u/UnfortunateEvent0236

Hey, guys! I’m going to have to apply for jobs soon. Haven’t been working for a bit. I’m also fairly new to transitioning. No T or surgeries yet and definitely no legal name change.

How does it work for names? Do I put my government name and tell them I prefer to be referred to as ___ instead and hope they don’t judge me? Do I put the chosen name on applications and my resume and not volunteer that information unprompted? I don’t know how it works for this kind of stuff. And I’m STRESSING.

I’m wondering if, for legal reason? I don’t even know, I HAVE to give them my legal name. I would imagine whoever does payroll or whatever will see it anyway because of the deposit slip you have to give to new employers and have questions. I don’t know if health insurance benefits and stuff would need my legal name? Is that a thing I would get in trouble for? I don’t want to somehow accidentally lie to the government or commit fraud or something stupid because I don’t know anything. 😭

I’m sorry if this is stupid. I don’t know how legal stuff works. Hopefully someone understands this mess I just typed. Thanks in advance. 😅

Hello, everyone. I’m waiting for my doctor appointment to hopefully start HRT next week. But first, I have some weirdly specific questions about the actual effects of testosterone. I know a lot of them are widely talked about and easily google-able but I need to know. Yes. I know. Every body is different, etc. I’m asking in general. In YOUR experience.

Does testosterone give you an Adam’s Apple?

Does it cause as aggressive of hair growth as people say it is or is it mostly your genetics deciding? Like. Does EVERYONE have insane butt hair or is it exaggerated?

Will it make my boobs smaller?

Can someone please explain how 'bottom growth' works? I’ve heard some people don’t see much change but I’m not 100% sure what’s supposed to be happening there.

Thanks in advance to anyone willing to share their experiences with me. 🩷🤍🩵

Edit: Everyone here is so nice and this was very helpful. Thank you!

I’m wondering how to have this discussion with my kids (both 12) and I’m not sure how to start.

Obviously I want my children to be accepting and all that. I don’t think that will be an issue. I’ve been they/them-ing it for the last few years and they’ve never been weird about it or rude or anything.

I’m just like… 75% of the way over the fence. Does that make sense? I don’t want to have this conversation with them too early because I don’t really fully know myself yet. And I’m sure they’ll have questions I might not be able to answer.

Anxiety is kicking my ass today.

Any advice is welcome. Thanks in advance!