u/ThePerseverer01

It could be anything that you know, experience or feel at some point in your life.

Hello and good day to you. I hope we can be friends. I rarely go here to post and look for a friend but I would love to have at least a new friend in my life. I hope you feel the same thing, too. It has been a while since I last posted here.

Here are some of the many things I have in my personality which I hope you find interesting in befriending me: introvert, shy and sickly, college grad (with Latin honors), reading books, watching films, saving money for rainy days, listening to music, someone who plays games (stardew valley, arknights), listener more than a yapper, following current events (as much as I can) but more on international rather than local.

I hope we can be friends. We can talk on either Discord or Telegram but feel free to send a message here on Reddit. I hope you have a good day, stranger. Thank you.

Kahit anong genre ng book, pwede. Locally authored and internationally authored books. Looking for book recommendations na rin to read.

Kahit anong genre, pwede. Local and international films. Looking for film recommendations na rin to watch.

Hello. I am currently in my early 20s. I resigned from my job (customer service and night shift) due to health and personal reasons. I already thought of shifting to freelance-based work so that I can be able to adjust to my current circumstances as a part of building my career path while I improve the parts of myself I am weak or not good at.

However, I would like to ask how difficult it is to do freelance work, specifically anything related to writing activities (although I will also try to expand to other areas not necessarily related to writing such as social media management) despite the influence of AI chatbots (even my previous company recommends using AI tools to generate email messages to customers for their queries) and other problems such as its competitive nature? Any decent advice will be greatly appreciated. I will need money for my health and personal needs as the primary reason.

Thank you and have a good day.

Hello. I am currently in my early 20s. I resigned from my job (customer service and night shift) due to health and personal reasons. I already thought of shifting to freelance-based work so that I can be able to adjust to my current circumstances as a part of building my career path while I improve the parts of myself I am weak or not good at.

However, I would like to ask how difficult it is to do freelance work, specifically anything related to writing activities (although I will also try to expand to other areas not necessarily related to writing such as social media management) despite the influence of AI chatbots (even my previous company recommends using AI tools to generate email messages to customers for their queries) and other problems such as its competitive nature? Any decent advice will be greatly appreciated. I will need money for my health and personal needs as the primary reason.

Thank you and have a good day.

I feel troubled lately with all the problems that I have after resigning from my job due to health and personal reasons. Since my family is aware that I have psychological problems, because I did a consultation last year, my mom did the initiative to find a psychologist thanks to her connections and fortunately she found one for me who happened to be one of her churchmates. She said to me that the psychologist she knew has a doctorate degree and that the service is one call away.

Unfortunately, I feel hesitated to consult to a psychologist not because I don't feel like I am inclined to share my story and understand myself properly, but because there is always a push-pull dynamic that is happening to me (sometimes I get interested, sometimes I don't, and it pains me because they frequently and simultaneously happen) and that I was too shy to disclose things to anyone. I wish I can help myself and I have been trying my best to do it every single day.

Hello. 23M. First time ko lang mag-post dito. Panganay ako sa amin na magkapatid. Pero marami akong mga problema na hindi ko nasasabi kahit kanino. Wala rin ako makausap na kahit sino at naiiyak na lang minsan. Hindi naman ako ganito dati, pero nagkapatong-patong na mga problema ko. Okay naman ang buhay ko kasama ng pamilya, pero ayoko na rin dumagdag pa sa maraming mga problema na pinagdaraanan ng mga magulang ko.

Nag-resign ako sa night shift work dahil sa health and personal reason. Apektado ang physical and mental health ko. Nagkaroon ako ng mga sakit. Kakagaling ko rin sa isang failed relationship. Nag-ooverthink. Ilang beses na-scam. Sirang-sira na rin ang sleep cycle ko. Pagod na rin maging eager to communicate sa financial matters ng ibang tao. Naging distant na rin yung ilan sa mga relatives ko. Nakakalimutan ko na rin sarili ko. Tumatanda na rin ang mga magulang ko at susunod, ako na ang tatayong pundasyon ng pamilya. Patong patong na ang mga problema ko pero ayokong sumuko dahil may mga pangarap din ako. Sadyang nahihirapan na ako.

Wala akong makausap na kahit sino. Pagod na ako at parati na lang nalulungkot.

Hello. This is my first time in this subreddit. I hope I can find a meaningful connection here. Someone gave me a good, honest advice to try socializing with other people so I can live a little and know more about others. Here are some things about me which I hope you would find interesting, aside from me being single:

• 23 years old
• 5'4½" (if height matters to you)
• Near Metro Manila (Region 3)
• INFP (if you are interested in my personality type)
• Resting but will plan to go for another job soon
• Earned a bachelor's degree related to linguistics
• Interested in various hobbies and interests (current events, books, music, film/TV, etc.)
• Mainly a listener (if you are interested in my communication style)
• Open for exchanging socials as I am not too active on Reddit (only on Telegram and Discord for now).

Feel free to drop a message on Reddit. I am more interested in getting to know each other first before elevating the connection into something else. Thank you and have a good day.

