u/crystal__queer

hey! anyone have any recommendations for books on androgynous or nonbinary lesbian coming of age books? whether they know their gender identity or preferred presentation at the start or figure it out throughout the novel, either works. im just a closeted lesbian & would love to read a book about other lesbians experimenting with identity and presentation and finding community and stuff :) maybe even androgynous or nonbinary lesbians reflecting on that time of their life and their discovery of their androgyny or nonbinary identity too. fiction or nonfiction works! ive gotten some good butch lesbian recs from the other sub but as a nonbinary androgynous lesbian myself id love to hear stories about others like myself in this way too :)

does anyone know any good butch coming of age books? whether they know theyre butch at the start or figure it out throughout the novel, either works. im just a closeted lesbian & would love to read a book about other lesbians experimenting with identity and presentation and finding community and stuff :) maybe even butches reflecting on that time of their life and their discovery of their butchness too. fiction or nonfiction works! and preferably something set within the last 50 years or so lol, im uninterested in victorian or earlier stories for this purpose. i already know about stone butch blues too

id love a name thats completely unisex but has common nickname options that are fem and masc. usually it tends to be the other way around, where its a fem or masc longer name with a neutral nickname, but im nonbinary (genderfluid) so id rather have my legal name be neutral and then have nickname options depending on the day and people im around.

id also prefer to have typical name suggestions, nothing that sounds more like it belongs as a fantasy name. yk, like something that makes sense in a professional setting and a casual setting, and something that could work for me as a young adult right now and throughout other stages of my life as i age.

looking for more clothes ill be comfortable in that also helps me pass, so i thought id see what others like. right now i think flannels are at the top of my list, and my cargo pants lol. im very curious about your experiences! feel free to be specific like an individual shirt or something, or more general like what i said :)