and now I have to scramble to find some therapy for my condition is becoming overwhelming.

Is there a formal name for such a syndrome? What is usually the treatment for someone who is also autistic?

37M, diagnosed with autism, OCD and anxiety

In 2006 I was on the long road working towards my two life goals, becoming a chess grandmasters and getting into medical school in the EU. However, that year my life fell apart like a glass shattering on the floor. My physical and mental health collapsed, other issues like money, family, academic collapse, etc. Everything went wrong.

Throughout my 20s I was a vegetable, dropped BMI to 15, could barely eat, wasted away wasted my whole 20s.

Only in 2025 did stuff get somewhat better. However, 2006-2025 is a long time. I felt as if I were frozen in time in a coma. For 19 years, I did not keep up with technology. Only recently did I get a smartphone. I used a 2000 Nokia mobile phone before, but usually my land-line. I used dialup Internet for most of my life, now there is this fibre optic stuff. Youtube now is merged with Google, and they no longer have for example graphic war footage. Facebook looks completely different now compared to 2006. I never heard of 'apps' back in 2006. Maps look different. Buildings look different. The shops i used to go to have closed business. Tech is everywhere. It is eerie to me.

The problem is that I am now restarting the road towards those two goals. I feel like I am still 17 and the year is still 2006. I feel like my body is technically 37, yet my brain says I am still 17, next year I turn 18. I lost almost 20 years of my whole life. I just cannot cope with having lost over half my life, it felt like like we're just beginning for me.

Is there a formal name for such a syndrome? What is usually the treatment?

Whites and even non-Whites from Western cultures often say 'you are an adult why do you put up with this', 'move out you are 18+' and stuff like ad the answer to everything. Is it like they are willfully being obtuse or projecting their culture onto others.

Would it not be better to make everyone state their ethnicity, cultural background and he country before posting here?

37M, diagnosed with autism, OCD and anxiety

I noticed that almost everyone whom I have met hates repetition for some reason, always wanting to do something different, something new.

I listen to the same Beatles and Beach Boys songs since I was small. When I work, I often put one of my favourite songs on 🔂, so I might listen to the same song straight over 100 times in one sitting. Just today, I listened to Good Vibrations on loop from about 14h00 to now (Almost midnight). Most people go nuts if they did this. I relish it.

I eat the same food on some days. For example, I eat udon every Sunday. I have no idea why, but I have been doing it for decades. Most people go nuts if they do this.

I watch The Killing Fields (1984) by Roland Joffé every Sunday evening. I have been doing this since I was small.

Why so much hate for repetition?

37M, diagnosed with autism, OCD and anxiety

I noticed that almost everyone whom I have met hates repetition for some reason, always wanting to do something different, something new.

I listen to the same Beatles and Beach Boys songs since I was small. When I work, I often put one of my favourite songs on 🔂, so I might listen to the same song straight over 100 times in one sitting. Just today, I listened to Good Vibrations on loop from about 14h00 to now (Almost midnight). Most people go nuts if they did this. I relish it.

I eat the same food on some days. For example, I eat udon every Sunday. I have no idea why, but I have been doing it for decades. Most people go nuts if they do this.

I watch The Killing Fields (1984) by Roland Joffé every Sunday evening. I have been doing this since I was small.

Why so much hate for repetition?

I have had arguments with over 20000 people since I am from San Francisco but I need temperatures to be below freezing (0 C/32 F). Lived few years in Britain and Wisconsin and loved snowy winters in both.

We moved here to San Francisco to save money, but we are having one hell of a shıtty time here. I never hated my own hometown more than now. Everyone tells me I am weird for my extreme heat intolerance and reverse SAD, but my Wisconsinite girlfriend, who likes the four seasons and snow in winter, is now getting sick of people insinuating how she is weird for liking the snow and winters telling her stuff like, 'Well, you could always go back to that red state you know...', 'Have fun leaving the best city on earth with the greatest weather on earth' and other passive-aggressive things that are driving us nuts.

I come from a third-world tropical family, and everyone tells me how there is no such thing as too hot weather, I am a baby always itching about the heat, etc., suck it up be a man and enjoy the weather, etc., even getting threatened physically if I complain about the heat.

My point is most people say the problem is myself, since I argue with everyone who talks to and provokes me about the weather. But she has no heta intolerance, but she is also wilting in the heat waves we are getting here in San Francisco. She came home from work today drenched in sweat, and inside our house is 10-15 C hotter than outside, even though we have multiple fans going with an icebox and stuff. We cannot install A/C or have portable A/C units, since my family will probably yell at me and much worse.

So now it is BOTH of us thay are ending up arguing with people due to our hatred of the weather here, how does this affect my psychological situation? We both hate the people here hate the neighbpurhoods, hate the weather, hate the climate here, hate almost everything here yet people say I am the only one in the whole city who hates the weather.

