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So, I do Uber Eats during the evenings/nights as a second job and unfortunately in my city there’s very few public bathrooms at all. One random day I really needed to go to the bathroom and the only place open I could find was the casino.

So, I go in there and I found out that they had these truly amazing and fancy bathrooms…amazing mirrors for photos and very clean unlike any other bathroom in my city.

So, ever since whenever I need to use the bathroom I go there. I’ve never spent a single cent at that casino on anything and I’m not sure how long it will take them to catch on to this…or if I can get kicked out for only using the restrooms.

But, it’s become my own personal little secret.

So, I picked up an order from shake shack and wasn’t much just a chicken sandwich and some fries and as soon as I picked it up, the customer canceled. Immediately after I get an order request for a nearby place so I picked it up and then dropped it off at a hotel and left the guy both bags of food with a message about the previous customer canceling.

I got a $10 extra tip on top of an $8 tip so that was pretty cool. I’m happy I did it because I only eat halal meat so wouldn’t have ate it anyways. Also, I’m new and in need of thumbs up lol.

Would you have done the same? Or what do u do when a customer canceled order and you don’t want the food?

Okay so, I moved to Cleveland a year and a half ago and have lived in 3 different parts of Cleveland and just want to share my experiences with each.

1. Shaker heights - this was where I first lived when I moved to Cleveland and was renting a property for awhile.

Pros- access to rta train, quiet neighborhood, safe, older beautiful houses, friendly community, grocery stores/restaurants nearby

Cons- kind of got boring after awhile, not a whole lot to do after a week of living there, not good access to highways

2. Old Brooklyn - this is the second place I lived, again just a rental house for a few months.

Pros - lots to do nearby, very quiet neighborhood, mostly felt quite safe 99% of the time, affordable

Cons- never felt a real sense of community here honestly. Oh also power outages a lot?? No rta train.

3. Downtown/where I live now and signed a lease on an apartment

Pros- very walkable, access to public transit, lots to do (there’s always something going on)

Cons- always feel a bit unsafe, no cheaper grocery store options downtown, not very quiet

Overall, I love Cleveland very much and feel grateful to have been able to live east, west, and downtown and I enjoyed all of them. My favorite I think is downtown only because I feel like it’s better for me as a 21 year old woman in terms of things to do/walkability

My overall rating would be -

1. Downtown

old Brooklyn

shaker heights

Hi so I am 21 and living on my own and estranged from family and such. So, I’m fully dependent on myself financially.

My monthly take home pay is $1500-$2000 monthly roughly. I’m a substitute teacher and don’t work everyday since I’m also a college student.

My bills are as followed -

- rent $795/month (all utilities included)

Rent is the only real bill I have at the moment since I don’t have a car. I also budget about $300 monthly on groceries. This leaves me with $400-900 leftover for other things like going out or shopping or what not per month.

I’m trying to get into a habit of saving, but I’m not sure how much of this I should be saving.

Edit- my phone is paid off but it’s $45 a month for talk/text that I pay

How do I move on for good? This has been going on for 3 1/2 years.

So back in 2023 when I was 17 i was a senior in high school and I was exploring different religions and I met this guy (24). He was Muslim and quite knowledgeable and helped me with a lot and was one of the first people I told when I became Muslim a month later at 18.

Well, him and I talked nearly daily for months and he was very flirty with me and I with him. We talked about possible marriage, tho he had a wife but wanted me to be his second wife. He told me it was his right religiously and so I didn’t see much wrong with it and was too attached already.

In April of 2023 one night we stayed up all night on the phone talking and playing games and just talking about the future. Then my grandma died the next day and he blocked me the very same day. I was devastated.

He basically told me that in 3 months him and I could talk again but he wanted us to have some distance in the meantime. Sent this long message to a mutual friend about how well him and I got along and how it had nothing to do with me but basically also gave me a list of things to improve on…covering myself properly, stopping being friends with other guys, etc.

So, I became a niqabi and got rid of all male friends and such and we started talking less than 2 months later. This was around the time I graduated high school. He acted like nothing ever happened between us and was all sweet and stuff again, even suggested meeting in person and talked more about marriage and said ideally he’d marry 3 or 4 wives but also kept complaining about his wife. Me being dumb thought I could make him happy and his wife was abusing him from what he said and denying him of his religious right.

Anyways, from that point on him and I would talk for maybe a few weeks at a time and something small or nothing would happen and he’d block me and then talk again maybe a month or months later as if nothing happened to begin with. But every single time he’d come back and act so incredibly sweet and seem to want to be with me and boom blocked for no apparent reason.

