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Keeping things vague for the sake of anonymity, but my parent is seeking to employ me as an assistant to their small business. This is an on-the-books company. They create the work hours and I will be paid an hourly wage, and be a part time employee. Should I be getting a W2 or 1099? Which one would be more beneficial for me financially to where I’d have to pay less taxes? And is there one option that’s “legal” here or are they both? Thank you in advance!

Keeping things vague for the sake of anonymity, but my parent is seeking to employ me as an assistant to their small business. This is an on-the-books company. They create the work hours and I will be paid an hourly wage, and be a part time employee. Should I be getting a W2 or 1099? Which one would be more beneficial for me financially to where I’d have to pay less taxes? And is there one option that’s “legal” here or are they both? Thank you in advance!

Keeping things vague for the sake of anonymity, but my parent is seeking to employ me as an assistant to their small business. This is an on-the-books company. They create the work hours and I will be paid an hourly wage, and be a part time employee. Should I be getting a W2 or 1099? Which one would be more beneficial for me financially to where I’d have to pay less taxes? And is there one option that’s “legal” here or are they both? Thank you in advance!

Edit: Thank you for the responses everyone! Seems like W2 is absolutely the right option here.

I’m a woman in my early 20’s and now have a wonderful relationship with my mom, she’s changed a TON over the years and I now consider her a close friend. However, she was extremely controlling over my femininity when I was about 10-14 and that ruined our relationship for a long time.

Here’s a few examples: In about 3rd or 4th grade, I wanted to start wearing a bra. The kind of bras I was looking at were the training type, the type that was practically a tank top with no padding. My friends had started wearing bras and although I didn’t have a large chest, I was definitely noticing changes. My mom didn’t pick her battles at this point in my life, and absolutely forbid for me to even try on a bra. She said “If you try it on, you’re going to want to keep it and wear it every day!” I don’t think I was even allowed to wear those camisole tank tops with the built in bra. It took at least a year of begging until she gave in, and after that she made bra shopping a really uncomfortable experience. As a child I just didn’t understand why, felt isolated from my peers, and it made me afraid to talk to my mom about anything related to puberty. And as an adult, I still don’t understand why she chose this hill to die on. It was absolutely ridiculous.

Other examples: She did not allow mascara until I was 13, not even on special occasions (though most girls in my town started wearing it around 5th grade), and absolutely flipped out when she noticed that somebody else had applied a little bit on me. Also, my mom did allow eyeshadow and blush so I don’t know why a single thin coat of mascara with an otherwise bare face sent her over the edge. She also made a huge fuss about me wanting to wear thong underwear in late middle school. I wore leggings daily and didn’t want thick underwear lines, and most of the other girls in my grade were allowed to wear thongs and shop at Victoria’s Secret. I felt embarrassed to even look in the direction of Victoria’s Secret when I was at the mall with my mom. I was absolutely petrified to talk to her when I got my period, had a boyfriend, or went through other challenges and changes because of her attitude around these things. I have other examples as well, but you get the point.

So my message here is for mothers: pick your battles. Don’t larp on these unimportant things and make your daughters feel like crap for wanting to take steps into womanhood as they grow up. And if you truly believe they’re too young for something, have a good reason for it and explain why. I didn’t tell my mom anything and became a super sneaky teenager because she had this extreme attitude about things when I was a kid. Please don’t make your daughter be the odd one out when it comes to harmless preteen/teenager experiences. If I wasn’t as forgiving of a person as I am, I would’ve never given my mom another chance when I was older and likely gone no contact.

Also: Did any other women experience this? I grew up in a pretty religious household, and the other girls at my church were much more childlike and conservative than I was, so that probably played a factor into things as well. How did this treatment from your mother impact you, and how is your relationship with her now?

I notice this with a lot of female content creators on TikTok, especially fitness influencers. It’s often a video where they have a clothing product linked, and proudly state “And I’m wearing an XS!”. Meanwhile, the XS is absolutely digging into their skin and practically bursting at the seams. Or when it’s a clothing try on video and they’re like “This top is pretty cute, but it’s a medium so it’s WAY too big on me” and the top fits perfectly.

As a woman, I totally understand the societal pressure to be thin and small. But what is wearing clothing that clearly does not fit you going to do? The extreme tightness is so much more unflattering to your appearance than just wearing a medium. Nobody can see the size on your tag, and you have the option to not state your clothing size on the internet if you’re embarrassed of it. I’m a thin woman who works out a lot, and I wear anything from a small-medium-large just depending on what fits me best and is most flattering on my body. Are people truly embarrassed of wearing something larger than an XS/S even if they have a super fit and toned body? Is it some kind of status thing that I’m missing? Is it denial that you’re not in a child’s body anymore? Is this part of ED culture?

Also, I know that men do this too so I’m not just calling out the women. Seeing male gym influencers wearing these vacuum sealed toddler sized shirts is not appealing to my eye either. Can we please all just wear clothing that fits us?

I promise I’m a very polite person, but this is one thing that I find very unnecessary and annoying. I don’t expect anyone to say it to me, and I hate feeling like I have to pause a conversation to say it to someone else. Especially when it’s multiple sneezes. Do you have to say “Bless you” after every sneeze if someone sneezes 5 times in a row?

Like it’s a bodily function and we all do it, why must we acknowledge it every single time? I generally just don’t say it, but I also feel kinda mean if someone always blesses my sneezes and I never reciprocate it back. I know it’s harmless and I’m probably being dramatic, but it’s probably the only general social etiquette rule that I really detest and don’t see a real reason for.

I recently decided that I will not be having children and have already experienced being questioned about it, and had people try to make me go into depth about my reasonings. I know that I don’t owe anyone a detailed explanation and frankly don’t want to give one, so does anyone here have a clever response that they use to shut down this conversation and possibly even make the other party question their own mentality?

Not looking for anything super harsh or insulting, just maybe a quick response that can flip the question back onto them, show my matter of factness about my choice, and call a little bit of attention to the absurdness of our culture’s expectations. I hope that I articulated this well. TIA!!

Edit: Wow! I didn’t expect such a large response, thank you so much guys! I appreciate the input and will definitely be using some of these next time the conversation arises.

I’ve always been one of those girls who didn’t mind going to an inexpensive restaurant on a date (sometimes fast food even), meeting my date at the restaurant to save him gas, getting a water to drink, and being okay without flowers or dessert. But I’m done.

No matter what, if the date doesn’t lead into a hookup or long term relationship, then I am treated like I stole money right out of my date’s pocket. It doesn’t matter that he asked me out and chose the restaurant. Any dime spent (in the past it’s literally been as little as $10) is used to manipulate and insult me if I don’t fulfill the fantasy and expectation that he predisposed in his mind. They see it as not getting a proper return on their investment. I’m no longer going to be that humble girl, because it’s never appreciated.

Often this cruel behavior and insults start when after a date (when red flags were flying or chemistry was just not there) I send an extremely kindhearted text thanking them (again) for the dinner but explaining that I don’t think anything more than a friendship is in the cards. Any illusion of pure intentions and chivalry on their part then go out the window. I’m so tired of being too nice, setting expectations too low, and being treated like scum.

I’m beginning to believe that man haters and girls who expect expensive dates really do end up with the best boyfriends. I’m going to start taking notes from them. Have any other ladies experienced this as much as I have?