I am surprised but not shocked. The entire institution of marriage whether you are dependent or not, ensures entrapment of women.
Especially when it comes to intimacy, the institution of sex in a marriage is only and only based on patriarchal standards (speaking of heterosexual marriages only here wrt the context)
A lot of women bear such humiliation in silence…
My fav comment I read on a post till date is—
The right wing and left wing shakes their hand in the brothel.
It is easier to identify a RW misogynist man because they are kinda straight forward. But, when it comes to liberals or LW men who often call themselves as feminists, the entire story takes a steep turn.
This isn’t an obsolete generalisation so don’t take it and project it that way.
However, the number of male feminists I see and have around are super shady. They are literally calling themselves a feminist all meanwhile clutching onto the benefits of patriarchy and stealing ideas and thoughts—word to word of female feminists while putting it like their own revelations.
Even if we keep this aside, they are spiteful asf. And not at all intersectional, unless a woman fits their worldview and aesthetics they would be a bum to her either directly or covertly.
The bizarre part is that they happen to say all the right things. But when you notice them, they don’t do the walk they talk. Treat their partners/flings weirdly and have a certain degree of superiority complex.
I don’t think so that many of them actually imbibe the feminist values which they talk of. And also, ik controversial, I kinda find all of this pretty performative, especially to score a chance with a woman. Because that’s what I see around.
Further, they want your feminism to be palatable to them in such a fashion that you don’t trigger or shake their authority.
Rockstar features RK in his most power packed performance, probably one of the best in his career trajectory.
His acting, location, his sense of acclimation to the nuances and eventually becoming the ‘One’ was so on point.
However, what vexes me is the over justification or I must say, the over fantasisation of his character and dynamics he shared with the female lead.
That entire love story was a cesspool of a mess 😭, my major problem with that is that how deeply his character lacks consciousness and consideration for Heer.
Even on her deathbed, he chases her does the deed because of which (most likely) she collapsed. But even before that I might be making a controversial statement here, Heer isn’t perceived as a Human by Janardhan.
She just happens to be an amalgamation of apparently some exotic traits which rushed his oxytocin. Yk… someone’s muse.
He does feel for her, there is definitely a flame of limerence running through his veins, but is limerence everything? I don’t expect him to be perfect. And honestly, I think the plot was also very telling that he lacks consciousness.
My rift is rather with the edits and those movie reviewers who happen to read between the lines of his character which actually doesn’t exist to begin with.
As if there is an unsaid nuance behind is lacking (I am very sure the plot meant otherwise), he is bound to be a highly flawed person. I kinda don’t like when people try to cover up his flaws by giving bandaid logic. His flaws are bound to be like that… something that rubs you, pricks you and might make you bleed.
Let Janardhan be a flawed person for all at once.
Everyone is mocking her style of opening up and lacking ‘grace’. But, what wrong she has exactly done? In fact she is the one being wronged and subjugated to utter humiliation for so many years.
Grace my foot tbh!
You spoil someone’s life and demand them to act gracefully, tells a lot about you as a person.
If you cannot shame Govinda for adultery, don’t shame Sunita for being a victim of it.
She doesn’t have to be a sati savitri in order to have her voice being heard.
Edit: A lot of people in comments are speaking on her rebuttal to affair as a normal thing, I want you all to understand the context behind it rather than taking it all at its face value.
Also there is never a perfect victim! A messy person can be wronged too, that doesn’t absolve their severity of pain just because they weren’t a saint to begin with.
Quite a lot of you are calling her a clout chaser, but does that absolve what she has been through? Two things can co exist without nullifying one another. If your excuse to not understand her plight is that she doesn’t fit your idea of a victim. We have a bigger fish to fry.
It’s clear as water that every human being should know how to do the basic house chores, however, there happens to be a rebuttal to the very idea, especially among young girls and here’s why:
I remember making tea for my father early morning and so for her so that she can have an easier start. The very thing my mother used to do was to throw it away, EVERY SINGLE DAY….
It had gotten so bad, that I stopped doing it altogether. She never approved of my ways of doing things.
I am extremely tired of reading and watching women to tear each other apart because one doesn’t align with their idea of feminism and cult mentality.
It doesn’t matter if you:
AS LONG AS YOU ARE RATIONAL ABOUT SOCIO POLITICAL DIPOLE, you are a feminist.
There is nothing like a perfect feminist, however, as long as you are willing to adapt for better or change you are doing it correctly.
Feminism isn’t a costume, it is a movement. A woman in ghunghat ( veil against her will) can make a lot of sense than someone who doesn’t.
Let’s just put a full stop on tearing on other apart on the name of -if you are really a feminist because you indulge in any of the things listed above.
Remember, a woman is allowed to make a choice, however, not all choices be inherently feminist. But before tearing one other apart, do try to give them a benefit of doubt on whether such abolishment is actually a possibility for them or not.
It is a journey and a massive learning curve. Things which I can abolish might cause someone their lives. Hence, instead of challenging the very person… we should identify the root cause and target that instead.
Similarly, quite a lot of us would be either agnostic or theist, though religion and practices might not favour us, I cannot expect everyone to give up on it and move ahead in life. Such massive social constructs come with pre assigned punishments. I can be an atheist tomorrow and nothing would change, but in a religiously dogmatic family, a woman might not be able to do that. However, it doesn’t mean that she inherently holds no credibility to become a feminist, as long as she learns, speaks and propagates rationality for women welfare. She is a feminist.
I know my take could be quite ambiguous for some, but I think it is needed to be addressed.
The famous Vampire diaries ML, damon salvatore aka Ian Somerhalder openly admitted in one of his exchanges that he had played with his wife’s contraceptive pills in order to have a child.
