u/The3DBanker

So, I'm thinking about getting the 8-in-1 woodfire outdoor grill but I'm wondering, when winter starts hitting here in the Yukon Territory, will I need to bring it inside? I ask because winters here regularly hit -40 C with the record low being -56.2 C (which is -69.2 in freedom units for those down south).

Okay, so I have a bit of a confession. I’ve started trying my hand at trying to explore songs I want to create. And since they currently exist as vague ideas in my head rather than something concrete, I’ve been using AI a bit to come up with the ideas (not lyrics, mind you, I’ve set the limit that I will not use any AI generated anything in the final product - it will either all be my creation or some other person’s).

However, some pro-AI chud on here claimed that just because I’m using AI as a sounding board for exploring song ideas, I’m no better than the AI « artists » who write a prompt to generate AI slop… and while they were mostly deceptive about a lot of things, I can’t help but shake the doubt that maybe they were right about it being wrong of me to use AI even as a sounding board (likely this wasn’t their point, but it’s not too far off). So I’ve been thinking about dumping it and trying to find another human to collaborate and create with. So, how do I do that?

Trigger warning: Sexual abuse, financial abuse, verbal abuse, gaslighting, DARVO, emotional withholding, medical neglect, ableism.

So, I'm preparing to file my divorce next week on the grounds of spousal cruelty. And, to be honest, I wasn't sure how I could justify this. But, after writing out everything that happened, I wonder how I minimized all this shit. Here's what I wrote (names and addresses anonymized because rule 6). But I was able to reconstruct most of this with my abuse journal (which is why it's really helpful to keep one and add as many details as you can think of, including how you're feeling in that moment, because it does come in handy later... as I'm learning now).

I'm filing in the Yukon Supreme Court (which, believe it or not, is the court of first instance in the Yukon).

Anyway, this is a direct passage from my Form 91A (well, the rough draft I'm working on, I sent it to a lawyer I have a little bit of time with through Victim Services to help me polish it up):

The defendant has treated the plaintiff with such mental and/or physical cruelty that living together is intolerable. The details and effect of this cruelty on the plaintiff are as follows:

(i) Financial abuse and theft. The Plaintiff transferred $2,400 to the Defendant, representing the Plaintiff's Employment Insurance funds, on the basis of the Defendant's representation that the funds would be saved for the purpose of securing shared housing for the parties. The Defendant failed to fulfill this promise. When the Plaintiff raised the matter, the Defendant threatened to spend the funds on himself and to cease paying the Plaintiff's living expenses. The Defendant has retained these funds to this day. The Plaintiff has documentary evidence of these transfers and communications confirming the basis on which the funds were provided to the Defendant.

(ii) Surveillance and harassment on the day of the Plaintiff's departure. On April 2^(nd), 2026, the Plaintiff wrote and left a handwritten letter for the Defendant, dated and signed in her full name, stating that she was leaving the marriage due to his sustained cruelty, abuse, and contempt, and explicitly noting that he had dismissed her attempts to discuss his abusive behaviour as recently as the preceding Sunday. On April 2^(nd), 2026, as the Plaintiff loaded her belongings into an Uber vehicle at the matrimonial home located at $address, the Defendant's sister observed the Plaintiff's departure and immediately contacted the Defendant by telephone. The Defendant began calling the Plaintiff repeatedly through multiple channels — his mobile telephone, Facebook Messenger, and Discord — beginning at approximately 4:24 PM. As the Uber departed, the Defendant's sister pursued the Plaintiff's vehicle in her own car for approximately 21 kilometres, from the matrimonial home to Bonnie Doon Shopping Centre, along the Anthony Henday Drive, a major Edmonton freeway. The Plaintiff photographed the pursuing vehicle from inside the Uber during the pursuit. The Plaintiff contacted 911 at approximately 4:34 PM and remained on the line with emergency services through two separate calls during the pursuit, in a state of severe distress. The Defendant continued attempting to contact the Plaintiff through Discord as late as 5:02 PM, after the Plaintiff had reached the hostel where she was staying. The route and distance of the pursuit are confirmed by mapping records retained by the Plaintiff. RCMP records of the 911 calls exist and are available. Upon reaching the hostel, the Plaintiff received a Discord message from the Defendant characterizing her departure as irrational, framing his abuse as an expression of love, and stating "It's up to you if you want to work things out" — placing responsibility for the marriage's survival on the Plaintiff following months of documented abuse. In her written response, the Plaintiff named specific incidents of abuse including the autistic shutdown, the "not of sound mind" accusation, family triangulation, and the pattern of forced insincere apologies — a contemporaneous written statement of the abuse delivered to and read by the Defendant on the day of the Plaintiff's departure. On April 5^(th), 2026, the Defendant contacted the Plaintiff via Facebook Messenger. When the Plaintiff directly stated that he had admitted to giving fake apologies to end fights, had forced her to give fake apologies to stop emotional withholding, and had refused to acknowledge his abusive behaviour, the Defendant responded with a thumbs up emoji — tacitly confirming these statements without denial. This constitutes a second post-departure acknowledgement of his conduct, consistent with his written admission of February 26^(th), 2026.

