Putting myself out here again, even though my inbox usually consists of either total silence or lovely well-wishes from people who live too far away. It’s tempted me to just give up on finding local friends, but I’m giving it one more shot.

Life is a lot right now, between the chaos of work, raising three kids, and navigating the general heavy state of the world. Since moving to 14625 last summer, it’s been tough to find my village.

​I deal with anxiety and RSD, so I need consistent communication to build a foundation of trust. I’m really just looking for a genuine friend to text daily, share the mental load with, and vent to, and hopefully develops into a romantic relationship. If you're local and looking for the same, let's chat.

​If you're local: I prefer chatting online for several months before meeting up.

If you're long-distance: I’m open to chatting with people in the EST time zone, keep in mind our connection strictly online.

About Me:

• Married to a trans woman (44)

• Mom of three.

• Polyamorous for 20+ years.

• Earned 2 master’s degrees.

• I deal with anxiety/depression.

• Hiker & nature photographer.

• Content creator (political/conservation)

• 420 friendly.

• Liberal/atheist.

What I’m Looking For in a Connection:

​Demographics: Ages 34–46. Liberal and atheist/agnostic/non-religious.

​Location: Within 40 minutes of Rochester, NY (14625) for eventual meetup, or Northeast US for strictly online friendship.

The Vibe: Patient, consistent, and genuinely enjoys chatting throughout the day. Inconsistency is an immediate dealbreaker. No score-keeping or transactional vibes, just organic conversation.

No cheaters.

💬 If you're interested in chatting, send a PM (not a comment). To ensure you’ve read this whole post, please PM me with these 4 details (I will only reply if all 4 are included):

•​ Age

•​ Gender

•​ Location

• ​Who you voted for in 2024

Between a stressful job, the chaos of parenting three kids, and the heavy state of the world, life feels like an uphill climb. I moved here (14625) last summer and am struggling to find my people. I'm looking for a supportive friend to text daily, vent to, and build a genuine bond with.

​Because of my anxiety and a need for deep comfort/trust, I take things slow and consistent.

​If you're local: I prefer chatting online for several months before meeting up.

​If you're long-distance: I’m open to chatting with people in the EST time zone, keep in mind our connection strictly online.

​About Me:

Married to a trans woman (44) • Mom of three • Deal with anxiety/depression • Hiker & nature photographer • Content creator (political/conservation) • 420 friendly • Liberal/atheist.

​What I’m Looking For in a friend:

​Demographics: Ages 34–46. Liberal and atheist/agnostic/non-religious.

​Location: Within 40 minutes of Rochester, NY (14625) for eventual meetup, or Northeast US for strictly online friendship.

​The Vibe: Patient, consistent, and genuinely enjoys chatting throughout the day. Inconsistency is an immediate dealbreaker. No score-keeping or transactional vibes, just organic conversation.

​If you're interested in chatting send a PM (not a comment). To ensure you’ve read this whole post, please PM me with these 4 details (I will only reply if all 4 are included):

​Age

​Gender

​Location

​Who you voted for in 2024

Reposting:

To be completely honest, I am exhausted. Between a stressful job, the unique chaos of home life, the slow burn of late-stage capitalism, and the overall heavy state of humanity right now, the days feel like a massive uphill climb.

​I’m a 39/F, polyamorous, and moved here last summer, but I’ve really struggled to find my people. I’m looking for a local polyamorous friend to help navigate the daily grind with. I want someone to text daily—to vent about the world, share what’s happening in our lives, and just genuinely care. If you are also feeling the weight of things and want a supportive, consistent online connection to get through it together, please reach out.

I'm not looking to rush into meeting up or anything for a bit (several months), I need to be extremely comfortable with someone, which takes a lot of time - which no one ever seems to want to invest. I have been through a lot of things in my life and I have a lot of anxiety.