I don't know how to say this without it sounding like a mess, but I need to let it out. I'm sorry if this is a long read (there's a tl;dr for your convenience at the end of this post). I'm a 23-year-old guy, and I've never been in a relationship. Not even close, really. I've had crushes, had dates. I've tried to connect, but it's never gone anywhere. And it's starting to hurt in a way I can't keep quiet about.

On paper, I'm doing fine. I graduated consistently with top honors since I was a kid. I resigned from my first job due to health and personal reasons. I'm a reader, a thinker, a moviegoer, an inherently curious lad and someone who cares deeply about becoming a better person. My friends tell me I'm kind, loyal, and intelligent. I don't say that to brag. Rather, I'm honestly just trying to understand why none of that seems to matter when it comes to being seen as someone worth loving.

I'm not a shut-in. I can hold conversations. I have close friends who I trust. I am shy and introverted, and I already embraced it as part of my personality. But whenever I've put myself out there romantically, it's either been rejection for most of the time or just... nothing significant. No spark nor interest. It's like I'm standing behind a glass wall while everyone else figures out something I cannot fully understand. Had been to dates and nothing seems working.

I've done the self-improvement things. I'm still doing it, even now. I'm working on my physical and mental health, my career, my mind. I'm building a version of myself that I hope will one day be worthy of the life I want. I have been career-oriented and family-supported. I have been hurt many times, and most of the times I carry this hurt alone, but I am still here doing the work. But lately, the loneliness has gotten heavier, and it affects me. I want someone to hold, then sometimes a part of me inside my head while I am doing the work to improve rants about wanting someone to choose me, not because I check boxes, but because they see me and think, "That's my person."

I'm sick of the same advice. "Just wait, the right one will come." I've been waiting for so long, man. "Focus on yourself." That's all I've ever done, and the silence on the other side is deafening. "Be confident." Confidence based on what? I have no evidence that anyone could want me in that way.

The hardest part is the feeling that maybe I'm just... too much and not enough at the same time. Too intense. Too profound in my own head. Too serious. Yet somehow not exciting enough, not easy enough, not whatever it is that makes someone look at another person and feel drawn to them. I'm terrified that I'm fundamentally unlovable here, that all my good qualities just add up to a good friend, but never a lover.

I'm not writing this because I want pity nor receive validation. I'm writing it because I need to hear from people who have been here in my situation. Who have been the "good on paper" person that nobody wanted. Who may have survived this gap between being a decent human being and actually being wanted by someone. Who understood what it was like to feel invisible while standing right in front of the world. Who ended up having a partner or living to the best of their terms despite having qualities which might seem a personal disadvantage. If you can give some advice, that would be great. If not, that would be great, too.

If you made it this far, thank you for reading this which I have to release from my chest. I'm just tired of carrying this alone.

tl;dr: I'm a 23-year-old guy who's never been in a relationship despite being educated, introspective, and told I'm a good person. I've done the self-improvement, I've tried to connect, but I remain romantically invisible and the loneliness is becoming unbearable. I'm exhausted by empty platitudes like "just wait" or "focus on yourself." I need to hear from people who've survived this gap between being good on paper and actually being wanted... or just to know I'm not completely broken for feeling this way. I'm tired of carrying this alone.

Hello. I am a young adult here and I would like to join any support groups you have, preferably on Discord (I don't know what kind of flair I should tag so I chose story/venting flair instead).

Reason why was that I would love to seek any support groups as recommended by a psychologist I consulted some time ago, for the suggestion of trying to meet new people. I was lucky that my psychologist who happened to be a motivational coach was very considerate about me. They were my last client for the day and instead of me paying extra money for a more-than-an-hour consultation, my psychologist set that aside and accepted the fee that was supposed to be for a 20-minute mental health check only, and our consultation lasted for almost 2 hours.

Hello po. Plano kong mag-resign from my first company because of health reasons. Sakitin ako at nakuha ko lahat ng sakit ko sa first company ko. To be clear, I am completely aware of the risks and consequences on what I applied for. Paulit-ulit bumabalik sa clinic. I deleted my earlier post because it was too long.

Last time na nagpa-check up ako sa clinic, binigyan ako ng diagnosis ng doctor na related sa sleep disorders. As of today hindi pa ako nakakapasok sa work after many days.

Because of this, I have to consult sa isang mental health professional, follow lab tests and go to an ENT doctor if possible (separate ito sa iba ko pang illnesses) so that a doctor will give me a more specific diagnosis (oversleeping for days + exhaustion to the point na sinabi ko sa doctor na parang nag-shut down katawan ko figuratively last April at sirang-sira na ang sleep cycle ko).

Sana matulungan niyo po ako sa situation ko, specifically on how to resign properly. Aware ako na may rendering period for both immediate and non-immediate resignations at binasa ko naman ang contract ng company, pero plano ko na talaga mag-exit for good without rendering dahil hindi na kaya ng health ko to keep up.

Thank you po.