u/TheoryCharming261

I’m not looking for a rushed arrangement. If I were to pursue something like this, I would want a long period of getting to know each other, discussing expectations honestly, and making sure we are genuinely compatible as friends and partners in this type of arrangement.

Some things that are important to me:

• I do not want children.
• Education and career are very important to me.
• Mutual respect, trust, and honesty.
• Personal freedom and independence for both people.
• No expectation of a traditional romantic relationship.
• I am comfortable with both people having their own personal lives and relationships outside the marriage, provided everything is discussed openly and respectfully.
• Discretion and privacy are extremely important.
• I would be especially interested in connecting with someone living outside my country or someone who hopes to build a life abroad in the future.

I am specifically seeking a Muslim man who is genuinely interested in a lavender marriage and has thoughtfully considered the responsibilities and challenges involved. Preference would be given to a Hyderabadi Muslim man who is settled abroad or plans to build a life overseas in the future.

I’m not looking for a quick solution. I’m hoping to connect with someone who has genuinely thought through the realities, responsibilities, and challenges of a lavender marriage.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out and tell me a little about yourself, your situation, and what you’re looking for.

I’m not looking for a rushed arrangement. If I were to pursue something like this, I would want a long period of getting to know each other, discussing expectations honestly, and making sure we are genuinely compatible as friends and partners in this type of arrangement.

Some things that are important to me:

• I do not want children.
• Education and career are very important to me.
• Mutual respect, trust, and honesty.
• Personal freedom and independence for both people.
• No expectation of a traditional romantic relationship.
• I am comfortable with both people having their own personal lives and relationships outside the marriage, provided everything is discussed openly and respectfully.
• Discretion and privacy are extremely important.
• I would be especially interested in connecting with someone living outside my country or someone who hopes to build a life abroad in the future.

I am specifically seeking a Muslim man who is genuinely interested in a lavender marriage and has thoughtfully considered the responsibilities and challenges involved. Preference would be given to a Hyderabadi Muslim man who is settled abroad or plans to build a life overseas in the future.

I’m not looking for a quick solution. I’m hoping to connect with someone who has genuinely thought through the realities, responsibilities, and challenges of a lavender marriage.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out and tell me a little about yourself, your situation, and what you’re looking for.

I’m not looking for a rushed arrangement. If I were to pursue something like this, I would want a long period of getting to know each other, discussing expectations honestly, and making sure we are genuinely compatible as friends and partners in this type of arrangement.

Some things that are important to me:

• I do not want children.
• Education and career are very important to me.
• Mutual respect, trust, and honesty.
• Personal freedom and independence for both people.
• No expectation of a traditional romantic relationship.
• I am comfortable with both people having their own personal lives and relationships outside the marriage, provided everything is discussed openly and respectfully.
• Discretion and privacy are extremely important.
• I would be especially interested in connecting with someone living outside my country or someone who hopes to build a life abroad in the future.

I am specifically seeking a Muslim man who is genuinely interested in a lavender marriage and has thoughtfully considered the responsibilities and challenges involved. Preference would be given to a Hyderabadi Muslim man who is settled abroad or plans to build a life overseas in the future.

I’m not looking for a quick solution. I’m hoping to connect with someone who has genuinely thought through the realities, responsibilities, and challenges of a lavender marriage.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out and tell me a little about yourself, your situation, and what you’re looking for.

I’m not looking for a rushed arrangement. If I were to pursue something like this, I would want a long period of getting to know each other, discussing expectations honestly, and making sure we are genuinely compatible as friends and partners in this type of arrangement.

Some things that are important to me:

• I do not want children.
• Education and career are very important to me.
• Mutual respect, trust, and honesty.
• Personal freedom and independence for both people.
• No expectation of a traditional romantic relationship.
• I am comfortable with both people having their own personal lives and relationships outside the marriage, provided everything is discussed openly and respectfully.
• Discretion and privacy are extremely important.
• I would be especially interested in connecting with someone living outside my country or someone who hopes to build a life abroad in the future.

I am specifically seeking a Muslim man who is genuinely interested in a lavender marriage and has thoughtfully considered the responsibilities and challenges involved. Preference would be given to a Hyderabadi Muslim man who is settled abroad or plans to build a life overseas in the future.

I’m not looking for a quick solution. I’m hoping to connect with someone who has genuinely thought through the realities, responsibilities, and challenges of a lavender marriage.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out and tell me a little about yourself, your situation, and what you’re looking for.

I don’t even know why I’m posting this. I think I’m just exhausted and I need somewhere to put all of this because I feel like I’m drowning.

I’m a South Asian bisexual Muslim woman in my 20s and I genuinely feel so stuck in life.

Ever since I was younger, I had all these dreams. I wanted to study abroad, become independent, make my own decisions, build a life that actually felt like mine. But I was never even given the opportunity to try. My parents decided against it before I could even have a say.

Ever since I moved to South Asia for college, things have gotten progressively worse. My parents became so much more controlling. At one point they demanded access to my phone and wanted to check it. I had to fight with them for weeks because I was literally an adult and they still didn’t think I deserved privacy. Then a year later I found out they had put a tracker on my car without even telling me. Every time I went somewhere they didn’t know about, I’d get interrogated for hours.

