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So I just saw on Instagram that Seaside Market in Cardiff is hosting a singles night on Tuesday. You go grocery shopping and I think they give you a bracelet or something and basically it’s a space for you to chat with people and meet people while you grocery shop. Good idea or kinda cringe? I’m kinda tempted to go even though I live in Oceanside

I find myself adding girls on Instagram that I think are cute but I don’t know. Some might follow me back but most don’t. I’ll usually send a message but it’s rare I get a response. Is it weird to randomly follow these girls? Should I not do it and only add girls I actually meet I no real like? I live in San Diego and there’s so many beautiful women around here that I would love to meet.

So Ive been dating this girl, weve gone on about 4 dates now and i had her over at my place for dinner. She recently asked me how I felt about someone following a lot of men on Instagram. I told her it doesn’t really make me insecure but it can be a bit concerning. I asked the question right Beck to her and she said she would have a problem if a guy followed a bunch of models. I recently went through her instagram following and she does follow a concerning amount of attractive male models who post predominantly shirtless photos, she does seem a little bit boy crazy. She is also very active on Instagram and comments and reposts a lot on videos. This does seem concerning to me but I’m not sure if it should be something as a valid reason to cut things off. I would appreciate advice thanks

So I M29 went on a first date with a girl F28 about a week ago, we met on Hinge things have been going well but not great, we’re both into eachother but not crazy about eachother. Just finished our 3rd date tonight and still no kiss, I tried to initiate and she could tell what I was doing but no engagement on her end, so we went our separate ways for the night. I texted her when she got home just to ask her how she’s feeling about the whole thing and she said she wants things to happen naturally not forced and in a more private setting, not a parking lot. I told her i understand and wasn’t trying to cause pressure.

This just seems concerning to me, I’ve never gone on 3 dates with a girl and not kissed, so I’m wondering if I should just tell her I’m not feeling the connection. What’s your advice?

So I have a second interview for a job in the food court tomorrow, I’ve heard a lot of people say the food court absolutely sucks and some people say it’s not so bad. I was hoping to get a different position at Costco

I’m a dude 29, I was planning on wearing a button up long sleeve dress shirt, dress pants and dress shoes but I’m not sure if that’s too much? Would chinos and a polo be better?

My ex broke up with me 3 weeks ago, she said maybe we can revisit things once a get a job. But I’m not sure that is in my best interest. It’s pretty concerning she discarded the relationship so easily and abruptly. One weekend everything was great, some arguments throughout the week, the next weekend I get dumped after spending 150 on dinner. Even if we were to get back together I have some serious concerns, what’s to stop her from leaving me again when actual real life shit happens, not the dumb superficial shit we were arguing about.

Hi friends, I’m looking to see if anyone knows of any job opportunities in Carlsbad, Oceanside, vista or even Encinitas .I’m a 29M, I am trying to get a job with a local fire department but having a hard time so I just need any job at this point. I would like full time work but also open to part time. I have experience in fire prevention and public safety as well as several restaurant and grocery store customer service jobs. I’ve applied to about 15 jobs the past two weeks but no luck, not even Costco or Trader Joe’s are accepting applications. Let me know if you know of anyone hiring

So I hit my ex up a couple days ago, my folks are gonna be out of town and I wanted to have her over. When I asked she said “just as friends though right”. Typically if a girl tells me this I would say no not as just friends and move on, but she said we can revisit things once I find a job so there it still hope. What should I do? Hang out as just friends, which I would kinda be okay with or hold off until I get a job?

So I texted my ex today, a week after the breakup and I told her I went to therapy and I’ve been reflecting on things. 7 hours later she responds and says she’s too busy tonight and tomorrow but the following day we can talk. So it does feel like she’s not making me a priority but she is open to talk. How should I go about the conversation? I don’t necessarily plan to convince her to get back together, but I want a conversation just understanding things, and I wanna tell her that I do wanna get back together but only if we can genuinely love eachother, none of this arms length bullshit we’ve been doing.

My girlfriend broke up with me earlier this week, and I’m trying to make sense of what happened.

We had been together for six months, she is 30 years old and I’m her first boyfriend. Earlier that day we went out for a nice lunch that I paid for (about $150), and then about an hour after we got back to my house, she broke up with me. She said she didn’t think we were compatible and that we’d been having too many arguments lately. From my perspective, they felt more like productive disagreements than actual fights, but clearly she experienced them differently.

One thing that’s been confusing is that she never told me “I love you” during the relationship of 6 months. Last week she finally said it, but it felt forced, and later she admitted she wasn’t actually ready to say it. She also told me she wasn’t ready to say “I love you” until I got a job, but I feel like even if I had a job that wouldn’t have made a difference.

Similarly, she never wanted me to meet her family. She said I wouldn’t meet them until I had a job, which I can understand to some extent, but part of me wonders if she still wouldn’t have been ready even if I had one.

