u/Timely_Cranberry1270

For so long I wanted a mom. I thought a mom meant a sober individual who showed up. I worked at that for so long trying to do all I could to make her change. I began to go to Alanon and realized it was me who needed to change. It was me who needed acceptance of the situation and after that awakening,trying to get her to change sounded silly. I grew apart from my desire for her, relazing the manipulation hurt and lies I was fed. It’s been three years, no contact and tonight I’m missing her. Missing that laugh, sense of humor, special connection we share of the same blood. It’s not fair, but I’m not angry. The peace of that is what I was promised would come, I didn’t realize it’d be so bitter sweet some days. Live and let live

I am new to new construction commercial roofing estimating. I moved to a company to take a pay cut to have the opportunity to learn because my previous position (storm restoration estimating) was a niche job and needed to build my resume.

Problem is, no one knows anything about commercial roofs here. No trainers, no experience. 2 bids a week expectations.

I’ve been here a month and in that month I researched and obtained a take off software, hired a professional to teach us how to read plans and have sent out 6 bids (using a third party take off company) until I can get my take off skills down. Have a training today on that.

Question is - are the expectations unrealistic from someone who is learning and should I go put my effort into another company who has a trainer.

ADVICE WANTED .

Hello! New commercial roofing estimator. The company I’m with specializes in storm damage roofing on the residential side. The commercial side of things kicked off January 2026. I have experience in Xactimate estimating and now trying my hand in commercial. The owner of the company doesn’t know a damn thing so I am in charge of my own training and software etc. I just got planswift and found someone outside the company to mentor me on reading the plans.

Currently, we have a third party doing the plan take offs and we are applying that to the material / labor and adding 25% profit on new construction. Everything is subbed out, we don’t own labor or machines. I’ve done a lot of commerical production so I’m familiar with materials so that’s not too worrisome.

The part that scares me is when I start to do my own take offs. Right now I have my planswift training so that I can set up my takeoff stuff so that I can capture Material while I measure but in the meantime I’m just playing around with the software and comparing it to the third party’s number.

Does anyone have any insight or words of encouragement? Or maybe want to tell me to run? I’d be fine with that bc I feel like I’m over my head and the owner is an idiot and I’m going to be the one everyone blames if something goes wrong.. but I also feel excited for the learning opportunity as the storm damage estimating is so niche I was having a hard time finding other places to work and little room for advancement.

Anywho… really anything is welcome. Low key hate/ love this shit

Hey!

In Texas - worked in Insurance storm damage restoration now moving into commercial Roofing in an estimator role. Learning to do takeoffs through software and read plans and specifications. The company. I’m with is a very small company who did good in the restoration world and is now trying their hand on new construction. Obviously, I’m aware they are new and not knowing what they’re doing but same here… So using that to my advantage and allowing us all to work together, as I learned my takeoff software plans, swift, we are using a third-party to do takeoffs from plans. I then am getting materials, labor, equipment, etc., together throwing profit on it and sending out a bid. We’ve realized that plan rooms are a little bit of a waste of time because you don’t know what stage the general contractor is in or if he has even won this bid so we’ve developed a relationship with a couple contractors and we’ve won some composition shingle roofs, but are starting to go after More flat roofs. I’ll be honest the owner of my company is a salesman who did really good door-to-door now has enough money to get a company off the ground and has been stable for about five years and when I say he has a dollar in a dream I mean it I noticed there was a school He wanted me to bid out, but after reading the specifications, we are not qualified for the job. His thoughts on that was “ why are we not qualified? Sounds like the best time to get qualified “ and told me to bid on it anyways. Basically, I know I’m in a fucked up situation, but I want to use it to my advantage and learn commercial estimating and then go to a company that has more skin in the game when I have a little bit experience under my belt, any suggestions?

WHEW. 2-3 days from my period and goodness… I am just about to pop. The depression … hunger… endless fear about everything. My main fear now is that everyone hates me or thinks poorly of me. My family, my fiancé, my job, my friends. With no evidence how can I feel so certain? Ugh… why is this so hard. I am thankful it’s not this bad every month.. but I can be reassured it will come again. Man… I’d give anything to have him go through this once, it’s so hard for others to understand. No, it’s not just my period. It’s the demon my body reacts to. I’ll be married in October and I have trauma from my childhood regarding abandonment and trust, and they come front and center a couple days before I start. I always know I’m about to start in a day because I am convinced he’s cheating. He’s not. It’s fear. It’s like my mind and body turn into a horror house and I’m locked in. Sometimes I feel like forever being alone would be a better choice for everyone, but that’s not what I want for myself. I am a good person. Who is loving and caring and selfless… why do we have to go through this. It’s torture. :,(

What do I look up to look for open pole gyms?

Ok so all of your are straight GODDESSES. I just went to my first intro class. Basically every where I made skin contact is already stinging and bruised.

I also realize that my brain and body do not process verbal direction well. I can see what the instructor is doing but I can’t take direction it’s like my brain shuts off.

Any tips?

Gettin hitched at the court house in October, need me a good photographer a couple I’ve reached out to are booked. Can you please drop any recommendations? (: thank you! -future Mrs