can you stay friends after romance/sexual relationship

i’m curious on all you aries that can stay friends with someone you’ve been in a relationship or had sex with. when i’ve gotten naked with another person and things get messy and tangled i can’t do it, if there’s nothing left there and nothing holding us together i cannot force myself to be friends. i’ve been broken up with quite a few times and am always told “we can still be friends” but like why? would? i ? want? that? idk if this is cold or unfeeling, i just can’t do all that, if im done and you’re done than what’s the point of pretending we’re friendly??

curious on if that’s an aries trait or if im just a stone cold bitch :)

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u/SuitableStomach391 — 4 days ago
▲ 1.0k r/tarot

asked how many drinks should my friend have tonight

i said add them up 😭😭

deck: a very unofficial adventure time deck by katherine hillier

u/SuitableStomach391 — 11 days ago
▲ 66 r/Tarots

had this gorgeous deck gifted to me

i’m so in love with this deck, she’s beautiful and the art is so unique

this is NOT an ad just sharing how pretty the deck is, im not affiliated with this artist in anyway

u/SuitableStomach391 — 12 days ago
▲ 3 r/tarot

how often will i see my son when i move away

king of coins - i won’t have to worry financially about traveling to see him, outside forces will be helping with my commute to see him
eight of swords (r) - i won’t feel anxiety or guilt about not being with him 24/7, im going to be too busy to focus on the negative and will be getting the most out of our quality time together. he’s going to be safe and cared for by staying put/ i can’t provide that just yet
eight of coins - it’s going to be work getting used to going back and forth so i need to lock in on getting comfortable on planes/trains/ commuting in general
seven of coins - i’ll be making so much personal progress that i need to be patient and steady. focus on the long term goal of becoming financially stable/responsible so i can have him more often and not just weekends and holidays
ace of cups (bottom) my time away from him will be very filled with new opportunities and i shouldn’t lose sight on what’s important. creating a life that he can still be apart of without abandoning my dreams for motherhood

for context: im divorcing my sons father, we’ve agreed that he will stay in the state we live in currently. i’ll be moving to either my home state or a new state completely that’s across the country. im going to be focusing on building a life where i can provide for him without the help of my ex, as well as going back to school.

any help would be great, this reads as really positive but im struggling with the guilt of leaving my baby in order to make something better for us. ive been a stay at home mom to him for the past four years of his life and it would be a major adjustment for the both of us. my son has an amazing support system outside of me, his fathers very attentive and his grandparents are very hands on.

deck: a very unofficial adventure time deck by katherine hillier

u/SuitableStomach391 — 25 days ago

found out my stepdad is with a 27 year old

TW: sexual assault

my stepdad molested me multiple times when i was 16 and despite not remembering i think it may have started when i was much younger. i didn’t cut him off for a very long time because i was naive and thought that i could get over it, him and my mom have stayed together despite her knowing this happened. basically she didn’t believe me and took his side, i moved out at 17 didn’t get back into contact with them until i was 20 ish AND IT WAS ONLY BC MY SIBLINGS MEAN THE WORLD TO ME. if it weren’t for them i would’ve never spoke to my parents again, so anyways, fast forward to now. im 27 years old, my mom and him have finally gotten a divorce. i hear from my youngest sister that he’s living with a 27 year old woman…. i don’t know why i was shocked?? obviously the dude is a pedophile and has always had a thing for younger woman. which is fucking odd because my mom is like 7/8 years older than him. i believe now he is 39 so that’s 12 years between him and his new girlfriend :// so im disgusted, obviously. it feels like if he could’ve he would’ve tried to actually be in a relationship with me if i hadn’t pushed back when he was actively grooming me. and before anyone feels bad for this woman hes with now, she’s been verbally abusing my sisters and overall is just a pick me ass bitch who i feel no sympathy towards. i’ve always had the suspicion that he was trying to replace my mom with me, him being with a woman my age now just verified my assumptions.

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u/SuitableStomach391 — 1 month ago
▲ 641 r/texts

easiest block of my life

started by justifying my abusive childhood?? i brushed it off, like maybe he’s just never experienced something like that. but then the second thing?? yea, bye.

also we were only talking about my childhood cus he kept asking i was in no way trauma dumping on this man.

edit: i meant neurodivergent, to clear up the confusion

u/SuitableStomach391 — 1 month ago
▲ 73 r/DJO+1 crossposts

THERE SHE IS

got my first bit of djo merch today, shipped only yesterday and was on my front door this morning

u/SuitableStomach391 — 1 month ago

keep attracting dom men??

okay. maybe i’m gonna get some steak is so juicy comments for this but, i cannot stop attracting men who want to dominate and control me?? first of all im an aries and come from a long line of men-beating women. it’s not even that i don’t like to be dommed and little but it always comes out right in the beginning of talking to someone?? like same day of meeting their like “obey your master” “be a good girl” blah, like??? uhhhh i’d rather bite every finger off than be like ok daddy tehe. FUCK.NO. i will ruin your life. what is it about needing to control me??

