u/hansanta

I got a call yesterday from the promotional team offering $40 unlimited North America with a new phone. apparently i can add two two lines. does this seem too good to be true?

Apparently I can get internet unlimited in all three countries: Canada, U.S., and Mexico. and it includes 1000 international minutes.

edit: they also said I can add 2 lines to one plan apparently so that means i don't pay additional. They are offering "promos" because according to him Rogers/Fido is losing customers due to hike in prices. Kept insisting that this is a true promotional call and we work on commission.

edit 2: sorry for the typos i was trying to get this post out quick because they called me back today.

Final update: Yes, it was 100% scam call. The caller's name was "Mark Hammer" and tried to get me to purchase a phone online which would be shipped to me and he would "adjust the plan accordingly on his end with manual codes which they will apply and it there are any issues he would take care of it as he would be assigned to my account". Another commenter mentioned they had the same scam and was told the upgraded plan would adjust automatically once manual promo codes are applied and also asked to have the phone shipped back to them. Thanks everyone for your quick reply!

The title summarizes the sequence of events.

We've known each other for 10+ years, then got married and that's when the explosions of anger began. The shoving, pushing, and it kept escalating until I finally had enough end reported it. After a lengthy criminal case he's walking away with a criminal record with probation.

I am thankful I reported it. And during that time we've been no contact and separated for 1 yr now. I never repeats to open contact during that time because I wanted to heal. He was the love of my life. The man I trusted. The man who I wanted to have a family with one day. All your dreams...we also had amazing times. I have seen him genuinely love me, adore me, and care for me. I have seen the good and the bad. I have also been talking through this with my therapist because I feel so guilty for still caring for him after he put his hands on me. And she helped me understand that a person doesn't have just one side, there are many sides to me and him. Right now my goal is to heal my soul, my mind, and my heart. I still don't want to talk to him or have any kind of contact. I'm just not ready. I'm also not ready to discuss reconciliation with him or divorce. I'm still heart broken and need more time to keep processing my feelings.

We are both in our late 30s with good careers. He is not exactly a narc however I suspect he has undiagnosed BPD. I will not pretend or lie - I hope and pray that this is will serve as a life lesson for him. His family is ashamed of him but are also standing by him because of course blood is thicker than water. His mom tried to reach out to me and I have not responded or picked up.

I can't throw away our marriage so easily. And I know the stats and I know change is rare.

So my question is my dear Reddit family. How long were you separated from your husband and how long did it take to reconcile?

What tools and resources helped you in the journey to rebuilding the marriage?

Thank you 🙏🏼

As a victim, how does it work if revocable consent is included in the probation conditions? Does he automatically get the permission to contact or do I have to make it formal somehow?

This is a for after sentencing is done and the accused was provided with the probation conditions. What steps does the accused take for contact? Same for the victim?

I was told with revocable consent I wont need a lawyer to file. So I'm just confused on the process and how it works.

Thank you!

How often is background check done post joining and which instance might trigger it i.e. deployment, base change, etc?

Hey TO fam, I am looking for recommendations for a great colourist specialized in brunettes. If there are any good ones in North York or Scarborough please share below.

Bonus if they are great with wavy hair cuts.

Thanks!

How flexible is Wells Fargo in wfh and how do they track employees in different jurisdiction? Considering a job with them as my current employer is super anal about 5 days in.

With this job my commute is significantly shorter and they did say there is flexibility but I'm not sure if they'll keep it that way.

How do managers keep count of in-office days? Especially if you have employees in different jurisdiction.

My partner assaulted me multiple times, finally reported him. After months of adjournment his lawyer was asked to either book a trial or a resolution date in the last hearing. So same day they booked a resolution date.

I read a lot for stories on Reddit of women who went through this and unfortunately the law is not perfect and many get off with a lighter sentence.

My question is, why is Canada more lenient than other countries in punishing abusers despite there being proof?

Carney announced changes to Victim act as well. How will this take into account for domestic cases that are still in progress? My abuser got an ankle monitor and works for law enforcement. Will they let him off easy because he is one of them?

I'm so traumatized from all of this. I will be leaving him and I am hopeful for justice that he will be convicted with a record so other women can be wary if they ever look him up

Looking to buy a place and have one in mind. Feel free to DM me if you're an experienced realtor working with pinnacle or have dealt with them often.

***Builder inventory units only***

Thinking of getting a condo in that building and recently found out they got a builders list but the prices seem high compare to market right now. My realtor told me it's doubtful they will budge on pricing.

If anyone lives there or has lived in a Pinnacle building before. Give me your feedback and advice on whether I should go for it. Do builders ever give discount especially given the decreased condo market?

