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One of my childhood friends turned 31 this year. She has a good job in IT and is financially stable, and is honestly a very kind person. But she still lives with her family in a rented house, and most of her salary goes toward supporting them financially.

The issue is that her parents don’t seem interested in her getting married because they depend heavily on her income. There’s no pressure from them regarding marriage at all, even though she personally wants to get married and have her own family.

She’s also very quiet and reserved, has never been in a relationship, and doesn’t use dating apps. On top of that, her parents are not allowing her to create a matrimony profile either, and I honestly feel that’s selfish.

Now in our entire friend circle, only the two of us are unmarried. Whenever people ask her about marriage, she can’t even tell them the real reason honestly, and I can see how uncomfortable and emotionally draining that is for her.

I feel really bad because it seems like her personal life is being sacrificed for her family’s financial comfort. Am I wrong for thinking this? How can I support her?

I’m an Indian Humanities/Social Science teacher with a teaching licence and teaching experience in the Middle East. I’m interested in teaching opportunities in Vietnam and would love to know more about the work culture, hiring process, salaries, and whether schools hire Indian teachers for Social Science subjects.

Would really appreciate any advice or experiences. Thank you!

I’m an Indian Humanities/Social Science teacher with a B.Ed teaching licence and Middle East teaching experience, and I’m interested in understanding the teaching scene in Vietnam hiring chances, salaries, work culture, visa process, and whether schools hire Indian teachers for Social Science subjects.

Would really appreciate hearing your experiences or advice. Thank you!

I went to attend a veterans sports event today and honestly, I was blown away.

What struck me first was how different these people looked compared to most others their age. The people in their 40s looked like they were in their 30s. People in their 50s easily looked a decade younger. Even many of the 70+ participants looked energetic, healthy, strong, and full of life.

And it wasn’t just about being thin.. Most of them had amazing posture, great muscle tone, confidence, and this glow that comes from staying active for years. The women especially looked radiant and happy. One of the nicest things I noticed was husbands cheering loudly for their wives during events. That support and encouragement felt really wholesome.

It made me realize how much regular physical activity changes not just the body, but the mind too. These people didn’t just look younger .. they looked alive. Happy. Social. Sharp. Independent.

Botox and fillers may help the face look younger for a while, but what about the body? You can’t fake mobility, strength, stamina, posture, energy, balance, or overall vitality. That’s what really stood out to me today. These people looked youthful because their bodies were still functioning well and staying active.

If you have a wife, husband, parents, or even friends who are hesitant to start exercising or participating in sports, encourage them gently. Support them. It can genuinely improve both mental and physical health, especially as people age.

Today genuinely changed the way I look at aging.

Guys, I found some childhood videos on an old CD from the 2000s, but now neither I nor anyone I know has a laptop/computer with a CD/DVD drive anymore. Even our CPU doesn’t have one.

I just want to copy the videos to a pendrive or phone so they’re safe and easy to watch again.

What’s the easiest way to do this?

This might sound a little strange, but I am speaking from my own experience.

​A few years ago, I started lucid dreaming. In one particular dream, I found myself in a completely different place—somewhere in Europe, I think. I saw a group of people sitting together wearing cult-like black outfits. Interestingly, I was actually in another woman's body. In the dream, she entered a room and began performing oral sex on another woman. I can still vividly recall that it tasted like a battery or a coin.

​Recently, I came across a post mentioning that women can actually taste like coins or batteries 'down there.' As a heterosexual woman, this shocked me. I still don't understand how I was able to accurately experience what that tasted like before ever knowing it in real life.

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Dear parents,

I just want to share something hilarious as a teacher: none of your secrets are safe in the classroom . Especially if you have kids in KG or primary grades. 😅

Sometimes I get substitution (when the actual teacher is absent) so I end up spending time with the little ones. And let me tell you… these children are unintentionally the funniest people alive. They speak straight from the heart with zero filter.

The things they casually reveal about their parents, home arguments and random family drama would absolutely shock you 😂.

The funniest thing is that some of them actually thinks that a teacher lives in the school itself.

When I'm outside and see them at a mall or supermarket they are in absolute shock.

I honestly love them. They're pure , honest and chaotic little humans.

Hi there teachers,

I’m a teacher from India with Middle East experience, teaching the Indian CBSE curriculum. My subject is Humanities, and I hold a B.Ed (teaching license from India) along with a masters degree.

I’m in my late 20s and, to be honest, I don’t have many years of experience yet—but I’m genuinely eager to grow into an international educator. I’ve also cleared IELTS and have been actively trying to apply to schools abroad.

I’ve applied through multiple platforms, including GEMS, but I haven’t received any responses not even rejections—which has been quite discouraging.

