u/artist_pass369

I’m in my late 20s and recently landed a pretty rare opportunity in artist management. I can’t share much for privacy reasons, but my boss is a major name in the industry, the client I primarily work with has around 40M monthly listeners, and I’m being included in rooms I feel incredibly lucky to have access to this early in my career. Before this, I was torn between A&R at a major/corporate company and management, and this opportunity was too good to pass up. I’m doing well and getting great feedback, but now that I’m living it, I’m realizing how consuming management can be. There are basically no set hours or boundaries. I get calls early in the morning (today I got woken up by my boss) and at night, plans/workouts regularly get interrupted, and even when I WFH during the day, evenings and weekends are taken up by dinners, events, awards, shoots, etc. my entire weekend is booked for this week.
I’m an immigrant and spent years craving the stability and routine I never really had, so I think this lifestyle is hitting me harder than expected. I keep fantasizing about going corporate at a major label and having more structure and separation between work and life, even though I know I’d be giving up incredible access and connections and a potentially huge career. At the same time, I worry about career progression if I choose corporate because I see people my age who have spent 4+ years in assistant/coordinator roles at major companies. I’m currently a manager so I would be applying to higher roles, but it seems like I would be stuck in it for a while. I’ve even considered going back to my previous, much more stable industry I was in before transitioning to music. For those who’ve worked in high level artist management: is having almost no work life balance just part of the job, or does it eventually get better? What would you do?

Maybe this is just me, but has anyone else noticed that people don’t really post their day-to-day lives on Instagram anymore?

I’m 27, and I still use stories the way everyone used to years ago. If I’m listening to a song I love, I’ll post a picture of my car radio. If I’m watching a show, I might post a picture of the TV. If something big is happening, like I’m moving to another state, I might post a picture of the boxes with a caption like “packing is going well.” Nothing controversial or overly personal. Just… normal life.

But I’ve had multiple friends question it. Things like, “Why are you posting that?” or “Why does everyone need to know you’re moving?” Not from a safety perspective, more like there’s this unspoken rule now that your life should stay mysterious or private. And they tell me that they don’t like people knowing about their lives because of evil eye or some bs like that lol. Don’t even get me started on tagging the location, they think it’s doing too much. Again, I do NOT post anything private, just normal life stuff that to them is cringe.

Those same friends barely post at all. They’ll disappear for months, then upload one perfectly curated photo from a trip to Europe with no location tagged, or a beautiful black n white film photo, and then disappear again. Even stories feel like they’ve become curated. It’s all aesthetic sunsets, Michelin-star restaurants, or travel photos. The random, spontaneous “here’s what I’m doing today” posts seem to have disappeared..

I also notice people don’t repost when I tag them in normal moments, like grabbing dinner together. Years ago, everyone would’ve reposted it without thinking. Now it almost feels… uncool?

The funny part is that these same people are often the first to watch every single one of my Stories.
I know people will probably say, “Who cares what other people think?” But the reality is I have been judged for it, so it’s not entirely in my head.

Part of me wonders if I’m just stuck in an older version of Instagram while everyone else moved on.
Sometimes I genuinely feel childish, like everyone grew up and I didn’t. I feel like I’m a teenager and they’re grown adults.

Maybe that feeling is tied to other things in my life too. I switched careers and started over in a new field at 27, so I already have moments where I feel behind compared to people my age. I wonder if I’m projecting some of that onto social media.

But at the same time… I kind of miss when Instagram Stories actually felt like little snapshots of people’s everyday lives. A bowl of cereal, a random TV show, a song you couldn’t stop listening to, a bad selfie, a messy room while packing. It felt more social.

Now it feels like everyone is either building a brand or trying to look mysterious.
The latter is the most common.
Am I imagining this? Has anyone else noticed this shift over the last few years? Am I childish for sharing these mundane things?

Hi! I had a mini happy hour date with the guy I have a crush on. So far I had pulled quite positive cards when I ask about him but last night I decided to ask right after our date how he feels about me right now (I was thinking specifically after the date what he was thinking)… and I got the 7 of swords and judgment reversed. I always struggle with the judgment card, but the 7 of swords usually means deception/hiding something… what do you guys think?

