u/donutdogs_candycats

I feel like everything I’ve read about abolition is coming at it from the perspective that the current systems in place, particularly legal and criminal justice systems, are over-policing certain demographics, police and state violence, or that the prison complex is too focused on punishment over rehabilitation, or is inhumane. While all of that is important, from what I’ve seen, it seems like there’s not many discussions on how the current systems don’t do enough to protect victims or persecute abusers/those that cause harm.

If anybody knows of any articles, books, or even organizations that look at abolition from that perspective, I’d be very interested in it.

I’ve noticed this is something I struggle a lot with. I remember in a couple of my psychology classes in undergrad, they talked about most people needing about 30 minutes to calm down from something like an argument to get regulated and able to discuss things calmly and normally. For me it takes closer to 3 or 4 hours. Another thing is with breaks from things like studying or working. I’ve seen numbers like take a five minute break over 25 minutes you work. For me it would be closer to 30 minutes break every 30 minutes I work, but I end up doing something more like work/study an hour, then break for an hour. When it comes to how long I actually take to do the work things I’m quicker than most people, but the break part feels like it needs to take up a greater portion of time.

I feel like I have to get off multiple times a day. I’ll just randomly get horny during the day. It’s so annoying. I wish I could just turn it on and off when I felt like it. And I can’t find any advice anywhere on how to lower sex drive. EVERYTHING is about raising it. I don’t want to raise it, it’s a pain in the ass. It’s not interfering with daily life or responsibilities or anything, it’s just annoying. My testosterone levels aren’t even high, I get them checked every six months or so because I have to take extra as I naturally don’t make enough and currently my levels are at the lower end of healthy. I’m 20, so I’m sure that’s contributing, but still. If my testosterone levels aren’t super high then I don’t know why my sex drive is so high.

It’s not like I dislike masturbating or anything, it’s just that it feels like another chore I have to do rather than anything fun.

I’ve been reading The Hunter Wants to Live Quietly and I just love so much how it reads more like a classic action/dungeon/gate whatever manhwa but I know that rather than the mc getting with a woman it’s bl. Basically just looking for stories that fit action manhwa genres but instead of it always being straight it just happens to be gay. So like murim, tower, dungeon, gate, regression, those genres but it just happens to be gay. Idk how many of these there are as I feel like I’ve been looking for books, movies, mangas, everything where the story is still the focus and the character just happens to be gay and it follows the same kind of format as it does when the characters are straight.

I’ve recently made a goal to always have something fun to do every day just to make life interesting and less depressing. I was just wondering if anybody has any ideas on what I can do. So far I’ve included things like making a full dinner with a main, carb, and side, trying a new craft, doing a movie night with snacks, going to a farmers market or community event, going on a hike, and going thrifting. It’s been a couple weeks and I’ve really felt like my quality of life has gone up so I was hoping to find some more ideas on new things to try and do.