u/Zealousideal_Crow737

Why do men say this to women? Like our value is determined by men.

I have also heard this from women during arguments and it's such a sad internalized misogyny.

I'm feeling cranky RN. I 31F ran a 4 miler for the fourth and it was 69 dewpoint and high 70s with direct sunlight. Course was mostly flat which is nice.

The first three miles went really well. I maintained a strong and consistent pace. Went 10 seconds slower than my usual. And then mile 3 hit and I pulled over twice. My last mile was a minute slower.

I feel like I'm able to push through the mental block of quitting but the heat was SO HARD. I still can't help but feel like I failed in a way.

Can anyone relate to this?

Asking for some support and advice. I ran a 4 mile ​ this morning for the fourth. It was high 70s 70 to 80 percent humidity and mostly direct sunlight. I felt great the first 3 miles and was consistent, slower, but maintaining a strong pace.

After the third mile I bonked. I quit. I needed to take two breaks to walk. My legs felt on fire and it was SO HOT. My last mile was a minute slower than my past ones.

Other people also walked at some points and it was hard to be running in that heat. I am still incredibly disheartened because I was doing so well! It was wise not to push through with the heat, but I feel kinda like I failed for not at least slowing down my pace and trying to push through. I feel like I could have pushed myself.

Can anyone relate?

I see posts constantly raving about men that cook and clean. One even went to a pride event and he's straight!! I'm not going to award this behavior. Pretty easy to tag along to an event.

Is the bar really that low? I​t's pretty easy to attend and event. maybe I come off as antagonistic towards these women but isn't it sad to jump for joy and call this a great partner when this is just baseline?

Once you have standards and see through all the bullshit, you start to question where the quality men are at.

I understand why people settle, but that will never be me. I am at peace, but I sure get lonely.

I LOVE how normalized it has become to go to shows solo.

Also had a 22 year old at a show call me "brave" lol.

My neighbor across the street BLASTS music all day. Do I go over and kindly ask them to lower it down? I don't want to have animosity but they are older guys and as a small woman I don't want to create tension. IT IS SO LOUD. Closed windows and headphones barely do enough.

What would you do? I ask here since it's local folk.

Given their cult following, I'm worried I will miss out even if I snag tickets right when the public sale starts. I am in Boston and Roadrunner is a medium sized venue id say.

Idek the code for the AXS presale. I'm surprised I haven't been notified about it as I have before for other shows...

edit: code was easy to get notified for. I am a lemon. good luck this week everyone

My alarm was set to WEEKDAY so did not get up at 5 as intended. Anyone else do this before? I'm SO UPSET but there's not anything I can do.

I bashed my knee cap almost three weeks ago and foot strike is painful. SO UPSET because I worked through an IT band issue in December and it took MONTHS to rebuild base. It wasn't even running related and I dropped a 10K in two weeks because I rather be cautious and dropped out of a half in mid July because the long runs seems impossible RN.

Anyone else bummed out? Just know you're not alone and we'll all come back stronger.

edit: I have a docs appt next week

How do you guys manage pacing for 10Ks? Do you do small negative splits, try to maintain a certain pace?

I really struggle with 5Ks due to pace management and am a better long distance runner due to negative splits.

In January I fucked up my IT band overtraining and took off running for 2 months. Worked with PT and swam for a while. It was great and I plan to do that every year. (edit: not the IT band injury part but the swimming and a break!)

All is good. PR'd on a 5K and then a month later I SLAMMED my knee cap hard on a table. Like I'm talking SLAM. I couldn't walk, foot strikes hurt, and IM SO UPSET. I was finally building up my base from taking a few months off, and now this happens 😞.

It has improved, but I'm still running. Not asking for medical advice, and reduced mileage significantly. Getting a PT referral. I have a 10K in June that I may treat like a base run depending on how it goes. Just really bummed.

Edit: If PT says no run, absolutely won't run.

NOT ASKING FOR MEDICAL ADVICE. I rolled my ankle last week and have been taking it easy. Thankfully, no loss of balance or strength can walk with minimal pain.

I have made the dumb mistake of ignoring injuries which led to a terrible muscle tear that took me out for a month and now want to listen to my body.

For ladies who needed to take a break to rest up, did you explore any new hobbies or try new things? It can be exercise or just a silly show.

I grew up in a valley town in New England and sometimes we would get 2 hour delays due to snowstorms. There were a lot of threshold situations where you thought you would get a snow day and didn't. I hear about how the South gets classes canceled with just an inch.

With the exception of my first half, I have always just made my own filled with base runs, a long run, and finding a random speed workout online that fits the intensity of where i'm at.

Is anyone similar?

Now for my first full I will ABSOLUTELY follow a plan since that mileage is new. I just find so much overlap between plans that I feel like it's not that hard to create your own since the majority of your runs are base runs anyway.

That being said, if anyone has a speed workout they really love, let me know! Been doing tempo increases by 10 mins on and off with 400m intervals other weeks.

Went to the movies last night and a bunch of people kept checking their phone during the movie like WTF? I don't want to see your fucking iPhone on full brightness. I get that we all have screen addictions but any self awareness?

A group of girls wouldn't SHUT UP next to me during the movie. Why even go? Whispering a little I can get, but cmon.

Groups of people showing up 15 minutes into the movie. What happened? People used to not be this rude.

I live in a city and I do have some friends that are single, but a lot of them are a coupled up especially in our 30s.

We were planning a fun beach trip for Labor Day and I was totally down but it turns out that three couples are going. There's eight of us. I have no desire to go on that trip now and I'm sad that I feel like I have to opt out because this has become a couples trip when I was one of the first ones to express interest.

After being single for nearly 2 years, I (31F) realized over time that I probably don't want to get married. Keep in mind, I don't plan on having children. I have divorced parents and while they were amicable and didn't fight at ALL and had a clean cut divorce (they even went through mediators and not attorneys) it took a few years to actually finalize everything.

My sister (33F) is similar to me and been with her SO for 7 years. My cousins all ask her when she's going to get married. We both live in a city and my family is in a tiny town. They tend to see marriage as making any relationship actually meaningful, like completely validating. To them, a couple married 2 years probably looks like a stronger connection than a couple unwed that's been together 20 years.

I know it means different things to different people, but I would personally just do domestic partnership. I know so many divorced people, and a lot of those divorces were couples that everyone thought would make it. My grandmother was also in an abusive marriage and could never leave.

For anyone else, is it just not for you?

edit: I get the legal protections for a reason, but it just seems like entrapment in a way.