u/billyidolismyeilish

I’m not saying I hate cut penises or Jewish people or Islamic people but it doesn’t make sense to me if the US isn’t primarily Muslim or Jewish. Culturally it would make more sense if there was a dominant religion requiring it but there’s not. My mom says she got my brothers circumcised for hygiene reasons but I have a feeling that caring for your foreskin is not an extreme hygiene hassle. Also, pathological phimosis isn’t that likely and generally only requires surgical intervention if it’s severe. I also see a lot of people make fun of those against circumcision but I don’t think their cause is funny, it’s a valid take. I just think it’s a stupid cultural norm and even more stupid that we make fun of people for raising good points against it. Luckily US circumcision rates are lower than before and I hope to see it fall more out of fashion especially among the secular/Christian populations. I will also acknowledge that I do not have a penis so this may not be my battle to fight in but I still have opinions.

Does anyone else experience this? I’m 5’1 and a lot of people seem tall to me, so when someone is like TALL tall (like 6’+) my immediate response is uneasiness and fear. Is this something anyone else gets?

I’m gonna keep this as short as possible but I can include additional context if requested. TLDR at bottom. I (21M) found my high-end gaming laptop badly damaged after leaving it in a bedroom at my mom’s house. I can explain if needed but I have strong reason to believe her fiancé (calling him R) accidentally damaged it while doing some work in there and won’t own up to it. Any time it’s brought up around him he plays stupid. My brother (call him J) says he said to him “yeah, I think whoever put in the AC in there damaged his laptop.” According to J, R says, “Haha I think your mom put in the AC.”

Mom wasn’t even home when he was installing the AC.

J can be a bit of a storyteller but my sister’s bf (22M, call him L) overheard the conversation and later confirmed that R blamed mom. All this time, R has been bitching about how J is “spreading lies” about him. This is what R told mom when mom heard J’s story. L didn’t have all the context so hasn’t confirmed this directly to mom and we don’t know what to do.

It might be really bad timing because mom can tell we don’t like R (for many reasons) and it’s painful and exhausting to her. But I think she deserves to know if he’s lying about this and throwing her 11 year old under the bus.

TLDR: Mom’s fiancé broke my laptop and blamed my mom while talking to my little bro. Little bro told me this but word got back to fiance that my bro is telling people about him blaming mom. Fiance is accusing little bro of spreading lies about him despite me getting confirmation of bro’s story. Mom is tired of how much we dislike fiance. Do I tell her about this?

I’m gonna keep this as short as possible but I can include additional context if requested. TLDR at bottom. I (21M) found my high-end gaming laptop badly damaged after leaving it in a bedroom at my mom’s house. I can explain if needed but I have strong reason to believe her fiancé (calling him R) accidentally damaged it while doing some work in there and won’t own up to it. Any time it’s brought up around him he plays stupid. My brother (call him J) says he said to him “yeah, I think whoever put in the AC in there damaged his laptop.” According to J, R says, “Haha I think your mom put in the AC.”

Mom wasn’t even home when he was installing the AC.

J can be a bit of a storyteller but my sister’s bf (22M, call him L) overheard the conversation and later confirmed that R blamed mom. All this time, R has been bitching about how J is “spreading lies” about him. This is what R told mom when mom heard J’s story. L didn’t have all the context so hasn’t confirmed this directly to mom and we don’t know what to do.

It might be really bad timing because mom can tell we don’t like R (for many reasons) and it’s painful and exhausting to her. But I think she deserves to know if he’s lying about this and throwing her 11 year old under the bus.

TLDR: Mom’s fiancé broke my laptop and blamed my mom while talking to my little bro. Little bro told me this but word got back to fiance that my bro is telling people about him blaming mom. Fiance is accusing little bro of spreading lies about him despite me getting confirmation of bro’s story. Mom is tired of how much we dislike fiance. Do I tell her about this?

I know people talk about this with ADHD meds and this is not the same as those but I swear I got to weirdly locked in just days after starting 10 mg lexapro. Perhaps my autism diagnosis could be relevant in this discussion. I was somewhat interested in fragrances for a few years and then just days after starting lexapro I got obsessed. I bought 14 decants and bring them with me in my pocket. I also obsessively research perfumery, historical fragrances, what makes a good base note, what makes a good heart note, what makes a good top note, etc. It’s actually very freakish because I only think about fragrances now. As enjoyable as this has been for me I’m actually gonna bring this up with my doctor. Has anyone had a similar experience?

