u/debrisaway

Professionals that have a desire to continue working in full time roles but find that they can't find new opportunities despite having a good track record and in demand skills leading to them moving into a new occupation/industry.

1. Age without being a senior leader

2. Race - Professionals of color ; black especially.

3. Social class - Those from non-prestigious backgrounds.

So that they could have given more joy to their friends/ family AND to their true fans. And could have aged into an elder statesman of the business like the other veterans have.

Eddie Guerrero

Yokozuna

Umaga

Hennig

Because they have anxiety about aging, illness, death, loss of friends and family. So they avoid overt reminiscing about past milestones, looking at old pictures, chasing people from your past. Basically they deliberately focus on the present and future primarily.

Someone that you could see had an undercurrent of rage within them and that it would only be a matter of time before they "snapped". Not as dramatic as going postal but an explosion of anger disproportionate to the situation that triggered it..

That if it runs long enough, this actor will be a series regular or guest star at a minimum.

Freddy Fox

James Norton

Natalie Dormer

Alfie Allen

Tazmin Merchant

Not an asshole but a no nonsense gritty person especially if you used to be a marshmallow softy type.

Some behavioral examples:

- Showing appropriate anger when someone crosses the line

- Directly confronting people who are disrespectful, spreading misinformation or being passive aggressive

- Saying no to requests without explaining much

- Outlining consequences if conditions aren't met

- Waiting for people to meet you half way on relationship maintenance.

- Not being shy to end relationships without much explanation.

Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn etc.

Thru the native tracker, a third party tracker or that they made a mistake like clicking by accident.

The typical former colleague, ex-girlfriend/boyfriend, former friend.

As the British expression goes. When you blanked/ignored/cut off a former friend.

Usually a narcissistic or histrionic person you didn't like from your past but felt you had to be civil to for various reasons (professional, extended friend group etc) but now can show your true dislike for them. And that they were befuddled when you did it!

A pact made with a friend in your 20s to marry each other if both are still single by 40. Largely for companionship and cost sharing.

Not Tower of London or any Scottish Castle.

Like a pub, school or shop.

The first one that they purchased from their own money in their early to mid 20s.

Honda Civic / Prelude / Accord

Toyota Echo / Camry / Celica / Tercel

VW Jetta / Passat

Pontiac Sunfire / Grand Am

Chevy Malibu / Impala

Hyundai Elantra / Accent

Ford Focus / Taurus / Fiesta

Nissan Altima / Maxima

An incident related to ghosts, spirits or postergeist activity that still gives you chills when you think about it and definitely made you a believer.

Now in middle age, you can see when someone is re-establishing a relationship with you for an agenda. And that an ask of sorts isn't far away.

Examples:

To sell an MLM.

Ask for a "loan".

For a hookup to break a lonely spell on their end.

A job referral.

Your expertise for a problem they are having (car, computer, reno).

Place to crash

For a rush convenience marriage

Emergency childcare (like that evening)

The equivalent of a soap opera (Days of Our Lives) or police procedural show (Law and Order) in America.

Doctor Who

The Bill

Casualty / Holby City

Doctors

The cities that got received the most who moved there for work or adventure post graduation. So roughly 2003 - 2015.

Austin

Houston

Portland

Nashville

Charlotte

Denver

Seattle

Bay area

Phoenix

Raleigh

Brooklyn

Calgary

Manchester

Madrid

The reverse of this thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedditForGrownups/s/Imic0K5wzY

Arena Football

Skateboarding

Roller derby

For those that the original plans (lawyer, actor, doctor, cop, musician, marine biologist) didn't pan out or simply just didn't really have a career plan at all. So occupations that many Millennials selected for a relatively straightforward path to entry and had steady demand:

Dental Hygienist

Insurance Adjusters

Mortgage Brokers

Home Renovation Labourer

Travel Agent

Real Estate Agent

Accounts Payable Clerk

Call Center Representative

Bartender /Server

Car Salesmen

Property Managers

Medical Office Assistant

Third party Recruiter

Line Cook

Bookkeeper /Accountant (Non-CPA)

Interior Decorator

Car Rental Associate

Care Assistant

Delivery Driver

IT Network Administrator

Medical Imagine Tech

Software Developer

Medical Lab Technician

Paralegal

Flight Attendant

Mail Carrier

Bank Teller

Fitness Instructor/Trainer

Massage Therapist

Graphic Designer

IT Help Desk

That you do quietly and don't boast about. Some examples:

Donating blood especially when the bank is low.

Dropping off parcels to the food bank.

Automated financial contribution to families impacted by an overseas crisis (Sudan, Palestine, Syria).

Volunteering at a soup kitchen during the holidays

Buying meals directly for the local homeless

Either children, nieces,. nephews, cousins etc. Whether they ask for it or not 😆. Because it's just a key or painful lesson you learned.

Some examples:

Only pick a major once you know your desired occupation very well. No picking a degree because it sounds interesting.

Stay within your socioeconomic class. Very few people are socially adept enough to master the nuances of higher strata plus your task level job. (Blue collar family to lawyer).

and......

Glean what your family is already good at and make sure you don't want to take this much easier path. Knowing that you likely inherited some KSAs and that you have free mentors is a huge leg up.