About me

I’m married to a trans woman (44), and a mom of three. Anxiety and depression. When I'm not busy with the kids or work, I’m usually hiking, creating content (political, nature, conservation, and photography), or watching YouTube. 420 friendly. Been polyamorous for more than 20 years.

What I’m looking for

- Local people between 34 and 46.

- Located within 40 min of Rochester, NY (14625)

- Liberal. Atheist, agnostic, or non-religious.

- I am willing to chat with people further away, in the North eastern US, but it would only ever be online.

- Someone who actually enjoys chatting throughout the day; is patient and consistent. Inconsistency is a dealbreaker.

- Doesn’t treat conversations as transactional, doesn't keep score of whats happening, just chats. I will open up more the more comfortable I am with you, you just need to be patient and consistent.

💬 ​Let’s start with some low-pressure texting and see where things go. If you're interested in chatting, send me a PM with the following four details:

​Age.

​Gender.

​Location.

​Who you voted for in 2024.

I’ll only be replying to messages that include all four of these.

I’m held together by willpower, caffeine, and the faint hope that somewhere out there are people who get it. Between a stressful job, the nonstop chaos of home life, the crushing reality of late-stage capitalism, and the overall heavy state of the world right now, most days just feel like a massive uphill climb.

I moved to the area last summer, and finding genuine, consistent connections has been a struggle. I’m looking for a local friend to navigate the daily grind with, someone to text throughout the day, vent about life to, and actually build a mutual, supportive bond with. If you are also feeling the weight of everything and want a consistent online connection to lean on, I’d love to connect.

Because of a lot of my life history and dealing with high anxiety, I prefer to take things slow. I like to chat online for several months before meeting up in person. If you're further away, you must be content with keeping our friendship strictly online. True trust takes time, and I need someone who sees the value in investing that time.

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A Bit About Me:

I’m a 39 cis woman, married to a trans woman (44), and a mom of three.

I have 2 masters degrees.

I live with anxiety and depression.

When I actually get a free second between work and kids, you can usually find me hiking, watching YouTube, reading, or creating content (mostly photography, nature, conservation, and politics).

420 friendly.

There’s more info on my profile if you want to dig deeper.

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What I’m Looking For:

Age: Local people between 34 and 46.

Location: Ideally within 40 minutes of Rochester (14625). I’m open to chatting with people further out in the Northeast, but please know that will stay strictly online.

Vibe: Liberal and non-religious (atheist/agnostic).

The Big One: Consistency. I need someone who genuinely enjoys texting throughout the day and doesn't treat conversation like a transactional scorecard. I will open up as I get comfortable, but it requires patience and steady communication. Inconsistency is an immediate dealbreaker for me.

💬 Let’s keep it low-pressure and just start with texting. If you read all of this and want to chat, shoot me a PM with these four exact details so I know you're on the same page:

1. Age.

2. Gender.

3. Location.

4. Who you voted for in 2024.

(I’ll only be replying to messages that include all four!)

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To be completely honest, I am exhausted. Between a stressful job, the unique chaos of home life, the slow burn of late-stage capitalism, and the overall heavy state of humanity right now, the days feel like a massive uphill climb.

​I’m a 39/F, and moved here last summer, but I’ve really struggled to find my people. I’m looking for a local friend (less than 40 min from 14625) to help navigate the daily grind with. I want someone to text daily throughout the day, to vent about the world, share what’s happening in our lives, and just genuinely care. If you are also feeling the weight of things and want a supportive, consistent online connection to get through it together, please reach out once you've read this whole post.

I’m looking to build a genuine connection, which means I prefer to take things slow and really get to know someone online first. If you're local, I usually like to chat for several months before meeting up in person; if you're long-distance (more than 40 min away), I'm completely content keeping our friendship strictly online. Building deep comfort and trust takes time, and I’m looking for someone who sees the value in investing that time to build a lasting friendship.

I have been through a lot of things in my life and I have a lot of anxiety.

