u/akamikasa

I have two cases, both coinciding with this theme:

1. Cousin (19M): Uncle smacks the sh*t out of him for not doing the trivial stuffs right. That boy is such a bliss and a kind hearted soul, I genuinely feel sad and remorseful for how is he treated. I have tried talking my Uncle through it but it seems the solution is temporary. My cousin is preparing for competitive exams+ boards. He constantly complains of headaches because of stress. I do try to help him as much as I can, but unfortunately he still has to go through it because I am reminded that he is not ‘my child’.

2. Cousin (26F): She is such a caring soul, the only problem is her parents aren’t letting her enter the workforce and rather making her waste her years for UPSC and other competitive exams (a thing of pride apparently, they tried to project that on me as well). I genuinely feel sad for her coz she is not gaining anything out of this situation atp, I mean if she is lucky then I would be very happy for her…. But if not, she will be quite behind in terms of having marketable skills in order to make her own money. Furthermore, her parents are persistent on getting her knots tied to some doctor guy asap. I fear she would be trapped in it.

Whenever anyone tells me that parents love unconditionally, I turn it down because that’s not true. You need to fulfil their dreams, be a person THEY WANT U TO BE, have a career THEY APPROVE OF (govt job precisely), marry a partner THEY FIND FOR YOU ( regardless of what your current footing is).

Unless you don’t abide by them, there is no love and kindness for you.

Before you come at me, ik there are good parents and stuff, but this post isn’t about them. + speaking of the sacrifices, they consciously chose to bring a child in this world, they OUGHT TO take care of it. This is called bearing responsibilities for your choices.

I am still trying to wrap my head around one of the comments calling him - Pop culture ka sher-e-baloch.

I tried to understand his writing and works all this while, they are moderately good… more on the average edge given the current state of what people find intriguing.

He is not outright bad, but I am sorry 😭 he isn’t as intelligent as the internet claims him to be…

His persona sits at a sweet spot which does make him likeable, though I have noticed that he slightly tries a bit hard to appear intellectually smart. (Which actually doesn’t land on its own). + he kinda has a caricatur-ish diction (speaking right from the epiglottis)

To add further, his articulation (given what he writes on his stories) is quite commendable… but again good writing and sentence structuring≠ high quality point.

If you actually read those sentences through a simple english lens, they would oftentimes would fall flat. (I am not talking about his witty remarks but his usual verbosity)

His smaller bits and oxymorons are again cool…

In totality, I do think he has a substance, but those sher-e-baloch/ hot intellectual nerd comments throw me off guard.

The entire framing of what mental cruelty to a man in a marriage is so regressive oftentimes. She is not cooking, she is not doing laundry, she is not serving, and now the lack of costume.

I genuinely think atp that laws made for women in a marriage very much operate from a patriarchal lens. Especially the bench! Very old and orthodox mentality people running the modern day judiciary system and sadly wasting people’s time.

I previously posted about how courts become unsupportive when women enter a state of withdrawal from sex, this was one of the driving thoughts behind it.

“ Men are biologically wired to cheat” NO THEY ARE NOT!?

What body part enables cheating in men? I assume a similar body part exists in women too, but women aren’t mean to cheat or ‘are biologically programmed to have multiple partners’.

I cannot get over the fact that all these big dudes would go to lengths to justify their sexual desires regardless of what other person wants.

So as a wife, if you cannot keep up with your husband’s drive then - he should be cheating??????

WTH?????

Its not even an uneducated person’s problem because people with proper education and good background do that.

No wonder why a lot of women cave into doing the deed to save their relationship/marriage because they fear adultery and abandonment. (More like made to fear)

In a country where withdrawal is the only way for women to feel safe in their marriages. Court too becomes unsupportive and makes it a ground of divorce.

I have heard cases where husbands think of divorcing their wives for not consummating with them in 6 months of marriage.

In this country women don’t get to participate in intercourse, it’s something that happens to them. And the society and so the law and order ensures that you know it well.

Why this expectation of consummation with no desire isn’t considered cruelty to women? No one thinks of it inside the court, is a man an only being of desires? Why no sex is considered cruelty to a man????

Many ppl don’t get to have sex till in their 30s, will that too amount as cruelty???

Why sex to a man in marriage is a basic need but a woman’s desire to not have it someday or later isn’t??

If we are constitutionally equal then why such a discrimination?

Also, it turns my stomach on the fact that how marriage is sold to young men as an open pass to justify their kinks and desires.

It’s just something behind this mentality which extremely feels vile.