genuinely i don’t even reject this energy, WHEN IVE KNOWN THEM LONG ENOUGH THAT I TRUST THEM. i get the ick so fast once it comes out on day one. i don’t want that energy anywhere near me, it’s performative and frankly majorly lazy. if you can’t flirt just say that, “obey your master” fuck outta here, blocked.

rant over :) chicken caesar salad

u/SuitableStomach391 — 1 month ago

for f

i can’t believe you’re not mine yet, i look over at who i’ve been with and my stomach churns. his nose is all wrong too small not broad and defined like yours. you’ve made me admire features i normally wouldn’t look twice at. i see you in the trees and the clouds, on the streets and in my dreams. i hear you calling so much im constantly looking up hoping ill see your face. i need to kiss those dimples everytime they appear, need to trace the constellations your freckles create. i find myself chasing sleep to see you more, and thats a gamble because you dont always appear. the hole in my chest is vast and leaking, my breath coming short and shallow. i hope you find me one day and stop the bleeding, plug up the hole with your hands and hold me while it gets colder. everything about you is perfect, i love how real you are. everyone that surrounds you is fake and plastic yet you remain yourself. never change babylove, you were made just for me. keep a space for me and i’ll keep a space for you.

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u/SuitableStomach391 — 1 month ago
▲ 290 r/tarot

toddler reading

asked how my son sees me as his mom and got the sweetest spread, balance, fate, harmony and then the literal mommy card at the bottom of the deck. i love when tarot is so literal and it’s nice validation considering little dude threw a tantrum not even 10 minutes ago.

deck: totally unofficial AT deck- katherine hillier

u/SuitableStomach391 — 2 months ago

Free tarot reading

Feeling called to talk to some people and do some readings for someone besides myself and my one friend, lol. keep in mind i’m not experienced with reading for others besides like a few family members and friends, but it’s free so what the hell.
🧿🧿🧿

using an AT deck so if you feel called to that

u/SuitableStomach391 — 2 months ago

does anyone feel like they started way too late?

i’ve always loved singing and music but never really had the discipline to actually learn instruments and write lyrics. i turned 27 this year and seemed to hit a pivotal point of realizing i just needed to start writing shit down. it’s been great, i’ll write out my dreams and then take little bits and put them to a hummed melody, but like fuck what did i take so long for?? frankly pretty annoyed with myself for thinking i needed to be a master at the guitar in order to create something, anyone else have experiences with starting a little later in life ?

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u/SuitableStomach391 — 2 months ago

asked spirit to give me some cards to bring abundance, good luck and creativity into my life

just shuffled randomly and out these bad boys popped, i love tarot. results has me giggling and kicking my feet

i plan to sleep with these under my pillow along with my rose quartz to soften the energy

u/SuitableStomach391 — 2 months ago

Will the songs I’ve written ever amount to anything substantial?

page of swords: it’ll take more planning and patience than what i currently posses
ten of cups (r): it may just bring family conflict or separation from myself?
page of cups (r): i’m still a beginner so this card feels like it’s saying i have an immature mindset and i need to focus on learning proper technique
5 of swords: this one’s the stinker, is it saying im gonna hit a wall and give up before i truly try?
knight of wands: taking action and actually producing a song from top to bottom (i only have lyrics and like musings at the moment) will lead to passion and adventure
queen of wands: the journey should lead to me being more bold and courageous,
(hanged man bottom) let go of ?? this is where i’m stuck, clearly i have to sacrifice soemthing but what, i don’t know. confused in general, the answer feels clear and maybe im too harsh on myself to see what it is.

the adventure time deck by katherine hillier

u/SuitableStomach391 — 2 months ago

Will the songs I’ve written ever amount to anything substantial?

deck is: adventure time by katherine hillier

page of swords: it’ll take more planning and patience than what i currently posses
ten of cups (r): it may just bring family conflict or separation from myself?
page of cups (r): i’m still a beginner so this card feels like it’s saying i have an immature mindset and i need to focus on learning proper technique
5 of swords: this one’s the stinker, is it saying im gonna hit a wall and give up before i truly try?
knight of wands: taking action and actually producing a song from top to bottom (i only have lyrics and like musings at the moment) will lead to passion and adventure
queen of wands: the journey should lead to me being more bold and courageous,
(hanged man bottom) let go of ?? this is where i’m stuck, clearly i have to sacrifice soemthing but what, i don’t know. confused in general, the answer feels clear and maybe im too harsh on myself to see what it is.

hammy is me asking the universe for a crumb of wisdom

u/SuitableStomach391 — 2 months ago