u/Transpinay08

I saw a discussion a few days ago regarding masc gay men being hated by the rest of the community, and I just want to chime in on this.

OP said na they "look down on others" and inaasar daw sila pag di daw masyadong stereotypical gay ang hilig nila. He also made comments na "ayaw namin kayo kasama, respeto nalang". He was lambasted for that, with comments like "totoo naman". I made comments as well "based on experience".

I experienced a lot of hostility from masc gay men back in the day before transition (same with femme gays, but more of Mean Girls type of thing). They were much more hostile to me than the femme gays and refuse to even speak to me outside of work. Dont even get me started with side eyes from them whenever they see me as a trans woman. There's even this Tiktok guy who hates dating femme gays but dated women before. And the comment I cannot forget that didnt sit right with me was from a post just recently regarding Greenfield being "Pride Month everyday" like I get being annoyed by loud people is valid, but that comment screamed "internal homophobia"

Masc bisexual men aren't any different. I dated a guy who didnt want me singing Run Devil Run by SNSD sa karaoke. He ghosted me to date a woman after. I had a colleague who was disgusted by the idea of dating femme gays, but willing to date women.

We are a community, but there is still so much hostility towards each other. Regina George mentality exists already, but that's a topic for another day. A lot of masc gay men also tend to avoid pride-related topics a lot, and they cringe when their gayness is being talked about, even if they're out and in a casual setting. Conforming to society may be much safer I get it (I'm trans, and I try to blend in as much as possible) but hating on other members of the community isn't helping you either. Akala nyo ba porket masc kayo at di halata, eh di ka na prone to hostility? Then stop being hateful.

TW SA, violence

All my older male relatives cheated on their spouses, my older brother was evil to me growing up, and my younger brother and I arent that close. I was bullied severely by boys, and was also SAed by different boys. Now as an adult, men I love ghosted me or used me like a toy. I got workplace bullied by men. I went to therapy, but it can only do so much. It doesnt help Im trans and live in a conservative country.

I keep seeing on social media and in real life how men treat their partners. A lot of them are less than good. My male colleagues cheated on their partners a lot. One I know was even abusive. Also, I always hear and see how men werent good partners in Reddit. Cheating, abusing, neglecting, etc. And the male friends who condone these. I see them as well in friends and acquaintances how they want to sleep with other women while taken, how other men condone it, and how homophobic they can be.

I have a bf, and a guy friend who both are important to me. I treat my guy friend like a younger brother, and I love my bf and want to marry him someday. I do not want them to be part of my anger towards men.

Now I know its not all men, but its hard to ignore how many men in my life did me wrong. Its like I have to be extra careful when dealing with them and I always feel like men always have bad intentions, even if I just met them. I dont want to keep hating men and blaming men for everything. I dont want to eventually resent my partner who is just a wonderful man to me, cause he's a man. Therapy can only do so much, as what I mentioned.

I wish I could just stop hating men.

I had a high libido pre-transition. It also came with crazy testosterone that gave me acne/bacne. I hated how I had a high libido and would jerk off almost everyday and was a borderline sex addict being on Grindr everyday and meeting with men almost every week. I also used anti anxiety meds due to being diagnosed with anxiety disorder.

I stopped seeking sex and rarely jerked off after HRT. I only crave (virtual) sex with my LDR partner. I love how my body doesnt seek sex constantly and can now live without it. It may also come with age as I got older na din. I guess my life is so much better now after I transitioned and did HRT as my mental health is so much healthier now. I also do not need anti anxiety meds anymore.

How about you?

I know iba satin, may pangalang either Spanish era pa uso, or ung bakla ka pero lalaking lalaki pangalan mo, or tomboy ka pero babaeng babae pangalan mo.

Ako trans pero may kapangalan akong dating pangulo ng Pilipinas. Kadiri! Ayaw ko at di bagay sa mukha ko. Ayaw ko tinatawag ako nun at baka manapak ako pag tinawag akong ganun.

Kayo, how do you feel having that name?

Edit: wag nyo na hulaan pangalan ko. Nakakaloka kayo. Hahahahahaha

Ako na Pisces, mapagmahal pero madali magdetach. Kayo?

We all know they wrote their songs. Thats why theyre great. Also, all of them contributed to each song, but of course, not equally. One may had the most contributions, and the other for another song. Who do you think owned which song? Like example, The Lady is a Vamp is DEFINITELY Geri's song. You can hear it with her solo songs like Look at Me. Here are my opinions on who owne each song:

- Wannabe - Mel B/Geri

- Say You'll Be There - Victoria/Mel B

- 2 Become 1 - Mel C/Emma

- Love Thing - Mel B/Victoria

- Last Time Lover - Mel B/Geri

- Mama - Mel C/Emma

- Who Do You Think You Are - Geri

- Something Kinda Funny - Emma/Mel B

- Naked - Victoria

- If U Cant Dance - Geri/Mel B

- Spice Up Your Life - Victoria/Geri

- Stop - Emma/Mel C

- Too Much - Mel C

- Saturday Night Divas - Victoria

- Never Give Up - Geri/Emma

- Move Over - Mel B

- Do It - Emma

- Denying - Mel B/Emma

- Viva Forever - Mel C/Geri

- Lady is a Vamp - Geri

- Step To Me - Geri/Mel B

Do you agree with my list? I wanna hear your thoughts?

