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During a prior class a woman commented that she couldn’t have flashing lights on as she had epilepsy.

During the most recent class, the same instructor had the AUDACITY to ask if we wanted to have the lights, WITH the epileptic woman in there. I made a comment that we should not use the lights if it can trigger a seizure. Other people stated that the instructor should do what she wants, as it’s her class.

Then the instructor made a comment about the fact that she was asking due to the possibility of a seizure with this particular woman.

She started the class with the lights, but with them being placed a bit further from said woman.

Wtf is wrong with people? Why are flashing lights that important? Are people THAT obsessed with control? Over fucking lights? It’s pathetic.

I didn’t know what to do. Honestly I was pretty close to causing a bit of a stink over it, but I didn’t want that woman to feel more ostracized than she likely already was.

I am getting really sick of seeing people be so incredibly self-centered and selfish, over essentially nothing.

I am debating on writing an email to the gym owner, but again, I don’t want to overstep and make the woman with epilepsy uncomfortable.

I’m thinking about trying one once a month to help with mineral buildup. However, I’ve been seeing some weird results (as well as great ones, but I’m more concerned about possibly damaging my hair).

I saw a pic where a woman’s hair got substantially lighter, and another where it ended up looking absolutely fried.

Anyone have any stories or before-and-after pics?

I was told I am not allowed to do this. To me this is red flaggy as heck. I’m still documenting in detail, but keeping it for my personal records.

My supervisors also like to pick out problems where there are none, and my documentation has proven this a couple times. I’m guessing this might be making them a bit uncomfortable. I could be wrong of course, but I also know some supervisors tend to not like to have any “fault” put on them in any way.

Just for clarification, the internal documentation that I was not allowed to document in detail had to do with scheduling. It was nothing controversial that could have been offensive to the patient.

Why are most jobs I come across like this in some way ?? It’s getting real old. However, I’ve never had this particular type of occurrence any other setting.

I don’t know what other types of phones that aren’t smart phones are called, but I think y’all get what I’m saying.

I use a smart phone for work, for hiking, and for music. I live in the desert, and I’m not about to risk getting lost, even on trails I know. I also have a Garmin, but I prefer to always have two trail navigators running.

I am pretty addicted to my smart phone and doom scrolling. If you have done this, did you go through a weaning phase, or go cold turkey? Have any of you been able to successfully stop smart phone addiction without getting a dumb phone?

Does anyone know anything about the legality of Meta AI using your pics to create AI-generated pics of you, to advertise to you, to get you to use Meta AI?

I read that it likely tied into Facebook having full access to my photos. I did not understand Meta could then advertise to me using those pics.

I understand that when social media is used, privacy issues are basically assumed. I am asking about where I can read on the legality/permissions of this particular happening.

Does anyone know where I’d go about finding where I gave permission for this to happen?

Yes, I’m aware when you’re on social media, there is lack of privacy. That is not the point of me making this post.

I’d just like to know where I gave permission for Meta AI to use my AI-generated pic to advertise to me - pushing me to use it.

I just had a realization. I have had numerous instances in my life where I have seen animals suffer needlessly due to men. I’m not talking about men abusing or hating the animals. I’m talking about men that choose not to care about details that matter - aka negligence - while claiming to love and care about the animals.

One time my family’s cat had an eye issue that could have caused issues with vision down the line, if not fixed with surgery. My dad said the cat could make do without surgery (and he apparently adored this cat). My mom said that the surgery will be done. It was done.

I had an ex that had a python that he left in his truck, that somehow ended up burning to death - I think because it got in the wiring. He was between living spaces, and didn’t take the means necessary to house the python appropriately.

I had a cat that I gave to a sanctuary, as he was wrecking my life with his peeing over the course of years, and teaching my other cat to mark as well. Within a month he was dead, due to the owner (male) not putting flea meds on him, and the cat getting a disease from a flea bite. I still feel guilty over this one, as it could have been prevented, if I chose to coddle and babysit a man. However, I still don’t think I would have thought to even question them not doing flea treatment.

I had a male roommate who had a chicken who was having neuro issues. I googled a bit, and found out it was likely due to the dumbass not cleaning the water source, so there was mold in there. I told him this, and he still chose not to clean it thoroughly. So I babysat him, and did it for him, so the chicken would not suffer. I don’t even want to think about what happened when I left.