Today it was 25 C (75 F). We had multiple fans blowing with ice in a box in front. Living room thermometer showed 34 C (93 F). Bedroom thermometer showed 36 C (96 F).

Does this at least vindicate me that my gripes about the heat and lack of snow in San Francisco are true, and she agrees with me means that I am not going mad, like everyone tells me?

All of my family are from corrupt third-world countries. People get thrown into madhouses all the time there. Basically the family bribe some police to 'arrest' the person, being them to the madhouse, and the madhouse staff take them in, drug them up and leave them there to rot.

I have always been shouted at by family, sometimes hit. I remember almost 2 decades ago when I was 21 or so, my life was falling apart, and I fell apart mentally. I still remember how I was physically dragged by my sweatshirt sleeve as if to get dragged out to have someone take me to a mental hospital. Family mostly think therapy is BS and mental health is BS. Just tough it out, stop acting mad is what people say.

My grandfather was almost thrown into a madhouse in the 1920s. He was told constantly throughout his life he deserved to be in a madhouse. I have several relatives who have ben en interned in madhouses.

I am formally diagnosed 37M autistic, with OCD and anxiety. How do I shake this feeling that I am just a POS scůmbağ who should listen to family saying i deserve to be in a madhouse?

Anyone who is middle-aged or older and living in the typical multi generational household, if you have been shouted at almost everyday by your elders for your whole life, as well as getting hit, is it normal if every time you come across them at home or even in public, even decades later, your body does a reflex to block a hit like in karate or kung fu, since you are used to getting hit, or your ears recoil from anticipating getting shouted at?

What do those do when their parents and/or grandparents threaten them physically saying stuff like, 'You better listen to me, or else I will put you in a wheelchair', 'You will be in the ICU if you do not obey me', 'You will end up on the floor if you refuse to listen to me'?

Also what do they do if their elders follow through and attack the person, whether they all live in their home third-world country where this is de facto legal since almost everyone does it, or lives in a Western country, but in a city full of their own diaspora?

I read a few threads here whose parents and grandparents hold their passports and other documents needed for travel so that they not only have no access to these documents, but if they left home, they cannot fly anywhere or go anywhere without ID. What do those pieple do without these documents in their possession?

My extreme heat intolerance is slowly getting worse. I used to say that I could not bear any temperatures over 10 C (50 F). Now I would say that 0 C (32 F) is the max temp ideal for me. Truly ideal would probably be nothing above -5 C (24 F).

Now imagine how screwed I am given that I am a San Francisco, USA native and for now live here. Next year I will leave the USA for good and move to Europe to study and live. But this year is going to be tough weatherwise.

I lived a few years in central Wisconsin for a few years during the pandemic, and I found that overall the weather in winter was better, but it was too hot and lacked the snow I wanted. I love frostbite temperatures like the -40 C I had in Québec 2 decades ago. I love blizzards that places like Hokkaidō and upstate New York get, like 1 m of snow in an hour. Love it.

But it seems like my body is suffering more and more. My heart rate spikes in heat now, and it feels like I lost 50 IQ points when it gets above 20 C (68 F). I swear profusely and can barely understand what others are saying if they are talking to me. It feels like I am swimming in a soup of nasty sweat, stewing in my own juices, cooking myself alive. It is like being drunk without having drunken anything. If the temperatures dropped to 0 C, it feels like I got my brain working back again.

Today was 20 C, and tomorrow will be 25 C. I dread this. Yesterday was a fun day at the zoo if not for the fact that it was bloody scorching hot. The sunshine was burning hot, and although everyone calls me a baby and such, I felt my heart rate spike to 140+ from the sunshine. I absolutely hate people who tell me to enjoy the sunshine and hot weather, which is basically almost every single person I know. I HATE people in this city.

Should I wear ice packs in public to make my body less overheated? For example, an ice eyemask on my forehead and ice packs round my neck and in my inner jacket pockets so my torso can cool down?

My last serious OTB classical tournament was in 2008, so getting back into serious competition after almost two decades is quite shocking. I remember that back in 2008, I barely even used my mobile phone and still had dialup Internet. Youtube still had content like gruesome unedited war footage.

What do those over 2200 FIDE, especially titled players like IMs and GMs, think of streamers livestreaming on YouTube? Would a ban on livestreaming be welcome, or would it be seen as uptight? I seldom see anyone over 2400 FIDE livestreaming their OTB classical games every round in their tournaments.

37M, diagnosed with autism, OCD, anxiety disorders

All of my posts get downvoted to hell. I think about how others must hate me and whatever I think, which I already have enough evidence of in real life when people yell at me, call me names and say I am like this or like that. Sometimes leads to s00ıcıðe ideation.

Is the best answer to just stop using this site to stop counting all of the downvotes i keep getting?