u/ilobbpie

**edit - I have included a picture of my hair in the comments**

This year I’m really committed to figuring out my wavy/curly hair.

For context, I’ve had a short bob all my life. Now that I’ve let it grow out in my 20s I discovered it has curls / waves. I have tried wavy hair routines (see below for full routine and products) but has only seemed to produce good looking curls once and almost always looks stringy and frizzy.

I then of course give in and brush it out and that’s when it gets …. Big (see picture).

Not sure if I should give into the volume or keep trying for curl definition. Any advice would be appreciated x

ROUTINE

In the shower

1. not your mothers shampoo 3x a week
2. Not your mothers conditioner 3x a week (prayer hand method)

Out of shower

3. Function of beauty leave in for wavy hair prayer method focused on ends and mid length 5x a week
4. NYM gel 3-4x a week (whenever I have time)
5. Plop with cotton t shirt until dry and then scrunch out w t shirt

- 6. It looks stringy (ESPECIALLY if I diffuse even on low heat setting) so I brush it out with the bounce brush 😔😬

I use the pineapple method for sleeping and refresh by spray bottle

I went no contact with my verbally and physically abusive parents five months ago. I’m in my late 20s for context and was living with them.

According to my partner, on and off for the past five months, I wake up screaming convinced I’m still at home. This is confusing to me as I’m the happiest and safest I’ve ever been. I’m not sure how to handle this. I even feel great going to bed but I still wake up sobbing and screaming.

He is actually the one that told me about this subreddit so hoping y’all have some ideas. 🤞

Any advice would be appreciated.