u/Street_Twist_2478

Hi all, so I was moving states and my sister had mentioned she would help, she never did. I had came back to my home state to pick up my furniture and my sister said she would come by and help. She never did. I had bought tickets for a concert in February for her birthday and I couldn't attend anymore (new job out of state, she still had tickets that I bought) and she said she would go take the train she missed the train and never made it (I was able to be refunded so thank God). She made plans on her own to come visit me. It was going to be her, her girlfriend and her girlfriend's child on July 4th, (which was already too many people for my one-bedroom apartment but whatever then she made it known to me she couldn't get someone to watch the dog. I knew then she wasn't coming but she called saying her friend may be watching the dog, I just went along with it, today the 3rd she texts me saying, the friend couldn't watch the dog, and she was going to try to come up next weekend her, her girlfriend, her girlfriends kid and the dogs and they would get a hotel, thats a family vacation not visiting your sister in her new place. She also mentioned that she was headed to wet n' wild as we spoke with the girlfriend and the girlfriend's kid. I responded with lets just pause making plans since they have not been going throught it feels pointless. enjoy your trip. Am I the asshole?

I'm looking for a black nail tech who does manicures and pedicures. TIA!

My husband is going to be home soon from deployment, and I want to celebrate him. When he graduated from basic training I flew to Great Lakes and decorated the hotel room with streamers, led candles, blue rose petals, balloons, navy balloons (not just the color but the anchor symbol & stuff) it was so cute.

He has been on 2 detachments; however, this is his first deployment, how can I make his homecoming special? I need fresh, new ideas.

I was thinking about some welcome home gold balloons but what else because I kind of already did the balloons.

What would you have wanted from your spouse? nothing? a day spa pass?

Yeah, just trying to process that, never experienced this before.

I'll keep this brief, my man and I have had ups and downs (no cheating though, like regular ups and downs) but he is on deployment and for the most part I keep my thoughts to myself when I miss him or I'll text him and he'll see it when they turn the wifi on. However sometimes when I am talking to people, I'll naturally mention how I miss him and if I'm talking to my sister, she will say "Well you're in a relationship. I guess." Like don't do that, this shit is hard enough and to have someone point out his every flaw annoys me. Like yes, he fucks up and so do I.

All I ever hear is its not going to work or negativity and its already hard enough.

Then, I was talking to this old high school friend and all he could say was "I know you, you're not good at long distance" but me and my man have been long distance majority of the time. Plus, he (my man) said I was handling his deployment really well.

I talked to my husband, and he said a lot of people do not understand active-duty military relationships.

I don't know y'all deployment is hard enough without hearing all the reasons why my relationship will not make it.

If you're going to tell me to leave save it, that is not an option.

If I misspelled anything sorry, I am multitasking.

I'll keep this brief, my man and I have had ups and downs (no cheating though, like regular ups and downs) but he is on deployment and for the most part I keep my thoughts to myself when I miss him or I'll text him for him and he'll see it when they turn the wifi on. However sometimes when I am talking to people, I'll naturally mention how I miss him and if I'm talking to my sister, she will say "Well you're in a relationship. I guess." Like don't do that, this shit is hard enough and to have someone point out his every flaw annoys me. Like yes he fucks up and so do I.

Then, I was talking to this guy and all he could say was "I know you, you're not good at long distance" but me and my man have been long distance majority of the time. Plus, he (my man) said I was handling his deployment really well.

I talked to my husband, and he said a lot of people do not understand active-duty military relationships.

I don't know y'all deployment is hard enough without hearing all the reasons why my relationship will not make it.

If I misspelled anything sorry, I am multitasking.

My family members are idiots

Short story. My cousin and boyfriend were arguing in my car while I transported them from point A to point B. I’m a therapist so I wanted them to talk. Now mind you being a therapist is A LOT LOT MORE THAN TALKING. My cousins boyfriend walked away saying it was therapeutic while she talked about me behind my back to my sister saying things like “she was listening to him” which is weird because i was either gonna listen to you argue or talk it out. My sister was like oh sometimes when you enjoy your job it can become an occupational hazard. THAT IS NOT WHAT AN OCCUPATIONAL HAZARD IS. I don’t have the heart to tell her how dumb she sounds because she is misusing the word and also trying to make me seem wrong.

My family is overly dumb. I can’t stand when someone is saying something stupid but think they’re correct.

Strip steak roasted potatoes and sautéed green beans for dinner

Short story. My cousin and boyfriend were arguing in my car while I transported them from point A to point B. I’m a therapist so I wanted them to talk. Now mind you being a therapist is A LOT LOT MORE THAN TALKING. My cousins boyfriend walked away saying it was therapeutic while she talked about me behind my back to my sister saying things like “she was listening to him” which is weird because i was either gonna listen to you argue or talk it out. My sister was like oh sometimes when you enjoy your job it can become an occupational hazard. THAT IS NOT WHAT AN OCCUPATIONAL HAZARD IS. I don’t have the heart to tell her how dumb she sounds because she is misusing the word and also trying to make me seem wrong.

My family is overly dumb. I can’t stand when someone is saying something stupid but think they’re correct.

Short story. My cousin and boyfriend were arguing in my car while I transported them from point A to point B. I’m a therapist so I wanted them to talk. Now mind you being a therapist is A LOT LOT MORE THAN TALKING. My cousins boyfriend walked away saying it was therapeutic while she talked about me behind my back to my sister saying things like “she was listening to him” which is weird because i was either gonna listen to you argue or talk it out. My sister was like oh sometimes when you enjoy your job it can become an occupational hazard. THAT IS NOT WHAT AN OCCUPATIONAL HAZARD IS. I don’t have the heart to tell her how dumb she sounds because she is misusing the word and also trying to make me seem wrong.

My family is overly dumb. I can’t stand when someone is saying something stupid but think they’re correct.

Ok, waittttt! Just read me out. My boyfriend went on deployment late March. BEFORE HE LEFT, He went to Atlanta with a group of his male civilian friends (this matters) then he went on a detachment then when he came back he went to the Houston rodeo with male and female civilian friends. When he came back that night since I live near the airport he came by and we basically spent that night together. One of which he slept with welll before we got together so I didn't care. They have a group chat that they are both in, still didn't press him. I had a feeling she went on the Houston rodeo trip and so I asked, he was confused as to how I knew because there were no photos. It wasn't hard to put together honestly; it was a friend trip. That night when I asked I guessss I was more abrasive than I thought because he hung up on me upset and didn't speak to me for 5 days. I thought we would have spent that time together because literally the 6th day he had to be back on base for a 9 month deployment. Me knowing this I was so hurt. He wouldn't call/text me back. He said he pushed me away because of the deployment its easier to deal with me breaking up with him if he puts distance between us. I at the time was like "Ok, he is going on deployment, that's bigger than this." I have since let it go but when he isn't able to talk because of deployment I think about what a waste those 5 days were and how maybe I wouldn't feel so down sometimes if I would've had that time with him. I don't want to break up but I don't know if its normal.