Crown said I can decide to include revocable consent now which might be easier for me vs requesting it later. I don't fully understand the loopholes that can exploited by the offender? I'm not sure if I want contact with him but I'm leaning towards not having contact however if in month 7 of his probation one of us needs to discuss something about assets then is it easy to lift the no contact since I'm that scenerio I would have declined the revocable consent?

I just don't know the ins and outs of this option and how I can best keep my sanity whilst not incurring massive charges going through family lawyers to manage things. Since there are no children I can't use any apps either apparebtly. Crown isn't very helpful in explaining it all to me.

Can someone please guide me on the pros and cons? I want make sure I'm making the appropriate decisions for the next 12 months.

Thank you forum ♥️

I've been seeing comments and posts about the new Google health app and none of them are positive. I use Samsung health and open to using Google health app - especially since I'm getting my Fitbit Air this week.

Any ex-Whoop users or Fitbit users who are now experimenting with Google Health. Tell us what's wrong with it?

Right now I have my RRSP with my insurance company and thinking about moving it to either Wealthsimple of questrade.

I am hoping to get some advice on which way to go because i can't quiet decide and I am torn between the two. Has anyone invested with them before? is it safe to have an RRSP with one of them? What should i consider versus other options out there?

I appreciate the feedback!!

This forum has helped me a lot in the past year while navigating issues in my marriage and separation. One of the common theme i see is husbands realize they messed up after separation then begin the self-work to change.

What about husbands who were abusive physically and emotionally? Im sure they feel regret because we finally leave. But what about men who know they can't find someone else to fool because they are just older now and can't easily date someone new. Where do they go? Is it a quiet realization of their mess ups? At their lowest of the low point, with no ego or pride left, are they finally changing?

I've read the books by Lundy Bancroft and I understand the psyche of such a man after months and months of research. The conclusion is obvious - they rarely change! But I'm a firm believer that circumstances also change a person regardless of "if they want to they will" theory.

My husband and I are no contact for few months now and I feel much lighter finally. It took time to get to this point. The trauma bond kept me stuck and I've untangled that knot. I know he's going through some tough times right now since the separation and he is hitting his low point but he hasnt hit his absolute lowest point - yet. I say "yet" because that still might not be enough to begin change due to his circumstances. So for my situation...time will tell.

Would love your thoughts on this too. Positivity only please ❤️. Like i said , i understand and am aware of stats around such men. However , not all lives are the same, not all humans are the same, not all circumstances are the same, not all backgrounds are the same, not all upbringing are the same. Too many variables which is why i love Reddit for its diversity in experiences as well. Feel free to dm me your thoughts.

This forum has helped me a lot in the past year while navigating issues in my marriage and separation. One of the common theme i see is husbands realize they messed up after separation then begin the self-work to change.

What about husbands who were abusive physically and emotionally? Im sure they feel regret because we finally leave. But what about men who know they can't find someone else to fool because they are just older now and can't easily date someone new. Where do they go? Is it a quiet realization of their mess ups? At their lowest of the low point, with no ego or pride left, are they finally changing?

I've read the books by Lundy Bancroft and I understand the psyche of such a man after months and months of research. The conclusion is obvious - they rarely change! But I'm a firm believer that circumstances also change a person regardless of "if they want to they will" theory.

My husband and I are no contact for few months now and I feel much lighter finally. It took time to get to this point. The trauma bond kept me stuck and I've untangled that knot. I know he's going through some tough times right now since the separation and he is hitting his low point but he hasnt hit his absolute lowest point - yet. I say "yet" because that still might not be enough to begin change due to his circumstances. So for my situation...time will tell.

Would love your thoughts on this too. Positivity only please ❤️. Like i said , i understand and am aware of stats around such men. However , not all lives are the same, not all humans are the same, not all circumstances are the same, not all backgrounds are the same, not all upbringing are the same. Too many variables which is why i love Reddit for its diversity in experiences as well. Feel free to dm me your thoughts.

This forum has helped me a lot in the past year while navigating issues in my marriage and separation. One of the common theme i see is husbands realize they messed up after separation then begin the self-work to change.

What about husbands who were abusive physically and emotionally? Im sure they feel regret because we finally leave. But what about men who know they can't find someone else to fool because they are just older now and can't easily date someone new. Where do they go? Is it a quiet realization of their mess ups? At their lowest of the low point, with no ego or pride left, are they finally changing?

I've read the books by Lundy Bancroft and I understand the psyche of such a man after months and months of research. The conclusion is obvious - they rarely change! But I'm a firm believer that circumstances also change a person regardless of "if they want to they will" theory.