The thing is, I already felt trapped, but at least two years ago something good finally happened. I met my girlfriend.

She’s honestly one of the kindest people I’ve ever met. She has been there through every family fight, every panic attack, every breakdown. When things at home got unbearable, she was the one person who made me feel safe and understood.

And now I feel like that’s being ripped away from me too.

A few months ago my parents literally hired some random guy to follow me around. I wish I was exaggerating. He ended up telling them I had met up with a guy, which wasn’t even true, and my parents completely lost it. They humiliated me in public, in the middle of the street, in front of my friends. I don’t think I’ve ever felt so ashamed and powerless in my life.

Then, somehow, things got even worse.

Apparently someone from my college complained to my mother that my girlfriend and I were “acting like lesbians.”

I still can’t get over that part.

Why are you watching us closely enough to come to that conclusion? Why are you reporting it to my mother? Why is any of this your business?

That one complaint completely blew up my life. My parents threatened me. They threatened her. They told me not to see her again. I became terrified that they would do something to her because of me.

They forced me to destroy everything she ever gave me. Every letter. Every gift. Every little thing I had saved because it meant something to me. I had to sit there and tear things up and burn them while they watched.

I still cry when I think about it.

And now the marriage talks have become nonstop.

They’ve been talking about marrying me off ever since I turned 18, but lately it’s become so much more intense. Every conversation somehow comes back to marriage. Every week there’s a new lecture about how I’m getting older and how I need to settle down. I’ve told them over and over that I don’t want to get married, but it feels like nobody cares what I want.

I feel like my life is happening to me instead of being lived by me.

The worst part is that I don’t even know what to do anymore. I’ve become so anxious that I can barely function some days. I’m constantly scared, constantly stressed, constantly waiting for the next thing to happen.

Out of complete desperation, I even came to Reddit looking into lavender marriages because I genuinely feel like I’m running out of options. That isn’t really going anywhere either.

I just feel trapped.

I love my girlfriend. I don’t want to lose her. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life pretending to be someone I’m not. But I also feel completely powerless against my family and the expectations they have for me.

I don’t know what I’m looking for by posting this. Advice, maybe. Hope, maybe.

I just need someone to tell me I’m not crazy for feeling like this because right now I feel like I’m suffocating.

Hi everyone,

I’m honestly a little embarrassed to make this post, and I don’t know if I’ll find any help here, but I’m trying to be open to any path that could help me build a stable future.

I’m a Muslim woman in my early 20s from a South Asian background looking to connect with someone who is genuinely interested in a lavender marriage.

I come from a very conservative family and am facing increasing pressure to get married. While I’m currently focused on becoming financially independent and building my career, I’m also exploring the possibility of a lavender marriage with someone who understands the realities of balancing family expectations with the desire to live authentically.

I’m not looking for a rushed arrangement. If I were to pursue something like this, I would want a long period of getting to know each other, discussing expectations honestly, and making sure we are genuinely compatible as friends and partners in this type of arrangement.

Some things that are important to me:

• I do not want children.
• Education and career are very important to me.
• Mutual respect, trust, and honesty.
• Personal freedom and independence for both people.
• No expectation of a traditional romantic relationship.
• I am comfortable with both people having their own personal lives and relationships outside the marriage, provided everything is discussed openly and respectfully.
• Discretion and privacy are extremely important.
• I would be especially interested in connecting with someone living outside my country or someone who hopes to build a life abroad in the future.

I am specifically seeking a Muslim man who is genuinely interested in a lavender marriage and has thoughtfully considered the responsibilities and challenges involved. Preference would be given to a Hyderabadi Muslim man who is settled abroad or plans to build a life overseas in the future.

I’m not looking for a quick solution. I’m hoping to connect with someone who has genuinely thought through the realities, responsibilities, and challenges of a lavender marriage.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out and tell me a little about yourself, your situation, and what you’re looking for.

Thank you for reading.

Hi everyone!

I’m making a second post because I’ve realized it’s important to be a little clearer about what I’m looking for.

I’ve had a few conversations from my first post, but I’ve noticed that many start with interest and then fade away after a few messages, with long gaps in communication or no follow-up at all. I completely understand that life gets busy, but I’d especially appreciate hearing from people who are genuinely interested in exploring the possibility of a lavender marriage and are willing to communicate consistently.

I’m a bisexual Muslim woman in my early 20s from a South Asian background and currently in a relationship. I’m exploring the possibility of a lavender marriage with someone who genuinely understands the purpose of such an arrangement and is interested in building a partnership based on mutual understanding, trust, and respect.

Ideally, I would love to connect with a Hyderabadi man who is settled abroad, though I’m open to speaking with others if we share similar values and goals.

A few things that are non-negotiable for me:

• I do not want children.
• Education and career are important to me.
• Mutual respect, honesty, trust, and good communication.
• Personal freedom and independence for both people.
• No expectation of a traditional romantic relationship.
• Comfort with both people maintaining their own personal lives and relationships outside the marriage.
• Discretion and privacy are extremely important.
• Taking time to get to know each other properly before making any decisions.