I had a male neighbor who was getting attached to an outdoor cat, and called him his cat. I told him the cat was going to get hit by a car if he didn’t bring it inside, as we lived right beside a busy street. He said cats were smart enough to stay out of the road. I reiterated my point. The next week he was hit and dead. I had to listen to him cry about it. I felt bad, but I also fucking told him.

And the most recent happening - I have a friend/ex-roommate who has a cat that kind of belonged to both of us at one point. However, I moved, and he kept the cat, because it was happy with his other cats. This cat will eat anything and everything, and gain weight fast. This ex-roommate cannot clean up after himself to save his life, literally - so food, treats, etc are left out many times over.

The vet said the cat has a moderate amount of struvite crystals, which can eventually lead to kidney blockage, which can be fatal. The crystal formation can be caused, and made worse, by obesity.

Still, he cannot keep the cat’s weight under control, and pretends it just happens out of nowhere. Then I have to make him think about if he left anything out in the open for the cat to eat by accident, and then he magically remembers! The cat has gained close to 10 percent of its body weight in a year, even after being on food for weight loss.

After I learned the cat gained more weight after coddling him on and off for years, I cut communication. I’m sick of seeing suffering due to man babies. I also feel guilty about that, but I also can’t spend my life babysitting men to ease suffering/improve the quality of life of others. I feel like I’m basically acting like a wife or girlfriend would - coddling and babysitting because a man can’t handle details, or doesn’t want to.

Just for the record - I don’t find identity or get validation from being needed by men that need to be babysat. Coddling irresponsible men goes against the core of who I am. I have always hated that I’ve had to do this to ease suffering or prevent health issues.

I know what the outcome is going to be for the cat, slowly but surely. I don’t say this to be negative. This man is not capable of keeping things even somewhat orderly and put up.

Has anyone else experienced a situation like this? Where you have to cut ties for your own well-being, but you know something they take care of will suffer or be neglected?

I am part of a group, and we all hang out together and do activities that usually take up a larger part of the day.

One woman, around my age, has become official with a man that she was recently complaining about. At the time, they were dating casually. Complaints included that he was having sex with a married coworker, and was not being direct with my friend about where their relationship was headed. Still, she decided to “trust her instinct,” and date him exclusively.

Like most people, everyone in this group is hugely male centered. Not super obnoxiously so, but definitely in the normal way - they are married, the women can’t act with much independence or confidence/they wait for a man to lead them, are largely concerned with beauty standards, and they cater to men.

I can say with one hundred percent certainty that I am going to have to listen to my friend analyze her boyfriend’s behavior, and make excuses for it. If I get closer to her, I will likely have to listen to it for hours on end.

I enjoy hanging out with this group, but I feel like I’m going to have to bow out if this is what it becomes. I can pretty much guarantee it’s going to happen with the dynamics of the group, slowly but surely.

I’m just bummed. I don’t know what else to say. It just kind of sucks. A very large part of me wants to bow out before I even have to deal with it, but I guess there is the very small possibility it won’t happen.

I read somewhere that when parents have a daughter that is getting institutionalized due to more severe disability, etc, it’s recommended that she get sterilized, partly due to the fact that rape by caregivers is largely common.

Does anyone know if this is true? I’m guessing it is, but the blame is likely to be shifted to the woman being institutionalized.

Is this a stupid concept? I have some hair that still has highlights in it, and it’s starting to look like it has a completely different health level than the rest of my hair.

I know it is, but it’s never looked that way. I got highlights about 4 years ago, and for some reason just recently it’s started to look frizzy and dry.

I am debating on dying my hair to its natural color. I don’t think I want to chop off the highlighted part, that will make my hair too short.

In the past, I have dyed my hair, and it seemed like it was healthier. It also didn’t seem like it was only short-term healthier. Some treatments definitely seem that way, like keratin treatments. With keratin, my hair looks better for about a week, then ends up looking worse.

I don’t use heat, I use a bonnet, I use a water filter, I’m careful when I brush my hair, I don’t towel dry. I use Nizoral shampoo, and Olaplex conditioner, and a leave in conditioner. Every couple of washes I’ll do a clarifying shampoo. I wash my hair every 2-3 days. I get trims every 2-3 months.

Thoughts?

I’ve posted some variation of this a few times I feel. However, I am SO TIRED of women around my age assuming I have a goal of being in a relationship.

