u/hansanta

My partner assaulted me multiple times, finally reported him. After months of adjournment his lawyer was asked to either book a trial or a resolution date in the last hearing. So same day they booked a resolution date.

I read a lot for stories on Reddit of women who went through this and unfortunately the law is not perfect and many get off with a lighter sentence.

My question is, why is Canada more lenient than other countries in punishing abusers despite there being proof?

Carney announced changes to Victim act as well. How will this take into account for domestic cases that are still in progress? My abuser got an ankle monitor and works for law enforcement. Will they let him off easy because he is one of them?

I'm so traumatized from all of this. I will be leaving him and I am hopeful for justice that he will be convicted with a record so other women can be wary if they ever look him up

Looking to buy a place and have one in mind. Feel free to DM me if you're an experienced realtor working with pinnacle or have dealt with them often.

***Builder inventory units only***

Thinking of getting a condo in that building and recently found out they got a builders list but the prices seem high compare to market right now. My realtor told me it's doubtful they will budge on pricing.

If anyone lives there or has lived in a Pinnacle building before. Give me your feedback and advice on whether I should go for it. Do builders ever give discount especially given the decreased condo market?

Crown said I can decide to include revocable consent now which might be easier for me vs requesting it later. I don't fully understand the loopholes that can exploited by the offender? I'm not sure if I want contact with him but I'm leaning towards not having contact however if in month 7 of his probation one of us needs to discuss something about assets then is it easy to lift the no contact since I'm that scenerio I would have declined the revocable consent?

I just don't know the ins and outs of this option and how I can best keep my sanity whilst not incurring massive charges going through family lawyers to manage things. Since there are no children I can't use any apps either apparebtly. Crown isn't very helpful in explaining it all to me.

Can someone please guide me on the pros and cons? I want make sure I'm making the appropriate decisions for the next 12 months.

Thank you forum ♥️

I've been seeing comments and posts about the new Google health app and none of them are positive. I use Samsung health and open to using Google health app - especially since I'm getting my Fitbit Air this week.

Any ex-Whoop users or Fitbit users who are now experimenting with Google Health. Tell us what's wrong with it?

Right now I have my RRSP with my insurance company and thinking about moving it to either Wealthsimple of questrade.

I am hoping to get some advice on which way to go because i can't quiet decide and I am torn between the two. Has anyone invested with them before? is it safe to have an RRSP with one of them? What should i consider versus other options out there?

I appreciate the feedback!!

This forum has helped me a lot in the past year while navigating issues in my marriage and separation. One of the common theme i see is husbands realize they messed up after separation then begin the self-work to change.

What about husbands who were abusive physically and emotionally? Im sure they feel regret because we finally leave. But what about men who know they can't find someone else to fool because they are just older now and can't easily date someone new. Where do they go? Is it a quiet realization of their mess ups? At their lowest of the low point, with no ego or pride left, are they finally changing?

I've read the books by Lundy Bancroft and I understand the psyche of such a man after months and months of research. The conclusion is obvious - they rarely change! But I'm a firm believer that circumstances also change a person regardless of "if they want to they will" theory.

My husband and I are no contact for few months now and I feel much lighter finally. It took time to get to this point. The trauma bond kept me stuck and I've untangled that knot. I know he's going through some tough times right now since the separation and he is hitting his low point but he hasnt hit his absolute lowest point - yet. I say "yet" because that still might not be enough to begin change due to his circumstances. So for my situation...time will tell.

Would love your thoughts on this too. Positivity only please ❤️. Like i said , i understand and am aware of stats around such men. However , not all lives are the same, not all humans are the same, not all circumstances are the same, not all backgrounds are the same, not all upbringing are the same. Too many variables which is why i love Reddit for its diversity in experiences as well. Feel free to dm me your thoughts.

This forum has helped me a lot in the past year while navigating issues in my marriage and separation. One of the common theme i see is husbands realize they messed up after separation then begin the self-work to change.