He also would accuse me of things like being a ho and such and would lecture me on religious topics. He always was a mentor to me and taught me things but it felt like nothing I said truly mattered to him cause he always acted like he knew better. And he’d either blame me for things between us or his wife.

Anyways, I’m 21 now and he’s 27 and it’s still going on. I haven’t talked to any guys since knowing him really and keep holding out hope even tho I know he keeps leaving over and over again and leading me on and promising things and then acting like nothing happened. It felt like he was playing mind games with me and still kinda is. I know for a fact I’m not the only girl he’s talking to but I didn’t care for so long because i saw it as his religious right to get more than one wife and wanted him to be happy even if i had to share him with 3 other wives.

I just want this to stop honestly. We’ve both blocked eachother and gone back many times and yet I love him despite everything and still hope things could work out someday…I just don’t know how to leave because it feels like I go through literal withdrawals without him. And he’s the only one who makes me feel like I’m on cloud nine when he eventually comes back. I even tried to off myself because I just wanted it to stop and didn’t have the strength to walk away for good. I almost died because it felt like the only way out.

What should I do? He groomed me according to multiple therapists and emotionally abused me.

How do I move on for good? This has been going on for 3 1/2 years.

So back in 2023 when I was 17 i was a senior in high school and I was exploring different religions and I met this guy (24). He was Muslim and quite knowledgeable and helped me with a lot and was one of the first people I told when I became Muslim a month later at 18.

Well, him and I talked nearly daily for months and he was very flirty with me and I with him. We talked about possible marriage, tho he had a wife but wanted me to be his second wife. He told me it was his right religiously and so I didn’t see much wrong with it and was too attached already.

In April of 2023 one night we stayed up all night on the phone talking and playing games and just talking about the future. Then my grandma died the next day and he blocked me the very same day. I was devastated.

He basically told me that in 3 months him and I could talk again but he wanted us to have some distance in the meantime. Sent this long message to a mutual friend about how well him and I got along and how it had nothing to do with me but basically also gave me a list of things to improve on…covering myself properly, stopping being friends with other guys, etc.

So, I became a niqabi and got rid of all male friends and such and we started talking less than 2 months later. This was around the time I graduated high school. He acted like nothing ever happened between us and was all sweet and stuff again, even suggested meeting in person and talked more about marriage and said ideally he’d marry 3 or 4 wives but also kept complaining about his wife. Me being dumb thought I could make him happy and his wife was abusing him from what he said and denying him of his religious right.

Anyways, from that point on him and I would talk for maybe a few weeks at a time and something small or nothing would happen and he’d block me and then talk again maybe a month or months later as if nothing happened to begin with. But every single time he’d come back and act so incredibly sweet and seem to want to be with me and boom blocked for no apparent reason.

He also would accuse me of things like being a ho and such and would lecture me on religious topics. He always was a mentor to me and taught me things but it felt like nothing I said truly mattered to him cause he always acted like he knew better. And he’d either blame me for things between us or his wife.

Anyways, I’m 21 now and he’s 27 and it’s still going on. I haven’t talked to any guys since knowing him really and keep holding out hope even tho I know he keeps leaving over and over again and leading me on and promising things and then acting like nothing happened. It felt like he was playing mind games with me and still kinda is. I know for a fact I’m not the only girl he’s talking to but I didn’t care for so long because i saw it as his religious right to get more than one wife and wanted him to be happy even if i had to share him with 3 other wives.

I just want this to stop honestly. We’ve both blocked eachother and gone back many times and yet I love him despite everything and still hope things could work out someday…I just don’t know how to leave because it feels like I go through literal withdrawals without him. And he’s the only one who makes me feel like I’m on cloud nine when he eventually comes back. I even tried to off myself because I just wanted it to stop and didn’t have the strength to walk away for good. I almost died because it felt like the only way out.

What should I do?

How do I move on for good? This has been going on for 3 1/2 years.

So back in 2023 when I was 17 i was a senior in high school and I was exploring different religions and I met this guy (24). He was Muslim and quite knowledgeable and helped me with a lot and was one of the first people I told when I became Muslim a month later at 18.

Well, him and I talked nearly daily for months and he was very flirty with me and I with him. We talked about possible marriage, tho he had a wife but wanted me to be his second wife. He told me it was his right religiously and so I didn’t see much wrong with it and was too attached already.

In April of 2023 one night we stayed up all night on the phone talking and playing games and just talking about the future. Then my grandma died the next day and he blocked me the very same day. I was devastated.