It’s also interesting because I asked how he sees me and I got the sun and the star. So I’m wondering why the feelings reading was so negative…

*** adding that I know he just got off an on and off, toxic, relationship (our coworker told me that he was in a very toxic relationship and she thinks the girl has some addiction problems, she said that he was too much of a nice guy for her and she was glad they broke up lol)

Hey guys! I have a crush on a guy I work with lol. We both used to stare at each other A LOT until I started pulling back and acting a little cold for some dumb reason. He even apologized because he thought he did something wrong (he didn’t), but things have been a little odd since, even though I’ve gone back to acting normal lol. We don’t know each other that well at all. I only started a month and a half ago lol.
I asked:

How does he feel about me? I got the Knight of Wands. Checks out since we both seem attracted to each other and it’s all very, very new. We’ve never even had a deep convo, etc.

How does he see me? 3 of Swords reversed (not sure abt this card) and the Fool reversed (unpredictable, which checks out since I started acting weird and pulled back).

What should my next step be? (This is where it gets interesting.) I got the 8 of Swords. I kept shuffling asking for clarification, then TWO cards came out together… guess what they were? Knight of Wands and 3 of Swords reversed. Both cards that represented his feelings/view towards me in past readings - Crazy, because I asked this question a few days after the first two.

What should I do about this situation? I got the 9 of Cups reversed :(((( Doesn’t seem like anything will come out of this.

Any thoughts on the repeated cards? Especially the 3 of Swords reversed? I really don’t get that one. Also, what does it usually mean when the same cards keep coming out repeatedly, especially when two of them come out together again? Kinda crazy.

I saw it in the case status that I received an RFE but I don’t know if I can check it online. Is there anyway I can check it online or do i have to wait? Since its i-140 its not on myuscis

I need advice because I genuinely don’t know what the right move is here.

For context, I (27F) lived with my roommate (22F) for almost two years. We’re good friends, and honestly, part of the reason we’ve stayed friends for so long is because I’ve learned to brush a lot of things off and not make a big deal out of them. I’m older than her, so I’ve always tried to take the more mature route and avoid burning bridges.

But there have been things that bothered me from the beginning.

Over time, I started noticing that she copies almost everything I do. Not one or two things. I mean EVERYTHING. The same workout studio. The same foods. The same products. The same routines. The same habits. There was even a period where I felt suffocated because it felt like there was no separation between my life and hers.

What’s funny is that even my best friend noticed it without me ever mentioning it.

At first, I saw it as admiration. I’ve helped her a lot professionally, and I know she sees me as somewhat of a mentor, so I let it go. But there was another side to it that always made me uncomfortable.

She’s Colombian, and this is actually the second Colombian girl friend (25F) I’ve had who behaved this way, so I’m curious if anyone has experienced something similar….

She is extremely determined when she wants something, especially if there is a man involved who can give her access to it. She does not care who she has to step on at all, men or women. It’s scary. Once she got this guy to fly her to NY, she lied to him that they would travel together, once she got there, she blocked him. The other Colombian girl was the same way.

A few months ago, she wanted to go to a concert. She downloaded dating apps, messaged random men, DMed people connected to the event, and kept going until she found a DJ for the African band opening for the artist who got her in for free.

Now she’s doing the same thing because she wants access to the World Cup.

The thing is, she has made comments for years about men I’ve dated or been involved with bc they’re “influential”.. Things like:
“Let me sleep with him so I can get access to that.”
“Let me hook up with him so I can get this.”
Always said as a joke. But never really sounding like a joke.I’ve always brushed it off to avoid conflict.

Recently, while she searches for the World Cup victim (and mind you, she is DMing FIFA employees, the ones that show on TV and they’re entertaining it lol) she matched with a guy I used to date.

She showed me her dating app profile, I immediately recognized him, and I told her the entire story. I assumed that once she knew there was history there, she’d move on. Instead, she followed him on Instagram and started talking to him. I found out accidentally that she had followed him. It felt so sneaky.

When I confronted her, I literally said that I thought it was strange and that I didn’t like it.
Her response was:
“I need entertainment.”
That’s what threw me off. Not because I think I own anyone. Obviously I don’t. But because there are literally hundreds of other men she could talk to right now. She has no shortage of attention. Yet she specifically chose the one guy she knew I had history with after I had already told her.

