u/akamikasa

It’s clear as water that every human being should know how to do the basic house chores, however, there happens to be a rebuttal to the very idea, especially among young girls and here’s why:

1. Gendered labour: Only a daughter is expected to do extensive chores around the house, meanwhile men get to have a leeway.
2. Undefined KPIs: ik very corporate-ish, but think about it… how clean is too much clean? Where we call it a stop? If you live in an area that has alot of flying dust, I don’t see it that reasonable to mop the surroundings every other second, same for cooking and other chores. + Rest is heavily villainised.
3. The Head woman/man gets to decide how things have to be around the house: This is my story, when I was young and wanted to help my mother anytime around the house, she used to redo everything because she thought anything I did was a bad performance. Her reason? Because it wasn’t done her way.

I remember making tea for my father early morning and so for her so that she can have an easier start. The very thing my mother used to do was to throw it away, EVERY SINGLE DAY….

It had gotten so bad, that I stopped doing it altogether. She never approved of my ways of doing things.

4. Over performance anxiety: this entire trope of women wanting other women to be uneasy at minute spec of dust or toys thrown around the house is very problematic. The dust is somehow a metaphor of one’s own bad performance and their dedication of household work. But that’s pure BS. Where ever people live, there would things here and there…. The sofa cover would be slightly disoriented, the cushions might be laying flat around. It is very much expected out of a woman to live with this constant state of anxiety to prove everyone that she is actually doing and keeping things together. Infact one is more likely to be shamed if they are not anxious.

I am extremely tired of reading and watching women to tear each other apart because one doesn’t align with their idea of feminism and cult mentality.

It doesn’t matter if you:

1. Wear any length of clothes
2. Dye your hair any color
3. Get conservative/non-conservative idea of piercing
4. Apply makeup or go bareface
5. Vegan or an active meat consumer
6. Theist or Atheist or Agnostic

AS LONG AS YOU ARE RATIONAL ABOUT SOCIO POLITICAL DIPOLE, you are a feminist.

There is nothing like a perfect feminist, however, as long as you are willing to adapt for better or change you are doing it correctly.

Feminism isn’t a costume, it is a movement. A woman in ghunghat ( veil against her will) can make a lot of sense than someone who doesn’t.

Let’s just put a full stop on tearing on other apart on the name of -if you are really a feminist because you indulge in any of the things listed above.

Remember, a woman is allowed to make a choice, however, not all choices be inherently feminist. But before tearing one other apart, do try to give them a benefit of doubt on whether such abolishment is actually a possibility for them or not.

It is a journey and a massive learning curve. Things which I can abolish might cause someone their lives. Hence, instead of challenging the very person… we should identify the root cause and target that instead.

Similarly, quite a lot of us would be either agnostic or theist, though religion and practices might not favour us, I cannot expect everyone to give up on it and move ahead in life. Such massive social constructs come with pre assigned punishments. I can be an atheist tomorrow and nothing would change, but in a religiously dogmatic family, a woman might not be able to do that. However, it doesn’t mean that she inherently holds no credibility to become a feminist, as long as she learns, speaks and propagates rationality for women welfare. She is a feminist.

I know my take could be quite ambiguous for some, but I think it is needed to be addressed.

like literally the only concern these ppl have is the breach of assumed virginity of an unmarried woman, her health is literally thrown out of window.

The WAND IS SUPPOSED TO penetrate for screening of uterus and ovaries and the overall health of the female reproductive health.

It is such a hush hush thing still today in 2026. A random unseen man’s right to a woman’s virginity is overriding her own autonomy? Cmon man….

Let the woman be screened for PMOS and other necessary issues.

There is a lot of push to this idea but also a lot of support. I personally think that it boils down to an individual and any of the generalisation wouldn’t be correct.

It’s my personal take again, but if a man cannot maintain obsolete platonic bonds with women (friendships), there is something deeper to be addressed. It goes both ways….

I do understand that a lot of these friendships could have an hideous intent, and that’s quite unfortunate…

But again, would like to know from ladies out here.. how’s your equation with male friendships, what new /bad perspective was added into your life?

I got to know quite a lot of married women do 50-50 while living in a joint family setup that too with in-laws.

I AM SORRY????

This isn’t how 50-50 is supposed to do done!?

You and your partner has a seperated house, then only you have to give 50% of the bills. Not with having other dependent people in the house and giving your due share.

Unfortunately, that’s leaching…. Wives nowhere get an explicit ownership of house or husband’s property, since husband has been the primary beneficiary of his parents care, he needs to shoulder all that by himself. You could be a secondary contributor in the time of need, but apart from that you aren’t supposed to serve or pay for their livelihood.

Rather, women need to take care of their own parents 😭.

The Indian sense of 50-50 is soooo wild. You are literally doubling down on risks while minimising safety net.

What’s the point of being independent if this is how women are treated at the end of the day? It is borderline human trafficking atp. You serve and youARE THE ONE WHO PAYS FOR THEM?????

I am filled with rage and agony on how quite a lot of women are jumping on the bandwagon of abolishing reservation but caste itself.

They think by being an ally they would automatically get an equal treatment????

Oh pls, this will never happen….

Casteism is intertwined with misogyny sharing the same evil roots. You speaking of your UC identities all meanwhile snatching the only opportunity of representation, would somehow make you an equal to UC men??????

are you living under a rock or something? First they would go after caste, then for you!

Ancient texts, especially writings of manusmriti and clearly depicted women to be mindless and compared them to animals when it comes to punishment.

Please use your brains for the sake of God 🙏

I have come to a realisation that right from the moment a girl child is born, the primary thought that is brought is not that she would do wonders in life or achieve big things but rather that they will get married someday.

Like why you have to whine about marriage now? She is just born, let her acclimatise first.

And secondly, is marriage a chronic illness or something THAT OCCURS TO A WOMAN? That too to your new born daughter????? Wouldn’t you stand with her or something?????? I genuinely don’t see a point in this crying and melo drama.

It is covertly misogynistic! She is just a child for god sake.

What if she doesn’t wishes to get married down the line?

I am not able to point finger at the exact thing that leads to fetishisation of women within their own families through songs and neysay statements like - “devar bhabhi xyz”, “pados ki bhabhi xyz” and the cult classic saali aadhi gharwali.

I thought the entity of the marriage and family was supposed to protect the women, atleast within the family…..

But then I get to listen to cases of husband’s brother eyeing on his wife (be it elder or younger). The damaad is eyeing on bhabhi… damaad is eyeing on wife’s sister….

It is soo ridiculous…..