I was struggling with self-reflection and journaling, I used to start writing and feel like i am writing the same thing over days and when i sit to reflect it does not made any sense. I tried using apps and tools but they were of no help. So I have build an app that tells you your patterns after few of your entries of mood, moments(small-wins) and reflections throughout the day after few days of use. Based on the entries we are providing reflection prompts which can help user to go deeper. We also have AI guide that takes all your entries as context so if you discuss something with it, it is not blank.

We have changed the onboarding and today screen a few times as we were using it and were not inspired by it. No I think the today screen is doing the thing and easier to track and use the app. Now I use it daily and am getting to know myself better.

So I needed feedback regarding what do you guys think about the onboarding and the whole experience.
here is the link to the app: https://apps.apple.com/in/app/keikoai-discover-yourself/id6749801900
It is available on playstore and appstore.

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We’ve been living in Surat for years and working remotely for almost 10 years.

One thing we’ve consistently struggled with is meeting like-minded people. Not formal networking, just people who are working remotely, freelancing, building things, learning, experimenting with ideas, or interested in meaningful conversations.

We had a similar struggle as students too. You can learn almost anything online, but practical guidance, collaboration and having the right people around you are much harder to find.

So we’ve been wondering: what if Surat had a collaborative work café?

Not exactly a coworking office or a regular café. Just a comfortable, affordable place where WFH professionals, freelancers, students and other curious people can:

• Sit and work for a few hours with good Wi-Fi, desks and reasonably priced coffee/food
• Work quietly without being expected to socialise
• Meet people working or learning in different fields
• Start casual group discussions around AI, tech, design, business, careers, etc.
• Share what they’re working on or something practical they’ve learned

Someone could simply post, “Anyone interested in discussing AI agents this Saturday?” A few interested people grab a table and talk. Everyone else carries on with their work.

No forced networking, motivational talks or pretending everyone is a founder.

We’re not announcing a café. We’re exploring whether other people in Surat have felt this same gap and whether a community like this could be useful.

Would you regularly spend time at a place like this? What would make you actually come back every week?

Maybe there are more of us here than we realise.

edit: shorter post
We’ve been living in Surat for years and working remotely for almost 10 years.

One thing we’ve consistently struggled with is meeting like-minded people. Not formal networking, just people who are working remotely, freelancing, building things, learning, experimenting with ideas, or interested in meaningful conversations.

We had a similar struggle as students too. You can learn almost anything online, but practical guidance, collaboration and having the right people around you are much harder to find.

So we’ve been wondering: what if Surat had a collaborative work café?

Not exactly a coworking office or a regular café. Just a comfortable, affordable place where WFH professionals, freelancers, students and other curious people can:

• Sit and work for a few hours with good Wi-Fi, desks and reasonably priced coffee/food
• Work quietly without being expected to socialise
• Meet people working or learning in different fields
• Start casual group discussions around AI, tech, design, business, careers, etc.
• Share what they’re working on or something practical they’ve learned

Someone could simply post, “Anyone interested in discussing AI agents this Saturday?” A few interested people grab a table and talk. Everyone else carries on with their work.

No forced networking, motivational talks or pretending everyone is a founder.

We’re not announcing a café. We’re exploring whether other people in Surat have felt this same gap and whether a community like this could be useful.

Would you regularly spend time at a place like this? What would make you actually come back every week?

Maybe there are more of us here than we realise.

We’ve been living in Surat for years and working remotely for almost more than 10 years now.

And one thing we’ve genuinely struggled with throughout that time is meeting like-minded people here.

Not networking in the formal “exchange LinkedIn profiles and never speak again” sense.

Just people who are curious, building something, learning something, working remotely, freelancing, experimenting with ideas, or simply interested in having meaningful conversations.

Over the years, friends naturally went in different directions. Jobs, businesses, marriage, kids, moving cities, different priorities. That's life.

But after almost a decade of remote work, we realised something strange:

We still haven't really found even a small community of 2–3 people in Surat with whom we can regularly work, exchange ideas, learn and collaborate.

And honestly, we remember having a similar problem as students.

You can learn almost anything online today. What is much harder to find is practical guidance and the right people around you.

Someone learning design could meet someone building a startup.

A developer could help a student understand what working in tech is actually like.

Someone experimenting with AI could organise a discussion around it.

A freelancer could meet another freelancer and eventually collaborate on a project.

Or you could simply sit next to interesting people, drink coffee and work on your own thing without being expected to socialise.

So we've been thinking:

What if Surat had a collaborative work café?

Not exactly a coworking office.

Not exactly a normal café.

Not a coaching class.