So I haven’t chosen a name for myself yet (FtM, I want an exclusively masculine name in the future) but I’m in an awkward phase in my transition where I’m read as any gender by strangers. I need a name for my job when people ask me what my name is because I have no idea what gender they’re reading me as unless they use a gendered term. I’ve been saying my birth name (I’m semi-closeted also) but I hate doing that and I feel like it outs me if someone WAS reading me as male, which does happen sometimes. I want something either something entirely unisex or masc-leaning but plausibly any gender. I’m not into super modern/edgy names so something classic but neutral is preferred. Thank you :)

I’m like truly genuinely wondering because the rates are so unreasonable I feel like there’s no way they possibly think a lot of people are going to purchase upgrades. Not that I want/need said upgrades but is anyone here like a marketing expert who knows why they might legitimately not want people to buy upgrades? wtf?

I’ve never shaved before but I’m going to need to soon (I’m trans, FtM). Of course it wasn’t necessary growing up so no one really showed me how. How should I shave if I have acne? How do I avoid razor bumps if my face skin is sensitive? Are there additional products you use to help your skin? Recommendations for close shave? Thanks

Hi, I got a call back from the doctor saying my cholesterol is slightly elevated. I’m 5’1 and 122 lbs. I’m 21. I try to watch what I eat (trying to eat more fiber starting this week) and I walk/run a combined 16k steps minimum daily. Should I be concerned about this? I’m not particularly overweight and I don’t eat a whole lot.

Can I use 1% T gel and if so how for a starting dose? I know people usually recommend shots but in my set of circumstances this is what I have right now. I understand that with 1.62% gel people often start with 2 pumps, ~40-50 mg? Can this translate over to 1%? Anyone have experience with this?

I guess I’m not really “new to lex” but I haven’t been on it in years and last time I started it was several years ago, but I don’t remember much about starting since I was like 12 at the time. Since I’ve technically been on it before my psych had me start at 10 mg today and oh boy. I’m just trying to go about my workday and I’m really tired, I have diarrhea, and a little bit of RLS going on. It’ll get easier right? 😭 I haven’t started a new medication in forever. The part where I’m not sure if it’s placebo effect or not is that I feel very numb already. So idk

I got dumped by my cis partner yesterday and I’m really scared that no one else could love me. I know my gender status isn’t why things ended (there were major communication issues, especially on his end) because it was really never ever a problem to him. Also, due to living in a fairly conservative area and having an unsupportive family, he was often the only person who I could lean on who I felt truly validated and respected me. Losing that has caused a tremendous amount of anxiety and uncertainty. Again, I understand and respect his decision, but this is very isolating. And of course there’s just basic breakup stuff here like missing him and thinking about him a lot. I feel like I still love him and I’m afraid no one else can accept me the way he did. We met after I had started my transition and he never saw me as anything but a man. I am terrified that I won’t ever get that again.

I found my girl Esmeralda upside down today….she’s dead :(

I had her for almost 3 years, she was one of my first roaches and she lived a good life. Now comes the hard part.

Hi! I’m 21 years old, 5’1, pre-T. I might include photos for more context if I feel up for it. Mainly I just have short hair, bind, and wear masc clothes. At home in the US people either read me as NB, maybe lesbian, or a little boy. Most often younger folks kinda stumble around calling me “they” and older folks treat me like a young boy. Recently I had a trip to Asia and kinda figured out how subjective it really is.

Obviously I can’t know what everyone was thinking when they saw me but here’s how it went by city (in relevant interactions). Also note that these places don’t have very high English proficiency so I was limited to that and my beginner Russian skills.

🇰🇷 Seoul, South Korea: Mixed, similar to US where old people treated me like a little boy, but maybe more so?

🇰🇿Almaty, Kazakhstan: Also mixed, but I had at least one person 100% read me as female

🇰🇷 Busan, South Korea: Surprisingly I had 2 youngish employees read me as male as well as an older taxi driver

Now for Uzbekistan (Note - I really don’t recommend this destination for LGBTQ travel, I won’t be returning here once medical transition is underway).

🇺🇿 Bukhara: Definitely read as male multiple times.

🇺🇿 Samarkand: Read as male, guided to men’s restrooms though I refrained from using public restrooms during this trip.

🇺🇿 Khiva: Mixed. Maybe because it’s a very touristy location, idk

🇺🇿 Tashkent: Also mixed, capital city. Had a little airport scare here!

So yeah that’s how well I passed in different cities in the world as a short pre-T guy :)