Gusto ko magluto ng authentic sinigang, pero wala ako mahanap sa palengke ng Valley 1. Sa Puregold San Antonio lang pero hinog na sampaloc lang meron sila. San makakabili?

I know pag transgender ang tao, inaassume ng tao na attracted ka sa opposite gender (E.g. MtF madalas gusto ng M or FtM, and FtM madalas gusto F or MtF) lalo dito sa Pinas. Sa ibang bansa, mas madalas ko sya nakikita. May mga "transbians" nga na tinatawag kasi MtF sila pero babae gusto nila, whether cis or trans.

I've never really encountered a lot of homosexual/bisexual trans people. Meron kaunti, like Angie King, Arci Dyosa, pero sila lang kilala ko. Meron ba dito mga trans na may jowang same gender? Kamusta kayo? Pde kayo magkwento panu kayo nagkakilala. I'm straight and trans myself so di ko alam experience nyo.

I've been going to Baler alone for many years now. And Im on my way back home from there. I've loved that place as it is the only place I can go and relax without breaking my bank, as long as I know where to go. I've spoken the dialect too. Akkaw! Are! De naman masyado ai.

How did I even start going there? My friend, who is a wlw, asked us to go there. She dated one in our friend group. They broke up, but she dated 2 more women locally in Baler. She has more wlw relatives actually. Our other friend, another wlw, even dated a girl from there, but didnt last. I had my fair share of dates and hookups from locals there during my paminta days. Local gay men are really something tbh hahahaha. My 2nd time visiting, I was able to watch a Miss Gay there.

I went there during the weekend, and Im surprised how many gay men who are obviously not locals are there too, vacationing. Their vibe are those usually who parties in Elyu, not chilling in Baler. I dont usually see them when I go there.

Interactions with locals are interesting. In the transient I was staying in, the owner's son had a group of friends over. They were of different genders/sexualities. A few straight men and women, plus a gay man, a crossdressing man, and a bisexual woman in a wlw relationship. Also, I only got misgendered once here, but I wore more masculine clothes that time. 2 drunk local men even talked to me, may be thinking I was an afam girl. Surfer dudes NEVER catcalled me. Surfer dudes in Elyu were more aggressive with women, especially afam women when drinking in Flotsam and Jetsam. Not queer related, but the tricycle driver I hire never once tried to get my things while I was swimming and left them in the cottage.

Did I mention they also had a Pride celebration last month? Just search "Pride Month Baler" for the event. Pride flags are also placed in some bars.

It may not have a very loud LGBTQ vibe like Elyu with drag bars like Hara, and awrahan vibe like Flotsam and Jetsam, but I feel safe as a member of the LGBTQ community there.

I will not argue about the morality of AI use. Thats not the point here. What I want to read is kailan natin pwedeng gamitin ang AI at anung mga situation un?

We always hear BPO horror stories here, yet we never really got to hear positive ones here. Now lets hear them out.

Mine is because of working there, I got the chance to own a condo unit even as an agent back in 2019. Pandemic stalled my move, but late 2021 I finally got to move in my very own place. I really had to adjust my finances for it, but it taught me how to save money. So worth it.

Naguguluhan na ko TBH sa mga dating stages in this generation. Eto ang alam ko.

1. Talking stage - getting to know each other, mutual understanding or MU, ligawan

2. Exclusive - kayo na. Bf/gf na kayo

3. Engagement

4. Marriage

Panu ba dapat?

Bilang isang batang 90s na lumaki sa Street Fighter, Tekken, at Mortal Kombat, naglaro din ako. Lagi ko pinipili eto:

- Street Fighter - Chun Li

- Tekken - Anna Williams

- Mortal Kombat - Kitana at Mileena

- Darkstalkers - Morrigan

- KOF - Athena at Mai Shiranui

Namulat din kabaklaan ko dahil sa mga yan. Kayo din ba? At sino nagpamulat ng kabaklaan nyo sa video games?

Ako Kitana at Mileena. Plano ko sa Halloween magMileena. Kayo?

Ung usong uso before or talagang dream phone mo. Kaso dahil iba pa ang buhay natin noon, di natin nabili.

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Ako Nokia N71 nung 2006-2007.

I have noticed in general regardless of what career you are, if may nakakita sayong talangkang coworker na petiks, aakusahan ka nyang di ginagawa trabaho.

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Di sa pagmamayabang, pero even without AI, kaya ko gampanan work ko na namemeet ang deadlines padin. With AI, lalong napapabilis work ko. (AI isn't evil. It's how we use AI that determines it. I'm not here to get accused of ruining the environment or replacing people. Not the time to talk about it). My former TL also taught me how to work smart.

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Now, pag natapos work ko on time, ang mga mata nakatingin na sakin. Gusto ba nila makita ako haggard at ngarag lagi? Tapos isusumbong ako pa minsan sa mga boss na wala akong ginagawa.

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Kayo, para ba matawag na productive, dapat ba ngarag lagi at mukhang haggard?

Kahit nilike, repost, or comment lang, sino?

Ako si Jao Mapa, Francine Prieto, Sean Paul, pati ibang contestants ng America's Next Top Model.

Sa mga beks, common ung Q and A na to, pero di masyado sa mga sisters/brothers nating shombits. Marami din akong friends and family na mga lesbian/bisexual and usually, mga girls who have masculine energy like Mikee Cojuangco, Gillian Anderson, etc.

Kayo naman, sino ang gay awakening nyo? Lesbian/bisexual women, its your time to shine!