In the last few weeks, we had a handful of disagreements. For example, we went grocery shopping together, and I insisted on pushing the shopping cart because I was trying to be a gentleman. She kept saying no, and when I tried again later, she got annoyed. Another time I wanted to buy her concert tickets, but she didn’t want me to because I’m currently unemployed, which isn’t a problem to me, money will eventually come. I wondered if there was more to it than just the money, since she generally seemed uncomfortable with me doing things for her and really valued her independence.

She also told me there was one specific moment that made her want to breakup. We had plans to see each other on Sunday, and I later asked if she’d also like to get together on Friday. She said she wanted to read and take a nap instead. That made me feel like I wasn’t much of a priority, so I asked if everything was okay and told her I wasn’t feeling prioritized. She apologized and said, “Sorry, that wasn’t my intention.”

Looking back, I’m wondering if she may have had an avoidant attachment style. I’ve read that people with avoidant tendencies can sometimes become uncomfortable as relationships get more emotionally intimate or when they feel their independence is being threatened. Part of me wonders if asking for more time together or expressing that I didn’t feel prioritized caused her to pull away.

On the other hand, maybe she simply wasn’t as invested in the relationship as I was, and I’m overanalyzing it.

For those of you who have experience with attachment styles or have been in similar situations, does this sound more like avoidant attachment, or does it sound like someone who just wasn’t that into me? I’d really appreciate honest opinions.

So my girlfriend F30 broke up with me M29 two days ago, didn’t even suggest trying to fix the issues. I took her out to a $150 lunch and then one hour later she ruined me. I’ll be honest I was preparing for a potential breakup but not for the reasons she said she wants to breakup. I am currently unemployed which is why I thought she might breakup with me, but it wasn’t. She said she thinks we’re not compatible and have been arguing too much lately. She is 30 and never had a boyfriend and to me they weren’t arguments but just simple disagreements that normal couples have working through a relationship. She complained that I didn’t listen to her when she told me to stop sending spicy messages, didn’t listen to her when she insisted on pushing the shopping cart but I kept trying to. I would try to buy her things or concert tickets and she wouldn’t let me, maybe because I didn’t have a job or maybe because she just didn’t wanna be emotionally vulnerable and let her boyfriend buy her things.

Right now I’m just so confused why she would breakup with me without trying to improve on things. I know she really liked me and she was crying the entire time she broke up with me so surely she cares about me. We were together about 6 months and she was never able to tell me she loves me, I did to her and she said she was getting closer, but needed to see me get a job. But I’m not sure that was actually the reason she was hesitant, now I’m kinda feeling like she just want an emotionally available person.

This breakup has been so painful just because I was blind sighted and not given an option to work on things. And the reasons she gave me for the breakup seem so silly to be valid reasons to actually breakup.

(M29) have been seeing my girlfriend (F30) for about 5 months. Overall we get along well, spend a lot of time together, and things feel good when we’re with each other. She tells me in bed “I can’t get enough of you” became knows I enjoy words of affirmation, and after we hang out she says “my heart is full”. She’s also very inconsistent with her texting and goes hours without texting me or responding to my messages, but says she’s just been busy at work.
That said, she hasn’t said “I love you” yet (even though I have), and she hasn’t introduced me to her family. I’ve brought both topics up lightly, but she’s been somewhat vague or changed the subject.
I’m wondering if this is fairly typical for a 5-month relationship or if it usually means she’s not as serious. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did it turn out? Any advice on how to think about this or what to do next would be really helpful.
Thanks!

I have a couple festivals coming up and I need some outfit recommendations. Down for whatever, the hoochie daddy fits to more vibey, anything really. I tend to look best in black outfits

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 5 months (30F, I’m 29M). I’ve been involved in the rave scene for years and DJ as well. I enjoy everything from house and techno to drum & bass, but this would be my girlfriend’s first Electronic event.

She’s not really into electronic music, but she’s interested in experiencing a festival with me. I’ve been looking at Into the Horizon since it’s a smaller event with a mix of bigger names and local artists.

For those who have attended, what was the overall vibe like? How crowded did it feel, and do you think it’s a good introduction for someone who isn’t already into EDM culture?

I’d love to hear from anyone who has brought a partner or friend who was completely new to festivals and how it went.

I’m appalled at ticket prices being released for festivals next year. EDC is $550 GA, Head Tr!p at the polo grounds is $500 GA for a two day festival, I can’t wait to see how much LIB 2027 will be, Coachella is absolutely overpriced. It’s gotten to the point where attending these events costs an arm and a leg and I might be priced out. What happened to the days of festivals costing $300?

I was so stoked that John and his team were announcing this tour, he’s really been killing it lately and I love his tunes. Only to find out he didn’t book many major cities, none in the Southern California region or San Fran. What are everyone’s thought on the locations or lack there of?

Edit: my bad yall I missed Brooklyn