Is there anyone here who has been in a similar situation or managed to transition successfully? I’d really appreciate any guidance, tips, or even just hearing your experience.

Thank you in advance!

Hey everyone,

I could really use some advice.

I just got a job offer where the salary is almost the same as my previous job, but the working hours are much better (around 30 hrs vs 48 before) and overall it seems way less stressful.

The thing is… the role itself feels like a bit of a downgrade from what I was doing earlier.

I left my previous job mainly because the workload was too much to handle. This new one looks much more manageable, and also means I won’t have a gap in my career.

So now I’m stuck thinking ,is it okay to take a step down for the sake of sanity and balance? Or am I messing up my long-term growth by doing that?

Would you take it, or keep looking for something better?

Lately I’ve been wondering if anyone else feels this way. Not in a sad or immature sense, but more like… everyone around me moved on from childhood while I’m still quietly carrying pieces of it with me.

I grew up in a neighborhood full of kids around my age. We spent years together on the same roads, the same playgrounds, under the same trees. Back then it all felt permanent, like those faces and places would always exist somewhere unchanged. But now, when I look back, it feels like I’m the only one who remembers it all so vividly.

The roads, the rain, the old grounds where we played, the people who slowly disappeared from our lives. Even the silly crushes, the unspoken feelings, the tiny moments that felt so important at the time. Everyone I grew up with is scattered across different parts of the world now, living completely different lives. I wonder if they ever think about those days too, or if those memories faded naturally for them.

I live in a different city now, and sometimes when it rains, I get this strange urge to go back to my old neighborhood wearing a mask and glasses, almost like an outsider visiting a forgotten version of myself. I imagine walking through those streets in the rain, looking for familiar faces that aren’t there anymore.

Some people passed away. Trees were cut down. Small houses became apartment buildings. Everything changed so quickly while we were busy growing up.

And sometimes all I can really do is stand there, take a deep breath, and feel that bittersweet ache of remembering.

Hi , 29f , pcos. Hormonal functions seems normal in blood report. However I've been dealing with painful cystic acne for 10+ years. Now I visited an endocrinologist this time. And she suggested me Finasteride 5 mg. She told me not to get pregnant. So my doubt is has anyone used this medicine ? Google says this is for male male pattern baldness . Please share your thoughts

നട്ടുച്ച വെയിലിൽ ഒരലച്ചിലിനുശേഷം ഒന്ന് സ്വസ്ഥമായി മയങ്ങി വന്നപ്പോഴായിരുന്നു ജയിച്ച പാർട്ടിയുടെ കൃത്യം എന്റെ വീടിനു മുന്നിൽ ഗുണ്ടുപൊട്ടിച്ചു ആഹ്ലാദപ്രകടനവും റാലിയും . (മെയിൻ റോഡ് സൈഡ് ആയതുകൊണ്ടാണ് .. OP ഒരു രാഷ്ട്രീയ വിരോധിയല്ല ) അങ്ങനെ ആ ഉറക്കം പോയല്ലോ എന്നോർത്ത് പരിതപിച്ചിരിക്കുമ്പോൾ ദാ നല്ല മഴക്കാറും കാറ്റും . ഹാവു.. സന്തോഷം . എന്നാൽ ശെരി കുറച്ചു കാലങ്ങൾക്കു ശേഷം OP ഇന്നൊന്നു മഴനനഞ്ഞേക്കാം എന്ന് കരുതി. ഈവനിങ് വാക് പതിവുള്ളതാണ്. ഒറ്റയ്ക്കുള്ള ഈ നടത്തം തുടങ്ങിയിട്ട് വർഷങ്ങളായി. ഇന്നൊരു വറൈറ്റിക്കു മഴയതുതന്നെ അങ്ങ് നടന്നേക്കാം എന്ന് തീരുമാനിച്ചുറപ്പിച്ചു. അതിനുപിന്നിൽ മറ്റൊരു കാരണവുമുണ്ട് . വളർച്ച നിൽക്കണ്ട പ്രായമായിട്ടും വളർച്ച നിൽക്കുന്നില്ല എന്നതാണ് പ്രധാന പ്രശ്നം . കൃത്യമായി പറഞ്ഞാൽ ഈ ഇടയായി ശരീരം വളരുന്നതു സൈഡുകളിലേക്കാണ്. നടന്നു നടന്നു കുറച്ചധികം ചെന്ന് മണ്ടപോയ ഒരു തെങ്ങു കണ്ടപ്പോൾ തീരുമാനിച്ചതാണ് ഇങ്ങനൊന്നെഴുതണമെന്നുള്ളത് .