What about husbands who were abusive physically and emotionally? Im sure they feel regret because we finally leave. But what about men who know they can't find someone else to fool because they are just older now and can't easily date someone new. Where do they go? Is it a quiet realization of their mess ups? At their lowest of the low point, with no ego or pride left, are they finally changing?

I've read the books by Lundy Bancroft and I understand the psyche of such a man after months and months of research. The conclusion is obvious - they rarely change! But I'm a firm believer that circumstances also change a person regardless of "if they want to they will" theory.

My husband and I are no contact for few months now and I feel much lighter finally. It took time to get to this point. The trauma bond kept me stuck and I've untangled that knot. I know he's going through some tough times right now since the separation and he is hitting his low point but he hasnt hit his absolute lowest point - yet. I say "yet" because that still might not be enough to begin change due to his circumstances. So for my situation...time will tell.

Would love your thoughts on this too. Positivity only please ❤️. Like i said , i understand and am aware of stats around such men. However , not all lives are the same, not all humans are the same, not all circumstances are the same, not all backgrounds are the same, not all upbringing are the same. Too many variables which is why i love Reddit for its diversity in experiences as well. Feel free to dm me your thoughts.

This forum has helped me a lot in the past year while navigating issues in my marriage and separation. One of the common theme i see is husbands realize they messed up after separation then begin the self-work to change.

What about husbands who were abusive physically and emotionally? Im sure they feel regret because we finally leave. But what about men who know they can't find someone else to fool because they are just older now and can't easily date someone new. Where do they go? Is it a quiet realization of their mess ups? At their lowest of the low point, with no ego or pride left, are they finally changing?

I've read the books by Lundy Bancroft and I understand the psyche of such a man after months and months of research. The conclusion is obvious - they rarely change! But I'm a firm believer that circumstances also change a person regardless of "if they want to they will" theory.

My husband and I are no contact for few months now and I feel much lighter finally. It took time to get to this point. The trauma bond kept me stuck and I've untangled that knot. I know he's going through some tough times right now since the separation and he is hitting his low point but he hasnt hit his absolute lowest point - yet. I say "yet" because that still might not be enough to begin change due to his circumstances. So for my situation...time will tell.

Would love your thoughts on this too. Positivity only please ❤️. Like i said , i understand and am aware of stats around such men. However , not all lives are the same, not all humans are the same, not all circumstances are the same, not all backgrounds are the same, not all upbringing are the same. Too many variables which is why i love Reddit for its diversity in experiences as well. Feel free to dm me your thoughts.

tl;dr post separation anxiety, healing, and philosophical thoughts.

This forum has helped me a lot in the past year while navigating issues in my marriage and separation. One of the common theme i see is husbands realize they messed up after separation then begin the self-work to change.

What about husbands who were abusive physically and emotionally? Im sure they feel regret because we finally leave. But what about men who know they can't find someone else to fool because they are just older now and can't easily date someone new. Where do they go? Is it a quiet realization of their mess ups? At their lowest of the low point, with no ego or pride left, are they finally changing?

I've read the books by Lundy Bancroft and I understand the psyche of such a man after months and months of research. The conclusion is obvious - they rarely change! But I'm a firm believer that circumstances also change a person regardless of "if they want to they will" theory.

My husband and I are no contact for few months now and I feel much lighter finally. It took time to get to this point. The trauma bond kept me stuck and I've untangled that knot. I know he's going through some tough times right now since the separation and he is hitting his low point but he hasnt hit his absolute lowest point - yet. I say "yet" because that still might not be enough to begin change due to his circumstances. So for my situation...time will tell.

Would love your thoughts on this too. Positivity only please ❤️. Like i said , i understand and am aware of stats around such men. However , not all lives are the same, not all humans are the same, not all circumstances are the same, not all backgrounds are the same, not all upbringing are the same. Too many variables which is why i love Reddit for its diversity in experiences as well. Feel free to dm me your thoughts.