And definitely not another forced “networking event.”

Just a comfortable place where WFH professionals, freelancers, students, creators, founders and curious people can spend a few hours working and naturally meet others doing interesting things.

The basics could be simple:

• Good desks and comfortable seating
• Reliable Wi-Fi and charging points
• Coffee and food priced reasonably enough that you can actually stay for a few hours
• Quiet areas when you just want to work
• Areas where conversation and collaboration are encouraged
• Small group discussions around topics people are interested in
• Community-led sessions where someone can share something practical they know
• A board/group where people can post what they're working on, learning, looking for help with, or willing to help others with

For example, someone could simply post:

“Anyone interested in discussing AI agents this Saturday?”

or

“I'm learning UI/UX. Anyone working professionally in design and interested in a casual discussion?”

or

“Building a small SaaS product. Looking for people interested in brainstorming.”

Five interested people? Grab a table and discuss it.

Nobody interested? Grab your coffee and continue working.

No compulsory networking. No motivational speeches. No pretending everyone is a founder.

The café would just provide the environment and community where these interactions can happen naturally.

Students are actually a big part of why we find this idea interesting.

When we were students, we would have loved having access to people who could provide practical perspectives about careers, technology, business, freelancing and how things actually work outside textbooks.

Sometimes one conversation with someone a few years ahead of you can save months of confusion.

We're curious whether other people in Surat feel the same.

This isn't an announcement that we're opening something next month.

We’re exploring whether, rather than having new cafés opening every now and then, we can build something different together, helping shape such a community and potentially collaborating to build it.

If you're a remote worker, freelancer, student, creator, developer, designer, entrepreneur, café person, architect, community builder, or simply someone who finds this idea interesting, we'd genuinely like to hear from you.

Would you personally spend time at a place like this?

More importantly:

What would make you actually come back every week rather than visit once because it's new?

And if you've also struggled to find your kind of people in Surat, we'd be interested in hearing your experience.

Maybe there are more of us here than we realise.

I am looking into how people track goals and habits, just trying to understand what people actually use and what they abandon.

Also looking for recommendations if you use any and why have you stuck with it?

If not found, what would help in the app to use it daily.

I have found for myself widgets make it easier to use the app. What's your take on it?

I used to think being empathetic meant being available to everyone’s stress.

If someone was urgent, I absorbed urgency.
If someone was frustrated, I carried tension.
If a meeting was intense, I let it shape the rest of my day.

Eventually I realized I wasn’t just being caring. I was treating every emotional signal as my responsibility.

Something that has helped is a simple question after intense interactions:

Is this mine, theirs, or shared?

Then I do one small reset:

• slow exhale
• unclench jaw
• feet on floor
• shoulders down

And one boundary action:

• delay a reply
• ask for ownership
• move a low-priority task
• say no to one extra ask

The point isn’t to become cold.
It’s to stay generous without disappearing.

Has anyone else had to learn the difference between empathy and emotional over-functioning?

I’ve noticed something in tech spaces, especially for women in high-context roles.

You’re expected to be sharp, collaborative, calm, responsive, technically competent, emotionally aware, and somehow not tired. A completely reasonable list, obviously. 🙃

The hard part isn’t just the work. It’s absorbing everyone’s urgency, frustration, uncertainty, and tension.

After intense meetings, I’ve started using a small boundary question:

Is this mine, theirs, or shared?

It helps separate actual responsibility from emotional noise.

Then I try to do one concrete thing:

• clarify who owns the next step
• delay a reactive response
• move a low-priority task
• say no to one extra request
• take 3 minutes before jumping into the next thing

I’m curious how other women in tech handle this.

How do you stay collaborative and empathetic without becoming the person who quietly carries the emotional load for the whole team?

I’ve been thinking about how often women are expected to be “calm,” “supportive,” and “understanding” at work, while quietly absorbing everyone else’s urgency and stress.

You enter a meeting feeling fine, and leave carrying tension that wasn’t even yours.

Lately I’ve been trying a small boundary check after intense interactions:

Is this mine, theirs, or shared?

If it’s mine, I deal with it.
If it’s theirs, I don’t automatically carry it.
If it’s shared, I pause before reacting.

Then I try to take one small boundary action: delay a reply, clarify ownership, move a task, or say no to one extra ask.

For women who are high-functioning or used to holding a lot together:
How do you stay empathetic at work without becoming emotionally drained by everyone around you?

I’ve been working on noticing small wins more honestly.

Not huge achievements. Just the moments where I acted in a way that helped me move forward.

