AIITW for telling my friend I think Yumeshipping is weird to me personally?
I (21) was in a group chat with two people, one being my close friend. They sent to a group chat what was a Yumeshipping post of someone celebrating Francine Smith’s (a character from American Dad) birthday to the extremity of buying what seemed to be streamers, a possible body pillow or cut out of the character and a lot of made food and other decorations to celebrate it.
In response to this post I said that to me I find it personally weird as it seems parasocial and that it could lead to further extremities if unchecked like confusion from reality and fiction, obsession, anti socialism by replacing real life relationships with the fictional relationship and or possessiveness. Now of course I realise this whole shipping culture has a fandom and I’m not by any means a hater of it I just particularly find it odd, and when I said that to my friend it caused a drama which they said I started because they called my words of judgement an “attack” on Yumeshipping as this particular friend is themselves a Yumeshipper of themselves with a fictional character. They said they are inspired to be that level of Yumeshipping from the post, they’ve claimed that they’d like to build a shrine to a character which to me seemed bizarre and just confusing. Don’t get me wrong I absolutely love fictional characters, I read comics and other things but I’d say I draw the line at shipping myself with them because they simply don’t know I exist and it seems incredibly over the top for me.
After the back and fourth I said countless times that if it isn’t hurting anyone than I believe it is okay but I still don’t personally like the idea of it simply because it’s not what I’m in to but I did claim I think shrines and birthday celebrations with food, streamers etc are simply too far. They then went as far as to say to me “it’s the same as people saying gay people is unhealthy or un-natural.” Which to me was a big blow as I grew up in a household where I had to keep myself being bisexual a quite topic as I would get judged for it by my fathers ex partner.
Since all of it I have written a formal apology, in short I wrote that I am sorry if I hurt you but I won’t stop what I think as it’s just my personal opinion but it doesn’t mean I necessarily hate it as opposed to just not liking it. It’s almost been 3 days of them leaving me on delivered but they’ll text the group chat they’re in with my partner in it and they’ll view my social media stories. All in all they claimed I was attacking people for something that’s helping them mentally and I explicitly stated I’m not implying any attack, I just don’t think it’s always healthy, I had to reiterate it multiple times and they just didn’t seem to grasp what I was saying. They’re the only close friend I’ve had in the last year and I fear being compared to a homophobe could be the cherry on top to the end of a friendship which is unfortunate because I barely socialise. TL;DR: I told my friend I think Yumeshipping is weird due to thinking it can become unhealthy, but I apologised regardless and said we’ve argued over worse stuff which they’ve disregarded me for but they compared me to a homophone and still won’t answer me.