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'Glee' by Branvan3000 is my favourite album EVERRR and I have been yearning to find more music that sounds like this specific album. Thank you beforehand!

I rarely watch straight romance kdramas because most of the time I genuinely cannot get through them. But from the few I have watched over the years, I noticed there are so many dramas that honestly would’ve been way better as BLs instead of straight romances.

These are just the ones I can think of right now because there are definitely more that would fit this conversation. Feel free to add your own opinions on which kdramas would’ve benefited from being BLs instead.

-The Worst of Evil

The Worst of Evil would’ve hit so much harder as a BL because the tension between the two male leads already carried more emotional weight than the actual romance. Half the time it felt like they were obsessed with each other in a way the straight storyline could not even compete with.

- See you again in my 19th life

See You in My 19th Life would’ve been way more interesting as a BL because the emotional intensity already felt deeper in the male relationships than in the main romance. The whole reincarnation storyline would’ve hit harder if it centered around two men finding each other again across lifetimes instead of another generic straight pairing.

-Coffee prince

Coffee Prince already felt one step away from being a BL anyway, which is exactly why it would’ve been even better if they fully committed to it. The entire story gets more compelling when the male lead thinks he’s falling for a man and actually has to confront those feelings instead of getting the easy “she was secretly a woman” escape route.

-Weak Hero

Weak Hero Class 1 already had more chemistry and emotional attachment between the boys than most actual romance dramas. Making it a BL would’ve made the loyalty, jealousy, and protectiveness hit even harder instead of pretending all that intensity was just friendship.

This is embarassing to ask since I am a married young man who is about to become a father. I spend my teen years with heavy anorexia. I overcame the disorder eventually with alot of mental strength. For the most part staying healthy is super easy for me. Especially now as my wife is pregnant I am most of the time too busy to even get in my head too much about it but still now and again whenever I talk to my friends and family members who are deep into this entire weightloss ideology, I can't help but kind of get triggered. I've already talked to my wife about it since she is like my best friend and she knows my history but still I often find myself sitting at the dinnertable and unable to actually eat. My wife told me that I should just tell my friends and family to not speak about it in my presence but since I am a 6'2 ft fit man, they don't really take me serious and just laugh about me if I were to tell them about my struggles with ED. How do you deal with it?

Hello I am m/23. My wife and me are expecting twin sons in july. I've been trying to make this pregnancy as easy for her as possible but I feel like because it's been alot I haven't been able to do a lot of surprise dates anymore which I feel like she deserves now more than ever. Now I am trying to figure out what I could plan to do with her as a surprise that wouldn't exhaust her and ideally make her feel better/comortable. Thanks beforehand for every idea!

Hallo an alle. Ich bin m/23 und werde vorraussichtlich im Juli Vater von zwillingen (Söhne). Nun möchte ich mich so gut es geht auch auf die Geburt und was direkt danach kommt vorbereiten um meine Frau so viel wie möglich zu entlasten und auch natürlich die Rolle als Vater zu erfüllen. Deswegen habe ich nun so ein paar Fragen.

Gibt es etwas, das ihr rückblickend für die Geburt im Krankenhaus unbedingt empfehlen würdet ( Im sinne von Organisation, Dinge mitnehmen, mentale Vorbereitung)?

Welche Dinge waren bei euch mit Zwillingen wirklich unverzichtbar? Was war komplett überflüssig?

Was hat euch bei der Geburt oder den ersten Wochen mit Zwillingen am meisten überrascht positiv oder negativ?

Was kann ich tun um meiner Frau in den ersten Wochen der beste Mann zu sein, was sind so sachen an die ich selbst vielleicht nicht denken würde die aber sehr wichtig/hilfreich sind?

Ich bedanke mich bereits jetzt schon für jede Hilfe und jeden Tipp!

I am a 23 year old Muslim man who is half Kosovo Albanian and half German. I (and many other friends I have talked to) sometimes feel caught between multiple worlds. Sometimes I wish more Muslims from Arab countries, or even countries like Indonesia and Malaysia understood the experience of european Muslims before judging us. Funnily enough I have talked to some people online who weren't even aware that we exist which really confused me.

A lot of us in europe are still practicing muslims. We pray 5 times a day, fast during Ramadan, give zakah, believe in Allah and try our best to live as muslims. But our cultures, histories, and societies are different. For example albanian muslims from Kosovo (like my dad) grew up with a completely different history than many other muslim majority countries. Under Yugoslavia, religion was heavily oppressed. Many muslim families had to hide or distance themselves from religious practice for survival. Also, albanian culture has always had strong local traditions, music aswell as family customs but all of this does not suddenly erase our Islam.