My husband and I are no contact for few months now and I feel much lighter finally. It took time to get to this point. The trauma bond kept me stuck and I've untangled that knot. I know he's going through some tough times right now since the separation and he is hitting his low point but he hasnt hit his absolute lowest point - yet. I say "yet" because that still might not be enough to begin change due to his circumstances. So for my situation...time will tell.

Would love your thoughts on this too. Positivity only please ❤️. Like i said , i understand and am aware of stats around such men. However , not all lives are the same, not all humans are the same, not all circumstances are the same, not all backgrounds are the same, not all upbringing are the same. Too many variables which is why i love Reddit for its diversity in experiences as well. Feel free to dm me your thoughts.

tl;dr post separation anxiety, healing, and philosophical thoughts.

This forum has helped me a lot in the past year while navigating issues in my marriage and separation. One of the common theme i see is husbands realize they messed up after separation then begin the self-work to change.

What about husbands who were abusive physically and emotionally? Im sure they feel regret because we finally leave. But what about men who know they can't find someone else to fool because they are just older now and can't easily date someone new. Where do they go? Is it a quiet realization of their mess ups? At their lowest of the low point, with no ego or pride left, are they finally changing?

I've read the books by Lundy Bancroft and I understand the psyche of such a man after months and months of research. The conclusion is obvious - they rarely change! But I'm a firm believer that circumstances also change a person regardless of "if they want to they will" theory.

My husband and I are no contact for few months now and I feel much lighter finally. It took time to get to this point. The trauma bond kept me stuck and I've untangled that knot. I know he's going through some tough times right now since the separation and he is hitting his low point but he hasnt hit his absolute lowest point - yet. I say "yet" because that still might not be enough to begin change due to his circumstances. So for my situation...time will tell.

Would love your thoughts on this too. Positivity only please ❤️. Like i said , i understand and am aware of stats around such men. However , not all lives are the same, not all humans are the same, not all circumstances are the same, not all backgrounds are the same, not all upbringing are the same. Too many variables which is why i love Reddit for its diversity in experiences as well. Feel free to dm me your thoughts.

This forum has helped me a lot in the past year while navigating issues in my marriage and separation. One of the common theme i see is husbands realize they messed up after separation then begin the self-work to change.

What about husbands who were abusive physically and emotionally? Im sure they feel regret because we finally leave. But what about men who know they can't find someone else to fool because they are just older now and can't easily date someone new. Where do they go? Is it a quiet realization of their mess ups? At their lowest of the low point, with no ego or pride left, are they finally changing?

I've read the books by Lundy Bancroft and I understand the psyche of such a man after months and months of research. The conclusion is obvious - they rarely change! But I'm a firm believer that circumstances also change a person regardless of "if they want to they will" theory.

My husband and I are no contact for few months now and I feel much lighter finally. It took time to get to this point. The trauma bond kept me stuck and I've untangled that knot. I know he's going through some tough times right now since the separation and he is hitting his low point but he hasnt hit his absolute lowest point - yet. I say "yet" because that still might not be enough to begin change due to his circumstances. So for my situation...time will tell.

Would love your thoughts on this too. Positivity only please ❤️. Like i said , i understand and am aware of stats around such men. However , not all lives are the same, not all humans are the same, not all circumstances are the same, not all backgrounds are the same, not all upbringing are the same. Too many variables which is why i love Reddit for its diversity in experiences as well. Feel free to dm me your thoughts.

Hey fellas, Im shopping for a new condo as a first time home buyer. it sucks the market is precarious and I want to negotiate a good rate. I'd prefer to go with one of the top 5 banks but open to other options as last resort.

Can you share what rate was offered to you and from where and timeframe it was offered?

Hey forum, hoping someone can dummies 101 this for me.

background: I'm legally married but physically separated without a legal separation agreement. I will be getting a family lawyer soon. I bought a condo after we mutually ended our rental lease and both moved out same day. Condo and mortgage are solely under my name. We don't have children together and we do not own any assets together. Marriage was 1 year which in my opinion is pretty short.

Assets: nothing fancy, just savings, RRSP, and recent condo post separation under my name.

Q: is it exactly 50/50 of everything down the line (i.e. if my condo was 600k then she gets 300k, and 50% of my savings and rrsp?) or is it the 50/50 of overall net value increase across all your assets (i.e. if my savings and rrsp was $10 and $100 and duration of our marriage my net worth went up to $20 and $200, would she get $50)?

Someone brought this to my attention that my spouse could try to to claim my condo. I already had my own savings before we married. I dont believe it will turn nasty but I also cant say how a person's heart and mind may change in these circumstances. She has a good corporate job as well so she is no schmuck.

Appreciate your input!

Those working in Commercial Banking outside of US. Whats your expeience been like as an employee? Is it a good company to work for? Hows the work environment? Are they particular about wfh or in-office mandate?