(iii) Threats and financial coercion. The Defendant repeatedly threatened to withdraw financial support from the Plaintiff and to remove the Plaintiff from the home. These threats were used as a means of control and intimidation.

(iv) Isolation and control. The Defendant prevented the Plaintiff from maintaining contact with friends and support networks. The Defendant berated the Plaintiff for leaving the home to exercise, further restricting the Plaintiff's freedom of movement and access to support. As late as April 1^(st), 2026 — two days before the Plaintiff's departure — the Defendant's sister actively triangulated conflict between the Defendant and the Plaintiff, mocking the Plaintiff's requests for basic respect to other family members and manipulating the Defendant into confronting the Plaintiff over household matters. The Defendant, rather than resisting this manipulation, allowed himself to be drawn into the conflict and attempted to pull the Plaintiff into an argument instigated entirely by his sister. This pattern of family-enabled abuse characterized the household environment throughout the Plaintiff's residence there.

(v) Destruction of property. On or about August 22^(nd), 2025, the Defendant deliberately slashed the Plaintiff's weighted blanket, a therapeutic item used by the Plaintiff for medical purposes. The Plaintiff has documentary evidence confirming the original purchase price of $391.61. This act constituted both wilful destruction of the Plaintiff's property and an act of intimidation directed at the Plaintiff's health and wellbeing.

(vi) Emotional withholding during periods of vulnerability. On multiple occasions, including while the Plaintiff was immobilized with an air cast following an ankle fracture sustained in September 2025, the Defendant withheld emotional support and engaged in emotionally abusive conduct while the Plaintiff was confined to the bedroom and unable to leave. The Defendant had on a prior occasion demanded that the Plaintiff recite a fake apology as a condition of resuming communication, a tactic the Defendant employed repeatedly to extract compliance during the Plaintiff's periods of greatest vulnerability.

(vii) Verbal and ableist abuse. The Defendant subjected the Plaintiff to sustained verbal abuse, including calling the Plaintiff "retarded" and claiming the Plaintiff was not of "sound mind" when the Plaintiff disagreed with the Defendant. The Defendant also berated the Plaintiff for her inability to find employment in Alberta, despite knowing that the Plaintiff did not regain authorization to work in Canada until September 2025. The Defendant called the Plaintiff a "bad employee" and blamed the Plaintiff for mistreatment by employers.

(viii) Denial of medical support. The Defendant threatened to prevent the Plaintiff from attending a medical appointment at the Acute Medical Sports Injury and Fracture Clinic (then known as “AMSAFE”) at the Northeast Community Health Centre in Edmonton, Alberta following the Plaintiff's ankle fracture. The Defendant also refused to assist the Plaintiff in obtaining a CPAP machine necessary for the Plaintiff's medical treatment, forcing the Plaintiff to obtain the device through Income Support in the Yukon Territory following her departure from the matrimonial home.

(ix) Coercive control of the Plaintiff's return to the Yukon. The Plaintiff had been registered on the Yukon Housing Corporation social housing waitlist since January 2024, at which time the Plaintiff was residing in the Yukon Territory. In early February 2026, the Defendant coerced the Plaintiff into removing her name from that waitlist, thereby preventing the Plaintiff from securing housing in the Yukon Territory and obstructing her ability to return. The Defendant subsequently continued to actively discourage the Plaintiff from returning to the Yukon Territory, including as late as February 25^(th), 2026, despite his awareness of the Plaintiff's intention to do so. The Plaintiff was restored to the Yukon Housing waitlist only after her return to the Yukon Territory, upon providing documentation from a domestic violence shelter confirming that her removal from the list was the result of spousal coercion. This coercion was formally accepted by Yukon Housing Corporation as the basis for reinstatement.

