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This randomly popped up in my YouTube feed 🥰🥰🥰
Edit: I didn’t think the thumbnail would be Tom Arnold making such an odd face. Like, he does not want to be there 🤪

Since my husband’s stroke I’m seeing more and more how his executive functioning is basically shot along with the ability to express emotion. I told him I will never be okay with this being our lives and we have been cheated. I never said that out loud before. I suppose I was never expected to be okay with this but to accept it in order to survive. It’s been 4 years and I’m so tired of making the decision each day to accept my life. He has an easy going demeanor which makes things slightly easier.

I don’t know the purpose of this post. Just don’t have anyone IRL who would begin to understand.

This subreddit randomly popped up for me which was very timely. My daughter is getting her GED instead of returning for her senior year. Due to mental health things and the extra fluff and nonsense that comes with school this seems to be the better path for her. I love seeing everyone’s posts about passing and celebrating this achievement! Gives me great encouragement as a parent and I wish everyone great success ahead! 🫶

Anyone in TN who went through getting their loved one on the CHOICES program? It’s the deal where the one with a disability gets assistance they have less than $2000 in assets. I’ll have to jump through hoops, since our house is in my husband’s name. 😵‍💫 I need to figure out something to have some in home care for my husband since we don’t have thousands of dollars to burn.
It’s not urgent as of right now. I just didn’t know if someone went through it could tell me if it would be worth my time.

Anyone in TN who went through getting their loved one on the CHOICES program? It’s the deal where the one with a disability gets assistance they have less than $2000 in assets. I’ll have to jump through hoops, since our house is in my husband’s name. 😵‍💫 I need to figure out something to have some in home care for my husband since we don’t have thousands of dollars to burn.
It’s not urgent as of right now. I just didn’t know if someone went through it could tell me if it would be worth my time.

A while ago I posted about possible needing a couples' therapist where caregiving is involved. Someone commented something along the lines of if my husband is not able to be emotionally engaged it might be a moot point. I was a bit taken aback by the comment, and it honestly stayed with me.

I've been in group therapy for several weeks and individual therapy for years to work through everything that has come since my husband's stroke. I'm finally coming to terms that he can't give me emotional support like he used to, and I have to put up a wall to an extent so I don't get hurt. Part of me has been hoping for 4 years that the emotional support side of him that I've depended on so much. It's as if I've unlocked a new level of grief. I know he loves me, and I love him. I will continue caring for him. I think this new acceptance will help me in the long run.

I just wanted to say thank you to whoever said that. It was hard to hear, but something I needed to consider.