I’m not looking to rush into anything. I’d much rather have meaningful conversations with people who have genuinely thought about the realities of a lavender marriage than exchange a few messages that lead nowhere.

If you think we might be on the same page, feel free to reach out and tell me a little about yourself, your background, and what you’re looking for.

Hi everyone!

I’m making a second post because I’ve realized it’s important to be a little clearer about what I’m looking for.

I’ve had a few conversations from my first post, but I’ve noticed that many start with interest and then fade away after a few messages, with long gaps in communication or no follow-up at all. I completely understand that life gets busy, but I’d especially appreciate hearing from people who are genuinely interested in exploring the possibility of a lavender marriage and are willing to communicate consistently.

I’m a bisexual Muslim woman in my early 20s from a South Asian background and currently in a relationship. I’m exploring the possibility of a lavender marriage with someone who genuinely understands the purpose of such an arrangement and is interested in building a partnership based on mutual understanding, trust, and respect.

Ideally, I would love to connect with a Hyderabadi man who is settled abroad, though I’m open to speaking with others if we share similar values and goals.

A few things that are non-negotiable for me:

• I do not want children.
• Education and career are important to me.
• Mutual respect, honesty, trust, and good communication.
• Personal freedom and independence for both people.
• No expectation of a traditional romantic relationship.
• Comfort with both people maintaining their own personal lives and relationships outside the marriage.
• Discretion and privacy are extremely important.
• Taking time to get to know each other properly before making any decisions.

I’m not looking to rush into anything. I’d much rather have meaningful conversations with people who have genuinely thought about the realities of a lavender marriage than exchange a few messages that lead nowhere.

If you think we might be on the same page, feel free to reach out and tell me a little about yourself, your background, and what you’re looking for.

Hi everyone,

I’m honestly a little embarrassed to make this post, and I don’t know if I’ll find any help here, but I’m trying to be open to any path that could help me build a stable future.

I’m a Muslim sunni woman in my early 20s from a South Asian background looking to connect with someone who is genuinely interested in a lavender marriage.

I come from a very conservative family and am facing increasing pressure to get married. While I’m currently focused on becoming financially independent and building my career, I’m also exploring the possibility of a lavender marriage with someone who understands the realities of balancing family expectations with the desire to live authentically.

I’m not looking for a rushed arrangement. If I were to pursue something like this, I would want a long period of getting to know each other, discussing expectations honestly, and making sure we are genuinely compatible as friends and partners in this type of arrangement.

Some things that are important to me:

• I do not want children.
• Education and career are very important to me.
• Mutual respect, trust, and honesty.
• Personal freedom and independence for both people.
• No expectation of a traditional romantic relationship.
• I am comfortable with both people having their own personal lives and relationships outside the marriage, provided everything is discussed openly and respectfully.
• Discretion and privacy are extremely important.
• I would be especially interested in connecting with someone living outside my country or someone who hopes to build a life abroad in the future.

I’m not looking for a quick solution. I’m hoping to connect with someone who has genuinely thought through the realities, responsibilities, and challenges of a lavender marriage.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out and tell me a little about yourself, your situation, and what you’re looking for.

Thank you for reading.

Hi everyone,

I’m honestly a little embarrassed to make this post, and I don’t know if I’ll find any help here, but I’m trying to be open to any path that could help me build a stable future.

I’m a Muslim woman in my early 20s from a South Asian background looking to connect with someone who is genuinely interested in a lavender marriage.

I come from a very conservative family and am facing increasing pressure to get married. While I’m currently focused on becoming financially independent and building my career, I’m also exploring the possibility of a lavender marriage with someone who understands the realities of balancing family expectations with the desire to live authentically.

I’m not looking for a rushed arrangement. If I were to pursue something like this, I would want a long period of getting to know each other, discussing expectations honestly, and making sure we are genuinely compatible as friends and partners in this type of arrangement.

Some things that are important to me:

• I do not want children.
• Education and career are very important to me.
• Mutual respect, trust, and honesty.
• Personal freedom and independence for both people.
• No expectation of a traditional romantic relationship.
• I am comfortable with both people having their own personal lives and relationships outside the marriage, provided everything is discussed openly and respectfully.
• Discretion and privacy are extremely important.
• I would be especially interested in connecting with someone living outside my country or someone who hopes to build a life abroad in the future.

I’m not looking for a quick solution. I’m hoping to connect with someone who has genuinely thought through the realities, responsibilities, and challenges of a lavender marriage.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out and tell me a little about yourself, your situation, and what you’re looking for.

Thank you for reading.

I studied B.A Psychology, Mass Communication and Modern Language and gave an entrance exam for B.ed entrance to which i qualified and to be honest none of these courses really excites me and its been so hard to navigate my career path and it doesn’t help that im a south asian and 23 fighting constant family pressure. If anyone has done these courses or are knowledgeable please advice. :( do i continue with these courses? or change? if i do continue what can i pursue?

i have been in a reading slump for over 2 years now and i really want to get back into reading. I used to read fantasy, romance, thriller, motivational, autobiographies etc so any genre is fine.