I hate how ppl come after women who get into a state of withdrawal that they are being ‘selfish’. SELFISH???
Protecting oneself from the alleged horrors of being exposed to weird kinks and unnatural sex is selfish?

Protecting one’s own sanity for not being appreciated in the bed is selfish?

Protecting oneself from possible tears and infections and in worse cases extensive bleeding is selfish?!!

Where is selfishness here????

Edit: I can read those comments that were removed, you all talk about separation as it doesn’t come with any cost. Aren’t you aware that marriages like such lead to severe torment of a woman?

Also, oftentimes children are involved in the picture who are no longer supported by their fathers because mother chose separation.

A man’s lust get to decide who will have how much of a support, especially when it comes to land and property for children, just because the man and wife aren’t together, children are made to pay a price.

Either those commenters are out of touch with reality and ongoing cases in family court or they are simply pseudo-intellectuals who hate women.

This isn’t a about a specific film, but the common air all these films and others had back in the days.

I kid you not, atp I am not even nostalgia baiting. These movies had a unique sense of earthiness and touch of reality to them. ( I have just attached a few here though)

Even the rogue kinda films had their own charm, air, and language.

I always go back to these films especially pre 2010, because the background detailings were well taken care of.

I can hear crickets, the crowd, the bushes, even the wind while the characters are exchanging dialogues. It just feels so natural and better than whatever we have today.

I am honestly not a fan of ‘no-noise background’ because it doesn’t hit the nail fairly.

Also the lack of reverberation…. The voices don’t have that ‘goonj’ when enacted inside. The walls are mere a decor that no longer add to the storytelling….

I just wish the production choices on the audio and sound department shouldn’t have changed, the crafted muteness and silence is just an overkill.

Sometimes the more isn’t always the merrier, given how people feel about Rahul Jaikar (ML) nowadays.

Aashiqui 2 has been one of those movies which will forever have a sweet spot in my heart.

However, nowadays there is a surge of new viewers apparently who idk… want to see this plot from a black and white lens.

Where they straight away call /consider Rahul selfish and often a loser and Arohi a victim.

But, for those who have felt this movie, they can attest that Rahul too was a victim of his fate, even before he crossed paths with Arohi.

Imagine being on the peek of your stardom to be nobody down the years. Entertainment industry is such that one day someone is one cloud 9 but the very next moment a lost cause.

The amount of emotional and mental grief one has to deal with that too while paps talking BS about you. Your identity is slowly weathering and work is drying up.

The pain has surpassed its metaphorical limits and now is so physically hurtful that you just wish everything to end for all.

That was what Rahul had been drowning in…

A lot of viewers were of an opinion that if he had tried enough they could be happy, but he was trying! From waking up to showing up everyday for Arohi, he was trying to make things better.

The challenge with therapy is that even after all the sessions one may still find themselves at square 1. The journey isn’t linear.

Rahul’s self identity was very much tied to his career, hence by making Arohi reach heights we was getting his little ray of sunshine.

Though reality kicked in, and no sooner than he realised that if he doesn’t do anything, two lives would be affected.

I don’t support his final act. But at the same time I understand him and his grief.

He was not selfish, he was protecting Arohi from him and his shadow.

Edit: This movie was specifically set in a specific year, so we have to consider the socio-economic climate of that time, discussing mental health was a major Taboo and could have been used against you by your rivals, especially in the entertainment industry if the word got out.

This movie is a big fat lecture on how evil you are if you wanna go nuclear. How dare you live separate even if everyone is drowning and has no food and resources to themselves in a joint family.

You are completely selfish to choose proper stay, light and water while your extended family and in-laws (of Karishma) are half way deep into the swamp.

“Ek dil hai” song is currently trending from this movie. The entire crux of that song is that even after her father’s logical warnings, the girl still chooses her love WHO BTW DITCHES/DISTANCES HIMSELF WHEN SHE IS HEAVILY PREGNANT.

The only ask of the FL was to have a life with her husband where no one comes in between their love, however, just like any other Bollywood movie, the concept of passionate romance flies over the ML and he is suddenly reminded of his drowning family who btw kicked him out (I mean there is a justification to it but he didn’t know it)

THE MAIN PAIN POINT:

The ML kidnaps his only newly birthed child from the hospital, right on the face of FL because how dare she keep him away from the child. 🫩🫩🫩

BROTHER YOU CANNOT BREASTFEED THAT NEW BABY 😭

I hated how adamant ML was to prove that Karishma is selfish all meanwhile they were divorced and she delivered the baby right away.

All this ruckus was for her to understand how his own mother would be feeling (A mother of 30yr old btw) when you separate her son from her.

