most the time me and the musicians around me think 'that was shit' or 'it was okay'. very rarely are we genuinely happy with the gig and when we are, its only one or two people.
I feel like whenever people ask me what I’m really passionate about or I want to be able to talk to someone about interest I’m only ever able to bring up short facts or anecdotes or nothing at all. And then sometimes in some conversations I can talk endlessly about particular topics and come off as really knowledgeable, a know at all or someone he doesn’t know how to stop talking. To be clear, I don’t hate myself at all for yapping when I get passionate about something. Most the time it feels like I have completely forgotten everything I have ever learnt or I’m completely unable to recall it. Having ADHD, your passion does waiver and it’s also divided into 1 million different subjects. Unless I’m actively applying knowledge or happened to have sharper focus that day it’s quite difficult to feel like I know things..
fuck you
edit: and fuck all the businesses and professionals who dont respond to applicants with at least a ‘we’re unable to provide you with any opportunities at this time’ email
As someone trying to help keep my language alive and transmitting, it is a struggle finding people with experience or in the same boat as me. That's why I created this server. This is for people organising events, recording, researching, or creating videos in said language or anything else. Share your projects, stay motivated, get advice, have discussions.
Title should be ‘is it safe to attempt as a beginner’. Is my best bet a colour that fix the original style, stealing some material from the cuff or finding a similar fabric?
I literally have a grant (that i have to pay back if i dont complete) for posting to social media. I hate posting and being on my phone because it makes everything else feel boring but i dont really have a choice. My posts are the only thing keeping my culture and language alive online and pushing it to the younger generation.
I just want to enjoy learning and live in the real world. Idk why my habits ended up like this meanwhile my other friends with (even those who also have ADHD) always get their hands busy or read and somehow balance it.
Ugh.
For awhile I have needed a place to discuss and come together with others who are revitalising their language as well. This reddit is great, but it doesn't allow for dynamic discussions and community to form. As someone trying to record their native language, it would be so useful if could get ideas and feedback from others and connect to others with experience too. This way we can all move forward together in the most effective ways for our language.
TLDR I am unsure how to schedule and plan an ambitious language resource project.
I have been fortunate enough to receive government funding to produce learning resources for my local language with less than 1000 speakers. My main outcome is to produce a series of long-form videos of fluent conversation in the form of personal storytelling, Vox-pops and conversations.
I have done 1 year of film & TV at level 3 and was student of the year. I know if I don't plan this it will cause errors with continuity and slow me down, de-motivating me. This is a huge project and super overwhelming to me. I am not sure how to create the documents I need that will allow me to schedule it properly, what to record and how much to record of each of the 3 categories etc. I am also not sure how much work I can outsource to others (transcribing—the language is too small to use AI right now, additional resources to accompany videos).
What I do have is high quality recording and editing equipment, contact and relationships with speakers and a friends and family who can assist me occasionally.
How would you tackle this in the most effective and simple way possible? I honestly just think a bit of support would be enough to make me feel less overwhelmed.
I don’t run a massive social media channel (all together i have 15k followers), but a lot of people where I live know who I am. The other night this girl completely freaked out because she loves watching my videos. I basically just said thank you and I’m glad you enjoy them but I do always feel like I have no idea how to act.
I think there are many ADHD individuals who possess a lot of intelligence or capability, but like many mentally disabled individuals have struggled with what feels like ‘untapped potential’ due to our environment, symptoms and knowing what to invest our time into. It seems that often with ADHD, it can be difficult to know what vocation to pick as there are so many things to choose from. And in combination with this, there are many perfectionists in this community who feel a strong need to do things to a high standard and who compare their work or life to others who are perceived as successful. Personally, I feel a desire or need to do something ‘smart’ and impactful. I wonder if this stems from a combination of expectations placed on me, if it genuinely something I want. How do you think people cope well or badly with these expectations? Why do we think people feel like this? What are your thoughts on this? How wrong am I?
For example, an ‘Easy Spanish’ type format with interviews. What 10 topics would you pick to get the most out of the language?
I feel the world would be a better place if I use my privilege and my able body to contribute to the world in the best way I can. It’s weird, because I don’t even really know what it looks like or what I want to do with myself but I would say I try to be a good person in general, which is my bare minimum. For context, I’m ADHD so I also feel this probably ties to my self-value growing up with school but it is also a strong part of my morals to make the world a better place. I know I can feel enough and happy, so I’m looking to let go of things that are making me suffer because I know then I will actually be free to get what I want.