(x) Sexual abuse. The Defendant repeatedly subjected the Plaintiff to unwanted sexual contact without consent. On or about February 8^(th), 2026, while intoxicated, the Defendant groped the Plaintiff's breasts without consent. The Plaintiff documented this incident contemporaneously in her abuse journal, noting explicitly that the contact was unwanted. On or about March 29^(th), 2026, the Defendant subjected the Plaintiff to repeated and aggressive sexual assault, digitally penetrating the Plaintiff anally without consent, without lubrication, and on three separate occasions in a single night, causing the Plaintiff physical injury. The Defendant himself acknowledged that he may have bruised the Plaintiff as a result. The Plaintiff did not verbally object due to fear of escalation, consistent with the pattern of coercive control documented throughout this claim. These acts constitute sexual assault within the meaning of the Criminal Code of Canada, regardless of the parties' marital status.

(xi) Alcohol-fuelled abuse. The Defendant engaged in a sustained pattern of abusive conduct while intoxicated, which was witnessed by members of the Defendant's own family. On or about March 7^(th), 2026, while intoxicated, the Defendant infantilized and berated the Plaintiff, telling her he "shouldn't have to hold her hand like a child." On or about March 15^(th), 2026, while intoxicated, the Defendant verbally abused the Plaintiff, engaged in blame-shifting, and left a lit burner unattended on the stove, creating a safety hazard in the home. The Defendant's abusive conduct was not limited to periods of intoxication — the Defendant was equally abusive when sober, as documented throughout the Plaintiff's contemporaneous abuse journal. On or about February 8^(th), 2026, while sober, the Defendant subjected the Plaintiff to sustained verbal abuse including calling the Plaintiff "fake," a "freeloader," and telling her to "shut the fuck up" and to "grow up." The Defendant threatened emotional withholding if the Plaintiff defended herself against his verbal attacks. The Plaintiff had by this time already contacted a family violence helpline, reflecting the severity and ongoing nature of the abuse.

(xii) Abuse triggering autistic meltdown and psychological harm. On March 29^(th), 2026, the Defendant subjected the Plaintiff to a prolonged episode of verbal and psychological abuse that triggered an autistic meltdown. The Defendant made contradictory and chaotic demands of the Plaintiff regarding a lost item, instructing her to help, then to stop, then to help again without providing any specific direction, before berating her for her efforts. When the Plaintiff sought to de-escalate and requested an apology, the Defendant refused and continued his verbal assault, calling the Plaintiff "selfish," claiming she did "fuck all," and telling her to "grow up." The Defendant acknowledged in a prior conversation that he had given the Plaintiff fake apologies, and had previously demanded a fake apology from the Plaintiff as a condition of ending emotional neglect during the period the Plaintiff was immobilized with an ankle fracture. The Plaintiff documented the physiological impact of this abuse, describing compression in her head, tension in her neck and upper back, and an inability to self-regulate — consistent with an autistic meltdown caused by sustained psychological assault. The Plaintiff sought to recover by isolating under her weighted blanket — the same item the Defendant had deliberately destroyed on or about August 22^(nd), 2025. The Defendant, aware of the Plaintiff's distress, continued his verbal abuse. The Defendant also discovered that the Plaintiff had been recording his abusive conduct and restarted the altercation as a result, demonstrating consciousness of the nature of his behaviour. The Defendant further imposed a restriction requiring the Plaintiff to leave the matrimonial home daily between 7:30 a.m. and 4:30 p.m., ostensibly to search for employment, further isolating the Plaintiff from her home environment and limiting her ability to plan her departure safely.

