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Am the elder child 24F , I have 19F sister and 16M brother

Context is my mom said " as soon as he is done with 10th exam I will put him in gym, guitar or violin class" I said to her you guys never said same for me or my sister then they started listing classes they put us in and the list is 1) abacus 2) drawing 3) french class 4) dance 5) karate ( school)...now all this is academic except dance...french class as I was in 12th and took french as subject and i realised my other classmates have already learned french from 8th grade so there's no way I can score better soni changed subject and hence left the class

Karate classes were stopped as I got my teeth broken and kick in my chest so my mom got scared and stopped my karate even though I didn't said her to stop

When I said to my parent " uh guys never thought same for me " my dad said " uh left french and all...I stated the above reasons and in end he said " nothing came out of whatever uh learned" and i was stuck there

Let's go back to my childhood...I wanted to go to a specific dance class which is in east and we lived in west...but I was not sent there as no one was there to take me to class..so I kept going to local classes in west which honestly did nothing for improvement or giving chances to learn and perform better

Whereas for my brother his cricket coaching is 3x times far but a rickshaw was arranged for him, and later scooty purchased so dad can drop him and pick him up

My dance class fees was 800-1000 which was heavy for them i understand where as my brother cricket admission was 10k + 10k kit + travelling stuff...given in minutes...fair enough I didn't said anything tbh I love my brother but this different behaviour of parents always did hurt me

All classes that I was put into were for academic reasons and according to my parents convience

Where as all classes my brother was put into was according to my brother's interest despite of parents convience

According to my dad " I did nothing with whatever i learned" bruh I just went for 1 year of good dance class as16 year old..I did so good ..they waved off my fees and let me learn for free and I did assist choreographies there...I opened my own at home dance classes for kids..earned from 17...taught in dance academy and at home

Choreographed sangeet, school function all on personal networking

I use to go to gym and I run a personal training partime job of my own

While am.purusimg my studies....

My brother on other dance left his dance half way, left football half way, left drawing half way,cricket he was made to stop coz of his 10th

The thing is the way they are showing enthusiasm that ohhh once you do your 10th let's do guitar let's do this

That's is something I feel hurt abt...for me and my sister my parents were 10th is done... learn cooking more ( we already do house chores since 7th -8tu std..full...chores)

Learn some computer course.. everything that we were told to.learn about was academic and not of enjoyment except dance...both me and my sister always use to beg for dance classes and all.. literally beg..every semester results if we use to score less than 80-90 we were blackmailed with dance class

So i never let my parents blackmail my brother with cricket or any stuff he likes..I always adviced them that this should not be weighed like that....

Yarr WTF like my parents are good...support us in dance but selectively.. etc...why they just can't accept that yes there behaviour is different for us and him why???? Everytime I point out stuff...my dad or mom says something extremely hurtful to us and never admit there stuff..I don't wanna die without hearing them apologize for their partial behaviour because trust me I hated my life post 10thh...I never went to fucking playground to play in evening coz I had to do cooker and diya bati and my friends play would be over by 8..it was so frustrating and alone shit..my sister got to play alot as she was rebellious one...me being elder i never rebelled and was always elder pleaser ahh

I don't know how to vent out this anger after my dad said " kya kiya it itna sikh ke" like bruh I started earning from 17..17.....when none of my friends earned...I never took freaking pocket money yarr never wtf

Summary:- partial behaviour of dad and mom towards sisters and brothers and how my childhood was ruined and can't be earned back whereas my parents refuse to accept this partial behaviour

So my dad came to Mumbai in 90's with zero rupees live din pg and stuff worked his way hard! And slowly got good stable job

He is 50 year old and has 50k salary

After marriage my mother also came to Mumbai and they lived in rented chawl room

My mother taught dad importance of buying house and all they took big risk but on emi he bought house in 2007

And that's teh only property we own now

We have 0 in savings

Because my dad often threw money on random relatives dinners, he never saved..initial days in mumbai after marriage were good ..mom said they had good money and it could have been saved but dad had bad habits of calling relatives at home on Saturday and Sunday and giving them feast while my mom.workrd hard in kitchen ( one time she had typhoid and fever still did all hardwork in kitchen) mutton,fish, chicken etc

He use to unnecessarly buy things for his sister and her children..it's fine honestly it's his sister but his sister and her husband legit asked for soaps, oil, coconut too..like wtf everything was being bought by my dad etc

Hence am 23f and we don't have any savings anyyyyyy

And my dad has showoff attitude..he always lends people to show how good he is or rich he is ( I call it show off because he is arrogant,lazy,bad at making decisions and very narcissistic) so recently he lend someone his credit card and they are not paying emi properly from months and his cibil score is crashing

Also he often has credit card bills na stuff

Am just so tired after seeing his bad financial decision all my life

So my dad came to Mumbai in 90's with zero rupees live din pg and stuff worked his way hard! And slowly got good stable job

