I mean when they say they’re better than your wife or girlfriend and bring them down or act like they’re better. Personally I don’t have a gf and I never have but what annoys me most is that I do this to support women. I also have a female supremacy fetish so bringing down other women goes against that. It should be all women together and empower all women.
We met on Chyrpe and I was excited to have a findom dynamic with someone near me and we could do meets and stuff since I don’t live in a big city.
I spent quite a lot of money on her (£1000+) and it’s been 3 days (I know it’s bad). I told her a few times I couldn’t send more and she would say it’s ok and then keep asking for more. It was hot so I did.
She says she is in debt a certain amount and then I give her more than enough money to cover it and then suddenly she’s in debt again.
She told me to send a specific amount of money to some random guy and that if I didn’t do it, she would get jumped. I did it and asked her what’s wrong. She said it’s bad and she doesn’t want to get into it but she needs £200. That is quite a lot for me because I am a student who only works part time in fast food. Also we agreed there would be femdom and humiliation aspects but I haven’t got any of that yet.
I know I should probably walk away but I’ve already spent loads of money on her.
I feel like I sometimes pass and sometimes don’t.
I feel like I pass until someone finds out my age. At work people were really surprised to find out I’m 21. I’m also short (5’3) and have pretty wide hips.
The whole body count shaming is rooted in misandry. It’s all about the way male sexuality and the penis is viewed as degrading and dirty.
Men don’t shame women who have slept with other women. They shame women who have been with lots of men. Women say “how come this doesn’t happen when men have lots of sex?!?”
But it does… when men have sex with another man even just once, he’s been corrupted. Just look at how women treat bisexual men. The idea that bisexual men are all actually gay is from the idea that male sexuality and sex with men is so corruptive.
Female sexuality is seen as innocent while male sexuality is demonised. The same reason why women get away with sexual assault while men are accused of sexual assault for just staring at a women, because even that is too degrading and penetrating and intrusive. If you wanna talk about rape culture, this feeds into the idea that women are less likely to sexual assault, because it’s not seen as assaulting.
Does anyone else have this? My payments get declined on throne and youpay and idk why
Not much to do with being trans but if I talk about it anywhere else people tell me I’m probably a trans woman (not knowing I’m a trans man) or I get told “welcome to being a man” or whatever.
I just feel ignored, lonely, undesirable, etc. And I hate the way men are treated. I had it a lot easier when I was a woman, personally.
But now I’m in a weird limbo. I am proud to be queer but I’m not the kinda person to express it a lot and I pass as just some random dude. But I also don’t fit in with straight cis guys. Even if I did, it still seems isolating. I just hate expectations and the misandry and transphobia like I’m not accepted in any community.
Why am I a man then if I hate it so much? I don’t know to be honest. Being trans for me isn’t “I like the male gender role so I’m a man”. It’s not performing the male gender role. There’s something intrinsic in me that just tells me I’m a man. I just know I am.
There are lots of men here that comment borderline sexual/femdom type things. I wonder if it’s a kink and if they still agree when they’re not horny or is it a genuine view? Because most feminist, pro female spaces don’t have this many men
It is actually astonishing that the concept of patriarchy is still used so much, especially in academia. It’s not the same as saying it’s typically men who have power (which is often true in a political sense), but it’s saying men (as a group) have the power.
This ignores women’s contributions and influence on society. For example, people blame gender roles on the patriarchy but they also exist in matriarchies. Gender roles, unfortunately, develop naturally. For example, people see that men typically are stronger physically, this leads to the idea that men are stronger and eventually to the idea that they should never show weakness. Both men and women contribute to this idea and both enforce it. The concept often substitutes description for explanation. Naming a pattern “patriarchy” does not explain how or why it emerged.
A lot of what feminists call “patriarchy” is stuff that *they* do. They push the idea that men are sexual predators, they’re emotionless, they’re not worthy of empathy, they’re less valuable and vulnerable, etc. They make fun of men that don’t live up to standards of masculinity. At this point, what’s the difference between them and the patriarchy? They are the so called patriarchy. Harmful male behaviour is attributed to male agency. Harmful female behaviour is also attributed to patriarchal conditioning. Their is an asymmetry in agency.