(xiii) Financial control and surveillance. The Defendant subjected the Plaintiff to financial control and monitoring throughout the marriage. On March 26^(th), 2026, the Defendant sent the Plaintiff a written message at 6:47 a.m. questioning how she had money to go out, demanding an accounting of her spending, and framing the $492 he provided toward household expenses as personal leverage over the Plaintiff's behaviour. This message constitutes documentary evidence of the Defendant's financial control. The Defendant also monitored the Plaintiff's employment search efforts and expressed distrust of them to family members, unaware that the Plaintiff had begun directing her job search toward the Yukon Territory, consistent with her intention to return there. The Defendant further used emotional withholding as punishment, refusing to communicate with the Plaintiff for an entire weekend following this incident. The Defendant subsequently misrepresented his abusive conduct to family members as having been "a polite way" of communicating, demonstrating consciousness of the abusive nature of his behaviour. The day prior, on March 25^(th), 2026, the Defendant sent the Plaintiff a series of messages via Discord questioning why she was going out, monitoring her transit card balance, and threatening to withdraw financial support — solely because the Plaintiff exercised her freedom of movement. The Plaintiff had provided five days advance notice of her plans, significantly more notice than the Defendant provided on occasions when he went out. Documentary evidence of these messages exists. This incident demonstrates a consistent pattern of financial threats used to control the Plaintiff's movements and autonomy.

(xiv) Gaslighting and psychological manipulation. The Defendant engaged in a sustained pattern of gaslighting and psychological manipulation throughout the marriage. On March 24^(th), 2026, the Defendant berated the Plaintiff by telephone for not knowing the specific laboratory tests ordered at his medical appointment, despite the fact that the Defendant himself had told the Plaintiff his doctor believed his condition was fungal in nature rather than the diabetes he feared, giving the Plaintiff no reasonable basis to know what tests would be ordered. When the Plaintiff attempted to explain this, the Defendant accused her of calling him a liar. When the Plaintiff denied this, the Defendant accused her of calling him crazy. The Defendant then gave the Plaintiff the silent treatment as punishment for refusing to accept his version of events. The Defendant also discussed the Plaintiff disparagingly to his sister in the Plaintiff's presence, claiming the Plaintiff was not listening to him. This pattern of gaslighting — making accusations, reframing the Plaintiff's reasonable responses as attacks, and punishing the Plaintiff for defending herself — was consistent throughout the marriage and is documented throughout the Plaintiff's contemporaneous abuse journal.

(xv) Neglect and abuse during illness. On or about March 3^(rd) and 4^(th), 2026, the Plaintiff was ill with gastrointestinal symptoms affecting other members of the household. Unlike other household members, the Plaintiff received no assistance, compassion, or care from the Defendant. When the Plaintiff informed the Defendant she had diarrhea, he told her to "sort it out" herself because she was "a grown ass adult," and made clear he did not "give a shit" about her. Notably, other members of the Defendant's family showed greater concern for the Plaintiff's wellbeing than the Defendant did, offering medication to the Plaintiff while the Defendant remained indifferent. The Defendant called the Plaintiff "disgusting" for being ill, demanded she defrost meat from the garage despite her condition, and refused to prepare food for her unless she delivered what he explicitly described as an apology designed to serve "a point he was trying to make" — a stated admission that his withholding of care was deliberate and punitive. The Plaintiff, due to the Defendant's financial control, lacked the funds to independently obtain medication or food. On the same date, when the Plaintiff attempted to explain her autistic sensory processing to the Defendant, he dismissed her explanation entirely, consistent with his established pattern of ableist contempt for the Plaintiff's neurological differences. The Plaintiff had by this date determined that she needed to leave the matrimonial home, having set a planned departure date of May 5^(th), 2026. The escalating abuse ultimately forced the Plaintiff to flee on April 2^(nd), 2026, a full month earlier than planned.

(xvi) Financial isolation and coercive use of transit access. On March 3^(rd), 2026, the Defendant refused to reload the Plaintiff's transit card as a punitive measure following a dispute, stating in writing that he was "tired of being considerate without any return." By withholding funds necessary for the Plaintiff's access to public transit, the Defendant effectively restricted the Plaintiff's freedom of movement and isolated her from the community. The Defendant subsequently reloaded the card while simultaneously framing the Plaintiff's basic need for mobility as an unreasonable demand, stating "notice the pattern? You get what you want, and I get fucked over." On the same date, the Defendant demanded the Plaintiff describe herself as a "selfish asshole" as a condition of accepting her apology, requiring the Plaintiff to make false and denigrating statements about herself as the price of resolution. The Defendant then announced he was "going dark" — withdrawing emotionally as punishment — consistent with his established pattern of using emotional withholding as a control mechanism. The Plaintiff contemporaneously documented her understanding that the Defendant was exploiting her autism-related insecurity about empathy expression, targeting her neurological differences as a point of vulnerability.