The other thing that makes this difficult is that she talks badly about almost every friend she has. Constantly… (Ironically, she’s always telling me I need more friends because most of my friendships are from childhood and I’ve had them for 10, 15, even 20+ years, but then she turns around and tells me how much she dislikes nearly every friend in her own life). I’m scared to end this friendship and have her shit on me to the whole world.

My question: Do I keep the peace, stop sharing personal information with her, and create distance while we continue living together?
Or is burning the bridge actually a worse idea considering we live together and I know how she talks about people after relationships end?

Hi! What is a good place that will deliver chocolates for a special occasion? I live in Miami and I'm looking to send some chocolates or a gift basket to my attorney for helping me with immigration issues. She lives in the surrounding LA area. Everything I'm finding online are websites like "flowers 1-800" and they have horrible, cheap, chocolate. I want something more refined! Thank you.

If the two of swords was a city, what would it be? I’ve been debating where to go for my birthday. I asked my cards to show me. I see a lot of water, islands, I was thinking somewhere in California? But my original idea was going to NYC (I wish it wasn’t a billion dollars)

I’ve had a tough career path, first went into healthcare bc of pressure from my parents and I was absolutely, beyond, miserable. Since I was a kid Ive been in love with music, managed fan accounts for my fav artists, spent my weekends watching concert lives while the other kids played at the playground, etc. so I decided to pursue a career within the music industry (the business side of things like management). I had a wonderful internship but have been stagnant since, I can’t land a job despite getting interviews with Universal Music etc… i never knew this was a career path, i found out through a girl I know/admire that I could actually work with this and decided to do it. Sometimes I worry if I subconsciously did this bc I admired her life. But I also know deep down I have love this field since I was a child, but I wonder why is it not working out.
I asked my cards if I should stick to the music industry as my career and I got the Hermit Upright and the Wheel of Fortune reversed…

I’ve been recently left wondering, all differences aside, who was happier at the end. Natasha who walked away from Big or Carrie who ended up with him after all these years? In Just Like That we don’t see much of Natasha, but we also don’t see that she’s doing any better than Carrie imo…

Hi! (No spread) I have a crush haha and hes been pretty quiet lately.. I haven’t seen him out, he is not posting on social media, not following girls or anything like that. I asked why- I got the page of swords reversed. I was still confused by it so I asked the deck again, the same question and got the empress upright.
Any thoughts?

Looking for high quality toiletry/make up bags. Preferably not LV or Burberry. More like a lowkey, high quality brand. Think Etoile but high quality instead of plastic leather and poor craftsmanship (I bought one and it looks and feels extremely low quality). TIA.

Looking for high quality toiletry/make up bags. Preferably not LV or Burberry. More like a lowkey, high quality brand. TIA.

I’m a huge fan of the show who happens to live part time in Miami and part time in Marina del Rey. I’m watching the Miami episode thinking Id recognize where exactly it was filmed but it looks like Marina Del Rey ngl 🤣 I know most shows nowadays don’t actually take the actors and crew to another state to film an episode but sometimes it happens

Hi guys. I recently interviewed for a job I REALLY want, it is a lot of responsibility which Im aware of, but I want it. I thought my interview went great but it’s been 5 days of silence and they said they would let all candidates know if they passed by Monday. Every time I ask about this job I get Wands.
I asked If Im passing to the next round and I got 10 of wands - I interpret this card more as like what the job entails (heavy workload) rather than an answer to my question.
10 is completion and the card isn’t positive so maybe it means I won’t get it? But also could it mean the horrible unemployment cycle is over?
I have such a hard time reading tarot due its ambiguity so I appreciate the input

Hi guys. I recently interviewed for a job I REALLY want, it is a lot of responsibility which Im aware of, but I want it. I thought my interview went great but it’s been 5 days of silence and they said they would let all candidates know if they passed by Monday. Every time I ask about this job I get Wands.
I asked If Im passing to the next round and I got 10 of wands - I interpret this card more as like what the job entails (heavy workload) rather than an answer to my question.
10 is completion and the card isn’t positive so maybe it means I won’t get it? But also could it mean the horrible unemployment cycle is over?
I have such a hard time reading tarot due its ambiguity so I appreciate the input