u/crystal__queer

hey! ive been interested in getting my own lenormand deck for a while and learning to read it. i love having the traditional original-style RWS deck for tarot because its the most well-known symbolism and often considered the "default." which is the equivalent for lenormand and where could i buy it? (please especially let me know if i could find it at barnes & noble bc thats where i got my tarot deck and i have a gift card for there again haha)

hey! ive been interested in getting my own lenormand deck for a while and learning to read it. i love having the traditional original-style RWS deck for tarot because its the most well-known symbolism and often considered the "default." which is the equivalent for lenormand and where could i buy it? (please especially let me know if i could find it at barnes & noble bc thats where i got my tarot deck and i have a gift card for there again haha)

ive worshipped & worked with hekate casually for a few years now but ive been feeling a strong pull from her again lately, so i decided to do a tarot card reading on her altar to see if she has a message for me. heres the spread that i got:

first card i asked, What is your message to me about? and i got 2 of Cups

second card i asked, What should I do about it? and i got 5 of Cups

third card i asked, Why is it important that I know this? and i got Page of Wands

all cards upright btw

i struggled to interpret this, heres the best ive got! feel free to disregard any of my interpretations of course if you got different vibes the first time you saw this spread. 2oc is usually like a very close friendship or even romance to me, but im very single and not interested in anyone specific atm and theres no friendship that sticks out to me for this. 5oc i interpret as being like mourning or, depending on the context, focusing on what youve lost and forgetting what you have, which sounds like it would be a good wakeup call but because idk what the first card is referring to in my life idk what this second card is giving me advice for. Pow is a card usually about good news and new beginnings im pretty sure, so maybe overall shes trying to tell me to be open to new friendships and relationships instead of dwelling on my stagnation regarding relationships because someone good is coming my way? but this interpretation of mine didnt come as easily as previous card interpretations have, so if anything else stands out to you all please let me know!!! thanks!!!

does anyone know any witchy lesbian romcoms? like, CANON wlw, not "oh these two women had so much chemistry everyone ships them" like no i want the movie to be gay for real. thanks!!

i feel like every time i come out to someone, ESPECIALLY a straight person, theyre like obsessed with the fact that im a lesbian. straight guys AND girls. like, not in a particularly offensive way thankfully (id never risk coming out to someone if i thought theyd be offensive ab it, i always check if they have other gay friends first) but i feel like it always comes up. if theyre talking about anything related to guys, theyll always say something like "not that [my name] would be interested!" and if anything related to romance is brought up, its not uncommon for the conversation to end up revolving around my being a lesbian, even though ive never even dated anyone before. also they tend to bring up conversations talking about my experience being closeted, especially regarding the fact that im not out to my parents, what my plans are in the future regarding coming out & dating, etc etc. i dont ACTUALLY mind that much because ive been extremelyyyy closeted for my whole life (and i still am aside from a small handful of people) and so its actually really nice to be able to be open about this to some people, its just strange to me that it ALWAYS gets brought up, even in completely different friend groups of mine with people that dont know each other. and im never the one to bring it up either, it just always ends up happening.

other queer people dont really do this, like im out to some bi & trans people and they arent like this. in fact, these same straight people do NOT act like this regarding our bi friends sexualities or our trans friends genders, even if theyre just as closeted as me. its just me as a lesbian. i think it has to do with it feeling "exotic" for lack of a better word (in our patriarchal society) for someone to not desire a man to be involved in their life at all? idk. do any of you experience this as well? any comments or thoughts?

(also btw if u look at my profile YES i am nonbinary but im not out as that to anybody so they all just think im an average cis woman & i definitely still appear that way, so thats the context of these interactions too)

hey! anyone have any recommendations for books on androgynous or nonbinary lesbian coming of age books? whether they know their gender identity or preferred presentation at the start or figure it out throughout the novel, either works. im just a closeted lesbian & would love to read a book about other lesbians experimenting with identity and presentation and finding community and stuff :) maybe even androgynous or nonbinary lesbians reflecting on that time of their life and their discovery of their androgyny or nonbinary identity too. fiction or nonfiction works! ive gotten some good butch lesbian recs from the other sub but as a nonbinary androgynous lesbian myself id love to hear stories about others like myself in this way too :)

does anyone know any good butch coming of age books? whether they know theyre butch at the start or figure it out throughout the novel, either works. im just a closeted lesbian & would love to read a book about other lesbians experimenting with identity and presentation and finding community and stuff :) maybe even butches reflecting on that time of their life and their discovery of their butchness too. fiction or nonfiction works! and preferably something set within the last 50 years or so lol, im uninterested in victorian or earlier stories for this purpose. i already know about stone butch blues too

id love a name thats completely unisex but has common nickname options that are fem and masc. usually it tends to be the other way around, where its a fem or masc longer name with a neutral nickname, but im nonbinary (genderfluid) so id rather have my legal name be neutral and then have nickname options depending on the day and people im around.

id also prefer to have typical name suggestions, nothing that sounds more like it belongs as a fantasy name. yk, like something that makes sense in a professional setting and a casual setting, and something that could work for me as a young adult right now and throughout other stages of my life as i age.

looking for more clothes ill be comfortable in that also helps me pass, so i thought id see what others like. right now i think flannels are at the top of my list, and my cargo pants lol. im very curious about your experiences! feel free to be specific like an individual shirt or something, or more general like what i said :)