u/bpdbryan

So just started dating someone whose previous partner wanted to open the relationship (basically only on their terms), that relationship ended then he felt like he needed to try open/poly dynamics because he felt pressure as thats what everyone else was doing, but came to the conclusion that that lifestyle isn't fulfilling for him but also wouldn't be stable for him and his child.

I have always been monogamous and never dabbled otherwise so wondering how I can support someone who has had that kind of experience? as part of me is fearful they are "giving up" exploring poly just for me despite them saying they'd already come to the conclusion it wasn't for them or they might change their mind again.

so me and my best friend had hidden feelings for each other that we danced around for 2 years which eventually blew up a few months back, resulting in us finally talking about it and realising that we have a huge amount of love for each other and would be compatible in many ways but timing isn't good right now due to personal circumstances so it wouldn't be a healthy foundation for a relationship

It has been a few months of up and down stormy emotions navigating it but happy we have been able to still keep our close friendship while acknowledging how important we are to one another.

I love that HIMYM really does show the complexities of life, love and timing. Which has given me some comfort in moving forward with my life and trying to find someone to be with. also that you can love someone deeply even if things don't turn out the way you expect romantically and you can still have them in your life.

watching it knowing how the show ends, despite how divisive it is, helps with that comfort in a way. because you can never predict or plan what happens in the future, which has helped me stop ruminating on the "what ifs" and near misses and to just let things happen as they come!

the case i currently have is really flimsy (came in 2 parts rather than one bulk case) and the top one is very loose and keeps coming off.

looking at amazon i cant quite tell what cases are better

like, why would they fight so hard to keep the AP in their life if they supposedly only see them as a friend or have no feelings towards the AP and wants to be platonic?

especially if they also wouldn’t come clean to the partner they are cheating on and the cheater still talks to the AP a lot?

are they suppressing the true extent of the feelings they have, almost keeping them sweet should their main relationship fall apart, like a back up plan of sorts?

because they could finally admit they both have feelings for each other but also won’t leave the original relationship

whenever i come across monogamous gay guys theres always an element of blurred lines on what they might consider cheating etc or they claim to want monogamy but can't seem to live in line with those values they claim to have and so they cheat the first chance they get or keep people around as back up plans in case one relationship doesn't work out. or they see no harm in sending inappropriate DMs to people on social media etc.

literally had guys tell me they despise cheating while actively cheating themselves.

it's getting tiring and it's making me want to give up on love and relationships entirely.

from subreddits dedicated to cheating on partners to people bragging about making connections and cheating/almost cheating on their partners.

plus married/taken people on dating or hook up apps with no remorse for what they’re doing.

kinda makes me happy that I’m single despite really wanting to find somebody.

so me and my best friend has had feelings for each other that we didn’t talk about, despite sleeping together whenever we were around each other, this still continued even when they got into a relationship. there was also longing glances and hugging etc, long phone calls and he even confessed to loving me a few months before getting with this other person.

well eventually it all blew up as I finally decided to say what was happening needed to stop and that’s when he decided to get therapy to help him.

after his therapy sessions, he would call me to talk about it and open up, eventually admitting that there have been romantic feelings there.

but what would happen is one minute he says those feelings are in the past, then says he was going to confess even recently to then taking it back and saying they were in the past.

he wants us to stay friends but also wants to stay with his partner while not telling the partner he has cheated the whole time.

I did eventually snap and say he’s been messing with my head and I’m glad we never got together considering the way he is going about things and how easy it is for him to lie.

but ever since this has blown up we have been contacting each other a lot more than we usually do

some of these convos have been while the partner is in th house though and surely there’s no way they haven’t heard even snippets of the conversation unless the partner has been told to stay downstairs for 3 hours while we talk.

but why would he go through all this trouble to try and keep someone around who is “just a friend” despite admitting there are other feelings there?

So I've had the flip 7 for about 9 months and the hinge has deteriorated which is making the top half of the inner screen glitch.

I was in london for the day so popped in to get it fixed but they said they didn't have the parts. Told me I could book a doorstep repair so i booked an appointment in.

called them up today to just double check details and now im being told they dont offer doorstep repair for flips? is this true? the guy I saw yesterday never mentioned anything about and it filling in the online form let me click a flip phone and was able to book the appointment.

also I am under warranty so im assuming theres no charge?

recently had a date and they said their ex was a narcisist and put them through hell.

but then he did the jokey gaslight thing with me and when I said i dont put up with that, he got defensive like "well you know i wouldnt do that for real considering you know about my ex"

maybe im reading too much into it but surely if you've been through that, youd understand why someone doesnt like it.

then he told me "oh you wont get upset if I say something that triggers you will you?".