And then there are people like me who are mixed. My mother is german and reverted to Islam, so german culture is part of my life too. That changes the dynamic again. European muslim identity is not one single thing and it's not as simple as for many muslims who live in islamic countries.

What frustrates me is when muslims from other part sof the world immediately judge european muslims (especially women) because they do not wear hijab or because they are seen as not religious enough. You do not know their story. You do not know their family history, their political background, their environment, or what practicing Islam looks like in their society.

A woman who does not wear hijab can still pray every day, fast Ramadan, believe sincerely, and have a strong connection to Allah. I would know because my wife is like that and also because my sisters are like that. A Muslim family can celebrate their culture and still be Muslim. Islam exists across many cultures, not only one and Islam is never linear. It can't be because it has to work across the globe in all kinds of nations and circumstances.

I think sometimes Muslims forget how diverse the ummah actually is. European Muslims, Kazakh Muslims, Asian Muslims etc. often face similar judgment because they are not culturally Arab enough in the eyes of some people.

But Islam is bigger than whatever some people try to explain to others snd practicing Islam while growing up in Europe (or any other part of the world) comes with its own challenges that many outsiders do not understand so instead of constantly judging each other, maybe we should try understanding each other more.

Hello redditors (this is my first ever reddit post wow) My wife is 22 and I am 23, but according to other people we look about 17. Most of the time it’s funny. Like for example when we get asked for our ID constantly and people think we’re some highschool couple instead of married. Stuff like this always makes us chuckle a bit. But ever since my wife got pregnant with our twins I've been noticing a shift. I’ve noticed people can get very judgemental against us.

For example when we’re shopping for baby stuff or talking about preparing for the boys, I very often catch people giving us that judgemental look. Tbh I understand that becoming parents young isn’t super common anymore. I am very much aware that most people our age aren’t married yet, let alone expecting twins, so I get when people are surprised at first. However sometimes the disrespect really does catch me off guard.

I mean when it’s directed at me I don’t care that much. I’m actually very used to people assuming I’m younger or less responsible than I actually am. I don't care what other people have to think about me. But what really triggers me is when people direct it toward my wife. I reallydislike when somebody talks down to her or gives her that judgmental stare. She’s genuinely one of the smartest and most responsible people I know. Seeing people treating her or looking at her in a certain way just really makes me mad.

Like, for example sometimes we are outside and someone will start explaining basic things to her as if she is stupid or smth. Sometimes they make comments that sound pitiful and I can immediately feel her get quieter afterward even if she pretends it doesn’t bother her. So I always try to cheer her up by complimenting her, kissing her or just simply asking her if there is something I can do for her.

This is really what makes me angry the most. Because from my perspective this pregnancy has been the most meaningful thing that’s ever happened to me in my life so far. I’m genuinely very excited to be a father. I go to work every day thinking about these two little boys and what kind of life I want to build for them but also about my wife and making sure she’s okay through all of this. I wake up one hour earlier than I used to just to make a healthy breakfast for my wife because I am worried about her constantly. Whenever she is craving something I will get into the car right away to get it for her, I always compliment her, put lotion on her belly every night, clean the house whenever I can I do everything I can to make the pregnancy easier for her and for her to feel cherished and loved. I do this because I love her, my children and because this is what every man should do (so I ahve been taught) This is why it annoys me when men over twice my age who can't even gift their poor wifes a single bouquet of flowers, can't even help around the house or be attentive towards their wifes trying to tell me that I am childish, don't know how to be a man and should have made different desicions when infact I am nothing but happy with my decisions, even if it isn't easy all the time.

My wife and I spend weekends going through flea markets looking for baby things because we’re trying to be responsible financially. We spend alot of time together, hang out with friends and give each other the strenght we need.

But tbh I feel like being mixed has made the reactions around us really interesting sometimes. For context both me and my wife are both half german and half kosovo albanian.

On the Albanian side of our families and from Albanians in general the reaction is excitement. Becoming parents young is still pretty normal in the culture. People are happy for us. They often ask about the babies and joke about how we’re becoming real adults now.

But on the German side it feels completely different sometimes (this si were all the judgement comes from)

There’s definitely more skepticism with germans. Sometimes it feels as if people assume we’re irresponsible before they know anything about us. Which is frustrating because both my wife and I have stable jobs, we pay our bills. We’re genuinely trying our best to build a good life for our kids. I mean we’re not pretending to have everything figured out but I really don’t think becoming parents young automatically means you’re a failure either. To us it feels very normal and happy and peaceful. I hate that people mistake looking young for being immature.

Like okay, fair I maybe still look like I should be asking permission to stay out late. But I’m also a married man who loves his wife very much and is counting down the days until he gets to meet his sons. It’s acutally a strange experience. Isn't it?

Anyway, not really a serious post. Just a little yap session. I was just wondering if other younger looking people experience this too.