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I’ve seen this a lot in public restrooms, at the gym, at the shopping mall, at the cinema WHY. What’s so difficult about it?

So I’m not new here, long story short as you’ve been reading here I never met my LO in person, everything was online for 4 years and I finally said goodbye to him a month ago.

Last Saturday I was feeling extremely sad and anxious (because of my period) and I reactivated my instagram account. I didn’t talk to him, but I quickly checked his profile 😭 nothing new there tho, he never updates his instagram account.

After this I deactivated everything again and felt miserable because I feel like I failed to myself, I haven’t seen his main account on twitter tho where he posts everyday, that’s still a big NOPE for me. Today I feel better again like I was before and I don’t get why I had that moment of weakness. I don’t know if someone has experienced the same during the period, because for me that was my problem.

I don’t know if someone has asked this before but I would like to know if I will suffer learning the language 😅 I don’t have experience learning Germanic languages, I know English but I’ve learned Russian and some French as well.

Lately, I’ve developed a bit of a hyperfixation on Denmark and its history and I’d really love to learn the language. Thanks in advance for any advice or recommendations!

It’s been a month since I definitely said goodbye to my LO. I haven’t check their socials, the urge of stalking them is weaker. The fantasies are almost gone cause I’m scared of just thinking about them.

I know I still have a long way ahead and this is not a lineal process, but I still feel anxious when I think about them interacting with other girls online, it destroys me and I know they are already doing that. I hope this feeling goes away soon. If I could keep one month away I can do it for two.

Every time I find myself thinking about them being nice to me I immediately try to remember the times that interacting with them made me anxious and miserable.

I hope I can get over this soon, I’m frustrated that probably I would never meet someone as cool as them but this is a limerence symptom related to obsession, I wanna be able to have healthy interactions in the future but I’m scared of falling in this again.

I’ve been more than a month far from twitter (I was addicted to it since 2009) and somehow and finally feeling better and getting over the FOMO.

Beating a behavioural addiction is not easy when you’re constantly exposed to your phone and to the internet, but it is not impossible. The first days were awful for me, i struggled with withdrawal symptoms, but lately I’m being more “rational” about it.

At first i missed the attention, the interactions, the infinite scrolling of BS. Twitter is full of people trying to be edgy, rage bait, all types of discrimination and so on. I remember opening the app just to get mad at some crazy opinion from someone I don’t know and taking things too personal. I used to get into arguments and I could spend my day just like that.

Lately I catch myself avoiding any type of “controversial” opinions on here or instagram, I just ignore them and try to find content related to my new hobbies. I’m trying to use the internet in a better way. Not gonna lie, I miss my twitter friends. But I’m not gonna relapse. I want to improve myself and deleting twitter has helped me a lot, my mood is better and I have time to do more useful things.

I know I still have a long way ahead, but I’m celebrating any small progress to keep the motivation.

Social media addiction is no joke, it affects you directly in your inside. Your self esteem is almost non existent, you can’t stop comparing yourself to others, you lose the ability to socialise in real life, you can’t accept others’ opinions and that just turns you into a frustrated individual.

No lo digo solamente por las elecciones en este país, sino como algo en general. Hace unos meses he estado tratando de desintoxicarme del contenido online y reducir el uso del celular. Estando más consciente de todo a mi alrededor, de mi presente y de mi propia existencia, me di cuenta que la gente perdió la capacidad de generar una opinión propia, todo lo basan en opiniones que vieron online o porque alguien en tiktok lo dijo. Le preguntas a alguien porqué está de acuerdo o desacuerdo con X tema y te lo responden desde un contexto que no les pertenece. Ya nadie es consciente de su alrededor.

My story with Russian language is a bit complicated as I lived in Russia for 8 years, specifically in Moscow which didn’t help me. So I studied my бакалавр + мастер there, I learned Russian my first year and I loved it. I was so excited about it, I was the best in my class, my teachers were awesome I hope they’re still doing great.

However the problems began after the first year, when I started the факультет. My Russian classmates were not very friendly, they made fun of our pronunciation which actually made me stop talking and socialising with them, also one of my new Russian teachers was a racist старуха, she was aggressive and offensive. The other one was a very funny and kind old man, but he never taught us anything, he mainly joked and told us stories about the soviet era and his journeys when he was young.

I had a couple of Russian friends but both of them spoke to me mainly in English, my friends were mostly Asians and Latin Americans (as I’m from Latin America too).