My plan for this year and next year is to record as many native speakers as I can and put it in an accessible format on YouTube. It is hard to learn my language when you have a full-time job for school and the resources aren’t stimulating. Just curious if anyone has experience with this, I’m sure I’ll figure it out just fine.
I was thinking about doing, stories, voxpops and conversations. It has total 100 hours so its a lot of unpaid work. Ill have to transcribe and translate EVERYTHING. Edit and record EVERYTHING.
I have ADHD, and I'm trying to see ADHD as part of who I am, not a label that only shows up separately in symptoms or behaviour. It feels relevant to how I handle emotions, especially now.
My ex (19F) and I (18M) recently ended our two‑year relationship. It was the best two years of my life. Despite her still loving me so much, she does the right thing and is trying to move on. There’s no anger or resentment — just a growing disconnect and my inability to feel the love I know she deserves. I always felt like I lived with my head in the clouds while she stayed grounded, and that balance was beautiful. Every quality one of us didn’t have, the other did.
She was raised in a way she’s proud of, and it shows. She acts in spite of her emotions. She doesn’t need external validation. She knows her worth, even with insecurities. She knows what she wants to do with her life, what she feels, and how to act on her needs rather than her fears. Her family is close, and simply being with them — talking or sitting in silence — makes her feel loved. Her life and way of thinking is very linear and she acts logically. Seeing that makes me realise she lives a really great life, and I need to learn how to build my own version of that.
Before her, my relationships were messy. When I was 14 or 15, I was in a painfully attached relationship where my girlfriend felt like my only friend after my whole friendship group fell apart over disagreements. From then on, friendships stopped feeling permanent. I never felt like I could plan ahead with friends the way my recent girlfriend does — she’ll easily plan holidays with her friends months in advance. Even during COVID, when I made tons of friends online, everything was temporary. I wanted to spend so much time with them, but it always faded. Friendships have just begun to feel temporary by default. Right now, I realise how much I can enjoy spending time with people and with the right people, strangers or not I can be myself around people.
She noticed this and told me it was like I was afraid to get close to people. And honestly, even though I can spill my emotions and have deep conversations with people I call friends, that is just how I love to talk to people—not the same as the steady, reserved closeness she has with her circle. I see the way she’s reserved as powerful in some ways and limiting in others, but it gives her a sense of stability I don’t think I can remember.
With her, everything was euphoric. We wanted to spend all our time together, and we did, until exams made it impossible. Even when she can’t see her best friends for months, she still absolutely loves them. I used to tell her I needed a word between “friend” and “acquaintance” because it didn’t feel right to call so many people friends. Her circle is small but deeply meaningful. I don’t know what it will take for me to feel secure in my relationships — with others or with myself — or to feel like anything is ever enough. I can’t stop comparing myself to the love she has for others and how happy people make her. People do make me happy, but I sort of just feel ungrounded. I’ll talk to random people in the street and have amazing, stimulating conversations with no consideration of history or future with this person.
What I struggle with is the gap between how she handles emotions and how I do. Outside of romance, I see myself as a good person — expressive, genuine, community‑minded. But when my real feelings could disrupt my life, I hide them as a kind of self‑protection which isn’t genuine or expressive. I tried to tell her what I was feeling, but I couldn’t fully understand myself. I was scared to try again after already stumbling through it twice. I still don’t know whether some of my “desires” were necessary, just signs of emotional immaturity or I should’ve communicated them more. If I’d been clearer, we might have been on equal footing months ago and things might be different. Maybe my inability to act in-spite of fear limits my ability to feel romantic attraction. Otherwise, I am a very attentive and loving partner who would do almost anything for her. Bake her cookies for no reason, buy her a mango, flowers and a card to cheer her up. I wish I could do that for her right now.
What hurts most is that I wasn’t sure if I loved her. That’s devastating, because she is genuinely the ideal woman and human being. My emotions feel spread thin across so many things that nothing feels grounded. My interests feel so far and wide that I feel like I'm not good at anything, which is important to me so I can succeed in life and be proud of myself. Even with my parents — we spend time together, but it isn’t calm or warm, and I’m not always sure how much I love them.