He basically told me that in 3 months him and I could talk again but he wanted us to have some distance in the meantime. Sent this long message to a mutual friend about how well him and I got along and how it had nothing to do with me but basically also gave me a list of things to improve on…covering myself properly, stopping being friends with other guys, etc.

So, I became a niqabi and got rid of all male friends and such and we started talking less than 2 months later. This was around the time I graduated high school. He acted like nothing ever happened between us and was all sweet and stuff again, even suggested meeting in person and talked more about marriage and said ideally he’d marry 3 or 4 wives but also kept complaining about his wife. Me being dumb thought I could make him happy and his wife was abusing him from what he said and denying him of his religious right.

Anyways, from that point on him and I would talk for maybe a few weeks at a time and something small or nothing would happen and he’d block me and then talk again maybe a month or months later as if nothing happened to begin with. But every single time he’d come back and act so incredibly sweet and seem to want to be with me and boom blocked for no apparent reason.

He also would accuse me of things like being a ho and such and would lecture me on religious topics. He always was a mentor to me and taught me things but it felt like nothing I said truly mattered to him cause he always acted like he knew better. And he’d either blame me for things between us or his wife.

Anyways, I’m 21 now and he’s 27 and it’s still going on. I haven’t talked to any guys since knowing him really and keep holding out hope even tho I know he keeps leaving over and over again and leading me on and promising things and then acting like nothing happened. It felt like he was playing mind games with me and still kinda is. I know for a fact I’m not the only girl he’s talking to but I didn’t care for so long because i saw it as his religious right to get more than one wife and wanted him to be happy even if i had to share him with 3 other wives.

I just want this to stop honestly. We’ve both blocked eachother and gone back many times and yet I love him despite everything and still hope things could work out someday…I just don’t know how to leave because it feels like I go through literal withdrawals without him. And he’s the only one who makes me feel like I’m on cloud nine when he eventually comes back. I even tried to off myself because I just wanted it to stop and didn’t have the strength to walk away for good. I almost died because it felt like the only way out.

What should I do?

So back in 2023 when I was 17 i was a senior in high school and I was exploring different religions and I met this guy (24). He was Muslim and quite knowledgeable and helped me with a lot and was one of the first people I told when I became Muslim a month later at 18.

Well, him and I talked nearly daily for months and he was very flirty with me and I with him. We talked about possible marriage, tho he had a wife but wanted me to be his second wife. He told me it was his right religiously and so I didn’t see much wrong with it and was too attached already.

In April of 2023 one night we stayed up all night on the phone talking and playing games and just talking about the future. Then my grandma died the next day and he blocked me the very same day. I was devastated.

He basically told me that in 3 months him and I could talk again but he wanted us to have some distance in the meantime. Sent this long message to a mutual friend about how well him and I got along and how it had nothing to do with me but basically also gave me a list of things to improve on…covering myself properly, stopping being friends with other guys, etc.

So, I became a niqabi and got rid of all male friends and such and we started talking less than 2 months later. This was around the time I graduated high school. He acted like nothing ever happened between us and was all sweet and stuff again, even suggested meeting in person and talked more about marriage and said ideally he’d marry 3 or 4 wives but also kept complaining about his wife. Me being dumb thought I could make him happy and his wife was abusing him from what he said and denying him of his religious right.

Anyways, from that point on him and I would talk for maybe a few weeks at a time and something small or nothing would happen and he’d block me and then talk again maybe a month or months later as if nothing happened to begin with. But every single time he’d come back and act so incredibly sweet and seem to want to be with me and boom blocked for no apparent reason.

He also would accuse me of things like being a ho and such and would lecture me on religious topics. He always was a mentor to me and taught me things but it felt like nothing I said truly mattered to him cause he always acted like he knew better. And he’d either blame me for things between us or his wife.

Anyways, I’m 21 now and he’s 27 and it’s still going on. I haven’t talked to any guys since knowing him really and keep holding out hope even tho I know he keeps leaving over and over again and leading me on and promising things and then acting like nothing happened. It felt like he was playing mind games with me and still kinda is. I know for a fact I’m not the only girl he’s talking to but I didn’t care for so long because i saw it as his religious right to get more than one wife and wanted him to be happy even if i had to share him with 3 other wives.

I just want this to stop honestly. We’ve both blocked eachother and gone back many times and yet I love him despite everything and still hope things could work out someday…I just don’t know how to leave because it feels like I go through literal withdrawals without him. And he’s the only one who makes me feel like I’m on cloud nine when he eventually comes back. I even tried to off myself because I just wanted it to stop and didn’t have the strength to walk away for good. I almost died because it felt like the only way out.

What should I do?