u/Worth-yawa-tnuocca

Grew up autistic with a special interest in reading, so I somehow got an extremely useless 900 WPM reading speed. Depending on complexity, but it takes me about 2 - 2.5 hours to finish a 300 page novel. (The average is supposed to be 200-300 WPM, not sure if it’s really that accurate though.)

It’s great when you want to binge read on limited time or need to catch up on reading assignments last minute, but also doesn’t do much else. Also literally the only thing I’m good at.

Anybody have any ideas where I can use this to cheat my way through something? Or where to earn money from this? There has to be something😭.

Basically I had labs done, and got my ANA positive (1:320) as well as one antibody u1-RNP positive. The doctor said its most likely MCTD from the lab work, but my symptoms sound like Lupus so he’s sending me to get tested/looked at for both. I also had some weird results in my urin test.

I’m not here for a diagnosis, I just would love some real life experiences from other possible Lupus or MCTD people.

From the symptoms and research I’ve done most of my symptoms fall into the Lupus symptom category, but apparently lupus diagnosis normally also means you have more than the u1-rnp antibody positive like the Sm one, so I’m confused😅. I also don’t have the typical MCTD Raynaud and swelling thing. Anybody similar experiences/lab results? What was your diagnosis or how was the process for it?

What it says on the tin. Forgot them in there(ive been pausing my adhd medication in my defense😭) and now they are both sopping wet and smelling musty af. How do i get the smell out without needing to buy something for it?

Hi! Long-Time Lurker here, i dont have rats myself as mentioned, but parrots🙈. I’m obsessed with rats though, so that’s why I’m here lol. So I’m both active on the r/parrots and r/rats subreddit. And I’ve been kinda noticing how different the communities are in regard to healthy pet husbandry and asking myself why?

So: Rats need companionship to stay healthy? Right? You can’t adopt only one single rat. That’s the general consensus and I very, very, very rarely see someone on here saying otherwise. Almost all people here accept and actually put it in practice that adopting a rat needs to be happening in plural, because it would be extremely cruel to hold them alone.

Parrots are the same as rats when it comes to companionship: both are a flock/mischief species, highly intelligent, social, and need cuddling, grooming and playing behavior with other birds or rats to stay healthy. Just like rats, parrots held alone without companion can become highly depressed, anxious, or even start self-harming by over grooming and chewing on their fur/feathers, and develop obsessive behavior.
Like it’s the same! Both parrots and rats need friends and/or partners to stay healthy!!

Yet, In the parrot community i see the opposite of the rat community standard. a lot of people hold them alone - it’s very common to see parrot parents with only one adopted parrot for decades. It’s often reasoned with budget reasons, parrot personality, etc. The general idea is also that the missing bird companionship can be compensated with the human companion when needed so it’s fine to have them alone without partner or friend. even when they are at risk of depression and severe loneliness.

When I look at the rat subreddit, whenever someone shows a living set-up showing only one rat I see like dozens of people immediately flocking to call it out (respectfully), i never see people excusing it, or saying they need to just spend more time with the rat to compensate for it being alone. Its just accepted that when you do adopt you need to be prepared to adopt several, and if not then its cruel to still do so.

That’s what I don’t get: Why is the idea that rats need other rats just common sense in the rat community, but birds needing other birds still a ‘utopia-n scenario’ in the parrot community? Even though with parrot it’s the same issue, and for the same reasons? Why is the gap in humane husbandry knowledge between an average rat parent and a parrot parent this big? And why do people understand with rat ownership that they need to be held in a mischief, but don’t get the importance of a partner or flock for birds, despite both of them being a smaller species? I would love to hear thoughts on this, or if you experience it differently.

(This is not meant as hate towards the parrot community or any people holding their parrots alone, just healthy discussion and subjective observation)

Hope this doesnt come across as too negative or fits the subreddit to begin with😅

Asking this as jordanian raised abroad without parents in an european country. I’ve always been curious about how jordanians, including those living abroad see their own ‘ethnicity’.

I’ve never thought about it myself much, aside from realizing I do get treated differently based on my skin and hair sometimes. But recently someone asked me if I’m white or not, so that kinda brought it up and I’m kinda having an identity crisis about that haha.