(xvii) Documented ableist abuse — direct evidence. On March 3^(rd), 2026, the Defendant engaged in a sustained exchange in which he explicitly dismissed the Plaintiff's autism diagnosis and associated sensory processing difficulties as a "bullshit excuse" and "horseshit." When the Plaintiff stated directly, "You know for a fact that I have autism, which is correlated with sensory processing issues," the Defendant responded, "So you're incapable of linear thought?" — reducing the Plaintiff's neurological condition to a question of basic cognitive capacity. The Defendant refused to accept the Plaintiff's explanation that sensory processing overwhelm had affected her responses, characterising her neurological reality as a moral failing and demanding she apologise for what he characterised as a deliberate lie. When the Plaintiff maintained that being wrong is not the same as lying, the Defendant dismissed this distinction entirely. This exchange is documented in full in timestamped screenshots and constitutes direct evidence of the Defendant's ableist contempt for the Plaintiff's disability, consistent with the pattern of ableist verbal abuse documented throughout this claim.

(xviii) Written admission of abusive conduct. On February 26^(th), 2026, the Defendant acknowledged in writing that he personally attacks the Plaintiff when upset, stating directly: "I recognize that when I get upset, I personally attack people, including you. I recognize that you feel like you can't talk to me or open up to me when I insult your intelligence or competence," and further stating: "It's wrong for me to attack you personally. I recognize that it hurts you deeply when I do that." These statements constitute a direct, timestamped written admission of the pattern of verbal and psychological abuse described throughout this claim. On the same date, the Defendant falsely accused the Plaintiff of hiding his glasses, despite the Plaintiff having spent approximately one hour assisting in the search for them. The Defendant also minimised the Plaintiff's contributions to the household, comparing her efforts to "picking up one leaf and walking 10 feet." The cumulative psychological impact of this and preceding incidents was severe: the Plaintiff spent the remainder of the day confined to bed, unable to eat or drink, a contemporaneous account of the impact of the Defendant's abuse on her mental and physical health. The Defendant's subsequent attempt at resolution consisted of a backhanded acknowledgment that continued to cast the Plaintiff as responsible for the relationship's difficulties, consistent with the pattern of DARVO — Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender — documented throughout the Plaintiff's contemporaneous abuse journal.

(xix) Emotional manipulation through health and guilt. On or about February 21^(st), 2026, the Defendant, while intoxicated, told the Plaintiff that he would be dead within two to five years and that the Plaintiff would be left a widow. This statement was made in the context of an abusive interaction in which the Defendant was belittling the Plaintiff's contributions to their life together and discounting their relationship. The Defendant used his health concerns as a mechanism of emotional control, creating guilt and obligation in the Plaintiff. On the same date, the Defendant falsely blamed the Plaintiff for his own decision not to attend a concert to which he had been invited, despite Discord messages confirming that the decision was entirely his own and that the Plaintiff had been supportive of him attending. The Plaintiff was aware she could not safely disclose her intention to return to the Yukon Territory, documenting on February 22^(nd), 2026 that she feared the Defendant would "use this fact against me the next time he decides to pop off" — direct contemporaneous evidence of the fear and coercive control that characterised the marriage. The Plaintiff contemporaneously documented the Defendant's pattern of love bombing — returning to affectionate behaviour following abusive episodes — on February 9^(th), 2026, noting that she recognised it as a manipulative cycle and recording that "my eyes are open now. I know that the man who I thought I was marrying was a façade." The Plaintiff further documents that the pattern of abusive conduct predates the marriage itself, with the first documented incident of abuse occurring on September 10^(th), 2023, the parties' third anniversary.

(xx) Threats of violence and physical intimidation. On or about February 19^(th), 2026, the Defendant stated, in the presence of the Plaintiff, that he was "at a breaking point" and that he was afraid he was "going to snap." This statement, made in the context of a pattern of escalating abuse, constituted a veiled threat of physical violence that caused the Plaintiff to fear for her physical safety. The Plaintiff documented this statement contemporaneously in her abuse journal.