​

About me

​

I’m married to a trans woman (44), and a mom of three. Anxiety and depression. When I'm not busy with the kids or work, I’m usually hiking, creating content (political, nature, conservation, and photography), or watching YouTube. 420 friendly. Check my profile to find out more.

What I’m looking for

- Local people between 34 and 46.

- Located within 40 min of Rochester, NY (14625)

- Liberal. Atheist, agnostic, or non-religious.

- I am willing to chat with people further away, in the North eastern US, but it would only ever be online.

- Someone who actually enjoys chatting throughout the day; is patient and consistent. Inconsistency is a dealbreaker.

- Doesn’t treat conversations as transactional, doesn't keep score of whats happening, just chats. I will open up more the more comfortable I am with you, you just need to be patient and consistent.
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​Let’s start with some low-pressure texting and see where things go. If you're interested in chatting, send me a PM with the following four details:

​Age.

​Gender.

​Location.

​Who you voted for in 2024.

​

I’ll only reply to messages that include all four of these.

To be completely honest, I am exhausted. Between a stressful job, the unique chaos of home life, the slow burn of late-stage capitalism, and the overall heavy state of humanity right now, the days feel like a massive uphill climb.

​I’m a 39/F, polyamorous, and moved here last summer, but I’ve really struggled to find my people. I’m looking for a local polyamorous friend to help navigate the daily grind with. I want someone to text daily—to vent about the world, share what’s happening in our lives, and just genuinely care. If you are also feeling the weight of things and want a supportive, consistent online connection to get through it together, please reach out.

I'm not looking to rush into meeting up or anything for a bit (several months), I need to be extremely comfortable with someone, which takes a lot of time - which no one ever seems to want to invest. I have been through a lot of things in my life and I have a lot of anxiety.

About me

I’m married to a trans woman (44), and a mom of three. Anxiety and depression. When I'm not busy with the kids or work, I’m usually hiking, creating content (political, nature, conservation, and photography), or watching YouTube. 420 friendly. Been polyamorous for more than 20 years.

What I’m looking for

- Local people between 34 and 46.

- Located within 40 min of Rochester, NY (14625)

- Liberal. Atheist, agnostic, or non-religious.

- I am willing to chat with people further away, in the North eastern US, but it would only ever be online.

- Someone who actually enjoys chatting throughout the day; is patient and consistent. Inconsistency is a dealbreaker.

- Doesn’t treat conversations as transactional, doesn't keep score of whats happening, just chats. I will open up more the more comfortable I am with you, you just need to be patient and consistent.

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​Let’s start with some low-pressure texting and see where things go. If you're interested in chatting, send me a PM with the following four details:

​Age.

​Gender.

​Location.

​Who you voted for in 2024.

To keep things straightforward and save us both some time, I’ll only be replying to messages that include all four of these.

It's been a couple weeks, let try this again. Please read everything before messaging.

I (39/F) am looking for local people who are interested in online friendship with other polyamorous people. I moved here last summer and have had a difficult time finding my people.

I'm not looking to rush into meeting up or anything for a bit (probably several months), I need to be extremely comfortable with someone, which takes a lot of time - which no one ever seems to want to invest. I have been through a lot of things in my life and I have a lot of anxiety.

About me

I’m married to a trans woman (44), and a mom of three. Anxiety and depression. When I'm not busy with the kids or work, I’m usually hiking, creating content (political or nature photography), or watching YouTube. 420 friendly. Been polyamorous for more than 20 years.

What I’m looking for

- Local people between 34 and 46.

- Located within 40 min of Rochester, NY (14625)

- Liberal. Atheist, agnostic, or non-religious.

- I am willing to chat with people further away, in the North eastern US, but it would only ever be online.

- Someone who actually enjoys chatting throughout the day; is patient and consistent. Inconsistency is a dealbreaker.

- Doesn’t treat conversations as transactional, doesn't keep score of whats happening, just chats. I will open up more the more comfortable I am with you, you just need to be patient and consistent.