I didn’t even try to socialise with Russians, after some years I got used to the attitude and my Russian was good, but I didn’t try to improve it anymore as I wasn’t motivated, I felt like at any moment someone would said «ой ты русский понимаешь? 🙄» even when I spoke perfectly and grammatically correct to them, бабушки would say things like this most of times, I don’t understand how бабушки are so mean there I swear.

I left Russia almost 4 years ago and recently the nostalgia is hitting hard, I’m trying to study it again as I remember how much I loved it during my first year. I think it’s a beautiful language and I feel lucky to understand it, probably my experiences weren’t the best and that didn’t help with my language journey, but I’m really looking forward to improve it this time, I’m trying to find some series or movies to practice so any recommendation is welcome!

So as I’ve posted here before I never met him irl, everything was online, for almost 4 years we chatted EVERYDAY and during the last 2 years he occupied my mind. I kept fantasising about him everyday before sleeping, while I was at the gym, EVERY TIME . I finally said goodbye to him 3 weeks ago and it’s finally getting better. The first days were terrible, I had this terrible urge to stalk him but now it doesn’t feel like that. The urge sometimes is still there, but not as stronger as before. What’s stopping me from stalk him is the FEAR of feeling terrible again. I’d rather die than feel like that again. The fantasies stopped but just because I don’t want to feel triggered by them, I miss them sometimes but now I want to make my own life better so I don’t need that way of escapism anymore. I just wanted to share my small progress.

For a long time, I’ve wanted to travel on a cruise. I’ve seen options that include Brazil + Uruguay + Argentina, but I don’t know anyone who has been on one with that route. Have any of you done that route? Would you recommend it?

So I’m a beginner, I recently bought my own piano and I’ve been practicing, but I noticed that long nails are inconvenient for the fingers posture. I don’t have long crazy nails, but I usually keep them a little bit longer cause my hands are small.

Is there a possible way to keep them or do they definitely have to go? Thank you in advance

So I’ve already had 3 lessons of piano and I would like to know if there’s an app to help me to improve or practice. Thank you in advance!

I’m 30F and I’ve never been in a relationship, im scared of being in one. I’ve had a couple of “friends” but nothing serious as I don’t see myself in a relationship. My biggest problem is that my self esteem is almost non existent so I can’t take serious any compliment or anything in general that comes from a guy. I’m very insecure and distant in person, but at the same time I get attached so easily online as I used to be a chronically online person (and I’ve suffered a lot because of that which scares me more). I don’t know how to fix that. I would love to be in a beautiful relationship with someone, but at the same time I’m so afraid of suffering.

So I’m already on my second week of NC and things are finally getting better BUT I can’t listen to music cause it helped with my fantasies about my LO so now I’m triggered with every song I used to listen to during these 4 years I talked to him. Not only the music but also I can’t watch anime or movies because they remind me of him cause we shared our favourites. This makes me sad cause I can’t have such distractions and dealing with this is difficult. 😭

Edit: we didn’t share our music taste, it was totally the opposite. I was just stupid enough to fantasise about him when listening to the songs I liked.

So I’ve been 3 weeks off from twitter (after 17 years of being very active there) and I’m finally feeling better about it even though I miss the interactions and being up to date with everything, sometimes the FOMO is strong and it haunts me, I feel like I know nothing and lost. How to stop that feeling? It really makes me feel uncomfortable.

It’s been almost 2 weeks since the last time I talked to my LO and I start to feel better about it, I know this is not a lineal process but I have to stay strong. I just wanted to know how long did it take you to get over them and what did you do to help the process.

I’ve been dealing with low self esteem issues my whole life and recently one event related to a toxic behavioural addiction opened my eyes to my reality.

I wasn’t taking care of myself enough. I neglected my appearance, my friends, my mental health, my family and a lot of things for so many years. Now that the addiction was forced to stop I can see this.

I started therapy and the therapist said that my biggest issue is my almost non existent self esteem.

I’ve been working out for some years but I can’t get to the point where I want to be, I hate my appearance, I feel ugly, unlovable, fat. Sometimes I’m so motivated to change my life, but I feel like there’s no point cause I always will be ugly.

I’m grateful cause I’m not struggling with health issues, I have 2 arms, 2 legs, a job, a good income, but the self hatred has consumed my mind. I don’t know what to do to change that.

I just started my lessons last week and my teacher recommended me to get a piano so I will learn faster, I don’t know which one to buy. I would like to play classical music. She suggested me the Yamaha p-145 (if I’m not wrong) but I want to know if there are more options. Thank you in advance!