(xxi) Documented withholding of food and groceries as punishment. On or about February 8^(th), 2026, the Defendant threatened to withhold groceries from the Plaintiff as a means of coercing her agreement with his narrative. The Defendant subsequently carried out this threat, sending the Plaintiff a written message stating: "Take care of yourself for dinner. I'll be out until I'm done. I'm not getting groceries. Good luck." This message constitutes documentary evidence of the deliberate withholding of food as a punitive measure. On the same date, the Defendant subjected the Plaintiff to sustained verbal abuse by telephone, repeatedly telling her to "shut the fuck up," calling her "fake" and a "freeloader," threatening emotional withholding if she defended herself against his attacks, and threatening not to return home unless she agreed with his version of events. The Defendant admitted to calling the Plaintiff "incompetent" to other people and accused her of "acting stupid" when her honest answers contradicted his narrative. The Defendant also employed what the Plaintiff contemporaneously identified as a Gish gallop — a rhetorical technique involving the rapid deployment of multiple false claims to make systematic rebuttal impossible — as a means of overwhelming and silencing the Plaintiff during telephone calls.

(xxii) Unilateral financial decisions and extended food withholding. On or about February 7^(th,) 2026, the Defendant sent the Plaintiff a written message stating: "Figure out your own lunch and dinner and I'll do the same. I'll talk to you on Monday" — a third documented instance of withholding food and communication as punishment, establishing this as a deliberate recurring pattern of financial and emotional abuse. On the same date, the Defendant subjected the Plaintiff to one and a half days of silent treatment following a telephone call with a family member, during which he repeated his family's ableist insults directed at the Plaintiff, including the slur "retarded," rather than defending the Plaintiff against them. The Defendant also dismissed the parties' wedding as existing solely for the Plaintiff's benefit, expressing contempt for the marriage itself. Separately, the Defendant had previously committed $1,000 of the parties' shared savings to his sister's veterinary expenses without consulting the Plaintiff, a unilateral financial decision that further demonstrates his pattern of financial control and disregard for the Plaintiff's equal standing in the marriage.

(xxiii) Abuse documented in official correspondence to the Government of Canada. On August 11^(th), 2025, the Plaintiff sent a written communication to Immigration, Refugees and Citizenship Canada's family violence email address, documenting ongoing abuse by the Defendant while her permanent residence application was in process. In that correspondence, the Plaintiff documented two specific incidents. First, on July 28^(th), 2025, the Defendant subjected the Plaintiff to sustained verbal abuse in two separate parking lots, bullying her for not wishing to socialize with his family, dismissing her legitimate concerns as "overreacting" and "unwarranted," and causing the Plaintiff emotional breakdowns on both occasions. Second, on August 10^(th), 2025, the Defendant subjected the Plaintiff to a paranoid verbal assault, accusing her of being "dishonest" and deliberately trying to "annoy" him because of her echolalia — a neurological characteristic associated with autism — and claiming she "always thought she was right" when she attempted to explain that echolalia is involuntary. The Plaintiff noted in this correspondence that surveillance cameras installed in the home prevented her from safely telephoning for help, documenting the cameras as an instrument of control. This correspondence constitutes official, timestamped documentation of abuse provided to a Canadian government body, establishing that the Plaintiff sought help from government authorities as early as August 2025.