He is 50 year old and has 50k salary

After marriage my mother also came to Mumbai and they lived in rented chawl room

My mother taught dad importance of buying house and all they took big risk but on emi he bought house in 2007

And that's teh only property we own now

We have 0 in savings

Because my dad often threw money on random relatives dinners, he never saved..initial days in mumbai after marriage were good ..mom said they had good money and it could have been saved but dad had bad habits of calling relatives at home on Saturday and Sunday and giving them feast while my mom.workrd hard in kitchen ( one time she had typhoid and fever still did all hardwork in kitchen) mutton,fish, chicken etc

He use to unnecessarly buy things for his sister and her children..it's fine honestly it's his sister but his sister and her husband legit asked for soaps, oil, coconut too..like wtf everything was being bought by my dad etc

Hence am 23f and we don't have any savings anyyyyyy

And my dad has showoff attitude..he always lends people to show how good he is or rich he is ( I call it show off because he is arrogant,lazy,bad at making decisions and very narcissistic) so recently he lend someone his credit card and they are not paying emi properly from months and his cibil score is crashing

Also he often has credit card bills na stuff

Am just so tired after seeing his bad financial decision all my life

23F here I was in hurry for work today and am on my periods while bathing was not able remember and by mistake I kept my used sanitary napkin in bathroom itself ik am so dumb..am sorry I was in hurry I forgot also am on my 4th day so it was not gross it was basically nothing..whole white napkin..so when i was eating breakfast..my dad stood infront of bathroom and shouted to mom ki hey what is this..what is this..as if he don't know what it it my mom went and then gave me a haunting look and i remembered my mistake i went washed my hands and took care of it...then when I came back she said " how dumb you are...don't you know how to take care of this...a grown man had to see it that's shameful etc etc"

I said sorry sorry..but in my mind I was wondering...that this could have been handled to differently...like my dad could have silently pushed it aside ( it was in corner only) and then said to mom silently..or just ignored it without making me embarassed..like he knows na what that is so why he acted like that idk

If you are brother,father, son...i would like to know what would have been your reaction and what you would have done in that situation

Can't go to Delhi as I live in Maharashtra..so was protesting online by spreading awareness.. awaking people conscience etc...my uncle said " you want to become ias and you are just seeing one part of issue...this gov has made india proud abroad..india is safe because of this government etc...and how sindoor op happened and how this todi ji is powerful image for india..is todi ji falls then every country will attack us...etc :(..he said those who leaked paper has to be arrested what's the use of resignation

Idk how to explain him...still i tried and said ki just when child does mistake and fingers are pointed at parents that's teh same way country works a departmental mistake or anything like that..the minister incharge is accountable..so his resignation would help set example etc but oh my god the way he is constantly bringing my ias stuff up saying uh are on your way to become ias and going so against gov..uh don't know anything etc etc :( :(

Hello guys 23F here recently started my internship hnec travelling through Mumbai local " AT OFFICE TIME" ..I did travel for college etc but college timings are diff ..this office timings local are so packed, late, brutal...it doesn't feel humane at all

Why are trains crowded? What can be down to sort this out? AC trains are packed, 1st class and 2nd class all same

People in train are inhumane.. yesterday ladies were pulling me by hair to get me down and let them self in...idk why people are not thinking for others pain it's just brutal..how to change this??

Plz don't say leave this country and all ..i genuinely want to make India a better place but sometimes I get so overwhelmed that am not able to figure out solutions

Guys plz..let's home together as genz and try to solve this...on bigger level

Thought of plan b as UGC NET JRF ...along with my internship for 2 months and if possible WFH if opportunity comes ( currently in 2nd years of masters would be done in December)

But june paper of ney jrf was so absurd and illogical according to all students and teachers..idk now how would I secure my plan b

Also now that am interning am hardly getting any time to study for upsc or state pcs

I initially thought of focusing masters exam and NET JRF till December and then from jan state(2027)and upsc(2028) would be target along with job

But idk why am feeling sad and heavy as if there no road ahead

Thought of plan b as UGC NET JRF ...along with my internship for 2 months and if possible WFH if opportunity comes ( currently in 2nd years of masters would be done in December)

But june paper of ney jrf was so absurd and illogical according to all students and teachers..idk now how would I secure my plan b

Also now that am interning am hardly getting any time to study for upsc or state pcs

I initially thought of focusing masters exam and NET JRF till December and then from jan state(2027)and upsc(2028) would be target along with job

But idk why am feeling sad and heavy as if there no road ahead

Guy for content creation am looking for camera found dji osmo action 2 on Amazon for 11k ( indian ruppe)

So is this a good investment...am just concerned asbits old model maybe 2021-20222

So am confused whether to take it not

Rest laatest dji action 5 is way above my budget

Can't buy high quality phone hence budget is 10( indian ruppe)

