u/Winter-Owl1

Okay so for the record I support lgbt, have no issue with gay marriage or anything like that. But I'm also very sheltered (was homeschooled by southern baptists, and have social anxiety) and to be honest I'm not close with any lgbt people in real life.

So anyway, I've come to suspect that my teenage daughter might be a lesbian...or maybe just...curious? I'm not sure. She is 15 and has never shown an interest in boys at all. When the topic comes up, she claims that she doesn't like either boys or girls, and never wants to date or get married (which if true, I believe falls under "ace").

But now I'm beginning to suspect she is a lesbian and just too afraid to tell us? She has befriended this other teen girl who is a lesbian. They have become very close very fast. And now she is constantly talking about "supporting pride" and all that. And recently she was asking me how I feel about "pride" and do I support it? And then started asking whether other family members (like her dad and her grandparents) "support pride" or not. And then I found out that this friend was sending her cartoon images of naked women (hentai). And while I'm a little uncomfortable at that, it's not real people so I figure it's pretty harmless. But now I'm really starting to think my daughter is a lesbian or maybe questioning or something?

I'm not sure how to proceed. Both me and her dad would be accepting of her if she were a lesbian. I'm pretty sure her paternal grandparents (the only ones she has a relationship with) would be too. Should I just let her tell us when she's ready? Or do you think she's still not quite sure herself? I just...I'm very sheltered and naive about it all to be honest.

5'3 athletic-build female. Started at 160 in november, hit my goal 125 in may. I've been fluctuating between 122-127 so I'm pretty happy with that. Cico isn't always easy but it does work!

I hit my goal and I've been attempting to maintain. Of course I don't actually know the correct amount of calories to aim for, so I've been starting with the lowest amount. I am finding maintenace so much more difficult, mentally anyway, than losing.

Not knowing my tdee, not knowing if gains/losses are 'real' or just fluctuations, not having a goal to work towards, not having the thrill of seeing a loss and feeling rewarded for my hard work...it's just tough.

Lately I've fallen into this cycle of eating what is obviously too much, then dieting again for several days in a row to 'undo it'...then repeating again. And I *still* don't know if I'm losing or gaining because my weight is just fluctuating up and down, and I still don't know the actual number of my tdee.

I want to eat normally...I want to just eat at tdee every day (with occasional exceptions) but instead I'm just bouncing around really high calorie days with really low calorie days. I never struggled like this when I was just dieting...I found it really easy. But now I'm struggling.

I no longer like the stuff that I used to eat all the time. I used to eat like a 5-year old that had free will lol. Cookies, donuts, Little Debbies, Hostess, candy, ice cream, all that kind of stuff. Now when I look at that stuff in the store, it just doesn't interest me at all. I just don't see the appeal. Like why did I used to get so excited over this crap lol?

Now I'm not a health-nut *at all* and don't think I ever will be. But I feel like my palate has become a little more...adult-like lol. Just today I was feeling down, and admittedly I started craving chocolate...specifically, Dove dark chocolate squares. I didn't crave M&Ms or Reeses like I used to, but rather *dark chocolate.* I just can't believe how much my palate has changed in less than a year of only eating *somewhat* better lol.