(xxiv) Written demand for control over medical decisions and coerced scripted apology. In October 2025, while the Plaintiff was recovering from an ankle fracture and dependent on crutches, the Defendant subjected her to a sustained two-day campaign of abuse that culminated in a written demand for control over her medical decisions. On October 14^(th), 2025, the Defendant verbally abused the Plaintiff by telephone and in person, calling her "retarded," comparing her difficulty using crutches to his own alcohol abuse, ignoring her arm pain caused by crutch use, and threatening to deny her transportation to her medical appointment at the fracture clinic and to withhold food and assistance. When the Plaintiff's crutch slipped and she fell on her injured foot in the Defendant's presence, he said nothing and provided no assistance. The Defendant then resumed emotional withholding for the remainder of the evening. On October 15^(th), 2025, the Defendant continued his campaign of withholding, made a further abusive telephone call lasting seventeen minutes demanding a more grovelling apology and threatening continued emotional isolation and denial of medical transportation — the final six minutes and forty-eight seconds of which the Plaintiff recorded — and told the Plaintiff to "stop crying" because she was "not two years old" after instigating a fight that reduced her to tears. The Defendant sent a written message partially reneging on his threat to deny her medical transportation, while simultaneously stating "my last comment still stands." On October 16^(th), 2025, the Defendant formalized these demands in a written document — which he titled "DV.pdf" — requiring the Plaintiff to recite a word-for-word scripted apology he had authored, never to remove her medical boot except in his presence and with his permission, and never to use her injured leg without his authorization. The Defendant stated these were non-negotiable terms and that all communication would cease until they were met. The Plaintiff, immobilized with a fractured ankle and facing continued withholding of food, communication, and medical transportation, complied. This sequence of events — sustained abuse, formalized written demands, and compliance obtained through medical and emotional coercion — constitutes one of the most serious documented episodes of coercive control in this claim.

(xxv) Escalating abuse forcing early departure. On March 27^(th), 2026, the Defendant sent the Plaintiff a written message at 6:47 a.m. calling her "an ungrateful person" who was "incapable or unwilling to cook," accusing her of "spending money you didn't earn and don't have," and framing her presence in the marriage as inequitable — direct documentary evidence of contempt and financial shaming. The Defendant also stated "unless the first words out of your mouth is an apology, don't bother messaging me," a further documented instance of communication withholding with an explicit compliance condition. The Defendant also told the Plaintiff that her attempts to de-escalate the situation through calm communication were "saccharine" and "hollow," and sarcastically summarized her position as "I can't answer your questions, and I'm going to continue my award-winning strategy of not communicating when that's exactly what you want" — dismissing her attempts at de-escalation as bad faith. The cumulative effect of this and preceding abuse was that the Plaintiff, who had planned to leave on approximately May 5^(th), 2026, then revised her departure to approximately April 3^(rd), 2026 following the abuse of March 29^(th), 2026, ultimately fled the matrimonial home on April 2^(nd), 2026 — a full month earlier than originally planned. The Plaintiff's contemporaneous journal records explicitly that the Defendant's escalating abusive behaviour directly caused this acceleration of her departure timeline. The day before the Plaintiff's departure, on March 28^(th), 2026, the Defendant attempted surface reconciliation without acknowledging or apologizing for any of his prior abusive conduct, and continued to misrepresent the circumstances of the Megadeth concert incident from February 21^(st), 2026 — demonstrating that no genuine change in his behaviour was forthcoming.

So, I grabbed my CPAP on Monday and since I started therapy, I noticed a weird trend. Specifically, I wind up waking up at 2-3am every day needing to either use the bathroom, adjust my mask fit, or both. Not sure why but this can't be great for my health. I do wind up going back to sleep...

I am able to get around 8 hours of therapy use every night, and roughly 7-8 hours of sleep according to my Apple Watch.

Any idea for why this is? Could I mitigate this by checking my fit before I go to sleep?

For details, I'm using a ResMed AirSense 11 APAP and a ResMed N20 nasal mask.

How does one do resh in the Yukon during the summer, when the sun does not set?

However, I left him just under a month ago and here was what I was able to achieve:

Four follow ups from employers, one scheduled interview next week, one interview a couple weeks ago (it didn’t pan out, but not for lack of trying)

One job offer to run the census.

Signed a lease with Yukon Housing Corporation for my own place

Fought a battle with Income Support and won.

Arguably much more than I achieved in the 9 months I lived with him. And my attention has been divided so I’d say this is even better than when I was laser focused on job searching.

I think back to last year, when my husband was most able to hurt me and I remember when he engaged in emotional withholding when I fractured my ankle and was in the air cast. He would only speak to me to say some of the most vile, ugly things to me.

But, in the week before I left? The hope was dead but the most he could do was send me into autistic meltdown. Even when I was rocking under my weighted blanket, headphones on both for sensory reasons and to try to drown out as much of his invective as possible, I hated him even knowing I was just a few days away from being free of him. I long since knew at that point that he wasn't going to change. Hell, even a couple of days prior I was internally debating whether I should hold off on fleeing until May or leave the following Friday (which turned out to be Good Friday). But I never doubted the need to leave.