Though, nikki freed (his wife) played along and had a child, it raises brow on how normalised reproductive coercion is!
I can recall the degree of shaming Nina Dobrev got for breaking up with Ian because she wasn’t ready for marriage and children and he was persistent with his pursuits.
There is a huge chunk of fans of Ian as Damon in India who literally hero worship him and call Nina dirty names btw.
Mind you, such malpractice and reproductive coercion is a recognised crime in several countries.
like literally the only concern these ppl have is the breach of assumed virginity of an unmarried woman, her health is literally thrown out of window.
The WAND IS SUPPOSED TO penetrate for screening of uterus and ovaries and the overall health of the female reproductive health.
It is such a hush hush thing still today in 2026. A random unseen man’s right to a woman’s virginity is overriding her own autonomy? Cmon man….
Let the woman be screened for PMOS and other necessary issues.
There is a lot of push to this idea but also a lot of support. I personally think that it boils down to an individual and any of the generalisation wouldn’t be correct.
It’s my personal take again, but if a man cannot maintain obsolete platonic bonds with women (friendships), there is something deeper to be addressed. It goes both ways….
I do understand that a lot of these friendships could have an hideous intent, and that’s quite unfortunate…
But again, would like to know from ladies out here.. how’s your equation with male friendships, what new /bad perspective was added into your life?
I got to know quite a lot of married women do 50-50 while living in a joint family setup that too with in-laws.
I AM SORRY????
This isn’t how 50-50 is supposed to do done!?
You and your partner has a seperated house, then only you have to give 50% of the bills. Not with having other dependent people in the house and giving your due share.
Unfortunately, that’s leaching…. Wives nowhere get an explicit ownership of house or husband’s property, since husband has been the primary beneficiary of his parents care, he needs to shoulder all that by himself. You could be a secondary contributor in the time of need, but apart from that you aren’t supposed to serve or pay for their livelihood.
Rather, women need to take care of their own parents 😭.
The Indian sense of 50-50 is soooo wild. You are literally doubling down on risks while minimising safety net.
What’s the point of being independent if this is how women are treated at the end of the day? It is borderline human trafficking atp. You serve and youARE THE ONE WHO PAYS FOR THEM?????
Pata Hai Aaj Kya Hua? I was looking back at my sketchbook and I saw this sketch, and I felt like I should share this story with everyone. Kyunki the day I made it, I live in a society where power cuts are not that frequent.
But the day I was making it, power cuts were very frequent. Like whenever I used to pick the pencil up, a power cut was supposed to happen. And then within a minute or so, the lights used to come back to normal. It had happened approximately five to six times before I had to stop and cover the sketch with a piece of paper.
I could feel my ears to be full and goosebumps, and it was such an eerie feeling. I eventually completed the sketch in the daytime then.
She is a foreign content creator, but regardless of from she comes from, the point remains valid.
The disgusting mental gymnastics some perverted fathers do in our country with their own daughters is blood boiling. Staring at their thighs, getting uncomfortable by their drying panties and bra in the balcony, making them wear dupatta all meanwhile they are in a loose t shirt, and the list goes on….
They tie up the autonomy of their own daughters so that they don’t get sexual feelings for them.
These kind of men can never see their offspring as a human being but a club of sexual organs and an object of desire.
A few even go further and do the most disgusting shit to them, reason? To teach her a lesson or to make her ready for marriage 🤮.
But in this whole situation I am overtly mad at the mothers too who act per se and let things happen and even worse, side with their husband.
I am filled with rage and agony on how quite a lot of women are jumping on the bandwagon of abolishing reservation but caste itself.
They think by being an ally they would automatically get an equal treatment????
Oh pls, this will never happen….
Casteism is intertwined with misogyny sharing the same evil roots. You speaking of your UC identities all meanwhile snatching the only opportunity of representation, would somehow make you an equal to UC men??????
are you living under a rock or something? First they would go after caste, then for you!
Ancient texts, especially writings of manusmriti and clearly depicted women to be mindless and compared them to animals when it comes to punishment.
Please use your brains for the sake of God 🙏
It is especially true for our country that pipes down romance as manipulation propaganda especially to women, or else why they would engage in the mechanical worldly affairs???
I cannot emphasise on this enough, romance a genre is heavily designed for women to be deluded by how actually the world operates.
I have come to a realisation that right from the moment a girl child is born, the primary thought that is brought is not that she would do wonders in life or achieve big things but rather that they will get married someday.
Like why you have to whine about marriage now? She is just born, let her acclimatise first.
And secondly, is marriage a chronic illness or something THAT OCCURS TO A WOMAN? That too to your new born daughter????? Wouldn’t you stand with her or something?????? I genuinely don’t see a point in this crying and melo drama.
It is covertly misogynistic! She is just a child for god sake.
What if she doesn’t wishes to get married down the line?
The stitched video is quite nuanced and self explanatory. Romance is majorly targeted at women. And it does have a defined goal post.
Without romance, women might be able to see the arrangements for what they exactly are. It’s the desire of romance that continues the supply of women in the dating pool, without ensuring the same degree of desire in men.
Men are sold a different picture altogether, to carry lineage and responsibilities. How often u see an active attempt of romantic movies trying to ignite consciousness and empathy among men?
Especially speaking of cinema in Bollywood, it is oftentimes a woman who daydreams 24x7 and builds castles of lies in her head about an ordinary man.
Then by the end of it, she gives up on herself or her rational desire only to save her relationship and marriage. Men in many movies, with the same theme of ‘imperfect guy’ getting the perfect love, hardly budges from his stance.
And not just in Bollywood it is literally any cinema, serial that is made in our country.