u/StoryWriter31

I was wondering, did any of you try the trauma healing/letting emotions in approach to try to get the nervous system out of the sympathic state? If so, how and did it help?

In season 4 Hyacinth lays it out: there are so many fathers - and/or husbands - that died! Edmund Bridgerton, lord Featherington, Kate's father, Sophie's father, Lord Danbury, and of course John Stirling... I understand why Hyacinth becomes sceptical about the whole marriage thing!

I've been chronically ill with a dysregulated nervous system for 3 years now, and my partner of 9 years left me 6 months ago. And now I'm severely depressed. I feel life is so pointless, waking up with so much every day and going to bed with agony and this day after day.

I keep blaming myself for him leaving and I also became completely codependent on him for my sense of safety, and I don't know how to deal with that. My mind keeps replaying all the good moments and it hurts like hell that it is gone. I also have intimacy issues and trauma, so even thinking about starting over with someone new makes me literally mortified.

My ex leaving me was more to me than just a divorce (we weren't married but we did live together and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together). A year before he left, he already expressed having serious doubts, and it made me spiral like hell. I tried everything in my power to become less dependent on him for my sense of safety, but nothing worked because I felt SO unsafe.

I've lost my partner, the future I imagined, my health, my job, my life all at once. I'm almost 30 and my life feels completely over. I cannot believe that I really lost it all, that I have to start over in every aspect of my life, while still being chronically ill.

Sometimes life feels pointless. Sometimes the pain is so big that I don't want to live anymore. My self-worth is literally gone and it feels like I inflicted all this shit on myself by scaring my partner away and by not being good enough. I'm not strong, I am not resilient, I'm simply terrified and don't want life as it is anymore. I don't want to go through the trauma of intimacy again.

I do have therapy. I do everything by the book. I tell my therapists. I have a psychiatrist. I tell my parents how unwell I'm doing. I try to see people. I take care of my cat. But I don't know how to hold on when there's nothing to hold on to. In the end, my relationship was all I had left. Now, there's just nothing anymore to keep on going for. I don't know how to live for myself.

I've been chronically ill with a dysregulated nervous system for 3 years now, and my partner of 9 years left me 6 months ago. And now I'm severely depressed. I feel life is so pointless, waking up with so much every day and going to bed with agony and this day after day.

I keep blaming myself for him leaving and I also became completely codependent on him for my sense of safety, and I don't know how to deal with that. My mind keeps replaying all the good moments and it hurts like hell that it is gone. I also have intimacy issues and trauma, so even thinking about starting over with someone new makes me literally mortified.

My ex leaving me was more to me than just a divorce (we weren't married but we did live together and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together). A year before he left, he already expressed having serious doubts, and it made me spiral like hell. I tried everything in my power to become less dependent on him for my sense of safety, but nothing worked because I felt SO unsafe.

I've lost my partner, the future I imagined, my health, my job, my life all at once. I'm almost 30 and my life feels completely over. I cannot believe that I really lost it all, that I have to start over in every aspect of my life, while still being chronically ill.

Sometimes life feels pointless. Sometimes the pain is so big that I don't want to live anymore. My self-worth is literally gone and it feels like I inflicted all this shit on myself by scaring my partner away and by not being good enough. I'm not strong, I am not resilient, I'm simply terrified and don't want life as it is anymore. I don't want to go through the trauma of intimacy again.

I do have therapy. I do everything by the book. I tell my therapists. I have a psychiatrist. I tell my parents how unwell I'm doing. I try to see people. I take care of my cat. But I don't know how to hold on when there's nothing to hold on to. In the end, my relationship was all I had left. Now, there's just nothing anymore to keep on going for. I don't know how to live for myself.

Like, when I start singing she immediately gets up to headbutt my face. It's really cute but also very peculiar. I'm no good singer whatsoever, even though and can stay on pitch most of the time. But she does it every single time.

My partner and I were together for 9 years. After 6.5 years I fell ill with long covid/burnout and things spiralled. He was avoidant in some ways, I was anxious, and due to me being unable to see other people because of my illness ánd him telling my he had serious doubts about our future, I became completely codependent (even when I really tried not to, but my nervous system didn't let me).

Six months ago he left me and I'm NOT doing well - that's an understatement. I know everything about the nervous system and understand fully what's happening now, but that doesn't make it any less awful. I feel not only constant pain, but so freakin' much fear, I am sincerely terrified about being alone, about him possibly moving on, about us not being a couple anymore. It's like there is this big, enormous error - life just doesn't make any sense and I feel terribly unsafe.

We were each others first relationship. I was 20 when we got together and I've always been very insecure about being attractive and if I would ever find a partner, but right now that fear is bigger than ever. Are there success stories? People who survived this? Because every day is so freakin' hard, even when it's six months ago...

Hi all, are there more people taking agomelatine, and if so, does it help and in what way?

Hi all, are there more people taking agomelatine, and if so, does it help and in what way?

So I bought a cat only a few months after my divorce. My partner never wanted pets, I always wanted a dog, but since I'm chronically ill I'm not able to take care of a dog so I bought the sweetest adult cat Coco.

However, I have a severe depression now. Didn't know that when I bought her, I have her for five months now and 4,5 of them she lived with me at my parents' place. Now she moved with me to my new place.

She is doing great, amazing, after only a week she already feels more and more comfortable in my apartment (she is and always has been an indoor cat). The vet also told me she's at a much better place with me than with her previous owners (they had like 8 cats in a small house).

Still, my depression makes me feel like a terrible owner. I am pretty much unable to feel love right now and only feel anxiety of being not good enough. It's like a dark cloud hangs over all my positive emotions and I cannot reach them. And now I don't know if I should keep her or bring her back to my parents' house, where I know she gets the love she deserves.

There are moments that I feel genuine love for her and I do take care of her - I feed her everyday, I clean the litter box, and it is very clear she feels most comfortable with me. It's just... Life is so freakin' hard right now and I feel so guilty all the time...

Are there more people that have experience with a (temporary) depression and a cat? It's my first cat ever...

Edit: I just want to thank you guys so much for your supportive and kind responses. It made me tear up and I feel relieved.

Hi all, I'm looking for some fellow sufferers. I have been chronically ill for almost 3 years now. It started with burnout, later I also got a long covid diagnose.

My relationship fumble due to my illness. My ex told me he had serious doubts about us after 1.5 years of illness, which led to me being completely hypervigilant and terrified. I'm anxiously attached and my illness made that worse, so it felt like I was not going to survive if he would leave.

In the process I myself. I tried to do stuff for me, because I wanted to do them, with the little energy I had, but was unable because I was so terrified of losing him. He has avoidant tendencies and constantly gave me mixed signals, resulting in a toxic dynamic, even though we both were not bad people.

It was around October that the depression started. I didn't like anything anymore. And at the end of January, he broke up with me. I lost my partner, my future, my house, and my job at the same time, all while already being completely dysregulated, having already lost my social life, playing sports, etc.

It's been five very, very dark months. And I am still struggling a lot. I've started with Olanzapine and started with Agomelatine two weeks ago. Anyone recognize themselves in (part of) my story?

Chronic illness is fucking hard. Depression is so much harder...

Has anyone been left after a long term relationship because of their illness? My 9-year relationship ended about three months ago, after he already expressed doubts a year before, bringing me in hypervigilance for a year. Now I've lost my partner, my future, my home, my yard, my job and my social life due to my dysregulated nervous system. I'm so done with this life and I feel so alone...