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If you're down for some low-pressure conversation and getting to know each other through text first, let's talk. PM me with your:

Age

Gender

Location

Who you voted for in 2024.

If you don't answer all 4, I will not reply.

I (39/F) am looking for local people who are interested in online friendship. Only friendship.

I'm not looking to rush into meeting up or anything for a bit. I need to be extremely comfortable with someone, which takes time - which no one ever seems to want to invest.

I’m married to a trans woman (44), and a mom of three. AuDhd, anxiety and depression. 420 friendly. When I'm not busy with the kids or work, I’m usually hiking, creating content (political or nature photography), or watching YouTube. There is more about me that I can't post here or this will be removed.

**What I’m looking for**

- Local people between 33 and 46.

- Located within 40 min of Rochester, NY (14625)

- Liberal. Atheist, agnostic, or non-religious.

- I am willing to chat with people further away, in the North eastern US, but it would only ever be online.

- Enjoys chatting throughout the day, but is patient and consistent.

- Doesn’t treat conversations as transactional, doesn't keep score of whats happening, just chats. I will open up more the more comfortable I am with you, you just need to be patient and consistent.

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If you're down for some low-pressure conversation and getting to know each other through text first, let's talk. PM me with your:

Age

Gender

Location

Who you voted for in 2024.

If you don't answer all 4, I will not reply.

I (39/F) am looking for local people who are interested in online friendship. Only friendship.

I'm not looking to rush into meeting up or anything for a bit. I need to be extremely comfortable with someone, which takes time - which no one ever seems to want to invest.

I’m married to a trans woman (44), and a mom of three. AuDhd, anxiety and depression. 420 friendly. When I'm not busy with the kids or work, I’m usually hiking, creating content (political or nature photography), or watching YouTube. There is more about me that I can't post here or this will be removed.

\*\*What I’m looking for\*\*

\- Local people between 33 and 46.

\- Located within 40 min of Rochester, NY (14625)

\- Liberal. Atheist, agnostic, or non-religious.

\- I am willing to chat with people further away, in the North eastern US, but it would only ever be online.

\- Enjoys chatting throughout the day, but is patient and consistent.

\- Doesn’t treat conversations as transactional, doesn't keep score of whats happening, just chats. I will open up more the more comfortable I am with you, you just need to be patient and consistent.

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If you're down for some low-pressure conversation and getting to know each other through text first, let's talk. PM me with your:

Age

Gender

Location

Who you voted for in 2024.

If you don't answer all 4, I will not reply.

Hey there. I relocated to the Rochester area last summer and haven't had much luck finding my people yet. I’m looking for local, polyamorous folks who are down for a slow-burn, text-first friendship.

​I’m someone who takes a long time to truly get comfortable with a new person, and I need a high level of comfort before even thinking about meeting up in person. Because I deal with a lot of anxiety, I really value patience and consistency, things that feel tough to find these days.

​A Bit About Me:

- ​39yo mom of three, married to an incredible trans woman (44).

- ​Polyamorous for over two decades.

- ​Navigating life with anxiety and depression.

- ​When I get free time, you'll find me out hiking, capturing nature photography, creating political content, or down a YouTube rabbit hole.

- ​420 friendly.

​What I’m Looking For:

​Location: Within about 40 minutes of Rochester (14625). (Open to online-only chats further out in the Northeast US, but local is ideal).

​Age: Ideally between 34 and 46.

​Values: Liberal, and non-religious (atheist/agnostic).

​Vibe: Someone who genuinely loves chatting throughout the day. I’m looking for zero-pressure, non-transactional conversation where we don't "keep score" of who texted last. If you are patient and consistent, I will absolutely open up.

​Connecting:

If you’re up for some low-stakes, text-based getting to know each other, send a PM. To make sure you actually read this, please include your:

​Age.

​Gender.

​Location.

​Who you voted for in 2024.

(If you don't answer all 4, I won't reply!)