As if a 30yr old and a newborn are same🥀

After balling her eyes out in pain and depression she finally reconciles after the divorce. Mind you the guy didn’t think he might be misunderstanding even by the slightest.

Also on a side note I would love to know what do you think this work conveys?

Edit: Thanks for everyone who stopped by and liked and dropped their heartful remarks 😃. I know this work isn’t one of my strongest… yet y’ll took a moment to appreciate it.

Thanks again ❤️, I hope your heart is always filled with joy and whimsy and you enjoy your artwork regardless of the outcome. 💓

Edit 2: Those who have said that making something bad like this, they would rather use AI tells a lot about how y’ll feel about art. If not perfect and to the point, you won’t try…¿ That defeats the purpose of what ART is meant to be…. Bad art is still art, there is nothing to feel bad about something you put your genuine efforts in.

AI generates ‘image’, humans make Art, PERIOD!

I have completed this movie in literally 10 sittings because what the 🦆 was wrong the male lead?

That random ‘ayyye….’ And unnecessarily acts of masculinity were straight up cringe 😬. I honestly have nothing good to say about Maddy 😭.

But the problem doesn’t end there… Reena is literally a CA, and as per the story a sensible woman… then why the 🦆 she chose MADDY AFTER ALL OF THAT THAT TOO WITH HAPPPYYY TEARSSS???? 😭😭😭😭

The only tolerable and slightly sensible character was of Saif’s, who unfortunately had to be cornered because apparently if you are sensible and good, you are meant to 💀 single as per Bollywood.

Love can only happen between a rogue/obnoxious/mean/toxic man and an educated yet unreliable woman who even after being a victim of identity theft and false promises would love you back….

Because…….

As per Bollywood even as the most educated woman, you could never out smart a college rookie.

ANd thats a rule 🥀

Edit: Those who are saying it is just a movie, well in one scene he made Reena feel small ( because she got to know who he really was) because if there would have been someone else at his place they could have **** her????

A lot of people still love this movie and look upto it, and it is quite unsettling when a ML like such is in their like list.

Also it was not made in stone age, Identity theft has been a serious issue back then as well, especially when it comes to intimate relationships.

This whole movie is basically an outstretched pre-wedding montage where 90% of the plot is wedding preparations and nothing else….

Like if the movie could have touched the nuances and stuff which happens during a marriage I might have considered that…

However, both of the leads are infatuated in the first meet and daydream of one another. It is like BTS of a wedding overall….

I would though, give credits for the execution as even after no such meaningful plot in the most obvious sense, the movie worked out well among the viewers.

I remember how my aunts were mesmerised when this came out and were awestruck by Shahid’s Charm.

Some might say that Choti and other characters added some depth to the story, however, it didn’t actually materialise to anything meaningful….

Like colorism was shown only for the name sake… and other such sub plots didn’t lead to something that could have added richness to the plot.

Throughout the movie FL is just blushing, daydreaming or is shy 🫩, and btw male lead is the same too…

Again, the execution was well done and people liked the chemistry of leads, hence it is still one of the beloved movies for millennials.

I mean the title is kinda self-explanatory 😅. Had Amitabh planned his retirement properly, this 3hrs of montage wouldn’t have taken place.

In today’s day and age, the movie clearly strikes on how someone should save a corpus for pension or take a reverse loan on their bungalow rather than letting it catch dirt.

Had he had rented it/loaned it out, both Amitabh and Hema would have a sweet and harmonious old-age life without having the need to depend on their children.

I mean there were so many other ways than crying like that in the movie 😅, all the needed was a proper retirement planning.

Edit: Someone mentioned that he was a MANAGER in a bank, it is pretty diabolical how being a manager you didn’t care about your retirement funds and planning, YOU LITERALLY SELL THAT TO PEOPLE 🫩🥀!!!!

I still look back on this serial, and I somehow still don’t understand where was THE MESSAGE THAT WAS PROMISED IN THE TRAILER?

I remember each sub plot of this stupid montage 😭 only waiting for her to invent the wheel or bring some massive change to the dynamics. Hardly anything happened….

To say the least she was a regular human being and a regular bahu stuck among the goons.

The trailer, I properly remember showed her standing against the eve teasing and harassment in bus and on the road.

But when it came to the serial, she unfortunately succumbed to the pressure exerted by Krishna.

A bold female lead was promised, but somehow she was rather docile when it came to her… I mean did had her moments of ‘standing’ but they only came after when the water flew over the brim.

I still don’t know what this serial aimed for? WHAT WAS THAT - MANN KI AWAAZ??????