I met another very smart, attractive woman. She is successful both financially and career-wise. I was somewhat hopeful for maybe about an hour, until she started droning on about men, and giving them the benefit of a doubt. This man she is dating had sex with a coworker who is married, and they still communicate. She said he said it was because he “values the friendship.”

Then she said that she thinks he is just being dense, and doesn’t realize what he’s doing. She doesn’t think he is being purposefully manipulative.

Then she said something along the lines of assuming my end goal was to be in a relationship. I said it wasn’t. This seemed to really throw her off. Idk if she was offended, or just had no other way of relating, or both.

This shit is so repetitive and so depressing. I literally cannot relate to women. I feel like my way of being and thinking is so out there, and no one can even begin to want to understand it. I’ve had some women go into it a bit, but the majority aren’t interested in the depths I go to.

I understand that having a deeper understanding of patriarchal training and brainwashing is uncomfortable, but COME ON. The information is there. How could someone not want to understand their own oppression?

I know this isn’t the positivity the moderators tend to look for, but how can this be but so positive when you can’t relate to women on a deeper level? My deeper level is not talking about men, or how I hate my body, or how I have to look to men or other women (who center patriarchal constructs) for validation.

I’m not even looking to talk about this all the time. I just want to hang out and exist while centering ourselves (gasp), having a good time, or just enjoying the vibe.

I feel like there is essentially no hope of me ever finding another woman with a similar mindset. Not to sound dramatic, but I literally hate this.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not capable of reverting, nor would I ever want to. I’m very thankful I’m able to know myself on a deeper level, thanks to 4b. I’m very thankful that I do have the ability to connect on a deeper level due to this as well, but finding someone who I actually want to connect with is a completely different story.

I basically feel like a token “leader,” that people kind of want to follow, but kind of not, since society doesn’t generally reward this way of being. I’m not looking to lead. I am just looking for women who don’t want to be blind for their own comfort and validation needs.

I’ve seen some people have put lists together of protein-free products (thank you!!), but how can I know myself if something is protein-free?

Also, What about something that is considered a component of protein - amino acids? Should those be avoided as well?

To me ableism largely exists without being checked because

a) people can’t handle thinking about their own weaknesses and vulnerabilities

b) media and history haven’t taught society that ableism is in the same concept as racism, sexism, etc.

One of the most annoying things to me is an ableist liberal, as they’re supposed to be taking pride in equality and having more concern about systematic issues that contribute to this type of discrimination.

Of course ableists of any political affiliation suck, but the hypocrisy among some liberals in this regard is still kind of shocking to me.

Pardon my rant, but I recently had a VERY liberal friend say some ableist things, and it still kinda sends me.

So, how to we get this type of discrimination to be taken more seriously? Even the types of groups that are supposed to be supportive really kind of aren’t in many ways.

Just a heads up. I have emailed a handful of times. For some reason, their silk rollers make my hair extremely frizzy, and my hair won’t hold curl with them.

My hair does better with the cheaper curlers from Walmart.

Just a heads up if you were thinking about trying their products.

I’ll probably delete this post, as I don’t want her to see it.

I hung out with a friend of mine who is a bit older than me. She has always come across to me as someone who is obsessed with staying busy, obsessed with appearing youthful, and always doing activities that are considered youthful. However, this is a lot of women, so I just kind of accepted it as how she is.

At our last hangout, she made comments about hanging out with a friend around her age that had some disabilities. She said that she did not like doing “old people” activities, and that she didn’t know how to hang out with her basically.

I made a comment about how my body will sometimes randomly mess up, and then I am basically bedbound. She gave a little smirk like she didn’t believe it. I have posted this before, but I am relatively fit, and therefore, I have people that react like this to me at times. I then made a comment that everyone gets older, and our bodies do not last forever.

I don’t know how much more grace I can give this woman. Her superficiality really annoys me. She has made numerous comments about being old and “not fit” in regard to herself. I know it stems from insecurity, but her insecurities are not my issue to work through.

Then I think about a friend that I recently lost, due to chronic illness, and how I would do anything to literally just sit there with her and do nothing. Her chronic illness was more “acceptable” because she was old, but the premise remains.

I thought she might just be a friend that I could keep at a more superficial level, but now idk if I can even do that.

I don’t understand how some people in their later life stages don’t evolve past this way of being? It’s really kind of child-like to me.