(i know jordanians come in all colors and hair types - my sister is very pale with really light brown hair and full jordanian for example while people often think im tunisian or moroccan - so im even more curious about the answer because of that!)

I think we always try to see the best in the people we love, both sides. But the older I get and the more social skills I ‘accumulate’, the more I notice all the times my family very obviously doesn’t actively like spending time with me but still forces themselves to do it because of social convention and ‘for family spirit’. In all honesty, I already drove right past the soul crushing loneliness of it all and heading into ‘whatever’ regions about it now.

We were always a dysfunctional family and I was kind of the black sheep since toddlerhood because of my autism and very different personality, so it’s not something out of the blue to happen. I think being independent made me give myself the grace to realize it’s okay to not stay in the company of people that only go through a motion’s perfunctory without caring for my boundaries/preferences etc.

Honestly there’s not much else to add to this. Just wondering if anybody else made that experience.

[This post was brought to you by being called out for a spontaneous dinner by my sister on my birthday, who was visiting the city and was at home with the rest of my family without me (living alone) being notified.]

(Got called to a restaurant that they had discussed going to before without my involvement that didn’t have vegan options and everyone collectively ignored my birthday and presence while I ate some badly done tofu slop rice thing on the side.)

(Felt kinda icky to be called out for a family event last minute on your birthday and then have nobody acknowledge it or wish you happy birthday in person. - and For context, my other one year older sister had her birthday two weeks ago and I spent one week preparing gifts with my broke-student-money and organized a cool game event she wanted to do, they got her fav cake and we celebrated it with everyone coming out extra for this occasion. So the difference in treatment is just opening my eyes this time.)

I work in a medium corporate office in a team of about 12 people. I’m autistic and struggle with understanding how to fit in, where to small talking, when its unprofessional to do and when i should do it, etc. I’m struggling a lot with lunch break situations, and how to know who to go to, how to get myself invited etc.

It was friday today so everyone was in homeoffice, so I was alone with only two other colleagues, and my coworker turned to my other coworker and asked her what she wanted to eat and just had a whole conversation about where they want to go for lunch and what they want to do while I sat beside them without even acknowledging me or asking me about my lunch plans. Then they both stood up without looking at me and went to the kitchen to eat while talking with people from the other departments about lunch plans. Not even a word to me, while I was sitting not even half a meter beside them.
Its the third time this happened this week alone. How do I deal with this? Anybody have a clue why this is happening? Are they doing it on purpose? I tried speaking up and like starting the conversation and small talking more in general but they still ignore me and end up going without me😅

Hey Guys, i’m in the mood for a specific kind of plot where the characters around the MC discover she is being abused (either because she hides it, or doesnt realize its abuse). How to get over my husband comes to mind as a manhwa that did the reveal/build-up angst + fluffy hurt/comfort after really well.
Do yall have any good angsty recs?👉👈 anything is appreciated!! Thank you💕

GUYS IT HAPPENED 😭 I actually fucking TESTED POSITIVE/‘not normal’ for SEVERAL important markers in my test that my general doctor kept trying to tell me was ‘unnecessary’ to do ‘since im still young’ when i asked him for it

It’s actually real! Im not imagining it. I actually do have something! Its not ‘stress’ and ‘depression’ confusing me🥲 i have a whole ass test proving im not delusional and just wasting doctors times!!!!

I had the appointment with the general doctor that referred me for the blood test today too and he actually referred me to a rheumatologist and neurologist for further diagnosis BECAUSE I PROBABLY (very very likely) ACTUALLY DO HAVE SOMETHING AND I WAS NOT IMAGINING THE PAIN😭
something is actually going to happen and there might be fucking solutions! :)

I’ve never fucking felt happier about having shitty blood tests. I dunno if this is even like politically correct to share, or weird to write, but im so relieved something is actually wrong with me. Thats the post. I just really wanted to share this, maybe yall get this feeling too. Something is wrong with me and i actually feel happy about it! Thats where im at on the ‘vague ducked up constant symptoms over the years that slowly ruin my life that i keep getting told is just stress’-scale!