u/Unlikely-Pepper-5870

Not sure how to process what I witnessed today?

Today I was at the beach alone and I took a swim in the shallows. I’d been told to be weary of currents so I was sure to stay close to shore, came out, lay in the sun, and fell asleep.

I awoke to a huge flock of birds flying overhead and at first I thought how beautiful, then heard a child scream. As I sat up and came to my senses, I noticed a large group of teenage kids gathered at the shore yelling. The next thing I know there are firemen and life guards rushing the water, with more and more arriving by the second, then boats, and helicopters.

I went up to two onlookers who told me that they’d just seen a child get swept under the water. There was a man nearby who was lying down exhausted and hyperventilating; turned out he’d just jumped in and tried to save the kid right as it was happening, but couldn’t.

I watched for a while in disbelief. An hour later, the rescue efforts stopped. No body was found.

I don’t know what to feel right now. It’s odd, because I didn’t see the actual event, but I was there right as his friends began to realize what was happening. I feel like I don’t have permission to grieve because I didn’t witness it. Is there a term for this type of experience? I can’t even imagine what his friends are going through, what it was like when his family found out, or the people who saw it happen, so part of me feels like I shouldn’t be feeling this way. Is it something I should kind of let it go, or if it’s something I should work through, and if so, how to do it.

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u/Unlikely-Pepper-5870 — 3 days ago

Not sure how to process what I witnessed today

Today I was at the beach alone and I took a swim in the shallows. I’d been told to be weary of currents so I was sure to stay close to shore, came out, lay in the sun, and fell asleep.

I awoke to a huge flock of birds flying overhead and at first I thought how beautiful, then heard a child scream. As I sat up and came to my senses, I noticed a large group of teenage kids gathered at the shore yelling. The next thing I know there are firemen and life guards rushing the water, with more and more arriving by the second, then boats, and helicopters.

I went up to two onlookers who told me that they’d just seen a child get swept under the water. There was a man nearby who was lying down exhausted and hyperventilating; turned out he’d just jumped in and tried to save the kid right as it was happening, but couldn’t.

I watched for a while in disbelief. An hour later, the rescue efforts stopped. No body was found.

I don’t know what to feel right now. It’s odd, because I didn’t see the actual event, but I was there right as his friends began to realize what was happening. I feel like I don’t have permission to grieve because I didn’t witness it. Is there a term for this type of experience? I can’t even imagine what his friends are going through, what it was like when his family found out, or the people who saw it happen, so part of me feels like I shouldn’t be feeling this way. Is it something I should kind of let it go, or if it’s something I should work through, and if so, how to do it.

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u/Unlikely-Pepper-5870 — 3 days ago

Not sure how to process what I witnessed today

Today I was at the beach alone and I took a swim in the shallows. I’d been told to be weary of currents so I was sure to stay close to shore, came out, lay in the sun, and fell asleep.

I awoke to a huge flock of birds flying overhead and at first I thought how beautiful, then heard a child scream. As I sat up and came to my senses, I noticed a large group of teenage kids gathered at the shore yelling. The next thing I know there are firemen and life guards rushing the water, with more and more arriving by the second, then boats, and helicopters.

I went up to two onlookers who told me that they’d just seen a child get swept under the water. There was a man nearby who was lying down exhausted and hyperventilating; turned out he’d just jumped in and tried to save the kid right as it was happening, but couldn’t.

I watched for a while in disbelief. An hour later, the rescue efforts stopped. No body was found.

I don’t know what to feel right now. It’s odd, because I didn’t see the actual event, but I was there right as his friends began to realize what was happening. I feel like I don’t have permission to grieve because I didn’t witness it. Is there a term for this type of experience? I can’t even imagine what his friends are going through, what it was like when his family found out, or the people who saw it happen, so part of me feels like I shouldn’t be feeling this way. Is it something I should kind of let it go, or if it’s something I should work through, and if so, how to do it.

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u/Unlikely-Pepper-5870 — 3 days ago
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Nicest parts of rockaway for a swim?

Any stretches you like for calmer water, maybe less busy, etc.

I’m aware right now swimming isn’t the best idea until it warms a bit more - just asking your thoughts in general! Thanks :)

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u/Unlikely-Pepper-5870 — 4 days ago

Abt stuco thoughts?

Just saw the show tonight and was mesmerized by truly everyone in different ways. Geonhee in tiler’s piece was amaaazing particularly, and that piece overall was just incredible. Which did you love? Who are your favs and standouts? Thoughts on any particular dancers? Would love to knowwww

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u/Unlikely-Pepper-5870 — 5 days ago
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What is the route like running along the east river starting at 46th street? What’s the best route I could take along the water, north or south, with fewest interruptions?

Not sure what the current construction situation is. Thanks!

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u/Unlikely-Pepper-5870 — 16 days ago
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Best running route along east River?

What is the route like running along the east river starting at 46th street? What’s the best route I could take along the water, north or south, with fewest interruptions?

Not sure what the current construction situation is. Thanks!

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u/Unlikely-Pepper-5870 — 16 days ago