This forum has helped me a lot in the past year while navigating issues in my marriage and separation. One of the common theme i see is husbands realize they messed up after separation then begin the self-work to change.

What about husbands who were abusive physically and emotionally? Im sure they feel regret because we finally leave. But what about men who know they can't find someone else to fool because they are just older now and can't easily date someone new. Where do they go? Is it a quiet realization of their mess ups? At their lowest of the low point, with no ego or pride left, are they finally changing?

I've read the books by Lundy Bancroft and I understand the psyche of such a man after months and months of research. The conclusion is obvious - they rarely change! But I'm a firm believer that circumstances also change a person regardless of "if they want to they will" theory.

My husband and I are no contact for few months now and I feel much lighter finally. It took time to get to this point. The trauma bond kept me stuck and I've untangled that knot. I know he's going through some tough times right now since the separation and he is hitting his low point but he hasnt hit his absolute lowest point - yet. I say "yet" because that still might not be enough to begin change due to his circumstances. So for my situation...time will tell.

Would love your thoughts on this too. Positivity only please ❤️. Like i said , i understand and am aware of stats around such men. However , not all lives are the same, not all humans are the same, not all circumstances are the same, not all backgrounds are the same, not all upbringing are the same. Too many variables which is why i love Reddit for its diversity in experiences as well. Feel free to dm me your thoughts.

Hey fellas, Im shopping for a new condo as a first time home buyer. it sucks the market is precarious and I want to negotiate a good rate. I'd prefer to go with one of the top 5 banks but open to other options as last resort.

Can you share what rate was offered to you and from where and timeframe it was offered?

Hey forum, hoping someone can dummies 101 this for me.

background: I'm legally married but physically separated without a legal separation agreement. I will be getting a family lawyer soon. I bought a condo after we mutually ended our rental lease and both moved out same day. Condo and mortgage are solely under my name. We don't have children together and we do not own any assets together. Marriage was 1 year which in my opinion is pretty short.

Assets: nothing fancy, just savings, RRSP, and recent condo post separation under my name.

Q: is it exactly 50/50 of everything down the line (i.e. if my condo was 600k then she gets 300k, and 50% of my savings and rrsp?) or is it the 50/50 of overall net value increase across all your assets (i.e. if my savings and rrsp was $10 and $100 and duration of our marriage my net worth went up to $20 and $200, would she get $50)?

Someone brought this to my attention that my spouse could try to to claim my condo. I already had my own savings before we married. I dont believe it will turn nasty but I also cant say how a person's heart and mind may change in these circumstances. She has a good corporate job as well so she is no schmuck.

Appreciate your input!

Those working in Commercial Banking outside of US. Whats your expeience been like as an employee? Is it a good company to work for? Hows the work environment? Are they particular about wfh or in-office mandate?

Seeking legal advice on financial investments.

The bank I am with missed completing a GIC investment for 1 year on $30K RRSP last year, i found out this year that the transaction was never completed. Now they are claiming i need to provide proof of instructions because they dont have any documentation for having processed a GIC request. WHAT!? how do i prove this? what is my recourse? I am pissed the financial advisor didn't do her job and now i realized that the GIC was never processed in the first place. what is my recourse here? i want them to compensate me for 1 year of loss. I worked really hard just like every other person just to be told i lost out on my investment.

Edit: this was all done in-branch in-person I went back to check the documentation and she only opened an RRSP. the branch manager is saying to provide proof and I told her how the hell am i supposed to provide documentation for a transaction your employee never completed in the first place? she printed so many pages and all these places to sign. what the hell!!

What happens if I got severance and I accepted it but I'm still active in the system for another 2 weeks. I just accepted a job offer with a competitor. Do I tell HR? Will that affect my severance? I'm supposed to be walked out but I'm scared it'll affect my final pay.