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okay so im gonna try to make this as short as i can. me 'F 19' started being friends with ruby 'F 19' in middle school and we were INCREDIBLY close. i basically lived at her house, her parents loved me, i was just another member of the family basically. at the time i had a crush on james '20M' . some drama went down about crushes so as a middle schooler i told everyone i hated james and didnt like him anymore (but i did). a year later me and ruby got in an argument and we didnt talk for a few months. when we started talking again, ruby was dating james. i was trying to stick to my agenda of hating james, but we shared so many classes at school that i figured id just be nice like a normal person, and so me and james became friends. i also figured that was okay bc ruby always had us three hanging out together outside of school. then ruby had a jealousy problem and dropped all her friends (including me) bc she thought we were trying to get with james. that among other things is why we stopped being friends. There were apologies tho to try and leave it on better terms. ruby and james dated for about half a year before they broke up. a year after that is when me and james started talking and eventually dating. im still with james. its been quite a few years. problem is, i cant seem to get over mine and ruby's friendship. i have no idea why, ive sat and thought about it for hours. i think about her often, and my emotions always switch from being angry at her, feeling betrayed, to missing her, and wishing we were still friends. the only reason i havent reached out is bc i dont want to create an awkward situation due to me still dating her ex. they had a close/intimate/messy relationship and i dont want to bring that back up with either me or james being around her. im so torn between reaching out or leaving it be for the best. its been a few years so it might just be stupid for me to still be torn about this. ive been feeling like this for years but like i said, after i started dating james i didnt think it was right for me to reach out. i felt torn between both of them. what should i do?

TLDR: i want to be friends with my exbsf again after a few years but im dating her ex.

okay so im gonna try to make this as short as i can. me 'F 19' started being friends with A 'F 19' (gonna call her A for the sake of simplicity) in middle school and we were INCREDIBLY close. i basically lived at her house, her parents loved me, i was just another member of the family basically. at the time i had a crush on B '20M' . some drama went down about crushes so as a middle schooler i told everyone i hated B and didnt like him anymore (but i did). a year later me and A got in an argument and we didnt talk for a few months. when we started talking again, A was dating B. i was trying to stick to my agenda of hating B, but we shared so many classes at school that i figured id just be nice like a normal person, and so me and B became friends. i also figured that was okay bc A always had us three hanging out together outside of school. then A had a jealousy problem and dropped all her friends (including me) bc she thought we were trying to get with B. that among other things is why we stopped being friends. There were apologies tho to try and leave it on better terms. A and B dated for about half a year before they broke up. a year after that is when me and B started talking and eventually dating. im still with B. its been quite a few years. problem is, i cant seem to get over mine and A's friendship. i have no idea why, ive sat and thought about it for hours. i think about her often, and my emotions always switch from being angry at her, feeling betrayed, to missing her, and wishing we were still friends. the only reason i havent reached out is bc i dont want to create an awkward situation due to me still dating her ex. they had a close/intimate/messy relationship and i dont want to bring that back up with either me or B being around her. im so torn between reaching out or leaving it be for the best. its been a few years so it might just be stupid for me to still be torn about this. ive been feeling like this for years but like i said, after i started dating B i didnt think it was right for me to reach out. i felt torn between both of them. should i reach out?

(ps im posting her because r/relationshipadvice wont allow this post for some reason)

TLDR: i want to be friends with my exbsf again after a few years but im dating her ex.

hello! i am neurotypical (pretty confident anyways) and i live in a family of fully neurodivergent people, with various forms of neurodivergency. i ask these questions with the pure intent of understanding and being able to interact with my family better.

ive noticed the members of my family usually deeply internalize their adhd/autism to the point they believe they are are fundamentally, completely different from neurotypical people (which i can understand to an extent) and that neurodivergent people would create a better world/society. this has gotten in the way of me bonding with them, because every time we have a discussion and there is inevitably a miscommunication, they immediately go to the fact that we are having communication problems because i am neurotypical and they are neurodivergent. i just want to drop labels and have an actual relationship without every single conflict with them turning into how i just dont understand them because they have adhd/autism. i feel like the disagreements and arguments i have with them all are a normal part of ANY relationship, and i personally dont think i have communication issues with them just because they are neurodivergent (i mean ive lived with them my entire life but apparently i know nothing about how they communicate.) i feel like theyre alienating themselves from me and neurotypicals in an unhealthy way that is preventing me from having relationships with them and i want a relationship with them without this "you could never understand me" barrier. i try so hard to understand them but part of learning that is making mistakes which just reinforce their views that we're too different. is there anyway to explain or do anything about this? they get offended when i tell them i just think theyre normal people in my life and that i dont classify them as autisic/adhd in my mind inherently, and i that i just treat them as their own individual people with their individual needs. help plz

okay so i (17F) live with my dad (divorced family) and my two brothers go back and forth between my parents houses, usually just for whatever tech they wanna brainrot on for the day. theyre 12 and 16 years old. everytime they come over, they make giant messes, use all the dishes, and never EVER help clean anything. my dad wont enforce any chores because he himself is also not great at cleaning (he tries every few weeks) and he's also scared that the boys will just hate him and live at my moms house if he does. its at the point where there is trash everywhere in the main living area and kitchen because the actual trash can is days over-due for being taken out, which all smells like mold because the monstrous mountain of dishes havent been cleaned in a week. its not to the point of hoarding or actual filth aside from the dishes but it is actually driving me insane to be the ONLY one who cleans regularly and isnt an entire slob! ive tried asking politely, ive tried throwing a fit, ive tried rewards, ive tried cleaning strikes, NOTHING WORKS!! they just sit on their butts all day on their phones and computers eating numerous bowls of cereal and chicken nuggets! they do not care!! ive had conversation after conversation with my dad begging him to enforce chores but he never does. ive started staying out all day because it makes me so depressed and infuriated that because the majority of my bum-ass family are slobs i have to live in filth! if i stop cleaning, it gets BAD and im so sick of it. i cant have relationships with my brothers anymore because im genuinely disgusted that they think its okay to not only live like this, but to make others also live in it and expect me to clean up after their lazy butts.

please, what do i do? im at my wits-end and im going crazy

so basically me and my dad took our trusty xterra offroading today up a pretty hardcore road, basically just boulders and fallen logs really, and when trying to make it up a particularly tricky area either i killed it or it stalled itself, and after that it would not turn back on. it stayed on while we reversed down to a pull-off and it stayed on better while moving but would randomly stall and it would not turn on if it was not rolling. we had to leave it up the canyon and plan to return tomorrow. we're thinking the fuel pump got old and went out, but are there any other issues to be aware of that it could be? we also checked the fuses and they seemed to be fine.

it was also doing this weird thing that we should have paid more attention to where the gas tank would make a strange whirring noise, and air would release after we opened the gas tank, so pressure was building up in there.

please give insight if anyone has had similar problems

are there any protests against the data center that have been set up or is anyone willing to attend one that is organized? this is serious and i seriously do not want a data center in utah. it would be so devastating to our environment