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I always thought beekeeping was just quietly tending to hives and collecting honey.

But the more I learn about it, the more it seems like it requires a lot of attention to detail, timing, and respect for how sensitive bees actually are.

I recently had a consultation and dr gave me a quote that was significantly higher than I anticipated - insurance might cover part of it but there's still a massive out-of-pocket component. I'm fine with paying if the outcome is right, but honestly nobody in my circle has been through orthognathic surgery so I have zero frame of reference here.

I've had complications with previous dental work - wisdom teeth removal recovery was brutal, and my TMJ treatment didn't go as planned - so I'm genuinely anxious about committing to something this major. The consultation was overwhelming because they kept mentioning procedures and movements I didn't fully understand (I don't know the technical terminology well enough to follow everything), and when I asked about recovery timeline and potential changes to my facial structure, the answers felt vague. My biggest concern right now is that I've been dealing with bite issues for years and really need an implant on my lower jaw eventually - if I move forward with jaw surgery first, will that complicate implant placement later? They didn't give me a clear answer on sequencing.

That said, I'm looking for recommendations for surgeons in the Houston area to get additional consultations. I want at least two more opinions before making any decisions. Thank you in advance, and sorry for the anxious rambling!

im trying to find a bag for everyday use but im realizing its weirdly hard to balance style practicality and comfort all at once. every time i find a bag i love visually i start noticing issues like it being too heavy too small annoying to open impossible to organize or uncomfortable after carrying it for a while. right now im mostly considering styles like a medium shoulder bag slouchy hobo or a structured crossbody because i want something that works for everyday life without feeling bulky
for reference i usually carry things like my phone wallet keys makeup earbuds charger and sometimes a small water bottle or ipad. what bags ended up being the most practical for you long term while still looking stylish and not overly basic?

I feel like some pairs last forever. Others get thin or develop holes way too quickly. Even when I treat them the same. Is it just material quality or something else?

literally spent my whole morning on hold. half the places on my provider list aren't even in business anymore?? or they just don't pick up the phone. ugh. i finally got through to Wellness Hills over in chester and they actually took my plan, so thank god for that i guess. i was starting to think i'd just have to pay $300 a session for depression treatment nj which is... not happening lol. i'm not made of money. if anyone else in north/central nj is currently in that "calling 50 places and getting nowhere" loop, maybe check them out. the intake lady was actually responsive and didn't sound like she hated her life. anyway, rant over. finally going back to my coffee now before it gets completely cold.

how are you guys even finding providers these days? is there a secret club i don't know about? lol, srry but i'm desperate

literally spent my whole morning on hold. half the places on my provider list aren't even in business anymore?? or they just don't pick up the phone. ugh. i finally got through to Wellness Hills over in chester and they actually took my plan, so thank god for that i guess. i was starting to think i'd just have to pay $300 a session for depression treatment nj which is... not happening lol. i'm not made of money. if anyone else in north/central nj is currently in that "calling 50 places and getting nowhere" loop, maybe check them out. the intake lady was actually responsive and didn't sound like she hated her life. anyway, rant over. finally going back to my coffee now before it gets completely cold.

how are you guys even finding providers these days? is there a secret club i don't know about? lol, srry but i'm desperate

Read Stoner last year and cannot stop thinking about it. A farmer's son becomes an English professor. He teaches. He stays in a bad marriage. He loves his daughter imperfectly. He dies. No war heroics, no scandal, no redemption arc. Just decades of small disappointments and small dignities. The prose was so plain it hurt. Now everything else feels like it is shouting.

Does anyone know another novel that finds that much weight in a life the world would call unremarkable?

ive been managing a growing retail spot here for the last 18 months and we suddenly need to replace 4 people after summer turnover. every job post brings in a flood of apps but most dont even show up for interviews or last more than a couple weeks so its been eating up all my time sorting through them manually.

i already introduced page up talent acquisition software a few weeks back to handle the screening ranking and interview scheduling and its finally letting me focus on the real fits instead of wasting hours on no shows.

thanks for any real advice guys appreciate it.

I’m comparing a few freight quotes for a small import shipment and realizing they’re all written differently, which makes it hard to know what I’m actually comparing. Some include customs clearance, delivery, storage, or DDP wording, and others just show one number with almost no breakdown. I’ve been checking companies like ArdiLogistics while trying to understand what a cleaner quote should look like, but I don’t want to miss something obvious.

what line items should always be listed in a proper freight quote? And what vague wording would you treat as a red flag?

I finally did it, I went for my first solo drive today without anyone in the passenger seat to "save" me. I’ve been dreading this for months, and honestly, about five minutes in, I stalled at a green light with a line of cars behind me. My heart was pounding so hard I thought it was going to jump out of my chest, and of course, someone started honking immediately. I felt like such a failure in that moment and almost burst into tears right there in the intersection.

But then I just took a deep breath, restarted the engine, and kept going. I eventually made it to the grocery store and back home in one piece. Even though I made a mistake and felt like a mess, I realized that the world didn't end. If you’re currently terrified of even turning the key, just know that it’s okay to be a "bad" driver while you're learning. We all start somewhere, and if I can survive a stall at a busy light, you can definitely handle your next practice session. Has anyone else had a "nightmare" first solo drive that actually turned out okay?

I’ve spent the last few months trying to fix my resume.

I started with online builders because they are the quickest way to get a clean document. They are great if you are starting from zero, but I found they didn't really help me stand out in a competitive market.

I decided to try a rewrite with vertical media solutions, and the biggest takeaway was how much fluff a human editor will cut. They removed things I thought were important but were actually just noise. It forced the resume to stop sounding like a list of job descriptions.

The human service helped me figure out what to emphasize, which is something the software tools just can't do.

For those of you getting hits on your applications, did you find that a specific human edit made the difference, or are the automated builders working for you?

For me, the difference in how my experience is framed now is night and day.

There is something incredibly self contained about the way a few straps and a compartment can become a portable fortress especially when you realize that a backpack is the ultimate nomadic anchor a heavy and deliberate rejection of being tethered to one spot in favor of a frequency that is all about mobility and grit, it feels like a masterclass in balance where the raw and heavy pressure against your spine and the high energy distribution of the load become a direct connection to your own endurance, and even with all the high-tech rolling luggage and the minimalist carries there is still no replacement for that first and vulnerable moment of swinging the weight onto your back and realizing that the heavy distance between here and there, is something you are fully equipped to handle

I started asking this in final-round interviews about a year ago. Not aggressively - just genuinely.

What it does:

1. Forces the interviewer to be honest about real downsides of the role (commute, expectations, team dynamics). You get actual information.
2. Signals that you're evaluating them, not just hoping to get picked. This changes the dynamic in a way that most candidates never achieve.
3. Opens up conversations that the standard "do you have any questions?" never reaches.

The answers have surprised me every time. Once a hiring manager paused, then told me the team had just lost two senior people and the role had expanded significantly. That's not in the job description.

What's the best question you've ever asked - or been asked - in an interview?