Hello ladies and gentlemen Am A 23F, about to start my content creation journey my intrested area are

1. lifestyle reels like lipsyncing to song while showing my day/routine

2. relatable reels

3. Gym stuff reels

4). motivational quote based reels

And i already have a insta acc with 600 followers which exclusively dance based...as am a dancer..but that acc has all my friends family etc I do feel shy posting 4 new content area related stuff there

So was thinking to start new acc and post there..but

Can my new acc have all the 4 content area related stuff or are these genre not mixable

Am thinking to keep dance acc different and only post dance stuff there ( I was not active on this dance acc since 3 years coz of academic stuff)

Plz let me know your thoughts and advices

Am 23f ,So i was in office, when I came home my younger sister 19 year old said that today our brother was at home due to holiday..mom and dad were out on a picnic mom left her phone at home..and we restricted him from using insta recently as he is in 10th now and recently a issue happened in school... bullying beating stuff and all the videos were circulated for that on insta..my brother was friends with one of them so school authorities said to deactivate it and we wanted that too since he was too much on it

So he was doing something and my sister walked in and he uk clicked hat back back back on phone she thought he was using insta on chrome so she took phone went to history and saw porn websites 😪now she is traumatized

Idk how to handle this ik all this is normal ..but what to do with brother? Talk to him about sex education how? Stop him from watching porn how? What if he feels embarassed and don't talk to us after that...idk what to do

Hello guys am focusing on plan b and getting stable and then trying for 2028 again

But sometimes I keep wondering how will it all work? Would I be able to study like that again etc?

June to dec is crucial and busiest time for my plan b and i plan to start for upsc with some job from jan /Feb

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Whatt have you guys done who were in same position as me for such situations

Or what you guys would advice me to do for such situation?

Hello guys thinking to start content creation

Am a dancer and i already have good videos on insta and youtube but am too much into vlogging stuff, fitness stuff so I wanna do that but I don't have a lavish lifestyle or aesthetic one...I have vivov23 phone

Now see on my dance youtube channel there are 500 subscribers and all my relatives know abt that also dance videos have that music copyright so thinking to start diff channel on YouTube...but idk how to start what to do... should I reveal face and make videos or should I hide the face and make video

Should I focus on YouTube content creation or instagram content creation etc

Plz let me know your thoughts

Hello guys thinking to start content creation

Am a dancer and i already have good videos on insta and youtube but am too much into vlogging stuff, fitness stuff so I wanna do that but I don't have a lavish lifestyle or aesthetic one...I have vivov23 phone

Now see on my dance youtube channel there are 500 subscribers and all my relatives know abt that also dance videos have that music copyright so thinking to start diff channel on YouTube...but idk how to start what to do... should I reveal face and make videos or should I hide the face and make video

Should I focus on YouTube content creation or instagram content creation etc

Plz let me know your thoughts

I applied through indeed and then got call for interview and then they provided details on WhatsApp

Unit No 401, Om Sadan, Mehra Industrial Estate, Lal Bahadur Shastri Marg, behind Jaswanti Landmark, Godrej & Boyce Industry Estate, Vikhroli West, Mumbai, Maharashtra 400079

Is this genuine

24F Upsc felt shocking for 2026 so decided to make plan b strong

Went from interviews..i had partime experience in my field for 2 years but the organisation i was working with was too small like local

But anyway I was lucky enough to get plenty calls

But when I went for interviews man i didn't like it..the fact that i would have to work 9 hours for this firm....with a freshers kinda salary coz upsc drop years obviously

It feels like am suffocating...like am not doing what I love I was scared of upsc i was angry on it..and decided to go for plan b but now...even at interview stage I feel am broken..idk if this feeling is right or wrong

Thinking for UGC NET JRF in December...as i really like teaching but people often say negative stuff that ugc net don't give good opportunities... salary is not that big for assistant professor etc am so stressed that am not able to do what I love and whatever I have to do feels like a death to me

Like from 3 years after college all i have done is study for 10 to 11 hours which I liked but now working for same hours feels like am broken..am not doing what I lov

Summary:- plan b makes me realise how much I want to pursue upsc am doing job that I love..but because of uncertainties in upsc I have to go for plan which makes me feel like a lost child with broken mind and heart

Hello guys in 2nd year of masters in industrial and organisational psychology

We had to do internship in HR domain

Am getting offer but it's mostly for remote or work from home offer would that be valid?

Hello guys tomorrow I have interview and got to know about it today...I have less time and no formal clothes

Idk what to wear ,from where to get

Can you guys plz post pictures of recommended fits?

There zudio nearby me and local market a bit far away but will go there after 7 pm ( stuck at partime job till then)

Plzplz help me out am so confused

Also am thinking to wear white running shoes type so something that would go well with it