Examples:

• I paused before reacting
• I sent the message I was avoiding
• I did one task instead of freezing
• I asked for help
• I took care of myself instead of pushing past the limit
• I tried again after wasting time

What changed was making the win concrete.

“I did my best” doesn’t help me much.

“I opened the document and wrote the first paragraph” does.

Then I ask what the win gave me: relief, calm, confidence, momentum, pride, connection, energy.

It’s a small practice, but it helps me stop rewriting every hard day as a total failure.

For people working on self-improvement, what small wins do you actually let yourself count?

I’ve been thinking about how easy it is to dismiss small wins because they don’t look impressive.

On a rough day, I can usually list everything I didn’t finish. But the things that did count are harder to remember.

Stuff like:

• replying instead of avoiding everything
• getting out for a short walk
• opening the task even if I didn’t finish it
• not escalating an argument
• asking for help
• doing one basic care task
• trying again after wasting half the day

None of that looks dramatic. But it still changes the day from zero to something.

One thing I’ve been experimenting with is writing down “micro-wins” in a more specific way:

1. What did I actually do?
2. What kind of win was it?
3. What did it give me? Relief, momentum, calm, confidence, etc.

It makes the win feel less like forced positivity and more like evidence.

Curious how others define a non-zero day when the day still feels messy.

I used to think journaling had to be long, deep, and consistent to be useful.

That made it weirdly hard to keep up with.

If I missed a few days, I felt like I had to catch up. If I didn’t have the energy to write a full entry, I skipped it. Eventually journaling became another thing I was failing at, which is a ridiculous outcome for something that was supposed to help.

What has worked better for me is treating reflection like a small rep instead of a full emotional audit.

The basic structure:

1. Pick the purpose before writing
   • Am I trying to make sense of something?
   • Close the loop on something?
   • Learn from something?
   • Preserve something meaningful?
2. Write only 6-10 sentences Not pages. Not a dramatic life review. Just enough to capture the signal.
3. Use this simple flow
   • What happened?
   • What did it bring up?
   • What do I need next?
4. Stop before it becomes performative The point is clarity, not proving emotional depth to an imaginary panel of judges.

This helped me because it removed the pressure to “do reflection right.” Even a short entry can be useful if it captures the right thing.

Curious if anyone else has found journaling easier after making it smaller instead of trying to be more disciplined.

I’ve been thinking about why journaling is so hard to keep consistent.

A lot of advice treats the problem like discipline: build the habit, write every day, make it part of your routine.

But I think the bigger issue is often the format.

Long journaling can start to feel like:

• another task
• another place to be “productive”
• another thing to catch up on
• another way to feel behind

What helped me was lowering the dose.

Instead of asking “What am I feeling and why?” which can spiral fast, I use smaller prompts:

• What is one thing I’m trying to make sense of?
• What needs closure today?
• What did this teach me?
• What do I want to remember from this?

Then I write 6-10 sentences and stop.

It feels less like journaling and more like emotional signal capture. Slightly robotic phrase, sadly accurate.

Has anyone else found that shorter reflection works better than traditional journaling?

I’ve been thinking about how often we use “I’m tired” as a catch-all phrase.

Sometimes it really is physical: poor sleep, not enough food, too much caffeine, no movement, too much pushing through.

But sometimes the heaviness doesn’t shift even after rest. That’s when it may be emotional depletion - something from the day is still stuck in the system, like a tense conversation, resentment, uncertainty, or a boundary that wasn’t set.

A simple check I’ve found useful:

1. What does my body need?
2. What emotional residue am I carrying?
3. Is “tired” hiding a more accurate word, like resentful, overextended, lonely, numb, or uncertain?

Curious how others here tell the difference.

I got a message tonight that hit a nerve way harder than it should have.

I wrote out a whole response in that very specific tone where I'm technically being calm but actually trying to make someone feel exactly what I felt. You know the one.

I didn't send it. Not because I was evolved about it. I was still angry. I just put my phone down and waited long enough for the heat to drop a little.

I've been trying to get better at that tiny gap between feeling hurt and doing something from the hurt. Tonight the gap existed, barely.

Still don't know if I should respond at all or if that's me avoiding conflict now.

How do you tell the difference between pausing and shutting down?

Someone cancelled on me last minute this afternoon. Normally that would have sent me into a whole thing — the spiral where one small thing becomes evidence of everything.

I caught it this time. Just barely. Noticed the feeling before I acted on it.

I've been trying to track what actually stops me when I catch it early. Today it was just noticing that I was already tired before the cancellation happened. The cancellation wasn't the thing. The tiredness was the thing.

That felt like something worth writing down.

Anyone else find that the small things are almost never actually the small things?