u/andthisisso

I've been a Hospice RN for over 35 years. Now I'm exclusively Pediatric Hospice and most recently working with newborn and infant Hospice patients. I've effectively used the Silva Method of meditation to communicate with these children less than a week old and their family members before I meet any of them to to gain insight to serve the families as best I can in the current crisis of the family's lifetime. The focus is mostly to provide comfort care at the home for the families to build memories with their child in the short time they have together that will last a life time for the surviving family members. Sometimes this is hours, sometimes this is days. Effectively using every moment for bonding begins with insight of all involved.

Prior to meeting with the patient and family I use the meditation techniques I learned in the 4 day meditation class to go to my level, a relaxed meditative state I practice daily. At this level i have created a mental atmosphere of a relaxed living room with comfortable furniture and send a mental invitation for the child and any family member that might wish to join in for a family meeting to discuss a plan to follow for the next few days. I usually see the child and often a family member or more instantly. I ask them what would be the best way i can serve them and await a reply. The answer often comes as a mood, a feeling, pictures or a small movie of some activity going on that may or not make sense at the moment. I store those images and feelings away and wait for more. If no more come I thank them for the visit and end the session. I always get beneficial input from the visit though the meaning may not be apparent until later.

This time I saw the sister of the child i was about to care for. She was anxious to have a baby brother to play with. She looked to be about a year old, dressed in a cheerful Christmas theme dress, happy, giggling and thrilled to have the company of her baby brother. The parents I saw as grieving, withdrawn, empty and powerless at the worse they've ever been in their lives. The next day when I met the infant and the family the vision became clear. Understandingly the parents were devastated, but more-so as this was their second child loss. The little sister I saw as a one year old had died in utero at 7 months old and mom had to carry her to term to deliver for medical reasons to give her better odds for a better chance to have another baby. The 7th month was at Christmas. The little girl was never named, just Baby Girl.

This boy child was not to be named either, just Baby Boy, it's how the parents could deal with the loss, to remain detached. As closed off as the parents were I saw the love and joy between brother and sister on the inner worlds even though the sister never drew a breath of life. There was consciousness, she continued to be, to matter, to be present and conscious. She showed up for her brother, she wanted him, she was waiting for him. I did not share this experience with the parents, they had enough to manage. I believe this was my gift from the Universe that in this tragedy there was still a ray of light shining. I would never have seen this had I not taken the meditation class and discovered how to do this, learned the techniques, practiced them and adjusted them to meet my daily, personal and work needs to fit into my own lifestyle. I use the techniques I learned and am highly motivated with desire, belief and expectancy to serve my patients and their families as best I can at all levels of being, including the inner and outer worlds to the best of my abilities. There are no happy outcomes in Hospice but we can do whatever we can to make the outcome the least worst it could be.

Hospice arranged for this family's insurance that only had 6 mental health visits to now get 26 additional visits pre approved for added support. Hospice grief support groups are free for a lifetime. We do what we can. In the meantime, Baby Boy and Baby Girl have each other. They showed me that. They are going to be just fine together and I feel one day, so will mom and dad when they get together again.

Here is another example of using meditation to communicate with a Pediatric Hospice Patient: I'm going to make some videos of using meditation to connect with Source. Learning to quite the mind, think one thought at a time and focus on the desired outcome brings the benefits and advantages I desired.

https://www.reddit.com/r/andthisisso/comments/1m4vbdi/pediatric_hospice_patient_cant_see_hear_or_speak/

I got to share another Hospice meditation encounter with a new born prior to their passing on an interview with Chris Lehto on his YT channel Lehto Files: This one was absolutely life changing for me.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-bCNaiHYM0 Starts at about 11:00

--David Parker Phoenix, Arizona

I've been a nurse for 46 years and still work as a Pediatric Hospice RN. I currently work with newborn and infants with severe congenital deformities. Many parents choose to have the infant transferred home for life support to be withdrawn in a loving, peaceful family setting. I'll write about some of those soon. I became a Hospice RN after losing my two sons. I couldn't support them, hold them, relieve the pain and fear they were going through when they died but I could for others. I first worked in an AIDS inpatient facility with all ages dying of the disease that at the time in the 1980s was a death sentence. That facility closed due to funding and I moved on to a 10 bed mostly adult Hospice inpatient unit. After than I worked for 5 years in a Pediatric Hospice inpatient unit with newborns to age 17 year olds. That also closed due to funding, now I work home care one on one support with infants and children terminally ill children.

This happened in the adult 10 bed inpatient unit. I came on to work that 12 hour shift, we had a few new patients that day. One was a woman maybe in her 70s or 80s that was non responsive, 100% total care. She was here for end of life care as many of our patients were. I had cleaned her up, repositioned her, gave her pain medication and moved on to my next patient. As the shift went on someone needed some additional care and as I was walking down the hallway I'd look in everyone's room to see if they were ok. When I passed this woman's room I saw her sitting up at the side of her bed, the side rales were down, her feet were on the floor and she looked young and radiant as she smiled at me. I had passed her doorway a few steps and stopped. I backed up and looked back in her room as shortly before she was non responsive and now she's smiling and sitting up on her own. When I backed up to look at her again she was back in bed, side rales up, she's again non responsive and in the position I had placed her when I last checked on her. When I saw her sitting up as I walked by the room she had two legs. Her physical body she only had one leg as the other had been amputated in the past.

I smiled and spoke to her, "You showed me your soul!" I thanked her for this experience and told her she's getting ready to pass on and how grateful I was she shared with me this experience she's going through to prepare for her physical death. I told the rest of my staff as they were seeing things too at the Hospice facility.

At the end of the shift she was still with us, I told the oncoming shift what I saw and they were thrilled I got to have that experience seeing her soul while she was still alive. I drove home and entered my house. In my hallway was this patient standing there in a. robe smiling at me. She looked like maybe she was 28 years old. Her hair looked like she stepped out of a salon and she had her two legs. She faded away and was gone. In my mind I thanked her for this blessing to show me her soul again. Why me, why not appear to her loved ones, I don't know. I never met this woman before. I got on the phone and called work and told them to go check on her. They put the phone down and came back telling me she had just died. They were in her room a few moments prior repositioning her and she was alive then.

For whatever reason this woman chose to show me her soul before and after she died. This has been a blessing in my life ever since. I think of her every day and thank her for sharing with me the experience she was having passing on. I told this at a nursing event with over 1,000 attendees. Many just stared at me and a few smiled and nodded their heads knowing because they probably also had spirit experiences with dying patients, too.

Do not share this on your podcasts without my permission. Invited me on and I'll tell it and other spirit encounters myself. Here is a link to my video telling this story. --David Parker, Phoenix, Arizona

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_tPujTK0cMc