I've realized this might be more common than I imagined and I wanted to hear everyone's take on why that is.

I go back and forth on it myself, when interacting in general subs it feels like a piece of info that no one else should really need, but at the same time I don't like the idea of making it feel like a dark secret I have to shove away.

It's been my self-assigned gimmick to make all my posts publicly visible and under the same account, so that's been my default, but I do wonder about changing that sometimes

This morning I weighed myself and was dejected to see the number hadn't gone down, it in fact had gone slightly up. Disappointing, especially after what felt like a really good week! I'd been trending down recently but the last couple days stalled. Ah well. It's been insanely hot this week so maybe my body is keeping more water.

So I went about my day. And then it dawned on me.

Oh no.

I don't remember when the last time I pooped was...

I suddenly know where the extra weight is coming from.

I just hope it leaves without requiring my death.

I have a major jaw surgery in 4-5 months and its starting to dawn on me what a massive undertaking this is, the more I look into it the scarier it sounds. I can't really rely on family because I'm not out to them, so the moment anyone stepped foot in my apartment or saw me without a jacket I would be outed. And I don't think it unlikely that I would be abandoned as a result.

From what I've read and talking to others, the recovery is brutal. Completely medicated, swollen, and dependent the first 2 weeks. Relearning to chew doesn't begin until 6-8 weeks, and actual chewing doesn't return until 6 months. Nerves begin awakening around 9 months, and braces finally come off around 12 months. And I'm probably expected to resume work around week 4.

I've looked into assisted care companies but the price would be insanely expensive, like several thousands for a few hours over a few weeks. So I was thinking, is there anywhere I could go to offer someone a place to stay in exchange for helping me with recovery for the first month or two? No rent or bills and I'd pay for our groceries. 90% of the time they can do whatever they like, I'd just need help taking my meds (including EV) and blending liquid foods.

Does anything like this exist? It would be nice to help another trans person in need of housing at the same time, I'm just clueless about this stuff 😞. Dunno if relevant but I'm in Illinois.

I'm ~17 months into hrt (27 now, started at 26) and my life has greatly improved in many ways, I'm almost unrecognizable to where I started at 150 lb heavier. But as more time passes the more I'm starting to come to the realization that I don't know if passing is an attainable goal. It's just so hard to know how possible it really is.

How long did it take you to reach that point? Was there a turning point? What age did you start at?

When I started my weight loss journey 2 years ago I began with just CICO, but eventually I wanted to try incorporating some movement so I invested in a smart watch. They always looked like gimmicks to me but I thought "hey, I work a job for a reason, enjoy life", y'know?

Well I got one and was surprised by how much more fun and incentivized I felt to go for walks! It made it genuinely rewarding to be able to see the numbers go up and be able to look back on the data over time. As I collected my steps I started to think of fun side projects I could do with all the info I was gathering, slowly started building these grandiose plans of a dashboard site I could make for myself to graph my weight along with steps and workouts to visualize trends, quantify how much the movement helped. I like my silly little charts and so I was looking forward to it.

Welp, guess that's out the window now. I decided to look back and discovered my Galaxy Watch has literally nothing from before October. It thinks that prior to that I did literally nothing, and hilariously, October is right around when I took a break from walks due to it being winter, so most of the data it does have is of me NOT being active. Even worse, it somehow reached into my calorie counting app and retroactively REMOVED all that workout data. Amazing marvel of technology.

An entire year's worth of me actually doing stuff has been swallowed into the void. No cool graph for me. I despise you Samsung. But at least they can't take away the 150 lb I've lost. Thank god I graphed that on Cronometer :p

There was a post in one of the girl-dinner subs today about a cis woman who was misgendered and accused of being a man just for having some muscle at the gym. She reacted by laughing at the insecure man and moving on with her day, short and sweet.

But what really surprised me was seeing all the comments talking about how this was a direct result of transphobia and how all of us are affected by it. Everyone including the OP was agreeing, and maybe it's just the how things have been in the world recently but I found it incredibly refreshing!

There were tons of other comments by cis women talking about being misgendered for things as simple as having a shorter hairstyle, or having a deeper voice and being misgendered on the phone. Several even talked about others attempting to kick them out of public bathrooms. and the consensus was that it has always been about controlling women's behavior.

I've been seeing a voice therapist for a while but something about seeing other women talk about being misgendered for their voice but still choosing to embrace it has given me a lot to think about.

I hope that if I ever find myself in that situation I will also laugh in their face!

I know I know, fake fan. Prior to this I'd also never in my life bought a comic book, but now I own vol 1 for Wonder Woman and Martian Manhunter! For the first time ever I actually feel invested in this world, it's very refreshing to care about all these characters and find them all equally interesting!!

Prior to this most of them felt like they didn't really enter the public consciousness outside of an obligatory justice league roster check, but now I'm actively looking forward to hearing what other characters will be reimagined in the Absolute style.

I do think It's a bit of a shame though that people prefer these stay as alternate versions, personally I wouldn't mind it if some of these interpretations bled into the mainline versions going forward.

That's all, just wanted to sing some praises and maybe ask if anyone else is in a similar boat? Also make absolute Batmite just be Bruce having a schizophrenic episode