Growing up undiagnosed with ADHD, with parents who likely have it too, under high expectations — it shaped how I deal with emotions. She and I both agree I sound confused and need time to understand myself, but part of me feels impatient, I know she doesn't deserve confusion. We both want each other to be happy, and it hurts knowing I changed the course of our life together when she was so certain about us.
I exert a heavy pressure on myself to bring about positive change in the world because I believe everyone should, but that can also keep me stuck. I feel like I am able bodied and it is my civil duty to do this for society. Native speakers of my language are down to the hundreds, they’ll mostly be gone in a decade so I have to be the one to do something about it. Like everyone with ADHD, I struggle to even do hobbies for myself. It makes me feel like I am wasting a lot of my own precious time because I am not working on my dreams of really enjoying something and not caring about how good I am. I feel like I need to something great with my life so as soon as I can I need to decide what to study at university or do something very intellectual and influential. I can’t risk getting a job that is just ‘pretty cool’ because it isn’t contributing to the greater good. I don’t want to give up this goal but others seem not to live by it and be much more peaceful and simpler about life. I finished school, but went back because I had to drop a subject so I want to make it up and learn at the same time. But I can't help but focus on the fact the people around me are all 2 years younger than me and I feel like I should be studying a higher level of education even if this is doing me a lot of good. feel allergic to doing difficult things, and that needs to change. I can't even put myself to bed at a healthy time, let alone manage delicate emotions. What I want now is to build emotional strength — to be honest with myself, to feel whole, to grow into someone who can love deeply and securely. I wonder if, with a few more years of development, I would have been ready for someone like her. I want to move forward and grow. I know this is a lot and will take a long time to learn but anyone who can give me some honest, firm advice - even a little mean is okay, I should learn to handle it. I can appreciate some of the grass in my life is greener for others, but I want to water my whole lawn.
I really appreciate anyone reading this, I understand if it is inappropriate to post to online. I think I am better of taking the first good advice I am given and then actually applying it.
For example, say two high-school sweethearts have a great relationship—excellent communication and expression of love, support eachother, having discussions instead of fights. One of them could even be certain they want to spend the rest of their life with this person, the other thinks they want that but can’t quite picture their future just yet and isn’t sure. One is very expressive and hyper nerd and the other is reserved and relaxed party-goer—one doesn’t feel fully met as far as personalities go so they realise they need to split up. Then, after years of being adults they become completely different people and reconnect. Now they make each other happier than anyone has ever made them and they know they want to spend the rest of their life together. Or does the core of who you are stay the same and things like this are destined to only be great experiences for the both of you?
I think animals are cool and fascinating. the things nature does is insane! I have an interest in re-wilding and nature restoration so they are valuable to me in that sense. But on a personal level, they just stopped making me have a massive emotional response and that cuteness aggression I once had is mostly gone. It’s kind of saddening in a way. I also think that it’s sad they are so dependent on us so now there are so many strays and neglected domesticated animals and a lot with health issues. I know this is just who I am but I wish I was more childlike again. Maybe because most of my teenage years I went without a dog and didn’t really like going outside so I didn’t connect with animals as emotionally and don’t find them as useful emotionally. I’ve been thinking about this occasionally towards the end of my very recent relationship, she loves animals (vet student/dr doolittle type girl) and small circle of people deeply and without animals life would be miserable for her which is beautiful but different to me.
So I am from a small island called Jersey (home of the jersey cow, the jersey jumper, jersey royal potatoes). We have our own language and like any language it is important to have modern and accessible resources to keep it alive. Unfortunately the language is down to 500 native speakers. My goal is to record lots of it but to make my job easier I want to try building an AI to transcribe the videos I make.
The problem is that there isn’t enough information online to use existing transcription tools. There are lots of text articles and recordings of short words and phrases and there are some longer recordings (5x30 minute lessons) too with some transcriptions.
I have included a link to something that looked helpful but I didn’t understand. Perhaps it would be a start? Where would you start?
Hi all. I am currently reformatting some old booklets for a language course from 1979. I have scanned them but adobe's software isn't good enough at detecting text. Tweaking each page is too time consuming.
My main problems are:
I would really appreciate some recommendations for (preferably free or cheap) software that accurately transcribe this. Mèrcie bein des fais (thank you very much).