The falsifiability principle. This states that a theory must be testable and capable of being proven false to be considered meaningful. The patriarchy could be anything. You could point to anything and claim it’s the patriarchy. You can use the patriarchy to explain anything. But what actually is it? If it could be anything, it might as well be nothing. If men succeed, it’s the patriarchy. If women succeed, the patriarchy is adapting itself or allowing “exceptional women”. When men face issues, it’s “the patriarchy harms men too”.
What evidence, real or not, could ever actually disprove the existence of the patriarchy?
Circular arguments:
Assume society is patriarchal.
Observe gender difference.
Conclude the difference was caused by patriarchy.
Use the difference as proof patriarchy exists.
What are your thoughts on this?
When it comes to safety, it’s usually only concerning women. Women feel unsafe, men are unsafe. Men are unsafe but you never see it gendered. Most men brush these things off. Even things like bar fights which you might say is self inflicted, is gendered because when women get into fights, it’s never as physically dangerous for them. People are more willing to harm men. Men also are sexually assaulted so much but it’s never seen that way. Even the men that it happens to often don’t see it that way. Even if a man enjoys being touched sexually, if it’s done without consent, it’s still sexual harassment. That person didn’t know how he would react and just assumes he would like it and these people still need to be held accountable.
Recently I’ve been hearing more stories about men who have been raped by women and it is amazing that they have found the courage to speak up. But with that comes people’s true colours. The same people claiming they care about rape victims when they clearly don’t.
When they said “believe women” they really did mean just women, not rape victims.
I see this a lot. Acting like when bad men are raped that it is justifiable. All this does is show that they don’t think rape is tragic and traumatic when it happens to men like it is with women. Instead, it’s just humiliating and emasculating and therefore a funny, justified punishment. This also links in with homophobia. If you think like this, you cannot claim to care about male victims. I’m not defending D4vd, I’m criticising the implications of this viewpoint.
Imagine people fantasising about a bad women being raped and degraded
I get that the comments are making fun of what some men say when some are raped but it is still bad because;
Men already are dismissed by similar comments. “He’s lucky, he probably liked it, did he have an erection? He could’ve fought back, etc”. So this is unnecessary
Taking a serious crime and making it about yourself is disgusting. It doesn’t matter if you’re trying to get attention for another cause. This is a real man who went through trauma
Many of these comments are ableist
It is derailing the conversation. Many of these women say men only bring up male victims when female victims are discussed. But they are doing a similar thing. They’re derailing the conversation back to women. The fact that women are questioned about what they were wearing and things like that when they’re raped is disgusting. But why don’t they make their own post? They only bring it up when talking about male victims.
I bet plenty of these women will claim that it’s men and the patriarchy to blame for male victims not being taken seriously. They say feminists want to help and it’s other men who mock male victims…. Are they not doing the same? They are the so-called “patriarchy”; they’re doing exactly the same thing. They do not care about male victims. Not a single bit
. The thing I struggle with most is feeling stuck and like I can’t express myself. I can’t speak get myself to sleep and can’t even think what I would say if I could. My mind is usually blank or so busy that it’s like tv static. I get irritable because I have th feeling of needing to do something but don’t know what to do or how to do it. Sometimes I just can’t do things. Like I want to go outside but I just can’t.
I have Virgo stellium (sun, mars, mercury, Jupiter) and I feel like it’s making me too analytical and critical to the point where I feel stuck and I can’t express myself. I am also Scorpio ascendant. I feel like it’s blocking my Leo moon and urge for creativity and expression.
I feel stuck in my head and too scared to speak or do things which just makes me irritable.
But I’m not sure if working with mercury will reinforce this or if it can help. Someone said working with mercury would remove its inhibition but I think I want less mercury. I’m not sure which planet would be best for me