മഴ വരുമ്പോൾ മണ്ണിൽ ഒരു പ്രത്ത്യേകതതരം ഗന്ധമുണ്ടാകും , Petrichor എന്നാണത് അറിയപ്പെടുന്നത്. എന്നാൽ ഈ ഗന്ധംഇഷ്ടമല്ലാത്ത അപൂർവം ചില ആൽകരിലൊന്നാണ് OP . വെറും അസംബന്ധമായി ചിലർക്ക് തോന്നിയേക്കാം .കൃത്യം ലക്ഷ്യസ്ഥാനമില്ലാത്ത ഒരുതരം അന്തവുംകുന്തവുമില്ലാത്ത നടത്തം ഒരു പ്രത്യേകതരം രസമാണ് . ഇത്തരം നടത്തങ്ങളിൽ ഹെഡ്സെറ്റ് വെക്കാതിരിക്കുന്നതുകൊണ്ടുള്ള ഗുണങ്ങളെന്തോക്കെയാണെന്നു വെച്ചാൽ , ഒന്ന് നല്ലതുപോലെ ചിന്തിക്കാം , ജീവിതം ഒന്നവലോകനം ചെയ്യാം , ചുറ്റുമുള്ള കാഴ്ചകൾ കണ്ണുതുറന്നു കാണാം . പിന്നെ ഹെഡ്സെറ്റും നനയില്ല. പിന്നെ വർഷങ്ങളായി കൂടെ കൂട്ടിയ ഒരു കുട പതിവുപോലെതന്നെ തലയും തലച്ചോറും മാത്രം നനയാതെ നോക്കാൻ പ്രത്യേകം ശ്രദിച്ചിരുന്നു. ടൂഷൻ കഴിഞ്ഞു മടങ്ങുന്ന ഒരു പത്തുവയസുകാരൻ പയ്യനും ഞാനുമല്ലാതെ മറ്റാരും ആ വഴിയിൽ അങ്ങനെ നനഞ്ഞു ഞാൻ കണ്ടില്ല . സത്യത്തിൽ ആ മഴ നനയാൻ തീരുമാനിച്ച രണ്ടു പേർ ഞങ്ങൾ മാത്രമായിരുന്നു . നമ്മളിൽ എത്രപേർ മഴ കാണുന്നു എന്നല്ലാതെ മഴ നനയുന്നുണ്ട് ? പണ്ടൊക്കെ മഴയത്തിറങ്ങുവാൻ വാശി പിടിച്ചവരല്ലേ നമ്മളിൽ ചിലരെങ്കിലുമൊക്കെ ? ഇന്നിപ്പോൾ ആരും അനുവാദം തരണ്ടാത്ത പ്രായമായപ്പോൾ മഴ കാണാനും മഴ ഒന്നറിഞ്ഞു നനയുവാനും ആരുമില്ല .

OP എഴുതി മുഷിപ്പിക്കുന്നില്ല . ഇത്രയും മെനക്കെട്ടു വായിച്ചവരോട് ... ഇടയ്ക്കൊക്കെ തിരക്കുകൾ മാറ്റിവെച്ചു മഴയതൊന്നു നടക്കുക .. മഴ നനയ്ക്കുക .. ബാല്യത്തിലേക്ക് മടങ്ങുക . മഴ അനുഭവങ്ങൾ പങ്കുവെക്കുക. ഇതൊക്കെ കേൾക്കുവാൻ ഒത്തിരിപേരില്ലെങ്കിലും ആരെങ്കിലും ഒക്കെ കാണും .

F 29, healthy BMI, no hormonal imbalance in my blood test. However I have been suffering for severe cystic acne for the past 10 years. Visited a dermatologist yesterday and she prescribed me Finasteride. Is it safe for women?

F29, doctor prescribed me Finasteride 5mg for cystic acne.

F 29, with pco history. BMI and all blood tests are within the limit. However I've been dealing with cystic acne for many years. Visited an endocrinologist today and she prescribed me Finasteride. Now when I google, all I see is how this medicine helps hair growth in men. Now I am worried about taking this medicine.

Hi everyone,

anyone here taken Aldactone (spironolactone) for cystic acne? My doctor prescribed it to me today, and I’d really like to hear about your experiences.

Did it work for you? How long did it take to see results? Any side effects I should be aware of?

Guys suggest me a good endocrinologist in Kochi .

Hi guys, F29 here. I’ve been dealing with PCOS, and cystic acne is basically my only symptom. My periods are regular, and I don’t have body acne—everything shows up on my face, and it’s honestly been really hard to deal with.

I’ve consulted multiple dermatologists, and they usually prescribe isotretinoin. It works while I’m on it, but once I stop, the acne comes back again. I exercise regularly, walk, and maintain a decent diet. My weight has been increasing slightly, but nothing too concerning.

At this point, I’m confused about what to do next. Should I consult a gynecologist or an endocrinologist? Has anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice would really help.